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Friday...I shopped, did laundry, and then went to bed early

Saturday, I went to yoga at 9. I was driving at 8:30 and Elena called
me, sleepy, and asked if we were doing yoga this a.m. because she'd
forgot waht we decided. I told her I was on my wya. she did show up.

I guess...I guess the way I am is someone says 'lets do ___" and I put
it on my calendar, it's part of my 'set in stone' plans and I will
move heaven and earth & do whatever it takes to make that happen, I
take it seriously and I will keep my word as best I can. So it kind of
hurts my feelings when she calls 30 min. before class starts and can't
remember if she committed to me or not. BUT the end result is that we
were in class together, so isn't that OK? Doesn't that show that the
class & my friendship & her word are/were important, but she just
isn't structured in her life the same way I am? I tried not to be
pissy about it. We had a different instructor, Jen, who did some
restorative poses I really liked. And then partner pose where 1 person
is in childs pose and the other person lines up their sacrum/hipbones
with the other, and lays on their back, spine to spine, back of head
to back of head. It was...wierd. I would NOT have done that with a
stranger. ick.

Then I went to [aunt L] & [uncle B]'s and picked up [Cousin B]. He was being a grouchy,
sullen teenager, which I had only caught a glimpse of once before at
that NYE party at Jaime & Kathleen's, when the drunky tiny blonde lady
treated him like he was her son & acted out her issues with him, and
she got treated like he treats Melissa (probably). It was unpleasant.
He bitched about the beer party Friday night and his friends and his
friends parents, and how [aunt L] is being a bitch (I am REALLY going to
have to talk about that with him! She is NOt a bitch and I never want
to hear him say that again!) driving him crazy, and I just listened,
then told him about m wonderful evening and day so far, kissed him and
told him I love him even when he's being all Teen Angst.

Krav Maga class was a conditioning/fitness class, taught by Maria (I
think her name is?) It was legs/quads. Owie. I had told [Cousin B] that the
class would get him all endorphin-y and make him feel sleepy and
mellow, and it did. I'm glad.


Then I went to Mother's where I met up with Stephanie. She'd had a Dr.
appt on Friday, in Austin, stayed the night with a friend and was
driving back to Houston later that day. We had good lunch and a nice
talk, she was talking about investing in silver bouillon because the
paper money system is about to go down, which was interesting, but
kinda crazy.

We sat and talked until 4, then I went home and took a nap.

Got up, washed, and changed clothes a few times until I decided what
to wear: brown suede heeled shoes, my new boot cut hiphugger jeans, a
brown camisole type top, and the brown gauzey poncho thing with gold
embroidery and beads.

I picked up Elena and we went to Extravagasm. It was OK. April, Rosa,
Tori, and Jay showed up a while later, with their freind whose RL name
escapes me but whose LJ name is wildriverrrose, but they mostly wanted
to hang with themelves, get their picture done ,and smoke on the
patio. There were n ot a ton of 'dressed to impress' people there,
mostly the crowd seemed like UT frat/sor types. The stage was hard to
see and other than 1 rope bondage demo, the other area was totally
un-utilized. We left about 11, rather disappointed.

I slept until 10 or so, Sweetie and I had sex, then I got up and went to
the ATM to get cash for the day.

Elena got me around 12:20 (she got lost!!) and we went to San Antonio
to Bawdsey Manor for tea. We had a nice time. Mermaid Moon was closed
so I didn't get my candle. We shopped in some of the other stores and
she got bath beads for a freind, and then we drov back.

it's now about 5. [Cousin B] is out riding his bike. Sweetie is working on cars.
Sharjinka is going to see the new wallac & gromit movie at 7:20 but [Cousin B]
doesn't want to see it, and Sweetie will probably not want to rush to
clean up and such, (I'm not even going to ask him)

freaks.net had expired, I told him about that and he came in and
renewed it among much cursing and table-banging. He is in a
grumblebuny mood. bleh.

So...I'm home, nothing to do. Will go put away laundry and get ready
for the work week, I 'spose.

 

I opened my package--HILARIOUS! I can't wait to do our pumpkin!!!
Thank you! :) That's so cute! [she sent me a mr potato head pumpkin
decorating kit!]

I'm working through lunchtime and leaving early today. I have a ton
of stuff to do before leaving for faire tomorrow morning. I admit,
camping in the Vanagon has spoiled me a bit. I'm all like "crap, I
have to dig up the tent, the stove, flashlight, sleeping bags, bla
bla" and all we have to do for the vanagon is load in groceries and
pillows and go. Oh well. It's gonna be fun.

I don't hurt as much today as I did yesterday. That's a good sign,
too, I think. I could use a soak in a hot tub, though. Hopefully I'll
find/make time for that today, too.

