2907Loving yourself

 

Feb. 7, 2005

 

 

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EJ - me and J-Law

 2908me & J-Law


evilE  wrote:
UB has decided she wants my friends. Crap.

SkyeDS: I think if I hung with you and your friends I
might enjoy poly dinner more
evile: we are the kind of snarky bitches that threaten
you at SCA and HFS, so probably not.
evile: Not trying to shut you out, just recognizing
that our behavior would probably push your buttons and
ignite your issues with women like that.
SkyeDS: depends on whether it was aimeda t me or not
SkyeDS: although I have to say I was so turned off by
what happened last time I have no real desire to go
back
evile: *shrug* You tend to assume it is, in a lot of
situations where others can't or dont' see it.
SkyeDS: if the snarkiness in HFS happened to my face I
wouldn't have problems
SkyeDS: it happens behind my back and then gets back
to me
SkyeDS: and that yes bothers me
evile: but then Kili snarked to your face, and you had
a problem with that, too...
SkyeDS: that wasn't snarking that was open attack
evile: which wasn't immediately visible as such to
anyone at the table but you.
SkyeDS: sineater caught the tail end of it, so it was
obvious to him, w hen he came back
evile: So I'd really hate to introduce you around to
the snarky bitch contingent, and then hear from you
afterwards that you had a terrible time because they
were attacking you the whole time.

Feb. 7, 2005

 

 

Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2005 09:03:16 -0800 (PST)
From: J-Law
Subject: Re: D'oh!!
To: me


NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You were right to discourage her, and I think you did so on no
uncertain terms. However, she remains undeterred as ever.

Any new developments?

How was your weekend? Mine was good. I was feeling pretty ok on
Friday, but I stayed home anyway. I did laundry, tidied up, and
rested. It was a good day. Then, Shane came over of course, and we
had a nice dinner and watched Footloose. :) Saturday, we hung out
on the peninsula - did a few errands (got his car washed, checked out
a wine shop we'd been meaning to go to, etc.) and then hung out in
downtown Palo Alto before meeting his folks for dinner. We had a
fabulous, fabulous time. They said again how much they liked you and
enjoyed meeting you. :)

Sunday was more relaxing - watched the Superbowl, and that pretty
much covers it.

And now, I am back to work, anxiously awaiting my package from
Fredericks, containing my French Maid outfit and Shane's V-day
prezzies (very snug-looking silk briefs; one red, one leopard print.
Heee!)

Hope you have a good day!

Love,

J-Law
 

 

2909Re: me & J-Law

 

Feb. 7, 2005

 

 

me:

In retrospect, I realize that even though I *knew* she
was angling for my bitch-night/craft night
girlfriends, I could have just played dumb and said
"Oh, I'm on friendly terms with everyone at
polydinner."

And I also realized that in livejournal, both I and my
friend onyxlynxx have her on our 'friend' lists and post
regularly about stuff we're doing, and she never
responds. So...if she doesn't take some initiative, we
are not going to be issuing her engraved invitations,
ya know?

==========
--- J-Law wrote:

Maybe.... although, she strikes me as someone who,
once she has her eye on something, will keep after
it until she gets it. No matter what you said, she
would have picked at you about it. At least this
way, you can say that you were perfectly and
completely straightforward about it.

I sure hope she took the hint.

==================
me to J:

Oh, Lordy! Malamorf/sonar0m got a livejournal, AND added me on ICQ. I
noticed that for a couple days after the last talk sineater & I had on
the phone, sineater was on ICQ at the same time as A. Apparently that
really threatened her and she needed some backup. Whatever. I have
better things to spend my brainpower on.

I added him on ICQ, but I'm not adding him to my friends list on
livejournal. I have met him maybe 4 times in my life and I don't want
him in my business, esp. since I suspect that UB will have access to
his passwords, etc.

http://www.livejournal.com/userinfo.bml?user=sonar0m

It is funny that you enjoy your time with Shane's family more than
time with your own. I would guess it's mostly because time with your
mom can always run the risk of turning into drama, whereas you don't
have that baggage with Shane's folks.

Good luck with the taxes!

 

 

2910Re: me & J-Law

 

Feb. 7, 2005

 

 

--- J-Law wrote:

ohgawd. This whole thing just keeps getting better
and better. UB is a total froot loop, my dear.
=============
me:

UB--*sigh* every time I think she's getting better, she unloads a
new bucket o' crazy.

(btw, I love the fact that sonar0m used the word "grate" to describe
her singing...I know he was having a homonym-mistake-moment, but it
still amused me greatly)

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2911Re: me & J-Law

 

Feb. 7, 2005

 

 

J-Law:

I love Malomar's grate vs. great gaffe. I hope UB catches it and
comes unhinged. Maybe they'd have to have her committed.

me:

As I observed to onyxlynxx, no doubt his writing style will be much
improved when Skye, his loving submissive (cough,retch,barf) takes
over writing his LJ for him.

