Feb. 8, 2005
I was at Pace, Erinlefey & Tangentsferret's apt. complex, and my mom was there
having a nice visit with my poly friends. X came aroud and started
acting all 'concerned' because back in the RHPS day, Tangentsferret had an STD
(herpes?) and she just knew that all my friends had it and I was
going to get it too. The fake concern + the assumption that I was
having sex with them really made me mad.
Feb. 8, 2005
we met up at the flightpath, onyxlynxx was leaving as I got there.
Terriblelynne & Kulilinei came next, then Nikiyoy. We went out to the patio to talk
& drink our bevvies. Rkentspeth showed up, and then Ladydreamtime. That was fun &
interesting. We had a nice visit.
R brought up an interesting thought re: mom. Would I tell a
friend the same things I tell her, knowing that my sharing would make
her uncomfortable?...unfo, I think the answer is yes.
But I make a distinction between something like T's history of
abuse making her unwilling to be around discussions or implements of
bdsm and something like Mom rejecting my Krav Maga or my opinion of
Rubber_Pig. One seems like a healthy boundary that T has for her own
protection and well-being, T is not saying "you're sick for
doing/liking that" she is just saying "I don't want to hear about it"
whereas Mom's prohibitions come across to me as though I'm being
judged and found lacking/wrong. and, honestly, I suspect it may not
be that way at all, but only my own perception.
Being an adult instead of being her child means that some boundaries
exist that did not exist in the mother-child relationship. Including
the child's expectation of unconditional love and support. That's not
the way grownups relate...
Feb. 8, 2005
me to onyxlynxx:
Gals night was really pretty nice. Eventually Terriblelynne
and Kulilinei showed up, followed by Nikiyoy, and then Rose
and, finally, Ladydreamtime. Pretty good crowd. I think we all
had a nice visit.
Rose actually brought a craft--a Mardi-Gras colored
afghan that she worked on while we visited. I really
think Rose needed to get away from her family
obligations for a while and just relax. She gave me
some fantastic (if slightly owie) insight into my
recent estrangement from my mom.
I'm never sure what Ladydreamtime thinks about things, she
always seems a little distant or distracted. She
arrived last and left first, but I hope she had a nice
time, too.
Feb. 8, 2005
Evening Primrose: 1,000 mg, 3 times a day (breakfast, lunch, bedtime)
*the one I take at lunchtime has vitamin E in it already
Flaxseed oil caps: 3,000 mg, 2 x a day (lunchtime, bedtime)
Multivitamin: 1x a day, lunchtime
Calcium/magnesium/zinc: 1x day, bedtime
Vitamin E, 1 x day, bedtime (with EPO)
Due to dreams, maybe switch flax and EPO to dinnertime instead of
bedtime?
Feb. 8, 2005
Sineater: hey you!
evile: hi :) How's your day going?
Sineater: like hammering gerbils through concrete
evile: that's a pretty mental picture
Sineater: this is why i will never be pope... sigh
evile: I don't think the hat would look right on you, anyway.
Sineater: so what's up? how are you doing?
evile: tired, but hanging in there.
Sineater: here, this'll brighten your day.
http://www.hlj.com/product/DAKSB-01
Sineater: it's a set of upgrade boobs for your two foot tall dolls
Sineater: which marks you as a terminal otaku just for owning,
anyway :)
evile: um...might have been nice to say 'not safe for work' .... :|
Sineater: oh. sorry :(
Sineater: didn't think of that :(
evile: no big. someone in LJ (ample) didn't cut their nipple peircing
photos earlier, so if I'm hosed , I'm hosed already.
Sineater: clear cache, etc etc
evile: *nod*
Sineater: doesn't lj get pissy about "lewd" photos? i know a couple
of people that got smacked for their user pics
evile: i think there's a diff between user pics and stuff you post in
yoru actual journal...besides I doubt they've got the manpower to
police every single journal out there.
Sineater: narf
evile: zenrhino belongs to an LJ community called 'show your boobs'
Sineater: eyeroll
Sineater: heard you were planning a trip to houston?
evile: as far as I know it's still going, and LJ management hasn't
stopped it.
