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Five Things You Can Say to an Emotional Abuser
1. When someone is making decisions for you.
Are you aware that you’re making this decision for me and without asking me what I want to do? I have my own desires and needs. When you assume what is best for me without asking, I feel controlled, which is upsetting. I’d like to play an active and independent role in our decisions. I am my own person and deserve that respect.
2. When someone criticizes you harshly.
When you talk to me in that tone of voice and say mean words, I feel less than. It hurts in ways I don’t think you understand. Do you mean to hurt my feelings? If you really want me to be sad and hurt, then you’ll keep talking to me that way, but I am asking you to stop.
3. When someone ignores you needs or refuses to help.
My needs are legitimate. When you ignore them by refusing to help me, I feel rejected, like you simply don’t care about me. Do you care about me? If you do, then please be responsive when I need something from you. I care about you and expect the same commitment from you in return.
4. When you are being bullied by an emotional abuser.
You’re bullying me right now. Did you know that? I don’t know how you define bullying, but what you’re doing now is an example of bullying to me. And I’m scared. It’s hard to live with someone you’re scared of and I’d like you to understand that. Will you please stop bullying so that I can feel safe around you?
5. When an emotional abuser is berating children. [pets, employees, other partners]
How you’re communicating to our child [pets, employees, other partners] is mean. Do you see the look on his/her face? I don’t know what kind of relationship you want with your kids [pets, employees, other partners] , but the path you’re on will ultimately lead to no relationship at all. One day, your son/daughter [pets, employees, other partners] will reject you wholeheartedly and you may never hear from him/her/them again – and this is directly related to how you are treating him/her/them now. Is that what you want?
It’s a start. These aren’t magic spells and so are likely to be met with resistance. Still, you need to start somewhere. You need mature and thoughtful words, consistently, in order to set your boundaries and possibly break through to the abuser.
Practice. If you think these scripts help (worded in your style) then use them. Words are powerful tools that can change the world. Not all emotional abusers will change, but some do have that capacity and may ultimately turn a corner.
Only you can decide how much to put up with, if and when you will leave the situation for good. In the meantime, learn the right words to use to empower yourself.
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What helped me leave my abusive relationship?
1) I somehow lucked into a good network of friends: HFS, the Austin Poly Group, the folks at No Kidding, and most importantly the SBC. Their love and support, plus my observations into their relationships--both good and bad--helped me to see my own situation clearly for what it was. And was not.
2) I somehow managed to tap into a fundamental truth about myself that I had let myself forget: I am a good person and I don't deserve to be treated like this. Once that realization came to the surface, I was no longer able to tolerate being mistreated, spoken to rudely, ignored, financially abused, and cheated on.
Thank you to my friends and family. Even, or perhaps especially, the ones I'm not on speaking terms with anymore. My love and gratitude you always have, even if circumstances prevent us from being in one anothers lives at this point in time.
Interesting revelation
Dec. 28th, 2007 03:50 pm(Choosing to waste my time and energy on them is obviously my own issue, stemming largely from male parental indifference, and obviously I'm working on it.)
I just verbalized today something interesting that I think I need to remember:
me: I may not know what a shrimp fork looks like,but I think I am a decent human being and a loyal friend...
just...most people dont' seem to value that
so in my head that turns into 'I'm worthless'
rather than what it should be: 'they're assholes'
My loyalty, friendship and regard are worthwhile things. I am a worthwhile human being. If someone does not value me or my friendship, that is their sad loss.
And I need to spend more time with the people who don't treat me like crap, ignore me, or blow me off.
Go, me.
Reminder: April 14
Mar. 21st, 2007 06:36 am |
The Power Wheel from http://www.mcedv.org/ |
So, on that note, I'd like to remind everyone that April 14 is the 20th annual Safe Place Walk.
from their Walk Details page:
Who: SafePlace Walkers are members of the Austin community who wish to honor survivors of sexual and domestic violence. They are also people who want to contribute to SafePlace's mission to end sexual and domestic violence through safety, healing, prevention and social change.
What: The 20th Anniversary SafePlace Walk is a great opportunity to join us (if you haven't done the Walk before) or to celebrate your continued commitment to a community free of rape, sexual abuse and domestic violence.
The SafePlace Walk is a major fundraiser supporting our programs which provide safety, healing, prevention and social change for the Austin area.
Where: Waterloo Park (403 East 15th Street, between Trinity and Red River)
When: Saturday, April 14, 2007 9 am - The Park and Registration opens
Distance: 2.2 miles.
3767*argh*
Nov. 10th, 2005 04:21 pmI have a feeling Sunday isn't gonna happen.
And..argh, little miss "going back to Karate" so she doesn't come to
Thursday poly dinners anymore and working early hours M-F so she
doesn't stay out late anymore, asking ME if I'm snubbing folks?
GMAFB. Please.
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Onyxlynxx wrote,
@ 2005-11-09 15:06:00
Current mood: okay
Current music: Recoil by Ani Difranco
Monday night beli1738 and Adriana stopped by on their way home. It
was nice to get a chance to talk to Beli and Adriana really seemed to
enjoy seeing the pets.
After they left, I went over to maggiemaepisces and gev's. We just
lay around and talked until the other ladies started showing up. It
was wonderful to see kulilinei, jadeysmyname, Terriblelyneblelynne and
nikiyoy. It was fun meeting Niki's mom and little sister and being
able to put a picture to their stories. I played a little scrabble
until they decided that it wasn't fair for Maggiemaepisces and I to be a team. I
was getting tired by then anyway so I decided to go home.
Tuesday was work and karate. Work was unremarkable. Karate was fun.
We got paired up with another person of the same belt level then we
rotated through several activities. I think hitting Bob, the practice
dummy, continually for minute was the most fun. I also enjoyed with
Rebecca. At first she seemed kind of reserved but the more I get to
know her the more I like her. She just got her yellow belt and I
won't be getting promoted anytime soon so we will be spending lots of
time together.
Work sucked today. We are really busy and I keep getting all these
horrible calls. It has been something serious involving small
children like burns or abandonment or sexual abuse or both all day. I
am almost scared to answer the phone again.
Other than that, things are going pretty well. I had a nice visit
with mielikki during lunch. I have challenges in my life that I
continue to struggle with but for once I can say that I am mostly
happy with my progress.
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wow
bramblekite
2005-11-10 05:20 am UTC (link)
You saw me on Monday???
Could've sworn I was in Krav Maga class.
Wow...
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Re: wow
onyxlynxx
2005-11-10 12:55 pm UTC (link)
Sorry. That was dumb. I am sure there is a good excuse? Wishful
thinking? Proof of how tired I was? Prescient vision of next Monday?
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Re: wow
bramblekite
2005-11-10 01:07 pm UTC (link)
heehee. No worries, I just thought it was funny. (That or signs that
my request for a clone had been filled.)
Next Monday I'll be in Krav Maga again, and also the 21st. Then, the
28th, I'm taking a beading class with my aunt.
