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A friend is trying to get together a group of white women to read a book and talk about racism & feminism in America, specifically white women and their racism and internalized misogyny that ends up excluding women of color and other women from 'the feminist struggle' or...whatever, ya know.

here is one reply to the book she recommended:

I’m curious to know if this book shames people for being white? I’ve just found that seems to be a common theme around “white privilege” and I have a hard time getting on board with that. I refuse to grovel or beg for forgiveness for the color of my skin, just as it would be wrong to ask POC’s to do that. I’m all for equality, but not at the expense of bringing others down. I’m all about lifting all of us up.

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I’m interested in reading the book. I hope it gives a clear definition and examples of exactly what white provelige is so I can better understand it.

My feeling on the matter is that EVERYONE, regardless of skin color, has privileges and disadvantages, and that playing the comparison game is a slippery slope. My concern is that having an “us vs them” mentality perpetuates this “grass is always greener” mentality that doesn’t actually solve the problem of racism.

Further, some of the most racist people I know are people of color and minorities. I wonder if people aligning with these ideas of privilege exclude themselves from the equation, shirking any responsibility to behave better themselves, or instead put all of the responsibility on “white” or non minority people?

These questions aren’t geared towards you, but rather, towards the movement as a whole.

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my response:

I cannot roll my eyes big enough, hard enough, or loudly enough to respond to any critique of social justice that begins with "they want me to be ashamed of my [race/gender/privilege]!!!"

I mean, yeah, that false narrative probably caused a lot of young men to vote against their own interests because they have an idea that feminism, or a strong and competent woman in charge of the country, is somehow a rebuke against maleness....it's a knee jerk, immature response that only harms oneself.

When someone tells you that your behavior, thoughts, attitudes, and words are harmful, racist, sexist, 'privileged' etc...they are offering you some grace. They are offering you a chance to look at yourself honestly and FIX YOUR SHIT. They are telling you that they VALUE the connection and also think you have some things to work on.

They are not writing books or making posts or proposing legislation to 'make you ashamed' or 'attack' you...they are saying "hey, we are trying to have an equitable society/relationship/organization here, can you please examine your behavior and the underlying beliefs and see if you can see where it's a problem for people who are not like you, when you think and believe and behave in these ways?"

If you've ever been in a toxic relationship, you know that at some point, if the toxicity isn't addressed and fixed, the next step is resentment, silence, and distance. The door closes. The connection ends. Those connections won't fix themselves, we have to work to maintain and improve our relationships and our society and ourselves.

No one is 'attacking' you.. No one is trying to make you feel 'shame'....they are saying their truth and their lived experience. If you aren't the person who directly harmed them they aren't taking you, personally, to task for it. But if you have engaged in such behavior with others, maybe it's time to self examine and make amends if you can. If that person didn't just offer silence and distance in the face of your toxicity.

I guess....in other words...stop centering yourself in everyone's struggle for racial, gender, etc. equality. it's not about YOU and your FEEFEES. It's about creating a more fair world for everyone.

I am really just too angry and sharp to interact with other white women these days. I just don't have it in me to lead anyone patiently to a place where they can acknowledge their privilege honestly and open their eyes and ears to other people's stories without going "oh poor me, everyone is blaming meeeee for their problems!"...

this btw, definitely hits up against some of the more problematic 'family of origin' bullshit I've had to deal with....calling out people for being awful leads to them doing big drama and somehow you end up caretaking the people who have harmed you for hurting their feelings by calling them out on it....it's so fucked up and I just can't. I can't. fuckem. I can't. I won't.

“You keep on using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.”

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verb

1.(especially in the US) charge (the holder of a public office) with misconduct.
2.call into question the integrity or validity of (a practice)."there is no basis to Searle's motion to impeach the verdict"

from Google:

What does impeachment mean in simple terms?

If a federal official commits a crime or otherwise acts improperly, the House of Representatives may impeach—formally charge—that official. If the official subsequently is convicted in a Senate impeachment trial, he is removed from office.

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Robert Hunter Biden is *not* an elected official of any sort. Therefore, he cannot be ‘impeached’

If he has committed a crime, he should be arrested and charged and given due process of law, as any US Citizen is entitled to.

Educate yourself. This is embarrassing.

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Person A says:

A bottle of water at Costco is $0.25.

The same bottle in the supermarket is worth about $0.50.