Sineater: okay then
evile: planning is FAR too strong a word for the amorphous blob of
idea
Sineater: ah
Sineater: well let me know :)
evile: Ok. I am going to try and get in touch w/Mom one last time
tonight and then bag it if I can't reach her.
evile: I should have just written her a letter, like, a week ago.
Sineater: hmm.... she does seem to spurn modern methods of
communication ;)
evile: Things between me and mom are very wounded right now, but I am
going to try NOT to do my usual distancing thing.
evile: (too little too late, I suspect, but I'm going to try anyway)
Sineater: good point. that might be a better approach. this isn;t
going to go away, and she is still your mother
evile: She is going to need a support system when Brother A and Rubber_Pig go
kablooey in her face.
Sineater: this is true. and i don't see any way for that -not- to
happen :(
evile: And despite our differences and how very very dismissed and
unloved I feel, I still love her and want to be there for her
evile: Anyway, the plan is to contact her by phone and see if she
wants a visit on Sunday. Tonight is the only night I'm going to be
home to make a phone call.
evile: If I can't get ahold of her, I'm mailing a b-day card, with a
note that says I'd like to come visit sometime, andalso including
some stuff that 's going on in Austin in the next few weekends to
invite her here.
Sineater: :)
Feb. 8, 2005
Hoovooloo: Hi!
evile: howdy
Hoovooloo: What's with all the abuse posts? Is someone on your
friends list not taking a hint?
evile: My library books are due Thursday, so I'm going to finish
gleaning the info I think will be helpful and then drop it.
Hoovooloo: Are you okay?
evile: I personally am not being abused, if that's what you're asking.
Hoovooloo: That's a relief. I was starting to worry about you.
evile: Nah, it's my fricken stepbrother and his fricken wife. Well,
and my brother and the pig, too, but they don't have LJ's that I know
of.
Hoovooloo: Oh! I hadn't made the connection.
evile: My stepbro called me on the phone last Sunday and read me the
riot act. Apparently he thought I was in cahoots with his wife's ex
boyfriend and that's why I was posting the abuse stuff.
evile: because the ex just coincidentally used the word 'abuse' in
his LJ one day after I'd posted some abuse stuff in my LJ.
Hoovooloo: She sounds like a real charmer.
evile: yeah, she's a pip.
Hoovooloo: I thought they had some sort of faux marriage...
handfasting or something?
evile: sineater and skye are married, legally in the state of TX. She
also is 'polyamorous' so she has boyfriend(s)
evile: my brother Brother A and his pig, not on LJ, had a fake wedding
last May, and as far as I know, the pig does not have a legal divorce
from her REAL husband as of yet.
evile: but they are not openly polyamorous, and she presents her
current legal husband as her 'ex' even though he was still living
with them as of mid-January.
evile: let's just say that when I don't think about their shit, I'm
OK. My own personal life is very satisfying and I am very happy with
my Sweetie and my social life.
Hoovooloo: If this gets any more complicated, I'm making a diagram.
evile: no shit, right. Makes my brain hurt.
evile: Nothing about $5 worth of ammo couldn't solve...
Hoovooloo: Okay, that was unpleasant, and I've got a joke stuck in my
head :
Hoovooloo: What's grey and comes in quarts?
evile: I don't know. what?
Hoovooloo: An elephant.
evile: *laffs* ICK!
Hoovooloo: What do you do with an elephant with three balls?
evile: I don't know.
Hoovooloo: Walk him and pitch to the rhino.
evile: hee.
Hoovooloo: Hey, want to see pictures of me in a kilt?
evile: Do you even need to ASK!? Of course!
Hoovooloo: http://www.allegrasstudio.com/galleries/2004/091104.htm
Hoovooloo: For the brides' maiden name type in 'Williams'
Hoovooloo: My brother got married last September.
evile: aww!
Hoovooloo: Page 6 has me and Tim in the informal kilts for the dress
rehearsal.
evile: Looks like it was a fun wedding :)
Hoovooloo: It was a hoot.
evile: (as my launchcast plays "Scotland the brave"....eerie!)
Hoovooloo: Page 12 has the groomsmen getting dressed.
Hoovooloo: Mum keeps coming up with more events for which I can put
it on again.
evile: yee haw! sexy legs!
Hoovooloo: I've committed to wearing it under the robes for my
graduation in June.
evile: awesome!!