So I'm totally missing out on Girls nite for the entire month of
November! :(
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Re: wow
onyxlynxx
2005-11-10 01:44 pm UTC (link)
Hey. Did we do something to offend you?
I thought you were the one who still wanted weekly Ladies' Nights?
We are still on for TRF on Sunday, yes? How about meeting at the
front gate? What time is good for you? Are you going to wear garb?
Maggiemaepisces and I were considering going as civilians.
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Re: wow
bramblekite
2005-11-10 02:16 pm UTC (link)
Not offended, it's just the way things worked out this month. The
main (selfish) reason I voted for weekly girls nights is because due
to balancing Krav and Poly dinners, I knew I'd only be able to get
out to Girls Nite twice a month, at best, and if it turned into a
once-a-month thing, I'd be almost sure to miss it every time. If it
happens weekly, I have better chances of catching one. I'm paid thru
March for Krav classes, and I am going to try and get my aunt's
money's worth...but already getting a little resentful of the free
time it sucks up.
At the beginning of the month, it looked like the only free Monday I
had was the 14th, and then when the poly dinner days got changed
because of Thanksgiving, I had to re-organize my calendar so as to
get to Krav Maga 2x during the week....
I can be at the front gate any time Sunday a.m. I can wear garb or
regular clothes, whatever y'all want. As long as it wouldn't bother
you if I was garbed, I'd probably prefer to do garb. :)
3729Halloween
Nov. 2nd, 2005 12:25 pm2 Nov. 6:59 am
Off work around 4, home & change into pirate/pastafarian outfit.
Picked up Terriblelyne from work, lots of traffic, running late! Traffic
on the way back not so bad, got to Hoover's 6:16. Kulilinei, Mindi & Zack
already there, argonarcher. showed up. They seated us even tho we were
incomplete, Gev, Onyxxlynx and Maggiemaepisces showed up right after we got seated,
then Nikiyoy long after we were seated & ordered.
Nice visit. Maggiemaepisces's theory on skye_ds' SCA Eq. 'big trouble' is that
everyone has to get re-certified, its nothing personal against
skye, they just require it every now and again. That or possibly
some hoo-ha from the recent Bryn-Gwlad thing, since its a small site,
they don't allow horses to roam around, you have to keep them in a
certain area unless there's an equestrian event actually happening.
And same w/trailers.
Kulilinei and Nikiyoy took off after dinner, the rest of us went to the
Vortex theatre. Sweetie was there. Eventually we were joined by Ladydreamtime &
Rainking1. That was a nice surprise.
Vampyress was good. Everyone liked the costuming, the set, and the
casting of women with different body types. Ladydreamtime and Terriblelyne liked
that the singers were in the lower ranges.
After the play, Sweetie went home to put the finishing touches on his
costume and I took Terriblelyne home. Then I went back home & we went to 6th
st. for Halloween. Ran into the only other flying spaghetti monster
on his way out, we visited with him and his posse, they gave us
literature, the monsters 'tagged out' and off we went. We met up
w/Peglegasus and some chick who is apparently our neighboer, and we walked
around. We made about 1.5 rounds before Sweetie got annoyed and thirsty
and neighbor girl decided she wanted a drink, so she and Max went
into Casino el Camino & we went back to the car and he took off his
FSM head. When we got back to 6th, neighbor girl had decided she was
tired and so Max took her home. Sweetie & I went to The Ritz & had a
pitcher. A very drunk Trinity (from the matrix) came and sat w/us,
and we were joined by her friend "Joe" who was in a gas mask, green
rubber gloves and matching green rubber apron. Also at The Ritz, we
saw Tecate Man, 2 "The Jesus"'s from The Big Lebowski, a sexy cop,
some Musketeers, fairies, a Rastafarian, and that's all I can
remember. Out in the street, we saw Bender from Futurama, Darth Maul,
Edward Scissorhands, bunches of pirates, lots of slutty chicks, and
my favorite ironic costume: a 300 lb, 5'2" woman wearing horns and a
red t-shirt that said 'little devil'--hahah.
Then we went by Barflys and I met Sweetie's gang. That was kinda fun. A
very good Hunter S. Thompson was wandering around there. We were
there until last call & a little later, hanging around in the parking
lot. Max was pretty toasted, Bianca and Deedee were going to stay
with him and hang out until he felt a bit more sober to drive.
Then we went home and had really nice Halloween nookie. Sweetie lasted a
really long time :)
Oct. 26, 2005
nikiyoy (nikiyoy) wrote,
@ 2005-10-26 13:13:00
I've been a bad friend
I know recently I've bailed from a lot of friend type activities. Most
of it is due to home work and school, and some more of it is due to the
newish-ness of my relationships. I wanted to apologize if you guys
haven't felt like I'm listening, I am. I need to get back in the habit
of scheduling things with you all. I love ya and miss ya.
3653poly dinner last night
Oct. 14th, 2005 04:32 pmOct. 14, 2005
Me, John (of John & Susan), Sir Michael, savanni, Marcos, Terri, thewordnerd
(that was awkward but not as bad as I feared), LadyDreamtime & RainKing1 stopped
by for a bit, and onyxlynxx. She seemed unhappy and left pretty quickly.
I'm not sure what's up with that.
Good conversation:
Prop 2
laws re: child abuse
antique anti sodomy laws
The blue post it story/silly work stuff
cats & their prey
It started to rain around 10, so those who had stayed longest to chat
left. savanni was Terriblelynne and thewordnerd's ride. On the wya to the car, we
were talking about 9/11. Near the car, savanni mentioned "This woman
came to poly dinner and said the US should nuke every city in the
middle east"...I said "oh, yeah, that was my sister in law" and he
said "I like her bird, he's sweet and cute and smart, but I never
want to see her again"...I don't remember skye_ds saying anything bad
about savanni after that incident, even though he apparently suggested
by way of reductio ad absurdum that we should bomb everyone in
oklahoma after the federal building attack in OKC...hm.
Anyway, I was happy that she/they didn't come up much, and I had a
nice visit with folks.
I guess being mad at me, chris, and everyone else, is just part of
sineater's healing process,and I'm OK with that. I just wish he'd speak
to me directly, and skip the middle man, and all of skye_ds's 'some
people' said 'some stuff' 'somewhere' 'sometime' is BULL FUCKING
SHIT.
3652TGIF (sent to J-Law)
Oct. 14th, 2005 04:29 pmOct. 14, 2005
I'm so glad it's the weekend. Tonight is Eshta bellydance troupe at
the Green Muse cafe. And Sweetie wants to shop for a couch tomorrow after
I get home from Krav Maga. That will be fun.
Jaime is playing at some dive in Hutto Saturday night.
And then I have no plans Sunday. Maybe yoga w/onyxlynxx from 9-10:30, but
maybe not. I have no idea what her problem is lately.