Krav Maga last night was pretty cool. Not quite as intense as the
intro class I took at the studio in far south Austin last summer, but
still good. [Cousin B] hits HARD! He started out being partnered with me and
another girl, but the instructor moved him to sparring with the guys
pretty quickly.

He started class stoned but sobered up by the end. I told him how
really boring and stupid I found stoners to be. Whats sad/scary is, I
like him drunk and I like him on extasy but...I have to probably be
unilateral in saying "drugs and alcohol aren't for everyday, and
nothing is legal to you right now, so can you quit with the
substances?" *sigh* I plan on being sober at faire tomorrow,
hopefully that will show him that people can have fun without being
fucked up. It's so wierd, because one of the things he told me about
a month ago (before making friends at school) was that all his old
friends in Boerne were substance abusers and he liked being with me
and Sweetie and our friends because we are fun and have a great time
without substances...ahh, the joys of peer pressure.

Tonight is a bellydance show at Casa de Luz, which should be fun. One
of my favorite dancers, Leila, is going to be there, and Elena is
meeting me and [Cousin B] there, so it ought to be a fun evening. And then
he's spending the night and we'll get up bright and early tomorrow &
go to faire!

 

evile: hey, you. Feeling any better today?
SkyeDS: much thank you. I'm as weak as a newborn kitten and Hugh is
having a bad day. *sigh*.
evile: that sucks. How was traffic coming in?
SkyeDS: I took an alternate route so it wasn't too bad thankfully. I
stayed the hell away from 290 and from 35 until I hit town
SkyeDS: I took 79 to 685 which is Dessau which is Cameron, down to
183 and hopped over
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: I am damn glad I paid attention in geography just long enough
to know how to use a map effectively.
evile: yup.
evile: Elena's decided she wants to go meditate and such. I dont'
know why she thinks I'd know something about that. I told her to pick
one, and if my schedule permits, I'll try it out with her, but I
don't have a clue. (hate meditating, ANYWAY)
SkyeDS: I know you didn't enjoy it when we were taking yoga.
evile: nope. She's all like "do you like Diamond Way better than
shambala center" and I'm all like "Never been to any of them"...ugh
evile: "but which one do you think I should go to???" ....Um...how
would I know? I've never been to any of them. Make up your own damn
mind for a change.
evile: that girl is just ripe for some unscrupulous guru-type to take
advantage of.
SkyeDS: "I don't know, I honestly have no clue nor opinion one way or
the other." works for me.
evile: stated that & restated it a few times. She's very tenacious
once she does get an idea in her fluffy little head.
SkyeDS: good grief
evile: and then tried to talk me into taking a $350+ class at The
Crossings with her....sorry, if I had that kind of $ to spend, I'd be
traveling with it.
SkyeDS: amen sister
evile: still pondering Xmas in Vegas....nobody wants/is able to go
with me.
SkyeDS: I don't know what we're doing for Xmas yet. I don't much
like going off and leaving sonar0m with the horses.
SkyeDS: reason being he hasn't got a truck he can pull them to the
vet with
evile: yup
SkyeDS: now if I talk to the vet and he will make house calls at Xmas
time, that's different.
SkyeDS: but I still don't like being without my children for three
days.
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: they help me retain my sanity.
evile: *nod*
evile: how are all your guest critters?
SkyeDS: the two gentlemen are ensconced in the acre paddock next to
the acre paddock the warladies are in, and they are quite happy with
the room.
SkyeDS: turns out that their turnout at home is not as large.
SkyeDS: /me wonders how anyone could possibly turnout three or more
horses on less than one acre.
evile: that's good.
evile: Ararat is awesome, BTW.
SkyeDS: where is it?
SkyeDS: /me is lovin on the greek and mediterranean food.
evile: North Loop across from Monkey Wrench Books.
evile: Goddess Night was in their outdoor area, but the inside of the
restaurant is all candlelit, rugs on the walls & floors, peacock
feathers, very very nice atmosphere.
SkyeDS: it has an outdoor area too?
SkyeDS: rockin.
SkyeDS: went to Tino's on 183, owned by the same little man as owns
Zorba's, and he brought his entire family to meet us.
evile: yeah, but I dont' know if they normally seat patrons out
there, or jsut for special events like dancing/goddess night,e tc
evile: I may have to drag you kicking and screaming to the next
Goddess NIght...it was really so cool. I'm disapointed that nobody I
know was there.
SkyeDS: when and where is t he next one?
evile: then again, I dont' get much response to any of that 'where
I'm going, what I'm doing' stuff, so I dont know why I allow myself
to be surprised.disappointed. People dont want to do stuff with me &
I need to just accept it.
evile: It'll be Ararat again, they said 'november' but not exactly
when. Ill keep ya posted. It wasn't very well publicized, but it was
well-attended
SkyeDS: if it's a weeknight that works
SkyeDS: there's an event every weekend in November up until
Thanksgiving
evile: *shrug* No clue. I'll keep ya posted.
evile: they did this one on the actual autumnal equinox...so I'm
thinking the next one may be Nov 1...but Ararat hasn't updated their
website since May!
evile: Are you still staying home from red river faire this weekend?
SkyeDS: yes
SkyeDS: I think between the hurricane and having been sick, I should
take the hint
evile: yeah.
evile: I'm sure your 'rents will be disappointed, but probably best
fo r them to stay home & take care of things, too. Looks like they'll
be getting some bad weather if the hurricane stays on it's current
track.
SkyeDS: I called Dad this morning and told him I had two evacuee
horses to look after, and even if the rest didn't show, I wasn't
going off and leaving them.
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: the nasty weather is likely to hit the fairgrounds too, wind
and rain
SkyeDS: and the highways are going to be flooded with people
SkyeDS: I can't see why they would be going on with the faire
personally
evile: yup
SkyeDS: but even if travel conditions weren't what they were, we
cannot perform in wind and rain unless we are in a covered arena.
evile: true.
SkyeDS: actually the girls did not like the sound of the rain on the
tin roof of the covered arena they were last in
evile: I'm sure they're not used to that sound.
SkyeDS: which gave me some insight as to why, given the choice of
shed or trees, a horse will stand under a tree
SkyeDS: they don't like the sound of rain on tin.
evile: considering how loud it is to people with pretty stupid
hearing, it is probably painfully loud to an animal with more
sensitive ears.
SkyeDS: would think so
evile: Sweetie thinks if we get a metal roof on the house it will sound
like that. I need to find a way to convince him otherwise.
SkyeDS: the trailer had a metal roof, never bothered me
SkyeDS: they say they're more energy efficient.
evile: yup, and you dont' have to replace them as often. plus you get
a break on homeowners insurance.
evile: tempted to just get it done and present a fait accompli...not
the way you're supposed to deal with other rational adults, but the
only way I can see getting it done in my lifetime.
SkyeDS: I don't think our MH (which is what they call a doublewide
permanently mounted like ours) has a metal roof, dunno why
SkyeDS: but the whole house has an energy star rating and actually
costs the same or less electric and water wise as the old place
evile: that's cool.
SkyeDS: even though the sqft went from 900 to 1500
SkyeDS: and obviously the water usage went up when I bought a 70 gal
water tank for the girls
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: rather Mom did.
evile: we need a new roof and more insulation.
evile: well, I got in early, so I'm leaving early. Have a good
weekend. :)
SkyeDS: wind to your wings :)