Hoovooloo: And I went autocrossing in the hunting tartan one for
Halloween.
evile: sweet :)
evile: My aunt still hopes that Sweetie & I will make it legal some day
and she wants us in Scottish get-up.
Hoovooloo: If Texas goes the civil union route for gay marriage you
should go get one of those. We talked about downgrading if
Massachusetts went the wrong way.
evile: we could already be common law, if that's what we wanted. I
don't think gay marriage will ever be a thing in TX (I say from my
blue island in a sea of red)
Hoovooloo: Though I like to think of you doing a Jay impression and
describing Mac as 'lunchbox, my hetero life-partner'
evile: *laugh* That's about perfect!
Hoovooloo: Croaker dressed up as Silent Bob for our Halloween party
this year. He made a good Bob.
evile: how awesome is that?!? I bet it was a great party!
Hoovooloo: It was really good! Our guests really went all-out on the
costumes.
Hoovooloo: We even had some unintentional matching outfits. Jost as
an astronaut, R'nice as an alien.
evile: that's always fun, when people really work on the costumes
evile: heehee!
Hoovooloo: Jade as Cruella D'evil, Widget as a dalmation.
evile: aww! SO CUTE!
Hoovooloo: I should poke Jess to get those pictures put up.
evile: yes you should.
Hoovooloo: Okay, I have to get back to work now. Catch you later :-)
evile: ok :) *hugs* thanks for caring about me :)
Feb. 8, 2005
me:
I'm amused that for all of the obvious 'attention
getting' tactics, she's not actually getting much on
LJ. Must be tough to find out you're not the center
of every universe.
J-Law:
That is funny re: UB, though I am sure that the irony of it all
totally escapes her.
me:
Oh, here's the fucking Quote of the Week:
SkyeDS: why is the exercise of jumping to conclusion
so prevalent in LJland?
J-Law:
Love that quote. Irony, yet again, spectacularly escapes her.
Feb. 8, 2005
From: Onyxlynxx
Subject: Re: Golden Quote of the Day
To: me
The mind boggles. She really is that clueless, isn't she? Wow.
*manually closes jaw and moves on*
Sometimes all you can do is laugh or scream. The laughing gets you
fewer worried looks.
hugs,
k
Feb. 8, 2005
evile: hey :) How's your day going?
SkyeDS: goes, got here early get to leave early, I'm sorry yours
isn't better.
SkyeDS: I intend to start on some of the fat flush plan including
evening primrose
evile: I'm just grouchy. BAd sleep/not enough sleep, never a good
thing.
SkyeDS: does it always induce dreams, and are they always bad? :(
evile: so far, always bad.
evile: seems to go away after a few days/week or so.
evile: I started taking EPO and Flax in November, took it through
December/beginning of January. Then I ran out and just went and got
more yesterday evening. In just that short time, though, my skin got
nicer and Tina noticed my hair had grown a lot & was in good shape
SkyeDS: nods
SkyeDS: I'm still pondering whether to use flax (fat flush) or
coconut oil, which is supposed to be good for the thyroid
evile: coconut is saturated, not good for high blood pressure...
SkyeDS: don't have high blood pressure.
evile: It mimics animal fat in your veins & arteries. In soapmaking,
it is very drying to the skin. Personally, I wouldn't ingest it if at
all possible.
SkyeDS: if sineater gets another Ajilon assignment and we get our health
insurance back, the first thing I'm going to do is go through
traditional channels where my thyroid is concerned.
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: however, if that doesn't work, have to go somewhere.
evile: yup
SkyeDS: there are other oils good for the thyroid, I know olive is
one of them
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: I haven't finished my research into them all yet. Have just
read about coconut so far, and haven't even read enough about it yet
evile: yeah
evile: there is a lot of info out there, always good to educate
yourself.
SkyeDS: I'm already expecting a battle from traditional md's over
subclinical hypothyroid
SkyeDS: they all pretty much want to medicate ranges and not symptoms
evile: exactly
SkyeDS: subclinical = IN range, but low, hence SUBclinical
evile: right.