I am going to have to read up on what's going on in today's
astrology...yesterday and last night my friend onyxlynxx was very short
with me for no reason I can think of...and UB is telling me that sineater
is mad at me, and venting to her about it, which is upsetting her. I
told her that she should tell sineater firmly yet kindly that he needs to
talk directly to whoever is offending him, and that she doesn't want
to be in the middle of it. She won't, because she likes being at the
center of drama. Of course, this could all be her making crap up,
too. Whatever. I'm not going to go borrowing trouble by calling sineater
to let him hand me my ass for something I didn't even do...I haven't
seen or talked to him since Table Rock faire, so what could I have
done to piss him off? What.ever. I have many better things to do than
bother with those 2.
3642heehee - Chances LJ post
Oct. 11th, 2005 02:56 pmE
Oct. 11, 2005
the part about wooded areas & parking garages amused me for some
reason..
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Chancie (chancie) wrote,
@ 2005-10-10 10:26:00
Good morning Monday
I had a fabulous weekend. The weather was just beautiful and the
company was perfect.
I have a new fetish for parking garages and wooded areas.
I finally got to see Nightmare before Christmas.
I took a good step in the communication direction.
Went to a fundraiser on Sunday where I got to see Michael give birth
on the big screen again. I was a little less tweaked this time. It
wasn't actually the birth scene that was weird it was the makeup in
the last scene that gets me. I think he is very handsome in whatever
he wears or doesn't wear, but blue eye shadow is just not his look.
Also watched a wonderfully done short by the name of "The Perils of
Nude Modeling"
I got to see Serenity again last night. Contrary to what certain sexy
movie companions might say, I did not cry I sniffled a bit but there
were dry eyes here. It was still very sad at the end and I wanted to
cry and internally I was sobbing but I missed Zoe in the slinky dress
last time and I didn't want to miss it again. That woman just does
naughty things to my mind.
Also I don't understand the concept of women refusing to be sexual
when their head hurts. My hormones don't give a rat's ass. Nor do
they care if I am about to fall over asleep. One minute I am yawning
and wanting to curl up asleep and the next I am wound up and nothing
else matters but the feel of warm flesh pressed against mine. The
same with the headache, I have a head? The head is aching? Who cares!
The week ahead:
Monday: Nada, probably go grocery shopping and then home to read and
go to bed early.
Tuesday: Nada
Wednesday: Nada
Thursday: First Thursday poly dinner at Whole Foods or game night
Friday: No clue
Saturday and Sunday: Working on film set.
3614Girls Night
Oct. 4th, 2005 05:31 pmOct. 4, 2005
Last night was girls' night at Sharjinka's. We ordered pizza and
watched To Wong Foo, which I'd never seen all the way through. It was
really fun. It was me, onyxlynxx, Sharjinka, maggiemaepisces, Terriblelynne, and Kulilinei. I
brought cinnabon cookies, chips & dip, and Tilsburg brown ale (I had
3!). Terri brought jicama watermelon fruit salad. Kulilinei brought
toffee chocolate crack, I mean, COOKIES. Good lord, those things are
RICH! We got Papa John's. It was really great.
Sharjinka has adopted a retired racing greyhound named Pippin, and he
was so sweet. She kept apologizing for how obnoxious he was being
[truthfully, that annoyed me FAR more than anything Pip did!], but I
really didn't think he was being obnoxious at all, just friendly and
sweet. He didn't jump on anybody or lick them or bark or anything
that I'd consider 'obnoxious'. He'd just follow people into the
kitchen, or lean on you or put his head on your knee and give you the
big eyes. It was very endearing. He is a sweet, gentle dog.
I got to bed at a reasonable hour, and feel pretty OK today. As the
alarm was going off, I was dreaming about being at some kind of
summer camp or college w/Mom,and I'd lost my purse, and there was
something about her giving me a hard time about Krav Maga and
something about a computer running the school/camp and having to
press the side of your face against a computer screen to register for
classes...
I have phone duty at work so I leave at 3:08 today, and then at 5:30
I'm taking Krav Maga at the studio closer to my house than the place
I went last summer. [aunt L] will bring [Cousin B] over to our house and I'll
take him to Krav Maga with me & then either drop him home or we'll go
skating. We'll see how that works out. It should be a hoot :) And
we'll talk about weekend plans, whether we want to camp at TRF
(forecast is 80 in the daytime & sunny, 60 at night)
I also have to get to the grocery store tonight, I'm out of
breakfasts & lunches for work after today. I guess I could also think
about shopping for whatever we'll need for Saturday, or maybe save
that for Friday afternoon/evening. I have a lot of stuff I want to do
between the end of the work day and the bellydance show.
I'm taking Monday the 10th off. That should be fun.
I'd also like to get by the mall for Vanilla Spice stuff at the Body
Shop, and I desperately need a fix-up haircut for what Tina did to
me this last time. I want the fringey old lady back turned into
something that looks more like a bob, AND I just noticed this a.m.
that the right and left sides are about 2 inches different in length,
it looks like SHIT!!!! That makes me so mad.
3558Girls Night
Sep. 20th, 2005 05:26 pmSep. 20, 2005
Me, [cousin B], Terri, onyxlynxx, funnygirlkawaii, maggiemaepisces, nikiyoy, kulilinei.
Me, [cousin B] Terri and onyxlynxx went to Yoga Yoga northwest. They didn't give
Terri a hard time about wearing shoes in class. Our teacher, Charlie,
was a skinny older British guy, bad BO, who asked us all first thing
if we went to Body Choir...at that point, we should have known we
were in trouble. He kept correcting [cousin B] all thru class...and at one
point said "your pants are confusing me" (I think because they were
baggy & the instructor couldn't see exactly how he had his legs, but
it was hilarious anyway)
The classroom was hideously warm, too. It was dreadful. Lots of
downward dog, my hands went numb partway thru class. I didn't like it.
onyxlynxx & I are talking about going to class on Sunday mornings, maybe,
once her schedule gets changed. I'm just going to use up the rest of
this pass and then go on to Krav Maga. onyxlynxx mentioned a family
martial arts class at Sun Dragon. We might try that out once. I think
I'll like Krav Maga better.
After that, we went to Mangia, where maggiemaepisces, nikiyoy, kulilinei, and funnygirlkawaii
were already seated. nikiyoy, kulilinei, and [cousin B] shared a pizza. I don't
know if funnygirlkawaii ever got her order right.
After that we went to Ben & Jerry's and got ice cream. sonar0m
(Skye_ds's lover) and his parents came in and I gave sonar0m a tiny
hard time "Oh, NOW you're speaking to me!" and greeted his parents
with a cheery "HI, sonar0m' parents! I'm the dreadful Sister In Law
you've heard so many terrible things about!" it was kinda fun.
AFter that, I took Terri home & [cousin B] & I went to the Arboretum &
walked around. We snuck into the hotel's indoor water area and went
hot tubbing and swimming in our underwear. That was awesome & fun. We
also went down into the woods a bit, [cousin B] lost his wallet and we had
to hunt for it which made us late getting him home. Not good. (OTOH,
he wasn't mean or nasty to me as a result of losing it, and I wasn't
mean or nasty to him....so that was refreshing.)