 

Friday night I went to the bellydance show at Casa de Luz. the
jasmine was blooming, it was lovely. I only stayed through the first
half, I was tired.

Got up Saturday a.m. and checked email; onyxlynxx bailed for Yoga. I was
under the impression that e. had also made other plans for
Saturday, so I decided to say 'fuckit' to yoga & stayed on the
computer goofing off for a couple hours. e. called after yoga &
said she'd missed me in class. d'oh!!

I went shopping, got some canisters for my work coffee, tea, and
splenda at Bed Bath & Beyond, got a skirt at Ross, and then went over
to L&B's, let the cats out, fed them, watched TV until about
3. Went downtown, got there terribly early, so I stopped at Halcyon
to have a coffee, then to the Drafthouse to see The Princess Bride.
Nobody showed up, so I was feeling terribly unloved, then Sharjinka
showed up as the theatre went dark, followed by Donhedon, felisviolacious, and her Little One.
Little One was fidgety, felisviolacious and Jinx kept making comments...it was
fairly embarassing. The waitron gave us one tab with all our stuff, I
had gotten mead, it was awful. Oh well. The movie was OK.

Then I went off to San Antonio for Otter Chaos. Met up w/Rengeek &
Loa. They had some kind of serious conversation at one part of the
evening, apparently because he'd gone out sometime and told her he
hadn't, or some such. Oh well. The band was good, the company was
fairly decent, and I got to see Rengeek's new RV. That was cool. Oh,
yeah, and I got to see Captain Jack without the makeup & costume.
Wedding ring. d'oh.

Got home a bit after Midnight. Slept Sunday until 1:30PM (wow). It
was raining out, and dark, so I guess that's why. Then I went over
to L&B's, fed the cats, watched more TV. Nikiyoy came over with
strawberries & cool whip and we watched "Finding Neverland." I cried,
but mostly I didn't like it. Badly behaved ugly sprogs & Depp's
character encouraging them to be bad at the table, in the house, etc.