SkyeDS: and paradoxically enough, my attitude about ADD/HD is
entirely different
SkyeDS: there are too many doctors medicating the symptoms and not
doing the definitive test
evile: yup
SkyeDS: eg, spectrograph EEG
SkyeDS: thing is, the symptoms they medicate could be any number of
things other than ADD/HD, and given the medication if that's not what
the problem is, only fucks things up worse
SkyeDS: subclinical thyroid symptoms are VERY specific
evile: yeah.
SkyeDS: I saw the results of Marshal's test, and told his mother, no
offense, but that boy is not add/hd or ODD, he's a spoiled brat
SkyeDS: and I think I have a lead on why she's such a shrill shrew
evile: she's nuts?
SkyeDS: her husband contradicts her in front of Marshal, completely
undermining all her attempts at discipline, and she feels completely
out of control
evile: sad.
SkyeDS: she's probably nuts too
SkyeDS: but I've seen her try to do the right thing
SkyeDS: and I've seen him countermand it
evile: that sucks!
SkyeDS: I don't think she's reacting to this negative stimulus the
right way
SkyeDS: but I do think it is a reaction
evile: nope.
SkyeDS: she's got every reason to be upset, what she needs is a
better mode of expression
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: anyway, Derald went too far when he interposed himself in my
lesson.
SkyeDS: I dont' believe that will be happening again.
evile: dang.
SkyeDS: I have said this before, and I'll say it again.
SkyeDS: when you are in the training ring, Sensai/Master is the
ultimate authority.
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: Now if you can't handle that, you don't get into the training
ring with that particular sensai/master
SkyeDS: you find someone you can put that trust in
SkyeDS: not unlike the D/s relationship
SkyeDS: in training animals, the cycle goes like this. training
starts out good, then gets bad.
SkyeDS: then it gets better
SkyeDS: then it gets even worse than it ever was before
SkyeDS: which is always a surprise to anyone who isn't expecting it
SkyeDS: because they get to better than it's ever been before, and
think they've made it, and stop there
SkyeDS: after worse, if you don't give up, you get consistent. which
is what you want.
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: so, in the last lesson, marshall went from better to worse
SkyeDS: and his dad enabled it
SkyeDS: worse is always heartbreaking, even w hen I expect it
evile: I'm sure.
SkyeDS: his dad shows up 20 minutes before the end of an hour lesson,
offering him pizza for dinner
SkyeDS: nice distraction there
SkyeDS: plus, he had been set to a task that his dad showing up
interrupted
evile: suck!
SkyeDS: then he started flat balking at everything that was asked of
him, and he's always given win-win no resistance choices
SkyeDS: ie you can do this, or you can do that (either one of which
gives me a response I want)
SkyeDS: and for the first time ever in his lessoning, he just flat
refused to make a choice or do anything at all
SkyeDS: so I told Justina, might as well take him home
SkyeDS: can't do anything else with him
SkyeDS: so t hen Derald was going to write my check for 20 minutes
short
evile: that's probably a good coping mechanism when stuck between mom
screching for him to do one thing and dad telling him he's going to
get it if he obeys mom
SkyeDS: I said, um no I don't think so
SkyeDS: oh Marshall plays those two like a fucking video game, and so
I told her
SkyeDS: then I sent him to the porch to put his nose against the
door, not to look or speak to anyone, and I THOUGHT the adults
involved would understand that they should not look or speak to him
SkyeDS: but apparently Derald took objection to this
evile: I am pretty much for whatever consenting adults want to do, so
if crazy screechy wants to spend her life being cut down by jerk guy,
fine. But then people bring kids into it,and that just pisses me off.
SkyeDS: exactly
SkyeDS: and I think we may be the only people in Marshal's life that
are good influences
evile: that's just very sad.
SkyeDS: so we try very hard, but we don't have enough resources time
or powerwise to completely combat everything by ourselves
SkyeDS: Derald seems to think that discipline should come from
outside the home but not inside it
evile: nope. Plus, you're not the parents.
SkyeDS: so teachers are supposed to impose discipline, but he got
madder than a wet hen when I did.
evile: Other than establishing discipline in your own 'classroom' and
reporting to authorities if you think he's abused, that's pretty much
the extent of your control of the situation.
SkyeDS: Derald is playing the abuse situation
SkyeDS: he doesn't seem to realize that CPS is not going to take
Marshal and give him to Derald
evile: what do you mean by that?