I didn't get to sleep until a bit after midnight, but it was still
great fun. [cousin B] and I have the best adventures.
3514lunch w/nikiyoy
Sep. 9th, 2005 04:58 pmSep. 9, 2005
I had lunch w/nikiyoy yesterday at La Palapa. She was talking about
fishfood and fang and how they want to have a closed poly fi
relationshp and they want her to move in w/them. She doesn't want
either right now.
She is pissed because Belin_ann (Galen's wife) keeps flirting w/fishfood.
WTF, man. Belin_ann has even approached her to make sure it's OK, and
nikiyoy told her 'look but don't touch'
Fishfood apparently has told her that the only reason he's still with
his wife is because she's got cancer and it would be shitty of him to
leave her while she's sick.
Fang doesn't want to work, she wants to go back to school, and
apparently fishfood has problems with that because even though he makes
a ton of $, he doesn't want to support her.
Fang is a 'princess' and has 'entitlement issues' and apparently nikiyoy
thinks she's going to lay down the law and change the way fishfood and
fang interact with one another, and she also is demanding to be an
equal in the relationship. She will be interviewing their roommate
along with them, since she's not moving in w/them.
Seems like a lot of drama for not much happiness.
We also talked about how it seems that everyone's giving up poly, and
how if this one doesn't work out, she's giving up on poly, too. I don't
think poly is the problem...but if she'd rather have a conventional
relationship and cheat from time to time, or do the serial-monogamy
thing, that's her business.
I'm still mad at her for lying to me re: her involvement w/Crash (Sweetie
says that only oral happened the night of the hot tub, but that there
were other times when nikiyoy and Crash did the whole 9 yards)...but I'm
not really in any position to be confrontational re: lying and
cheating. It really is her business (and Crash's) and if they don't
want people to know, they don't have to tell anyone. *sigh* I have no
problem with them having sex, but lying sucks.
:(
Anyway...I am not much liking nikiyoy's latest mindset on things. I hope
the thing with fishfood dies soon.
3512icq w/onyxlynxx
Sep. 7th, 2005 04:50 pmSep. 7, 2005
Onyx: hey you!
evile: hi! What are you doing on here?
Onyx: I am playing hookie. I wanted to check with you. I am about
to buy wicked tickets. I was thinking the weekend of November 12.
They are about $100. Are you still in?
evile: oof...that's a little high. I'd probably go 50 but not $100.
Onyx: that may be in new york...my website is giving me issues to sI
amstill checking
Onyx: okay I am an idiot...that is in new york
evile: Ok then.
Onyx: I am on dial up but I should be able to let you know how much
they are soon. Does the 12th work for you? of November...
evile: yeah, very well. Office is closed the 11th, even
Onyx: cool...what is the 11th?
evile: Veterans day
Onyx: ah...
Onyx: hey..I wonder if there are refugees in the venue that is
supposed to be showing wicked.
evile: it's possible.
Onyx: i think i will call and ask
evile: hopefully they'll have more permanent housing by November,
don't you think?
Onyx: i hope
evile: Are you still skipping Central Market tonight?
Onyx: yeah....i think...walking with jon...unless he stands me up
evile: Oh, OK then :)
Onyx: i know...i have issues
Onyx: i was so flustered that i didn't nptice what day
Onyx: or separate seats okay with ypu?
Onyx: there r not 3 together
evile: if that's the only way to do it....
Onyx: yeah..it is kind of a bummer...is the 2pm showing okay or do
you want 8 pm?
evile: Either is fine.
Onyx: okay...i am holding while he figures out the options
Onyx: 92 is too much ?
evile: yeah...I think so.
Onyx: okay...so don't buy it?
evile: Not for me, anyway.
Onyx: since they would have sepetate anyway so you could one
seperately if you want...maybe you can get price
evile: yup. I'll check around & see if I can get a better deal. If
not, oh well.
Onyx: it is a bummer...this might have been more expensive of
handicapped
evile: that shouldn't be.
Onyx: i don't know...i think t broke this guy
evile: I can get a ticket for the 8 pm for $70 +tax. Not much better
than $96
Onyx: yeah...there were all these extra fees that got tacked on the
end
evile: I liked the book, and I like some of the songs I've heard on
Launchcast, but I'm not generally a musical-going person...so. Bleh.
I just don't know if I'll find it enjoyable enough to spend that kind
of $.
Onyx: i hear you...i just want to do something special for my bday
and neworleans is so not happening
evile: Meg may still want to go to the show.
Onyx: yes..i know...
Onyx: hey...sorry..I wanted to go together...
Onyx: now I am bummed...do you want to go to TRF the weekend that we
were supposed to go to New Orleans?
evile: Maybe. I know Sweetie and Peglegasus want to go to TRF at least once this
year.
Onyx: i still need to meet Peglegasus
evile: Yeah. His work schedule is funky, and so is yours, so y'all
have never been able to do stuff with me/us at the same time.
evile: He might come by my house Friday for gumbo on his lunch break.
I think I'm making a vegetarian batch & a regular batch, for my aunt
& uncle, if you're interested. The house is *disgusting*, but you're
welcome.
Onyx: hey...that sounds great...really?
evile: I am not talking a little clutter & boxes, I'm talking
disgusting for real.
Onyx: do you get friday off ?
evile: I am taking a sick day tomorrow to hopefully get the worst
taken care of..but only so much I can do since a lot of it is Sweetie's
crap. But, yeah, 7 ish. I'm going to make hurricane s& gumbo and
rent some movies about New Orleans or set in New orleans.
evile: I am working Friday, but will be home from work around 5.
Onyx: i have a doctor's appoint at 4 i will see how feel
evile: *hugs* Hope it all goes OK!
Onyx: it would be really nice to see you...yay i love mental health
days as sick days
evile: me too. They are vitally necessary around there, too.
Onyx: yeah...it is one of the few perks of state employment
Onyx: at least I got a comp day for Monday...
Onyx: hey...I need to get off line to call about some prescriptions.
Onyx: It was great talking to you...if jon stands me up or cancels or
whatever I will see you at first Wednesday...if not hopefully I will
see you Friday.
evile: OK *hugs* take care!
Onyx: *hugs*
3475my evening
Aug. 30th, 2005 01:11 pmAug. 30, 2005
I'm TIRED. Last night was girls night at Maggiemaepisces'. We made cheese and
chocolate fondue, everyone brought drinks & fruit and bread to dip,
and we feasted and gossipped and had ourselves a great old time. I
love my girlfriends.
Everyone admired the scratch marks on my back :)
onyxlynxx left early to go confront her roommate about setting a definite
move-out date. I bet she didn't. She seemed a little off balance last
night. I don't know what's up with that.
Kulilinei left about 9; she was tired & had a long drive home. It was
great to talk and laugh with her; she let out some of her evil side.
She is so clever and funny. I love it when she lets loose and gets
playful.