The same bottle in a bar costs $2.

In a good restaurant or hotel, it can be worth up to $3.

At an airport, on the plane, or a concert or event, you may be charged $5.

The bottle and the brand is the same, the only thing that changes is the place. Each place gives a different value to the same product.

When you feel like you are worth nothing and everyone around you belittles you, change places, do not stay there.

Have the courage to change places and go to a place where you are given the value you deserve. Surround yourself with people who really appreciate your worth.

Don't settle for less

Person B replies:

The suggested message seems to contradict the evidence presented. Costco values you more than their potential profits, while the swanky restaurant values your willingness to pay six to twelve times the cost of that bottle of water more than they value you.

My thoughts (not shared due to unwelcome and snarky):

More importantly, Are you the commodity or the consumer in your life/situation?

(Also, bottled water is incredibly destructive to the environment. Don't buy it and don't drink it. Get a nice BPA free refillable bottle and go with that. If you are traveling where tap water isn't trustworthy, get a filter bottle.)

Current Mood: bitchy

Why are liberals so distraught about Elon Musk's takeover of Twitter? Don't they realize that all of those who have ever condoned or practiced censorship have NEVER been on the right side of history, and that they are now members of that same club?

There is a huge difference between the government practicing censorship and private organizations having 'terms of service.' Do you understand that at all? For example, the government may not have any law against you talking shit about your workplace, but please do bring up all your complaints about your boss and coworkers at top volume in the halls of work, all day every day, and see what happens to you.

For now, Twitter, Facebook, Google, MeWe, etc. are privately owned companies where the company can allow or forbid any form of expression they like.

Personally, I never used Twitter and I could care less. However, some politicians and news people use Twitter quite a bit and what some people ‘tweet’ ends up being the bulk of a news story that is rebroadcast on CNN, MSNBC, FOX, etc.

Therefore, it is in my interest as an informed citizen to know that the original ‘tweeter’ is who they say they are, and the information they are providing is factual and truthful. That would be my only concern about Musk letting the broken toys out to play and reducing staffing and oversight so that anyone can claim to be anyone on Twitter and put out any misinformation they like.

For example: a major pharmaceutical company lost market value when someone posted using an account with the pharma’s name. That loss of stock value impacted everyone who is invested in that company, including people with retirement or pension funds that were invested with th at pharma co.

It is dangerous and stupid to give Elon Musk that kind of power by abdicating our responsibility as thinking, educated, discerning citizens. It is difficult to use a platform where no ones identity can be verified and all the users think ‘free speech’ means they get to yell ‘nigger’ all they want. It’s ugly and stupid and worthless. No longer useful as a source of information.

Please educate yourself regarding the difference between ‘government censorship’ and market forces. Silly.

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Why are Trump voters portrayed as backward idiots by the other side? How can such narrative be credible for half a country?

Trump voters would like to think they are half the country (by weight and volume, maybe!). The reality is that they are a small and shrinking minority in this country, no more than 1/3 of the nation (still too many, but what are ya gonna do?). They are a loud, obnoxious and politically active minority, which is what gives them the illusion of power and control.

However, if the sane and decent people in this country were to actually get off their butts and vote each and every election, the MAGA bunch would quickly lose even more power even more quickly. They are dying out. We are witnessing the demise of the old white, mostly male, majority and as with any dying beast, they are frightened and lashing out in every direction.

Given their treatment of others when they were the majority, they feel that others will treat them as badly as they treated minorities once they are finally firmly in the minority. And, sadly, no matter how much education and critical thinking skills are available for all, it seems there will always be about a third of any group who chooses to remain willfully ignorant, obstinate, backwards, and ridiculous.

Being loud and ignorant (and proud of your ignorance) does, unfortunately, lead to people thinking that you are a backwards idiot. Far better to keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool than open your mouth and prove the point. On the other hand, I’m glad that these crazed racist bigoted poopnoggins have made themselves so easy to spot, so they can be avoided by sane decent citizens.

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Tiffany Trump’s parents are Donald Trump and Marla Maples.

She has the worst features of both parents and has apparently not had as much plastic surgery to correct the face and body she was born with -weak chin, narrow eyes, unfortunate nose, etc.

When you look at photos of Ivanka as a child and a young girl, you can see a resemblance between the two, and also that Ivanka has had a lot of work done on her face.