SkyeDS: that is for a court to decide in a divorce proceeding
SkyeDS: if CPS takes him, CPS takes him from both of them, and that's
the end of that
evile: poor kid.
SkyeDS: Derald is inclined to attempt to use CPS against Justina.
SkyeDS: example.
SkyeDS: Marshall refuses to eat what's for dinner
SkyeDS: gets sent to his room
SkyeDS: Derald lets him out and gives him what he wants to eat
SkyeDS: if Justina tries to stop that Derald tells CPS that Justina
is starving the boy
evile: that sucks.
SkyeDS: Derald and Marshall need to understand something about CPS.
SkyeDS: CPS Is not the frying pan, it's the fire
SkyeDS: and foster families often times do more damage than the
original family
SkyeDS: once CPS takes a kid, that's that, no going back, no fixing
evile: very sad.
SkyeDS: these people don't seem to understand that there are things
that once broken cannot be mended
evile: yup
SkyeDS: I was looking for a quote from the assassin's handbook the
other day about not doing what can't be undone
SkyeDS: but couldn't find it
evile: I hate it when that happens.
evile: I used to keep a bunch of quotes online, but I haven't updated
my list in a while.
SkyeDS: I have a list of good quote pages online in my head
SkyeDS: which is not a good place to keep lists anymore
evile: I hear ya. I have to write everything down these days.
SkyeDS: I think I go overboard with quotes, and I"m getting worse
with time
SkyeDS: but why should I attempt to say what's already been said
better?
evile: yup
SkyeDS: I notice Avena Sativa listed as both thyroid and
perimenopause effective
SkyeDS: perimenopause = starts at 35
evile: cool :)
SkyeDS: and I think black cohosh is suggested in fat flush along with
evening primrose if I don't remember incorrectly (books at home, not
here)
evile: yeah, black cohosh is a good woman's herb
SkyeDS: thing is perimenopause and subclinical hypothyroid have
similar symptoms
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: but, I have suffered these symptoms all my life, and am just
now closing in on perimenopause
SkyeDS: although the symptoms are getting slowly but surely worse, so
perimenopause isn't helping anything for sure
evile: so logically it's probably more likely to be thyroid, perhaps
now being complicated by the other hormonal stuff
SkyeDS: nod, and scht gets worse with age
evile: yup.
evile: One of my TIM friends just asked me if *I* was being abused,
due to my recent LJ posts. jeez.
SkyeDS: Friday is going to be superpurge day. Carpets cleaned,
banishing ritual (think I'll include EVERY source I can identify and
not just one)
SkyeDS: (eg, Gloria and her brood as well as him and his)
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: why is the exercise of jumping to conclusion so prevalent in
LJland?
evile: I guess people get bored at work.
SkyeDS: one of the things you posted made a good point I don't think
any of the others did
evile: what's that?
SkyeDS: all of us do some of those things on rare occasions when
we're angry
evile: yup
SkyeDS: I felt much better after I posted my little two cents.
evile: good.
SkyeDS: I am going to admit ahead of time that I have one more snarky
post to make
SkyeDS: I"m going to make it Friday before my banishing
evile: ok.
SkyeDS: and that will be the end of that
SkyeDS: it's temptation, and I don't really want to resist it, it
will be short and sweet
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: but exceedingly, exceedingly tacky.
evile: Oh well
SkyeDS: the person being snarked at already thinks I'm the queen of
snark
SkyeDS: he ought to know better
evile: piffle.
SkyeDS: too bad the true queens of snark cannot be loosed on him
evile: more like have better things to snark...
evile: no point in using an elephant gun on a gnat
SkyeDS: nope
SkyeDS: in my own defense, I am seldom snarky anyway, I usually keep
it to myself
SkyeDS: and I always know when I'm being that way, and admit it
freely, and take responsibility for the negative energy
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: if you hear a rattlesnake warning rattle and you don't get
out of the way it's your fault, you were forewarned.
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: as opposed to getting chased by a cottonmouth without warning
and bitten for no reason
evile: *nod*
evile: I wonder what sonar0m would think of me posting a link to the
homonym of 'grate' that I think he meant to use?
evile: I don't think we know each other well enough for him to take
that as a friendly, humorous gesture.