Snape the cat licked some beer off my beer bottle. It was cute.
At the end of the evening, it was just me, Meg, and nikiyoy. Meg is 40,
nikiyoy is 22, and I'm right in the middle. nikiyoy was wondering about non-
hormonal birth control, and we ended up having a really long talk
about it. It feels so wierd to have some wisdom and life experience
to share like that...but I'm glad for it, too. Anything I can share
that will make her life easier is a good thing.
Anyhoo...I was there until almost 11, didn't get to bed and to sleep
until almost midnight. *snore!*
And I'm having huge allergies today; the kind where you have a bad
taste in your mouth because of all the snot in your system. BLEH.
3275Re: Nikiyoy putting her foot in it
Jun. 7th, 2005 09:43 pmJun. 7, 2005
onyxlynxx
2005-06-07 22:52 (link)
I understand how it seems like being honest is always the best policy
but I have learned to temper that tendency with just being silent
when I know the truth won't help anything.
I don't think any of us dispute that she is crazy maybe even
dangerously so. It just doesn't help anything to tell her that. Maybe
if she weren't so psychotic, she could be reasoned with. She might
even be capable of discussing her behavior rationally.
I just plan to keep my distance and my mouth shut as well as I can.
It is not worth it for me to tell her no matter how amusing it might
be mostly because I know that she will use anything I say as an
excuse to drive another wedge between sineater and evilE.
I think that your instincts are usually good and that you are wise
beyond your years. I still fuck up all the time. There are some
things that people can't tell you. They are truths that you have to
learn for yourself.
I am sure that someone has already told you the elemental lessons. To
know, to well, to dare and to be silent. Silence is considered the
lesson of earth and it has always been one of the hardest for me as
well.
By the way, I think you did a fine job of using words to apologize
for the words you regret. *hugs*
Jun. 6, 2005
Subject: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 12:36:11 -0500
From: sineater
To: evile
Thank you,
sineater
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Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 10:38:13 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
Subject: Re: Yo!
To: sineater
Short, sweet & to the point, eh?
You're welcome :)
As always when a gathering exceeds a certain size, I
don't feel like I got to visit enough with everyone,
but I hope you had a nice time.
Love ya, bro!
=========================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 12:39:03 -0500
From: sineater
Had a good time, though sounds like I missed the fun stuff ;)
Had a question for you, not sure how to ask it though
==============================================
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 10:42:11 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
Subject: RE: Yo!
To: sineater
I figured something was up; you don't usually write or
call just to say hi. :P
Ask away; I reserve the right to say no and/or
respectfully decline to answer, as any thinking adult
is free to do. :)
============================================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:43:31 -050
From: Sineater
Well of course, turkey-butt. :P
Have I done anything to piss ladydreamtime or Niki off? (Or did I just
have really bad BO yesterday? *snf snf*)
==============================================
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 11:51:24 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE H"
Is there a specific incident you are referring to, or
some general 'vibe' you just picked up out of the
ether?
===========================================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:52:38 -0500
From: sineater
Nah just a vibe I guess
*bzzzzzz*
====================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:54:21 -0500
From: Sineater
I'm just paranoid :(
==========================
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 11:55:51 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE H"
Subject: RE: Yo!
FWIW:
Ladydreamtime is not very touchy-feely with anyone, she
doesn't often show up to things alone or sit and visit
for very long, and she's not inclined to sit and
listen to anyone go on about things that don't
interest her for any length of time. She likes BDSM
and Musicals and Theatre, and that's what she'll talk
about at length, and not much else. That's just her
way, so if that's the way she treated you, that's the
way she is.
Nikiyoy may have been acting protectively towards onyxlynxx.
I noticed that you were being a little handsy with
onyxlynxx, and onyxlynxx didn't seem 100% comfy. But I don't
know if she was uncomfy with YOU, or because it was a
larger crowd than she's used to, or what. Since onyxlynxx
didn't actually SAY anything, I didn't take any
action, but Nikiyoy is a bit more sensitive about such
things due to her own experiences and may have been
acting from that.
Hope that helps.
========================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 14:04:32 -0500
From: Sineater
Ah ok. Glad to know I didn't smell bad... I'm sorry if I made onyxlynxx
uncomfortable. I know she's going through some rough shit, guess I was
overcomforting. I will extend apologies. Nikiyoy didn't seem so much
protective as just crabby. I wanted to ask who peed in her Post
Toasties, then thoguht better of it. And sorry, didn't realize I was
being too touchy feely. Everybody was hugging me... Especially the
men.
Umm... K...
=======================
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 12:34:13 -0700 (PDT)
From: evile
eh, I didn't say you didn't stink--I just mentioned
other possibilities! :P
It's always interesting when I think I had a
successful gathering and we all had fun and it turns
out that wasn't the case at all. Oh well. That'll
learn me.
Love ya, bro.
=============================================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 14:48:23 -0500
From: sineater
Ey wasn't a major thing, and I did have fun, overall. Niki seemed
kinda
crabby, but hey, not my problem. There's freaks and there's freaks. ;P
Teh food was yummy. Thoguht that little green guy on the end was cool,
and got along pretty well with everyone else (or so it seems to me,
phbbbbt) Wish I'd been able to stay later. Pesky job, why won't they
pay
me to sleep or something? ;)
===============================================
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:11:14 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
I'm glad you 'mostly' had a fun time, anyway.
Thanks for coming out :)
=========================================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 15:28:15 -0500
From sineater
Hey, don't be bummed, please. I'm not complaining and I had a good
time.
It's good to get together and laugh and have a good time and shit. I
enjoyed talking to you and watching you whip people with a rubber bat!
============================================
Date: Tue, 24 May 2005 13:32:19 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
Nope, not bummed. I've decided that I had a fun time,
and since it was my party and my house, that's the
important part.
I just wish I could get together with people without
some of them deciding the next day that they were
being attacked, or whatever.
======================================
Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 07:01:52 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
Got your phone message. I was very tired & went to bed
very early, was not in the mood to get my ass handed
to me on a plate before I did so, so I did not call
you.
I am really not sure what there is to 'fight' about or
'work out'
The only "this" that I am aware of is that Monday
night apparently you was offended by one or more of my
friends. I'm sorry that happened, I wanted everyone to
have a pleasant time. However, I don't control your or
my friends' thoughts or feelings, not everyone in this
world is going to get along with everyone else. Them's
the breaks.
If someone offends you, it's up to you to say,
immediately and directly, TO the offending party:
"hey, that's offensive", "hey, let's agree to disagree
and change the subject", or LEAVE. I am not going to
force people together who don't get along, we do
enough of that at Family gatherings.
If you have a problem with me, you have yet to
identify what exactly *I* said or did to make *you*
upset. If there is something I did or said, I am not
aware of it. Please make me aware of it.
If this is about Nikiyoy or Ladydreamtime, I cannot and will not
attempt to control my friends actions or behaviors.
That is not my problem or my responsibility.