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2912Re: me & J-Law

 

Feb. 7, 2005

 

 

Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2005 12:26:58 -0800 (PST)
From: "J-Law
Subject: Re: D'oh!!
To: "evilE 


Lemme get this straight. UB is the sub?!?!?!? I just assumed that
she was the dominant one. That just seems so... not how she is? But
maybe that's the point?

Anyway, she does need a good whuppin'.

I absolutely love onyxlynxx's "Goddess wept" comment. Perfect! :)

========
me:

I don't think she's a *good* sub, more like one of these

http://www.vanilla-not.com/dominantvoices/subtype.html

 

 

2913Re: me & J-Law

 

Feb. 7, 2005

 

 

--- In ErikaJournal@yahoogroups.com.au, "evilE"  wrote:

>
> Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2005 12:26:58 -0800 (PST)
> From: "J-Law
> Subject: Re: D'oh!!
> To: "evilE 
>
> Lemme get this straight. UB is the sub?!?!?!? I just assumed that
> she was the dominant one. That just seems so... not how she is?

But

> maybe that's the point?
>
> Anyway, she does need a good whuppin'.
>
> I absolutely love onyxlynxx's "Goddess wept" comment. Perfect! :)
>

=========
evilE H <eekatfreaksdotnet@yahoo.com> wrote:

Yeah, I was pretty surprised when UB shared with me
that she considers herself to be 'submissive'. It
really doesn't fit the way she treats her men in
public, but I can imagine her being lazy/passive in
the bedroom and thinking that means she's submissive.
I definitely don't think she's a *good* sub, I think
she's more of a 'topping from the bottom' kind of sub.
This is kind of a funny website about the types of bad
subs:

http://www.vanilla-not.com/dominantvoices/subtype.html

And apparenty sonar0m is a good Master because he gave
her a collar.
(http://www.livejournal.com/users/skye_ds/14352.html#cutid1)

Yeah. He's a 20 year old kid who was a virgin before
he met her, who incidentally can't spell and is too
lazy to use spellcheck, but he's so dominant.
what.ever. I'm sorry, domming is WORK. And most doms I
know are very precise and self-controlled in all of
their actions, including writing style.

Personally, I think she's posting all this stuff in
her LJ because she knows that her ex Kaleon has a LJ
and since she reads his obsessively, he of course MUST
be as enthralled by HERS, right? Makes about as much
sense as a soup sandwich.

========
J-Law:

I think you've hit the nail right on the head - UB is exactly the
sort of person who would mischaracterize her behavior to fit some
category like that. Exactly. very funny about Kaleon, too. I am
sure that's precisely what she thinks. Idiot.

 

 

2914Re: me & J-Law

 

Feb. 7, 2005

 

 

me to J:

I've been amused/disgusted by the back and forth in UB
and Kaleon's LJs. They apparently aren't speaking,so
they write stuff in their LJ like "My husband doesn't
just sit at home on the internet when he's out of
work" and "My new girlfriend always wears a bra in
public, unlike some people" There is a lot of
unresolved crap there, but neither of them seems very
committed to moving on. UB less so than Kaleon, but
both of 'em are pretty sick lil' puppies. It makes for
entertaining reading, when I don't think about how
having her upset herself over shit makes sineater upset.
But...that's not really my problem or my fault,
so...whatever.

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2915icq w/A

 

 

Feb. 7, 2005

 

 