Stayed at L&B's until about 10 last night. Around 9:30, cousin B called
and sounded really upset, when the phone rang I let the machine get
it,and thought it was [brother A] at first, then realized it was B, dashed
for the phone, and the call had already ended. Apparently M-[B's mom] and
B got into it physically and [B's mom] called the cops. Looks like
L&B get to take him in for his senior year. I would make sure
M-. paid for his schooling, or at least helped, the selfish bitch.

Anyhoo...that sucked.

And then I went home, read, and now I'm at work. Girls night tonight
is at L&B's, I'm making baked pasta, Onyxlynxx's bringing salad, Nikiyoy's
bringing her s'mores maker, Kulilinei's bringing bread and it should be a
nice time.

 

Friday was Varekai, which was wonderful. After the show, we saw
fireworks outside. I assumed at first it was part of the Varekai
experience, but turns out it was the Austin Music Hall of Fame or
somesuch, part of their ceremonies. It was a wonderful serendipity.
We had gone to Central Market before the show to get dinner stuff &
stuff to snack on after the show. We sat in the parking lot and had
bread, cheese, and fruit. That was really nice.

Saturday I just could not get my shit together and arrived at yoga
too late--the class was packed. The snotty little shit at the desk
told me the class can hold 35 and they hadn't sold out, but it was
too full for my comfort and I honestly did not see any floor space I
could use. So e. got ther after me and we went to brunch at
Trudy's. I had already had my card marked, she hadn't. That kind of
sucks. Oh well. I'll have to steal something from them that is worth
$8 or whatever :P

I went to Steinmart looking for that wine chiller bag I'd seen
before, but it wasn't there. So no Grapevine market. I had planned to
get that bag, then a bottle of TX wine, and mailing it priority to
J-law for her bday. Oh well. Amazon gift certificate it is...feh.

checked the PO box, then back to the house. Puttered on the internet,
decided eventually that I didn't want to drive all the way out to
Excalibur and be alone/lonely and/or have people asking me 'where's
Sweetie?" all day. Pulled weeds in the yard. Did dishes. Laundry.

Sunday was kitefest with Sweetie & thewordnerd, then we met Peglegasus for MOngolian
BBQ.

Home, played on computer, then read M. Lackey's Fairy Godmother. It
was cute & fluffy.

And that was my weekend.

Oh, let me meow-meow for a bit here, since I can't on LJ. This was
Maggiemaepisces' reply to my "I'm not going to Excalibur; I can't stand the idea
of people asking me 'Where's Sweetie?' all day."

maggiemaepisces
2005-03-13 04:59
Darlin' you totally rock! While sweetie is cute and nice and
all...um...we love you! Missed you at GWNN. Loud and boring as always
but Ladydreamtime will be seriously shopping for another munch venue with the
board's permission. Of course she must bring her findings back for
submision to the board, to then put before the membership, but...it's
a start to getting someplace where we can actaully hear each other!

Who/what shall we do for SBC Monday night? Any thoughts?
---------------------------

Yeah, you love me so much you skipped out on fondue night for the
sake of spending time with some man and never called or even emailed
ot tell me you were not going to be there. Deeds, not words. Don't
tell me how much you love me and then treat me like crap. What shall
we do Monday? How bout you plan something and then I won't show up?

 

I saw Sharjinka's new place last night. She is remarkably unpacked for
having moved just last weekend! It's an odd house. Small, but very
open, marble (or marble-look) floors, lots of homemade-looking wood
accents, dowels which will either break or require dusting or both,
study with homemade wood walls & lots of etched-glass windows with
horses and tropical birds, one big stained glass eagle (yum, brown
glass), and one square panel using shells and glass nuggets that was
nice, but didn't really go with the tropical birds and horses theme
(Skye_ds is gonna love the study, I thought it was tacky) lots of mirrors,
tiny bathroom, very little storage space in bathroom or sink/grooming
area outside of potty/bath with a door that closes between them. I,
of course, asked the important question: "where ya gonna put the hot
tub?" We had a nice visit about HFS and tarot and school,
archaeology, etc. She calls the HFS people "kids" and talked about
going out with her guy JG & his adult friends & not quite knowing
how to fit in. It was sad, interesting. Talked about Skye_ds being offended
when she told her she didn't believe in Tarot, that A is always
offering to do readings for her, segued without me realizing it at
first into talking about going to a professional psychic at a faire &
not getting a good reading from her. Talked about her dead uncle Jim
& her grandfather & really wishing there was a way to communcate with
them.