I'm sorry if you had a bad time, it was really not my
intention to gather a bunch of people together, spend
a lot of time and $ cooking and cleaning and preparing
for their visit, just to make them all miserable.
Love you, bro.
=================================================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 09:11:49 -0500
From sineater
Hey, whoa, hold on. I had no problem there.
I called because I want to know what happened with Skye_ds yesterday
afternoon. We don't have to talk about it now, and as I said, I don't
want to fight about it or "hand you your ass".
When I emailed you yesterday I was not offended by anyone, I was
worried
that I had offended somebody else, because I do that. I had a really
good time and just got worried I had bugged some other people. That
was
all. I didn't know you and Skye_ds were having problems until I got
home.
Let's not worry about this right now. Go on your vacation, have some
fun, take it easy.
I love you, and I don't want to make your life difficult. I think
we're
petting the sweaty things, here.
=================================================
Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 07:42:19 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE H"
I've told you before, and I'll tell you again:
If Skye_ds has a problem with me, then it is up to
Skye_ds to approach me and work things out.
I will not have you in the middle of yet another
'disagreement' with the two of us. And, truthfully, I
have NO clue why she's upset at me. So if she has a
problem with something *I* did or said, she needs to
let me know, directly.
====================================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 09:45:20 -0500
From: sineater
Cool. Don't worry about it. Let's let things chill while you're gone,
if
it's worth it we'll worry about it later. Meantime don't worry about
it
now. Me, I'm going to take a nap. --oh wait, I have to answer phones.
:(
==============================
Date: Wed, 25 May 2005 15:12:47 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
OK
I am probably going to be at Sharjinka's for
craft/whatever night tonight (I'd be leaving hte house
around 7pm, you could try to call me before then,
maybe?) , and probably poly dinner tomorrow, and then
Friday I'm going to San Antonio to hang out with Rio.
But if you wanted to get together to talk 1-on-1
sometime, everything but Friday is negotiable.
Lunch or dinner tomorrow, maybe? Dinner tonight?
Sorry to be getting back with you so late; I was over
at L&B's all day.
Posted the icq convo that seems to have been a problem
in my LJ for you to see; I really don't think I did or
said anything wrong, and unless A. tells me different,
I am going to assume she had something else come up
and needed to go offline.
Love you.
=E
===================================================
Subject: RE: Yo!
Date: Thu, 26 May 2005 08:52:01 -0500
From: sineater
Kk. I can call. Lunch tomorrow will probably be doable as well.
Skye_ds logged off because she had a lot to do and talking to everyone
was distracting her from her job. This week's been pretty ugly for her
at work; Hugh's been in litigation, which he hates, and he gets pretty
nasty over it. Myself, I haven't had time yet to read the entire log
yet
(sorry... LJ times out on my big 28.8 connection at home and here's
been
busy. Hopefully today will be better)
I'm sorry because I didn't want to make a big deal of this. I did just
want to find out what happened in chat that got everybody so snarked
off. Myself, I have a bone to pick with Sharjinka because I disagree
with
her opinion, OPINION, about what is safe and not safe re the horses;
that I'll take up with her myself. Her passive-aggressive behaviour
really pisses me off.
I did have a really good time on Monday. I hope everybody else did
too.
========================================
Date: Tue, 31 May 2005 08:41:51 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE
It was nice to see you Sunday, if ever so briefly.
Love ya, bro.
=E
===============================================
Date: Sat, 4 Jun 2005 12:41:34 -0700 (PDT)
From: "evilE H"
Subject: No more LJ?
To: sineater
Hey, bro.
I just noticed that your LJ is now deleted.
I figured your hightly secretive nature would only
allow you to exist in the LJ fishbowl for a short
time.
I would like to be in communication, somehow, at
whatever level & in whatever medium is comfortable for
you.
Love ya.
=E
3256 Onyxlynxx peeving me
Jun. 2nd, 2005 08:38 pmJun. 2, 2005
She was distant and bizarre last night, I didn't know what was up and
I really had better things to do than fuss with her. Lots of people
to visit, lots of hugs to give/get. (Polydinner is like TinyTIM but
in RL, I realized/discovered to my happiness and delight this
afternoon)
Anyway, here's the latest hoo ha in her LJ. A while back she was
whining and fussing because nobody responded to her posts. Now she's
whining and fussing because people aren't saying what she wants them
to say. I'm done replying for a while, I think.
=====================================================
Onyxlynxx (onyxlynxx) wrote,
@ 2005-06-02 11:09:00
Current mood: okay
Current music: Learning to Fly by Pink Floyd
Asking for what you want....
Okay. I have a friend who feels that I do not do a good job of asking
for what I want. That is just another one of the many things that I
am working on.
For the record, my LJ is like a diary. That means that sometimes I
use it to vent. Writing about how I feel is a way that I process my
negative emotions and let them go.
I really do appreciate all the sage advice but I know that everything
changes, that I will be "alright" and that some things only happen
when they are meant to and wishing it different does not make it so.
If you want to be helpful, tell me how wonderful I am* or something
not how I need to learn to be patient and let things flow. I am
already working on that and telling a frustrated control freak to
relax is likely to get you snapped at.
*Thanks loverdenye. Did you leave a cd in my desk? That was a nice
surprise.
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terriblelynne
2005-06-02 16:24 (link)
*hug*
People do need to remember that your LJ can be a very skewed view of
who you are and what you express, depending on what it is you most
use your LJ for.
(Reply to this)
thewordnerd
2005-06-02 16:25 (link)
Here here! This is something to which I can most definitely relate. I
write things because I'm emotional about them, or need to vent, or
something . . . but there are two important aspects of that. 1) There
is a need, and somehow I have to vent. 2) Venting is scary, and
when people criticize my actions, put words in my mouth or otherwise
attack me then it compromises the process. Yet, whatever was done has
already been done, so it does no one any good to tell me how I should
have done it better when I'm just trying to get past the emotions.
Anyway, sorry, didn't mean to start ranting, but this post really
resonated with how I feel, so I thought I'd let you know that you
aren't alone in that.
(Reply to this)
skye_ds
2005-06-02 16:42 (link)
*hugs*
I was wondering if I was the only person out here who only gets all
the more frustrated when someone tells me "be patient" (or any other
similar similitude such as "calm down," "chill out," etc). I feel
better now, thank you :)
Namaste, Benedizione ~
P.S. You're wonderful :P
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roninjedi
2005-06-02 16:51 (link)
Well, I've been telling you you're wonderful for quite some time now.
You've gotten, if anything, better and more impressive the longer
I've known you.
So there! ;)
(Reply to this)
*shrug*
bramblekite
2005-06-02 17:11 (link)
You can always turn off comments or make things 'private' if you'd
rather not deal with people saying inappropriate/annoying things.
I think you do a pretty good job of identifying your wants and needs.
(Reply to this)(Thread)
Re: *shrug*
onyxlynxx
2005-06-02 17:22 (link)
I don't know. I guess I am being perverse.