I mean, good for Tiffany for not doing all that. Hopefully she is comfortable in her own skin with her own face, unlike the botoxed facelifted mess of her mother and sister (& maybe her father too). Maybe she realizes that having a perfect exterior is not as important as having personal integrity, a loving heart, and a kind personality.

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Melania Trump has nothing to say. She was a not-very-smart, low rent 'model' call girl before Trump made her his bride. She has nothing to gain from being any kind of public figure. She did not want to be First Lady, and I don’t think she has enjoyed the spotlight during those times when she received pushback from the public about her atrocious fashion choices, her retweeting of birther lies about President Obama, her disdain for decorating the White House for the ‘f*ing christmas’. I think the only reason she did any of it at all was because she didn’t want Ivanka usurping all of the attention (and money) associated with being on the arm of the president and doing White House duties.

I think she has a great deal of contempt for the kind of lowlife bigmouth morons who follow and praise her husband and does not want to be associated with any of the tabloid trash news outlets that feature him. If anything, she’d want to be on the cover of Vogue and such, just looking pretty and wearing fantastic couture and jewels, but thanks to her gross idiot husband she doesn’t have that kind of clout, and is in fact a figure of contempt and scorn for the moneyed, intelligent high society she would have loved to be a part of.

Another theory is that she is a Russian ‘honey trap’ who was placed in Trump’s life by Putin and/or the KGB because Trump has been laundering Russian money for decades using his businesses and his colossal debts that he’s constantly finagling with Deutchebank. Like any other tool or beneficiary of the Russian crime network, it benefits her to keep a low profile and stay out of the limelight as much as possible.

To sum up: I don't give a F*** about Melania Trump or anything she might have to say. I'm sure Putin has a better use for her mouth.

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You know, it’s wierd to me how Donald Effing Trump goes on TV, or goes to one of his endless rallies,and stands up there and BRAGS about doing criminal things. Then some TV personality or member of law enforcement or some democratic politician says “hey, DJT did a crime, maybe he needs to be held accountable” and then suddenly Trump and all of his MAGA moron followers start screaming about how Trump didn’t do the crime (that he was on TV bragging about) and it’s a witch hunt and the radical commie liberals are persecuting the man. For a thing HE BRAGGED THAT HE DID!!!

It is effing insane. I don’t know what kind of brain parasite you have to have in order to believe and be proud of a man who brags on his criminal acts and then denies them in the next breath.

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What do you think about Melania and Donald Trump sleeping in separate rooms in the White House during his presidency?

Honestly the thought of either of them in their jammies or their altogethers is atrocious enough without thinking of them together. Let alone in marital relations.

So I guess I’m glad they have a loveless marriage where they do not spend any time together intimately.

They are horrible people and the less I think about them the happier I am.

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As with any narcissistic abuser, ‘every accusation is a confession’. So you know all those ‘paid actors’ they say we have on the left? (I’m still waiting for my paycheck, Mr. Soros!!) The reality is, the GOP is more than likely paying people to attend. As soon as they have fulfilled the minimum amount of attendance to get paid, they are leaving.

I am only guessing here, but that’s my opinion. That’s what it looks like to me.

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You do not.

If you are not the person getting married, or the person paying for the dress, you don’t say a darn thing to the bride other than “Congratulations” and “I’m so happy for you,” and “Thank you for inviting me to your wedding,” and “I hope you will have a wonderful lifetime together,”

Anything other than well wishes and gratitude for being invited to share their special day is inappropriate, and a far greater show of incivility than anything the bride chooses to wear on her happy day.

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Originally Answered: Is Rashida Tlaib an unsavory narcissist and attention addict?

Probably no more than any other politician or public figure. As an introvert, I generally tend to think anyone who wants to be around crowds of people or speak in front of crowds is probably a little bit damaged in some way.

I could say the same about performers, musicians or actors, as well. They want or need the attention and approval of groups of people in order to feel good about themselves. Nothing terrible about that as long as you are honest about it and don’t abuse or mistreat people.

I think that in order to answer this question, we would need to determine if she feels she needs the crowds and attention, or does she just accept crowds and attention as part of the job she wants to do?

As far as I can tell. Tlaib’s ideas of the function of government are in alignment with my own and she generally seems to want to make life better for her constituents so that’s better than a lot of narcissistic public figures who are only in it for their own gains and sucking up to their wealthy donors.