Julie C. and her boyfriend were due at 9, but didn't show up until
sometime between 10:30 and 11. Her boyfriend JH was kind of loud &
nerdy, apparently wanted the female attention, and kind of
interrupted what would have been a good gal-vibe if it had just been
me, Jinx, and Julie. They walked in the door and I hugged Julie
right away. I could tell she didnt know exactly who I was at first,
and then when she realized 'oh it's bramblekite' (she and I know each
ohter from LJ and email, both know Michelle in RL and she liked my
comments on her LJ, and rest is history so to speak. She was lil_lamb
and now she's naughty_zoot) then it was no longer this strange woman
hugging on her. That was kind of funny. She was cute and round, but
very pretty, with shoulder length brown hair and big brown eyes. I
was really just enchanted by the wicked little sparkle in her eyes.
JH is supposedly her Dom, but he did not give off the calm "Dom" vibe
I have seen in Andy and Sir Michael. He was just too 'pay attention
to me'. We had a nice, but short visit. We laughed at Happy Bunny
stuff (Jinx has a calendar, shot glasses, and coasters with Happy
Bunny stuff) and talked about SCA and whatnot. I left early, I had a
rotten sinus headache & had to go to bed early for Yoga on Saturday.

Yoga was good. The regular instructor Lori, is one that Elena just
loves and adores. I'm not that impressed with her, but whatever. I
go, I see Elena and Victoria and it's good for me.

The instructor filling in for Lori today and next Saturday is
Heather, and she is faboo. I felt she was much more respectful of the
physical problems and limits mentioned by class members at the
beginning of class, while still giving us plenty of work to do. (abs!
wow!)

I need to start bringing my own blanket, though. All the ones in the
classroom set smelled like feet.

After we got done with Yoga, Elena went off to pre-ride a trail for a
mountain bike race Sunday, and I went and ran some errands, including
the PO box. I got a nice care package from Sister H. I really love her
sense of humor, it's whimsical and sweet. She did send me a card that
said "The Blanton" in white on orange on one side,and then "Breeder,
screecher, ruiner of occasions," and a phone number that spelled
out "oh, you'll hate me too" on the other side. That's pretty harsh
for Sister H. There was a card she made with a picture of a wombat on
it, too. Very cute. The pictures of the kid holding the badger and
the 'cheese doors' on the envelope must have been entertaining for
the postal service. It was just very cute and fun.

I didn't make it to the Brigid fest at the Vortex. Sweetie and I ran
errants. Highland Mall for Godiva Valentine Truffles, Lowes for stuff
for Tom to make his TV projector screen, Costco for allergy meds,
apples, etc. and then back home. I washed up and made salad and then
headed off to Niki's. She made Jambalaya and we had supper & talked
about stuff. Turned out she'd gotten the wrong size boots when she
went to Hot Topic earlier that day, so we had to go back there. onyxlynxx
wanted to carpool with us, so we got her first, and went by the mall.
Then I had to stop for gas.

We got out to the Voyager party at 8:15 or so, and I felt immediately
shy and out of place, even though I knew Bill, Andy, Jadey, and most
of the party guests by sight... This girl who works in my building &
recently started in our clerical unit was there with her boyfriend.
ICKS. I got a cup of mulled wine and then we went and watched the
mummification demo, and I got pulled in by Sam, the Dom giving the
demo, to help with duct taping his sub. That was kind of fun, but
took a long time, so onyxlynxx and Niki wandered off before it was done.
He started with a layer of cling wrap over the whole person, then
regular gray/silver duct tape on the back, and then decorative duct
tape on the front, including clear over the nipples and genitals. A
bit later, I tracked down Niki and onyxlynxx and we were gonna go play
with my new spoon, and Sam found me and said he needed to find Ken,
and would I watch his sub? So I went in to the darkened room where
the sub was laying on a padded mat, listening to a CD and breathing
deeply. I think he was having a really nice experience. I sat and
watched him until Sam came back. It was nice to be entrusted with
that but of course kind of annoying to be dragged away from my gals
like that.

We went upstairs where the swing is and I tried out my spoon on Niki
and onyxlynxx. They were both on hands and knees and I whacked each of
their butts a few times. It was fun, but I felt totally stupid doing
it. I have no clue about this stuff. I wanted them to enjoy it, but I
didn't really know what I was doing. So I quit. A couple of pervs
came up the stairs, i guess because they heard the whacks & onyxlynxx and
Niki laughing. Andy started playing with Jadey, using the swing hook
to suspend her while he used various implements on her. It was
interesting, and Andy is very capable, but onyxlynxx mentioned she was
going to try and go to work the next day and I was kind of tired, so
we unhooked Niki from her new cuffs and ankle-cuffs and went on home.

It wasn't a great night, but it was OK. I enjoyed spending time
w/onyxlynxx and Niki, anyway.