SkyeDS: lol just keep in mind that he is severely dyslexic
SkyeDS: but he has a tremendously good sense of humor about it
evile: his LJ makes me want to whip out a giant red pen....also hurts
my head trying to figure out what he's talking about.
SkyeDS: ya
evile: I know he's a nice person and all, but I just don't think I
really want to be in touch with him through a medium in which he is
so weak.
SkyeDS: then don't
evile: OK.
evile: I just did not want it to become an issue ("why hasnt she
friended my boyfriend" or somesuch)
SkyeDS: no worries
evile: cool.
evile: One of the mods of the austin voyager yahoo group was at girls
night last night. We talked about the ridiculous hoo-ha going on
there right now.
evile: She was wanting to ban kenneth, and not do a thing to amelia
amelia
evile: I suggested that banning was a little more punitive than the
situation called for,maybe just put them both on 'moderated post'
status for a while until they can stop reacting and slow down to
think about what they're doing
evile: Her father is deathly ill, and her cat is also ill, so she's
got more important things to worry about, poor thing.
SkyeDS: what happened?
SkyeDS: what did Amelia and Kenneth do?
evile: There was a heated debate re: privacy, which amelia started.
evile: And then once that was resolved to her satisfaction, amelia
started talking about how if someone hosts a voyagers party in their
home, they have no right to exclude anyone based on their own[ the
hosts'] preference
evile: onyxlynxx had just joined, like, 4 days ago and she was all
like "is this group always like this?"...I felt bad for anyone who
had just joined the group at that point...very bad impression for new
people.
SkyeDS: ya
evile: I had been sitting on my hands for days, but finally had
enough yesterday and told amelia to remove objects from orifices and
step AWAY from the computer.
SkyeDS: rofl
evile: Granted, Kenneth has gotten wrapped up in irrelvant sidetracks
from the main argument, which kept it going longer than it should,
but I saw amelia more as the instigator.
SkyeDS: so you have learned that we are not all enlightened godlike
beings once again
evile: I pretty much knew that about the gwnn/voyager crowd already :P
evile: I was just really stunned that the mod wanted to put all the
blame on Kenneth. Her rationale is that amelia has been in the group
longer..well, so what?
evile: poor behavior is poor behavior, longevity has nothing to do
with it, IMHO. And that's kind of a weird attitude for a group geared
towards BDSM beginners to have, anyway.
SkyeDS: no different than the polys.
evile: I miss Mouser. He did not feed trolls or allow them to thrive
long in the austin poly group, RL or yahoo.
SkyeDS: online anyway
SkyeDS: not much he could do I wager at meetings
evile: depends on size of the group, milieu, etc.
evile: I watched him, more than once, make it uncomfortable for
sexual predators to hang out at first wednesday
SkyeDS: do let me know when/if he starts coming again?
evile: He's back in FL.
SkyeDS: well, I hope he's happy
evile: me too.
evile: Man...I am so ready for my nap!!
SkyeDS: hibernation weather
evile: yup.
evile: I'm thinking I might start trying to take my flaxseed and epo
at dinner,and then just take the calcium/magnesium/zinc at bedtime by
itself, see if that helps the nightmares. I could just stick it out
for however long it takes for my brain chemistry to get used to the
extra nutrition, but...eh.
SkyeDS: I need to get started on fat flush period
SkyeDS: but it's just going to have to wait until the trailer problem
is solved
evile: *nod*
evile: at last! Time to run free!...well, walk slowly free.
SkyeDS: time to go home, wind to your wings :)
evile: Have a good evening & happy mardi gras :)
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evilE
Mar. 8, 2005
evile: happy tuesday. Hope you had a nice weekend :)
SkyeDS: how was yours? :) melting pot sounded good :)
evile: the weekend itself was fairly suck, but dinner last night was
awesome.