Is there such a thing as a 'savory narcissist'? I think maybe she’s that. LOL.

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Narcissism is a mental illness. There is no such thing as demons or demonic possession.

There is no such thing as telepathy (mind-reading).

The name of your wife is the name of your abuser.

She does not have any supernatural powers.

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No. Narcissists make their flaws and problems other people’s flaws and problems. The narc is always right and everyone else is always wrong. All of their problems, in their minds, are because other people are stupid, other people are jealous, other people don’t listen and do what the narc says, or other people didn’t do what they were supposed to do so the narc could sweep in and look good & take all the credit once all the hard work was done by others.

Narcs have no burdens because they do not take responsibility for anything, at all, ever.

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Because the narcissist is empty inside and the only way s/he can tell s/he exists is by seeing his/her reflection.

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Why do people who claim narcissism is the world’s problems are a bunch of children who don't know that they’re giving the narcissist there much wanted attention?

This post appears to be a generalized negative comment or an attack against victims of narcissistic abuse disguised with a ‘why’ at the beginning to make it look like it is a question. It is badly phrased and unclear as to what the question actually is, with possible misspelling or grammatical errors to further confuse matters. This post just seems to be name-calling and negativity.

If you are not happy with the content you are finding for free on Quora, I suggest you explore your local library or bookstore to find works by mental health professionals— professional authors, therapists & psychologists, etc. that may be more helpful to you.

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Do Progressives tend to be narcissist, border-line psychotic personalities and not worthy of engaging in human interactions? This is my experience (10y+) - these “political” types tend to ignore or dismiss facts and choose lies/fantasy

Sounds like projection to me.

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Hm. An animal has health problems consistent with " sustained abuse, neglect, poor nutrition" but the owner insists that their own animal displaying such issues must have some entirely different reason for having that health issue.

Despite witnesses having observed said owner throwing the animal violently to the ground while screaming "NO" at it (repeated incidents, over several years),
despite the animal having been diagnosed with a related health issue (fatty liver) almost 20 years ago and told at that time to cut it out with the people food (they stuck to the special diet for a while but eventually went back to feeding it french fries, fried chicken, etc, because it's cute when the animal begs for human food),
despite the animal having visible signs of neglect (overgrown beak, feather issues, etc).

Ohhhhhkaaaaay.

http://www.avianwelfare.org/action/17_AW_Booklet_01-15-18.FINALpdf.pdf

Current Mood: bitchy

Has anyone tried distinguishing between an Aquarius & a narcissist? Aquarian’s have personalities eerily similar to narcissists, but not all Aquarian’s are narcissistic. Before I cut this man off completely, I want to be sure of the narcissism.

It sounds like you are really hooked into this person and looking to rationalize a decision to stay even though you are not being treated well.

Please don’t do this to yourself. It does not matter if someone is mistreating you because they are mentally ill, because they are a jerk, because their shoes are too tight, or because their rising sign is in Uranus….the fact of the matter is that you are being mistreated, and you do not deserve to be treated badly by anyone, ever.

I strongly advise you to receive counseling—speak with a caring professional of your own choosing, be that a clergy person, a psychologist, licensed professional counselor, or psychic astrologer, to work on YOU. If you can work through whatever issues that cause you to tolerate mistreatment, train yourself in assertiveness skills, work on your own self-esteem, and establish your own set of values and goals in life, you will go a long way towards not allowing yourself to be treated badly by Aquarians or anyone else.

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Editing to add: Posts tagged 'quora' were originally my answers to peoples' questions on quora.com. They were monetized but I am giving them away for free here.

If you feel inclined to support my writing, here's my paypal

And if you prefer to pay it forward, I recommend Safe Place as an excellent place to support.

No. [1]

Narcissism is either an organic brain defect from birth, a genetic abnormality or brought about by childhood trauma which causes a person’s emotional development to remain stunted such that they do not develop adult emotional responses.

Astrology is not scientific[2] Any coincidence between the pattern of stars and planets at ones birth and ones personality is strictly happenstance.

Mixing the science of psychology and the pseudo-science of astrology is a poor practice which muddles understanding.

Footnotes

[1]

Narcissistic personality disorder - Symptoms and causes

[2]

Astrology Is Still Bullshit and the Universe Doesn't Care About You