 

e. wants to go to dinner tonight...she won't be done doing
whatever until 8 pm and I am supposed to call her, whereupon we'll
decide where to go..which means dinner will actually occur 9pm-
ish....um, no. I will probably just eat at home, go catsit for L&B,
and then when e. & I go out for 'dinner' get a little appetizer or
dessert. I'm just not European enough to eat dinner that late. And
then go to bed in time to get up, check on the kitties, and go to
yoga class at 9 a.m. the next day. WTH. Apparently she's given up
mountain bike racing and has found herself without a social life, so
I am getting called upon to fill the gap. She called me last Sunday
and we had this long rambly convo where she said basically that she
wants friends & people to do stuff with, but doesn't want to waste
time joining groups and finding people & getting to know them. wth.
Anyway, whatever. I had no plans tonight, other than catsitting, and
at least she's not wanting to drag me to some horrible movie.

 

evile: howdy :)
SkyeDS: hola :)
evile: Not a good day to come to work without my willpower--someone
brought chex mix...

SkyeDS: ruh roh
evile: yeah.
evile: If I can just stay away from that area of the room, I may be
OK.
SkyeDS: with me, it's smell
evile: we have microwaves all over, so I have had to kind of learn to
ignore smells. People usually burn stuff, so it's not hard to be
grossed out instead of hungry when I smell their food.
SkyeDS: I can't think of much worse than the pervasive smell of burnt
popcorn
evile: it's nasty. I go home with headaches some days.....oh well.
better than eating the entire 4th floor.
SkyeDS: I always feel guilty about the smell of anything I put in the
microwave because Tonya and Eugene are subjected to whatever I eat.
evile: *shrug* it's to be expected if you work near the break area, I
guess. I've temped in places where there were rules about what you
could and could not cook in the microwave.
SkyeDS: old man Mersky got upset one day when in the kitchen I made a
shrimp stirfry
evile: I can see that, I guess.
SkyeDS: and he stunk us out of the office one day because he had a
little kitchen area all to himself and he microwaved three day old
salmon
evile: ew.
evile: we used to only have 2 microwaves in the actual break room,
but then someone brought one from home to put by her desk, then my
unit went in on one to put back by the boss' desk, et c etc, and now
we've got em everywhere. And nobody ever cleans any of them.
SkyeDS: I loved the kitchen at the law library
SkyeDS: full size fridge, two microwaves and a full size stove with
oven
evile: nice.
evile: Little e is driving me crazy trying to get together when
SHE wants to and see a movie SHE wants to see...I keep telling
her "I'm doing __ on that day, want to join me?" and apparently she
will have none of it. I dont' know why...
evile: And this month's plans are even more eclectic than usual, so I
don't know why none of them are of interest.
SkyeDS: apparently one of my acquaintances in #politics on IRC owns a
cafe on the lake. He invited me to bring the bird out to eat. He's
close to Emma Long, where APD told me I could go riding.
SkyeDS: looks cool
SkyeDS: http://skishores.com
evile: cool.
SkyeDS: I'm still growing accustomed to this having plans months in
advance for every single weekend
evile: *nods*
SkyeDS: I don't know why, it was always like that growing up,
fronting a band and doing various academic and/or music competitions.
SkyeDS: guess 10 years of being sedentary
evile: After July I'll probably go back into Hermit mode again...I'm
already freaking out thinking about all the people/places/things
evile: I know i actually left myself plenty of quiet alone me-time,
but it just doesn't feel like it at the moment.
SkyeDS: I don't even know what i'm going to do with myself once CRW
is over
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: ride in Georgetown on Sundays, I think, because that's one of
my favorite parks
SkyeDS: explore Somerville eventually
SkyeDS: and there's Emma Long and Pace Bend
evile: *nods*
evile: Been to Emma Long, it's nice.
SkyeDS: my friend's restaurant is like right across the road
SkyeDS: his website is cool
evile: that's handy.
SkyeDS: he has a pet policy right on his webpage
SkyeDS: and pictures
SkyeDS: and movie nights and live music
evile: nice :)
evile: woops...I just posted something to the poly group that I meant
to send to one person. It wasn't anything snarky, thank heavens :P
evile: Was trying to send blake the wierdo a lead on a house.
SkyeDS: some of us took up sign language in grade school
SkyeDS: was an effective way to talk in class without passing notes
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: we thought we were clever
evile: I wish I'd studied sign when I had the chance.
evile: Well, I pondered some more and I guess maybe e is not
interested in doing anything with me BUT the movie she wants to see
anyway.
SkyeDS: my mother once pointed out to me that I would have more
friends if I actively cultivated them more
evile: I was laboring under the apparently mistaken idea that she
wanted to get together to spend time with me, but once I got that out
of the way, it's clear that the point is to see the movie.
SkyeDS: and then pointed out when I was trying to improve that, that
I only did things I was interested in doing.
evile: it's a 2 way street...
SkyeDS: I'm not entirely like that.