SkyeDS: had a good time sunday even though got rained on and was cold
evile: yeah. I stayed inside & snoozed, except for a brief outing
for brunch w/Sweetie
evile: Mom drove to Austin Sunday a.m. and apparently I mised a call
from her while we were out, and then I didn't check the machine. She
needed a break, is going back down there today
SkyeDS: not surprised about the needing a break
evile: Apparently things are pretty bad down there...there were
things Mom said she wasn't going to tell me.
evile: While the 3 midwives helped rubber_pig have her baby, rubber_pig's mom
took my mom aside and told her all this hellacious garbage, bashed on
[brother A], and then said "In a year, rubber_pig will be pregnant again with
another man's child and [brother A] will be gone"...(from your lips to the
gods' ears, lady)
SkyeDS: ..........
evile: Completely inappropriate time/place/audience for that
harangue, but I probably agree with her.
SkyeDS: and that's jsut what your mom is willing to tell you......
evile: yeah, exactly. The good news is that Mom is now completely
over her guilt-trips, and will not come a'runnin' whenever [brother A] and
rubber_pig have Drama.
evile: She has decided to go back to IN, and find a job with a real
school so she will have breaks to come down and visit, but is no
longer committed to putting her life on hold to 'be there' for [brother A]
and rubber_pig and the baby
SkyeDS: good news!
evile: Yup. Too bad it took such a lot of stress to bring her to that
point...she is literally counting the days until stepdad/G comes to get
her.
SkyeDS: lessons learned the hard way last longest tho
evile: I figure Aunt L will fill me in on whatever Mom didn't tell
me....I don't know if I really want to know...will ___ be the piece
of information that sends me to San Antonio with an axe?
SkyeDS: is the child a boy or a girl?
evile: girl
evile: Oh, and rubber_pig's mom accused my mom of fucking Lamar S
(Trey's dad) back in the day, is that disgusting or WHAT.
SkyeDS: not even going to comment
evile: Lamar and his wife did have an open marriage, but mom
certainly didn't.
evile: Mom just laughed in her face. rubber_pig's mom is a wackadoo.
evile: Mom still wants a relationship wiht the baby once everything
is over, but everyone seems to be realistic at this point. It's quite
a relief not to be the only one who sees things as they are and as
they likely will be.
evile: There really isn't any vindication in being right when it
means that people you love get hurt.
evile: I slept all day Sunday...I dont' know if it was fallout from
the puppy pile or family stress , or what...but I was just exhausted.
SkyeDS: nodnods <hugs>
evile: thanks. :)
evile: Ladydreamtime says one of the restaurants she recommended has fondue
on the menu. I hope that gets picked as one of the places we go this
month :)
SkyeDS: melting pot sounds really good, I'm glad Jinx had a good
time
evile: I was worried that since the rest of us know each other, she'd
get left out, but I think we did good at keeping the conversation
accessible to everyone.
SkyeDS: saw Sharjinka's house friday night, it is too perfect.
evile: ya know, if you just did cheese and dessert fondue, you could
get out of there for under $30 for 2 people...more if you got drinks.
evile: I love her study. I can't wait to see it in good sunlight.
SkyeDS: I am so happy for her
evile: yeah, it's a great house.
SkyeDS: she's got it going on now in so many different ways
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: I w ish the kids she loves would quit acting like, well, kids
evile: yeah...that's just the way groups work, though...
SkyeDS: they're damn well old enough to keep personal attack out of a
difference of opinion
evile: *nod*
evile: the PP party made me sad. Nobody approached me at all. It
makes me sad that people like Seamus McStinkypants feel free to
approach me and even pursue me, and then I go to a party with a whole
bunch of nice people and they don't find me approachable at all...
SkyeDS: I wasn't there of course, but I think it might not have had
anything to do with you
evile: who knows.
evile: I'm glad I went, even thought I was afraid, but I don't think
I'll go to another one.
evile: I did have some nice conversations, with onyxlynxx and Nikiyoy and
(Roninjedi) and nosugarsadded (you and I met up with her at the
Friday nite bellydance show that one time)
evile: Did you get to that BBQ place, by the way? How was it?
SkyeDS: went somewhere else because it was raining
SkyeDS: enjoyed it last time tho
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: wanted to take parentals but there will be other weekends
SkyeDS: the kids are flaking out on rent already
evile: *nod*
evile: Yuck. I'm sorry to hear that!
SkyeDS: so it's a good thing that Hugh without being asked
volunteered to write payroll before vacation and not after
evile: that was nice of him.