I want people to be able to say things...but only things I like.
It is like when I used to complain about being fat. I didn't want
someone to tell me that I just needed to take in less calories than I
burned. I knew that anyway but nothing is ever that simple. I wanted
to hear that people understood what I was feeling or simply that they
recognized my struggle or something.
(Reply to this)(Parent) (Thread)
Re: *shrug*
bramblekite
2005-06-02 18:23 (link)
Ok. When you do entries like that, just type "NOD AND SMILE
SLAVES!!!!" at the top and we will all do so with alacrity :P
(Reply to this)(Parent) (Thread)
Re: *shrug*
onyxlynxx
2005-06-02 18:29 (link)
I don't want to have to tell you to nod and smile. I want you to
agree with me and decided to do it yourselves.
It is like when you complain that your significant other doesn't ever
say anything flattering. You don't want him to tell you that you are
beautiful then. You want him to remember to do it later and you want
him to MEAN it.
(Reply to this)(Parent)
Re: *shrug*
sineater
2005-06-02 18:59 (link)
*blink* How are you fat???
(Reply to this)(Parent) (Thread)
Re: *shrug*
bramblekite
2005-06-02 19:13 (link)
bro, I love you so much it hurts...but I gotta tell ya: when you find
yourself in a hole, first thing to do is STOP DIGGING.
(Reply to this)(Parent)
loverdenye
2005-06-02 17:53 (link)
Yes. I left you one of the CDs you asked about a long while ago. If
you like it, I can burn it for you laters. But keep it for a while to
decide. And yes, I will continue work on that mix CD I promise about
two years ago.
*Hugs*
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onyxlynxx
2005-06-02 17:59 (link)
Cool. I am really looking forward to that mix but I didn't want to
bug you about it.
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loverdenye
2005-06-02 18:10 (link)
No bug. My bad. I will work on finishing it up today- if I can get a
few minutes of Nate's time.
*Hugs*
3228My Birthday Weekend (LJ)
May. 23rd, 2005 11:46 amMay 23, 2005
evile (bramblekite) wrote,
@ 2005-05-20 14:28:00
Current mood: grateful
Happy Birthday to Me!
So far, so good. I'm a firm believer in long celebrations, so I
started celebrating my birthday last night.
sineater, skye_ds and sonar0m took me to dinner. I got to hear about
their adventures with the SCA & their plans for the weekend. It was
fun.
I'd been playing phone tag with onyxlynxx and left her a message
about my last minute dinner plans. She met up with us in the parking
lot as we were leaving the restaurant. She still hadn't eaten, and
knew of a place nearby that had Mangia Pizza and Ben & Jerry's right
next door to each other (future poly dinner location?) At Mangia's I
took a minute to call nikiyoy, and she sounded wretched. She was
feeling bad but she'd taken some medicine and hoped to feel better
soon. She said she'd call us if she got a second wind. Ms. Onyxx and
I shared an order of cheese sticks, I drank a beer, and she had
pizza. After Dinner #2, we went next door for ice cream. I could have
been virtuous and stuck with frozen yogurt, but, to quote a
friend "fuck that!" -- I went for the chocolate fudge brownie ice
cream. Yummy! Nikiyoy called while we were enjoying our ice cream,
and we met her at her place, then went to IHOP for Dessert #2. I got
coffee. It was, if possible, WORSE than the Coffee of Oppression at
work. And the waiter was...ick. Oh well, the company and conversation
more than made up for the atmosphere.
We had a great visit, which ended with sitting by the pool at
Nikiyoy's and talking about just about everything. We hit the highs &
the lows, made NAMBLA jokes about Disney Characters (they all have
nephews, but you never see their sisters!), planned pranks (anybody
wanna put on fangs and go to Midnight Mass at Xmastime?), talked
about family, friends, relationships, lovers, past hurts, future
hopes, who we want to be and who people think we are...it was just
amazing. I am so blessed to have these magical women in my life. They
wished me happy b-day at midnight & thankfully didn't sing too
terribly much. It was great.
I took today off work. So today I slept in, did some shopping at
Mervyn's (Bra sizes are so bizarre. I just picked a range of __#__
and __letter__ and tried them on until I found a brand that fit in a
flattering way...I still have NO clue what actual bra size I wear)
and Hobby Lobby (found cute citronella candles for Monday), stopped
by Reubens to get stuff for my annual endless batch of Sangria, and
the guy at the liquor store sang me happy birthday. It was
embarassing, but very sweet. He's a musician when he's not a liquor
store clerk, and tonight he's playing at Mann's from 6-9, if anyone's
interested. If dinner doesn't run too late, I may try to stop by. He
was very nice & kinda cute, too. (What is it with me and liquor store
employees? There's another story for another day, ask me about it
sometime when we're having a few drinks.)
Now I am back home with the orange slices happily marinating in the
Sangria in the fridge, preparing for tomorrow's spa trip, and trying
to find out what the DPS did with my drivers license renewal I sent
them a month ago. It expires today!!
At 4, my aunt is picking me up for our 4:45 hair appointment. I plan
on walking across the street from the salon to Grapevine Market to
see if they have the 1970 Dows Vintage Port. My stepdad sent me a
check and told me I should get a bottle. (drinking wine my age! What
a hoot!)
This evening is dinner with everyone and an early night, because
Tomorrow is Yoga with e. and onyxlynxx, an then e. and I are going up
to The Crossings for massages and such.
Sunday I am going to clean house, and maybe catch the new Star Wars
movie with sharjinka, and then Monday is another gathering of friends
& loved ones at our house.
A 5 day celebration for my 35th. How's that for awesome? I am so
incredibly grateful for all of the beautiful, wonderful people in my
life. I don't have anything if I don't have people to love, who love
me. Thanks, everyone! YOU are the best present I could have :)
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naughty_zoot
2005-05-20 20:12
Happy Birthday, baby!
ladydreamtime
2005-05-20 20:35
I wanna marinate in the Sangria! 90 more minutes ...
ample
2005-05-20 20:35
yes happy happy birfday!
thewordnerd
2005-05-20 20:45
Hey, glad to hear that your birthday is going better than you thought
it would a few days ago, and happy birthday! I was amused, there was
a little thingie on ICQ that popped up last night and said that your
birthday was today. :)
I'd still be interested in joining you guys tonight, though I've not
sure if I'll eat or not. The financial situation looks less grim than
it did yesterday, and I haven't been out much lately, so we'll
see . . . but, at the very least, I could go to see you and
socialize. :)
kulilinei
2005-05-20 20:51
Happy Birthweek then!!!!
Can't wait to celebrate with you!
***Birthday Hugs***
elizagoth
2005-05-20 21:03
happiest of birthdays for the eekest of eeks. :)
/humongouslyhugehugsandsmooches
scrith
2005-05-20 21:54
Yay! Happy Birthday to You!
roboho
2005-05-20 23:31
Happy happy, lady!
kyleigh812
2005-05-21 06:26
Happy Birthday! Glad I got to see you last weekend! *HUGS*
applchn
2005-05-21 14:04
Hippy Washday?