SkyeDS: I operate under the assumption that if we are friends, we
have common interests, and if you do something you like, chances are
if I try it I might like it
evile: Well, look, within your sphere of interests, there are only a
few choices a person can make if they want to spend time with you:
HFS, SCA, Horses, Movies, Camping. And that's the options. If they
dont like any of that, too bad for them.
SkyeDS: actually, if we do things that I can do after work and not
during the day on the week, I can be divorced from the rest of my
baggage ;P
evile: And, really, you find plenty of people who are interested in
one/more of those things, so why go hunting in areas that don't
interest you for more people to hang with?
evile: you told me you are too tired after work during the week.
SkyeDS: I like going to see the dancers, and perfectly happy if the
boys and the children aren't there.
SkyeDS: I am very tired.
SkyeDS: but things like watching dancers isn't tiring. Skating,
though, for example, is out.
SkyeDS: I wish karaoke wasn't on a "school" night, would like to do
that.
evile: Me, I have about a bazillion interests and I find it
difficult/impossible to believe that e can't find something in a
list of 8 *completely disparate* things that she is interested in.
evile: So the only conclusion I can come to is that the point of the
getting together is not for the friendship but for 1 very specific
movie that she wants to see.
SkyeDS: that does surpass understanding. granted my understanding is
limited and simple.
evile: In which case, why keep trying to gte ME to go to it with her?
Why not find someone else and just go to the movie....
evile: *sigh* she hasnt' done or said anything egregious enough for
me to justify blowing her off for the rest of our lives, but it's
just so damned annoying to deal with her sometimes.
SkyeDS: I annoy everybody on a regular basis.
evile: I can see someone not being comfortable being invited to a
group activity--like I won't invite her to NK or poly dinners but why
the reluctance to do something with me one-on-one that I had already
planned on attending all by myself, anyway?
SkyeDS: dunno?
evile: I labor under the delusion that if I can understand someone's
behavior rationally, it will all just make perfect sense and be less
hurtful. It really is a delusion.
evile: And then after endless back & forth & various convolutions,
she'll likely as not end up flaking out on me at the last minute,
anyway. so what is the point. argh.
SkyeDS: I don't deal well with people when I can't figure out their
internal logic, when it isn't consistent even with itself
evile: *nods* me too.
evile: Or if I can't figure out what they want...that makes me fairly
crazy.
evile: For example, a friend saying "I haven't seen you in a while,
we should spend time"...and then turning down/ignoring every
invitation I extend.
evile: come to think of it, e's not the only one of those...
SkyeDS: which has happened a lot lately it seems like
evile: WTF.
evile: oh well. when all else fails, you drag your family kicking &
screaming... :P
SkyeDS: actually when all else fails, I take the keys and leave them
at home
evile: Just kidding. I would not invite family to something if I
didn't really want to see them & spend time.
SkyeDS: and when I get home, I get to listen to choruses of "but we
wanted to go..."
evile: heh. I get that too.
SkyeDS: mmhm. bullSHEET.
evile: heh.
evile: Oh well. It seems e & I may have a 'date' after all. Now
she wants me to assure her that the movie will still be playing by
then. what. ever.
evile: Yet another reason I can never see myself doing the poly thing-
-too much of a logistical nightmare. :P
SkyeDS: well yeah.
SkyeDS: particularly if multiple SOs refuse to behave like family
around each other
evile: hard enough just to juggle life & friends with only one
Sweetie in the picture.
SkyeDS: for Valentine's I took sonar0m and sineater out to a movie. asked
kaleon if he wanted to go, he said no.
SkyeDS: so I slated time for him the next day.
SkyeDS: and he was upset that it wasn't ON Valentine's day.
evile: nice.
SkyeDS: shrug
evile: I can totally understand wanting 1-on-1 time with someone. But
not demanding it every time you spend time with them...
evile: "Enjoy what you can, not what you can't" as my friend Don so
wisely said.
SkyeDS: well, being obnoxious is not the way to induce someone to
want to spend time with you at all, much less alone.
evile: heh.
evile: the bi womens discussion group is tonight. I know I know
people in the group & would like to go just to say hi...but no real
reason for me to be at that meeting. bi is pretty much a moot point
with me anymore ...
SkyeDS: Sweetie has not the average male fantasy of watching two women
and/or participating?
evile: nope.
evile: he is very hetero mono vanilla.
SkyeDS: sometimes people think they'll be ok with something, say
they'll be ok with it, and then when they actually get to crossing
that bridge, it doesn't work that way.
evile: *nods*
evile: that is why I suppose so much of poly relationships end up
being talking instead of fucking :P
SkyeDS: all longterm relationships eventually end up that way - when
you get too old to be interested in sex anymore for example
evile: well, but you don't have to constantly negotiate & renegotiate
mono. the rules are pretty well instilled from a young age.
evile: I don't distrust Blake, but I am kind of amazed that people
are so trusting with their location info.