SkyeDS: was his own idea too. I asked him to put money in the
account so I could pay bills, and he said add payroll in my total
evile: cool boss :)
SkyeDS: yeah he is
evile: y'all are getting ready to take off pretty soon, here.
SkyeDS: nodnod
evile: that looks like it's going to be a lot of fun. my buds on LJ
who are SCA are all atwitter.
SkyeDS: since it's midmonth, it's hitting two paychecks a nd not just
one, and it isn't going to be that big a hole
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: Jubilee talked keject into going, I have no idea how they can
afford it being college kids
SkyeDS: and they can't caravan with us, either
evile: that's a long haul for just 2 people taking turns driving. but
they're young. I did stuff like that when I was 21.
SkyeDS: nodnod
evile: no money, no planning, no reliable auto, and boom, 24 hours
later, I'm 5 states away...
SkyeDS: I'm hoping to get them authorized as groundcrew and to ride,
and if they help with the games, they will have an excellent
education towards helping me bring the games to HFS
evile: *nod* that would be cool.
SkyeDS: you have time off later this mon th, no?
SkyeDS: so a whole week next week would be Bad <(tm)
evile: My boss would never ever let me have a whole week off, anyway.
evile: No point in asking.
evile: I get to sneak in a little friday to monday and pray like hell
that it wont' make the top of her head blow off.
evile: it's my fricken leave, I earned it and she actsl ike I have no
right to take it.
SkyeDS: I am amazed that Hugh let me take off same time
SkyeDS: and then rather than let the machine take calls he's going
to pay the one secretary who will be here to take msgs
evile: wow. that's cool.
evile: Looks like I missed a good party at Leo's.
SkyeDS: wish I could be at home playing outside
evile: Yup. I had a good sick day yesterday.
SkyeDS: I did a completely irresponsible thing Friday
SkyeDS: I completely forgot I had a lesson
SkyeDS: and sineater and I went over to Sharjinka's till past midnight
evile: oh, wow....
SkyeDS: I called her first thing next morning and a pologized and
rescheduled
SkyeDS: last time she missed one, she didn't call, I missed hours of
work
evile: sounds like you did the best possible t hing.
SkyeDS: and I didn't hear from her for 3 weeks
evile: well, sometimes you just have to be better than other people &
treat them better than they treated you. esp. if $ is involved..
SkyeDS: I felt VERY bad
evile: *nod* I'm sure. Because you understand what it feels like to
be put out because someone forgot a commitment.
evile: we are human, we make mistakes. Apologizing and trying to do
better is the best way to handle it.
SkyeDS: this puts his next lesson on THursday when my parents are here
SkyeDS: which won't be a good thing if he continues in the "worse"
cycle
evile: I'm sure your parents will understand that you need to work
before you can socialize with them...
SkyeDS: that's not what I'm worried about
SkyeDS: I'm worried about him behaving very badly in front of them
SkyeDS: if he does, I'll deal, same as if they weren't there
evile: exactly
evile: the needs of the lesson will outweigh any 'good impression'
you might want to make on the parents.
SkyeDS: well if he pulls the same thing for a third lesson in a row,
he will find himself with a brush in his hand for an hour
SkyeDS: because if he keeps insisting that he's scared, I can't
possibly put him on the horse, now can I
evile: *nod*
evile: Maybe you can send your parents on an errand while you
teach...or sit them down with a movie in the living room...
SkyeDS: maybe having them around will persuade him not to play drama
games with me
SkyeDS: maybe not
SkyeDS: <shrug>
SkyeDS: Justina needs to seriously sit down and watch SuperNanny or
Nanny911
evile: People who need that kind of kick in the ass would never
actually see the mirror that show would provide for them.
evile: wow. Interesting convo on the LJ polyamory community
http://www.livejournal.com/community/polyamory/1310033.html
evile: someone ought to send the text to Seamus McStinkypants.
SkyeDS: wow long
evile: *nod* but a lot of good points, IMHO.
evile: I liked reading ladydreamtime's exchange of ideas, she's usually very
private about stuff, so it's interesting to get insight into her life
& how she makes everything work so well.
SkyeDS: nodnod
evile: well, it's go-time. I hope your evening is pleasant :)
SkyeDS: wind to your wings :)
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