Hoppy Boffday?
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
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Ladydreamtime:
My birthday present to bramblekite ... [May. 20th, 2005|12:26 pm]
[ Current Music | DVDA & Perry Farrell - "Hot Lava" - Chef Aid ]
... proof of just how deeply she's burrowed into my subconscious.
I was turning into the drive-thru at Wendy's when I lined up behind a
green VW car. It had its model name "PASSAT" in all-caps. I saw it in
my peripheral vision and thought it said "ASSHAT."
Happy birthday, my dear evil twin. To the Goddess Years! *clink*
Comments:
From: bramblekite
Date: May 21st, 2005 - 02:17 am
*LOL*
Hilarious! Thanks so much for letting me into your head.
Love ya, babe!
35 is gonna be the best!
==========================
Onyxlynxx (onyxlynxx) wrote,
@ 2005-05-20 01:03:00
Current mood: happy
Happy Birthday bramblekite !
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THANKS!
bramblekite
2005-05-20 06:11
With you and nikiyoy as the first to wish me a happy birthday at
midnight, how can 35 be anything but the BEST year ever? :)
I'm looking forward to my next year of life!
Love you!
Re: THANKS!
ladydreamtime
2005-05-20 13:22
Happy birthday, sweetie! *hugs*
Re: THANKS!
roninjedi
2005-05-20 14:26
Yaaaaaay!
Another year of Bramblekite!!!!!
Happy birthday, doll!
Re: THANKS!
kulilinei
2005-05-20 15:09
Happy Birthday!!!
35 totally rocks, as do you!
***HUGS***
Re: THANKS!
knighthorse
2005-05-20 16:46
Happy Birthday!!
chancie
2005-05-20 16:23
Happy birthday darling! I was getting a most wonderful lap dance last
night right around midnight from two hot girls at Sugars. One was for
you babe!
beli1738
2005-05-20 19:02
Happy birthday! I hope you have a wonderful, pampered, long-lasting
celebration.
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Onyxlynxx (onyxlynxx) wrote,
@ 2005-05-22 11:57:00
Current mood: good
Current music: Mercy by Melissa Ethridge
Friday evening, beli1728 and I went to bramblekite and
fungus_finger's birthday dinner at Mongolian Barbeque. We sat by gev
and maggiemaepisces. I only got a chance to talk with B. briefly but
it is nice to see her happy. I had a good talk with her aunt and
uncle who are also vegetarians. They seemed impressed that I could
get the cooks to hose down the grill and scrape all the gunk off.
They said that I was very assertive "in a nice way." I am glad they
thought I wasn't too pushy. I like their description. I am fairly
particular about what I want but I don't feel the need to be rude
about it.
After dinner, Beli and I met cb and Meg for ice cream at Ben and
Jerry's. We chatted for a while and then headed home.
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Glenn (gev) wrote,
@ 2005-05-20 23:54:00
Current mood: tired
crazy business
shortly after my last entry, Magiemaepisces and I swooped over and picked up Kai
and
went fabric shopping at Wal*Mart. Hurray for late-night fabric
hunting.
Afterward, we stopped by the 24/7 Starbucks and all ordered a tall
cool one.
I went to hand the guy the plastic to pay and he mumbled something
about
some thing being broken "they're free". bonus!
Today was a bit more relaxed after we finally got to sleep around 5.
Had a nice lunch at Tea HOuse, then went chocolate shopping for
evilE's
birthday, went home and rested for a bit then we went to Mongolian
BBQ for
E's birthday dinner, along with her sweetie, who shares her
birthday.
Too cute for words. After that, we went to the Ben & Jerry's on Burnet
(just north of IBM) to get some CoffeeCoffeeBuzzBuzzBuzz. It seems
that
all the quart lids for Ben & Jerry's in Texas are being dropped off at
the Round Rock store, because neither the 5th St store nor the Burnet
location have lids, but they do have the quart cups.
Meg and I continue to sail along... For whatever reason, I keep
imagining
the 'inevitable' fight. Not that I want it to happen, but it's gotta
happen.
right?
Meg zonked out nearly as soon as we got home.
She's so cute, snoozin' away. :)
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buckeyebrain (buckeyebrain) wrote,
@ 2005-05-20 13:09:00
Current mood: tired
Happy Happy
Happy Birthday, bramblekite!
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Thank you thank you!
bramblekite
2005-05-20 20:28
*hugs* I appreciate your good wishes. So far, it's been very happy!
And the weekend is just beginning!!
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http://www.livejournal.com/users/bananarob/523108.html
Rob
[May. 20th, 2005|02:37 pm]
Happy bramblekite day!
Comments:
From: bramblekite
Date: May 21st, 2005 - 02:11 am
aww!
So far it's been a great birthday! I took today off work, had dinner
with my brother and his family, then stayed out late last night with
my friends Niki and Kirby and they wished me happy b-day at midnight.
Today I slept in, did some shopping, stopped by Reubens to get stuff
for my annual endless batch of Sangria, and the guy at the liquor
store sang me happy birthday. It was embarassing, but very sweet.
35 is gonna be a GREAT year :)
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skye_ds (skye_ds) wrote,
@ 2005-05-20 12:33:00
Current mood: contemplative
Upcoming events
Happy Birthday bramblekite!
We had the unexpected pleasure to be graced by onyxlynxx's radiant
beauty last night :)
This weekend: http://loch-soilleir.ansteorra.org/guardian/
Next weekend:
13th wedding anniversary of sineater and myself
Memorial Day - Ideas, anyone? San Gabriel Park and Duke's BBQ? Lake
Somerville? McKinney Roughs? (see links below)
First weekend of June: my birthday
Seeking input from keject, hime_karisuta, honehe, jason_chip and/or
bramblekite. My thoughts so far are some combination of the
following:
Saturday:
Lake Somerville - riding and maybe swimming
(http://www.tpwd.state.tx.us/park/lakesome/), or
McKinney Roughs - trail riding on the Colorado River
(http://www.lcra.org/community/mckinney_roughs.html) .
Sunday: Drandmir and Duke's BBQ
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onyxlynxx
2005-05-20 18:34
*blush* You are too kind. It was nice seeing you and your clan
however briefly.
skye_ds
2005-05-21 02:48
You looked mahvelous, my dear :)
Thanks!
bramblekite
2005-05-20 19:15
Thank you so much for dinner & pleasant conversation. So far my
birthday has been grand!
Sweetie wants to spend Mem. day weekend camping an/or toobing.
I don't know about the following weekend. It's the Voyagers party and
also another party that same night.
I am not sure how mobile I'm going to be. I think the only 1 of the
cars that's drivable by me may be about to give out. Since I don't
have a current DL (expires today & the replacement has not arrived!)
I don't think I can rent a car. p00p.
Re: Thanks!
skye_ds
2005-05-21 02:49
Vivat camping and toobing!