evile: especially in the unsteady political climate we live in.
SkyeDS: you're not supposed to have to negotiate and renegotiate.
however, there are a lot of people who don't seem to be able to play
by the rules no matter how well instilled they were.
evile: But what if, like you say, you say "Oh, I won't mind you
spending the night with so-and-so" but when it happens, you feel sad
& jealous & upset. Does everyone just ignore your feelings and go on
with the original agreement as written?
SkyeDS: nope, have to renegotiate
SkyeDS: just like you do when someone says "I'll keep myself only
unto you" and then doesn't.
evile: exactly. And I personally like it that poly has room for that
whereas mono does not.
SkyeDS: do you take them back or don't you
SkyeDS: if you take them back
SkyeDS: then you're renegotiating.
evile: In mono, it seems that the incident is covered over and never
spoken of, in most cases.
SkyeDS: they say "men marry women hoping we won't change, and we
marry men hoping they will" and we're both wrong.
evile: heh.
evile: I don't marry nobody.
evile: have made a few dumb assumptive mistakes anyway. Oh well.
SkyeDS: Kaleon said that I don't want him or sineater or sonar0m to find
someone else, I want it all one way.
SkyeDS: he feels that little details like playing by established
rules are not worth discussing
evile: he likes to push boundaries.
SkyeDS: he should have been a lawyer
SkyeDS: a trial or criminal defense lawyer.
evile: too much work. you already told me how lazy he was in college.
SkyeDS: he'd have paralegals to do his research for him
evile: never would have made it thru a JD program, much less study
hard enough to pass the bar.
SkyeDS: well there is that
SkyeDS: he would have to find a drive through diploma mill law school
evile: even online classes aren't too slouchy. I had an online
paralegal class kick me up one side of the street & down the other.
SkyeDS: really?
evile: indeed.
SkyeDS: do tell?
evile: *shrug* nothing to tell. signed up & paid for part 1 of a 6
part class, failed miserably, sold my books on Amazon.com, The End.
SkyeDS: I suspect the courses are getting harder because established
paralegals are trying to shut the door behind themselves.
evile: probably.
SkyeDS: in other ways besides creating quasi-certifications through
the two national organizations
SkyeDS: what they'd really like is for a paralegal to have to pass a
bar.
evile: *nods* makes sense
SkyeDS: right now, paralegal and legal assistant are catch alls that
could mean any combination of experience, schooling or possibly none
at all
evile: yup.
evile: I read an article a couple years ago that said TX was going to
be hurting for paralegals & legal secretaries. Then came to find out
that TX pays the lowest of any state for those services. duh.
SkyeDS: and in Texas, Austin is even worse
evile: If your paralegal cert. isn't like a state bar that keeps you
practicing in one area, why NOT go where the money is?
SkyeDS: paralegals here are lucky to get 40K and in Dallas we get 70K
SkyeDS: yours truly is making less per hour than Kelly driving school
buses, but oh well.
evile: your boss seems very cool & you get a lot more flexibility
than Kelly. Or me, for that matter.
SkyeDS: yep
SkyeDS: and I don't have the burden of a paralegal all day either
evile: life's a series of trade-offs it seems...
SkyeDS: I get to play paralegal now and again but mostly I'm not even
legal assistant, mostly I'm secretary and receptionist
SkyeDS: and underpaid for those things too, but I have lots of other
compensatory perks
evile: *nods*
evile: Man, I am so ready for my nap!
SkyeDS: I'm going to dump tack in a bucket of oil and go to bed the
minute I get home
evile: sounds like a plan. I don't know why Tuesdays are so much more
tiresome than Mondays, but they are.
SkyeDS: I haven't made up the sleep I lost Sunday night/Monday morning
evile: *nods*
evile: "John & John"...that's some bumper sticker.
SkyeDS: grin
evile: Edwards made a pretty strong showing in hte primaries, not too
surprising.
SkyeDS: lot of people thought it was going to be Hildebeast
evile: I just saw a yahoo news story about a magazine that published
Kerry/Gephardt. heh. oops. so much for scooping the rival press.
SkyeDS: saw that, lol, too funny
evile: yup :)
evile: I went looking t the Krav Maga class schedule. no way I can
get to an earlier class & go to m yhair appt and go to poly dinner.
feh.
evile: They have a level 1 at 5:45 a.m. on SAturdays, supposedly.
jeez, that's hardcore...
evile: well, it's about time for me to make my rounds
SkyeDS: hugs, ciao bella :)
evile: drive safe & get good rest tonight :)
SkyeDS: thankee. you too