evile: Sounds like you had a productive weekend!
SkyeDS: ya.
evile: that's good :) Are you seeing some light at the end of that
tunnel?
SkyeDS: slowly but surely
evile: excellent :)
SkyeDS: I think I've decided I don't give a damn anymore, what
happens happens.
SkyeDS: I know the house won't be finished next Sunday, but next
Sunday is supposed to be the first nice day in a long long while, and
I"m going riding regardless.
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: got our copies of a book Hugh wrote a chapter for today,
that's nice
evile: cool!
SkyeDS: and someone I've never met complimented my writing today, so
that was nice too.
SkyeDS: Hugh finally bought a long needed new printer
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: and the cash flow has increased at least temporarily
evile: all good news :)
SkyeDS: it will be nice to see sunshine again, eventually
SkyeDS: especially if we get away this year without a 3 day freeze
like the last few years around this time
evile: yeah. I've felt like hibernating lately.
SkyeDS: I noticed news casts using mardi gras and carnivale
interchangeably (particularly in terms of 6th street and NOLA)
evile: *nod*
evile: the mardi gras 'season' in NO is Epiphany to the Tuesday
before Ash Wednesday.
SkyeDS: I really like the Chuy's we went to last night, much
nicer/more upscale (but then it's round rock)
SkyeDS: covered and heated and better parking
evile: nice.
SkyeDS: gorgeous rosewood antique mirror over the bar
evile: wow..
SkyeDS: just a little change. we used to go to Chuy's on
Kramer/Lamar on Sat nights after Barad Duin
SkyeDS: we can go to this one on Sunday nights after Drandmir.
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: and if we get bored, there's a Rudy's bbq with a covered
patio next to, and Johnny Carino's with a patio next to that
SkyeDS: which was actually where we were headed last night but they
were closed for SBS dammit
evile: yeah...I heard a lot of regular Sunday places were closed for
the game.
SkyeDS: found out watching PBS that Johnny Carino is from Central
Texas and has a cooking show.
evile: I knew the family had been in TX a few generations, from
their commercials.
SkyeDS: Carino's is good for what it is. Better than Olive Garden.
SkyeDS: and having one in Round Rock with a patio suits.
evile: *nod*
evile: I tried to call my mom on Sunday, I was thinking of trying to
go see her on the 13th.
evile: I haven't mentioned it to sineater yet, mostly because I don't
want to make any plans until I check in with Mom, but also because I
don't know if he would be interested in going, or if he can be spared
from critter-duty, etc.
SkyeDS: asking him what he wants to do is always a loaded ? anyway
SkyeDS: he says he wants to do one thing and typically doesn't get
out of bed in time to do what he says he wants to do
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: then when I say, well, I'm doing this, and you can go with or
not, whatever, makes no nevermind to me, he says, I don't really want
to
SkyeDS: the entire time but comes with anyway
SkyeDS: and then says after we get home, that was fun
evile: Sweetie does that a lot, too.
SkyeDS: I'm already expecting a "but but but" battle Sunday anyway
SkyeDS: when I tell him, if it's a pretty day, I'm taking the horses
out, I'm not working on the trailer
SkyeDS: and he can't work on the trailer by himself, because he knows
as well as we do that he can't be trusted not to do with his thumb
what he isn't supposed to
evile: you've already stated your plans for the 13th in LJ at least,
so it shouldn't come as a complete shock..
SkyeDS: he doesn't do it on purpose, he just doesn't think about it
till one of us sees it and says are you supposed to do that/
SkyeDS: ?
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: he hasn't been reading LJ a lot lately
SkyeDS: and it wouldn't matter if I told him every single day three
times a day at meals, he'll still forget it till I get up and ready
to get out and he'll be all, where are you going?
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: so, you're damned if you remind him enough for it to be
nagging (more than twice)
SkyeDS: and damned if you don't anyway
SkyeDS: and he does the same thing when he wants you to go somewhere
with him
SkyeDS: thinks he's told you but he hasn't
evile: When we all lived in the big house, Stepdad used to keep a big
dry-erase calendar for just that reason, I think.
SkyeDS: so he comes in and you're naked on the couch with a blanket a
book and wine, or whatever, and he says, are you ready to go?
SkyeDS: does it LOOK like I'm ready to go? where would we be going
that this is ready to go?
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: I don't know where *you're* going but chances are, I ain't
about to go there like this, no.
evile: yup
SkyeDS: our white board is small and getting all filled up
SkyeDS: with phone numbers that need to be permanently written down
somewhere
evile: This one that Stepdad had was a 3 month, where you'd right in the
name of the month & put the #'s in the calendar squares.
SkyeDS: good news being, I found a carpet cleaning company that runs
off their trucks so it doesn't matter that the nastyass monkeys let
the power get cut off
SkyeDS: and they specialize in restoration
evile: cool.
SkyeDS: so the carpet is getting cleaned friday whether the boys are
ready or not
evile: excellent.
SkyeDS: I've already bought them tarps and drop cloths
evile: good plan.
SkyeDS: but I cannot stand being in there hours at a time with the
urine and mold smells
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: so yes, we'll just have to be extra careful not to get the
carpets messed up again
SkyeDS: and I wouldn't be surprised if half of the carpet still won't
need to be replaced
SkyeDS: but I think only half of it, and I don't think it's all that
tacky to have different carpet in different rooms, if it's done right
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: in this instance there would be a complete separation because
the kitchen tile would be in between
SkyeDS: replace the guest room and the living room, but leave the
back hall, bathroom and master bedroom intact
SkyeDS: wtf is with carpet in a bathroom anyway.
SkyeDS: I would ask sineater while he's at it in the bathroom to tile it
and take the carpet out but I think if I asked him to do one more
thing he'd shoot me in the face with a bazooka.
evile: yeah. I think that's a 70's thing We're going to get the guest
bath refloored oneathesedays.
SkyeDS: if I remember correctly, mom's guest bathroom is tiled and
her masterbath is carpeted
SkyeDS: both of ours in the ranch house are carpeted.
evile: both of ours were carpeted when we moved in.
SkyeDS: I told the professionals I expected one of two things to
happen. They'll get there, and either find I'm a complete
hypochondriac and it isn't as bad as I think it is
SkyeDS: or it's worse, and will have to be replaced
SkyeDS: neither will surprise or upset me
evile: "expect the worst, hope for the best" is a pretty good policy
when it comes to stuff like that.
SkyeDS: this is the Steam Team
SkyeDS: I looked at their testimonials and have heard about them on
the radio
SkyeDS: they agreed to look at each individual room, clean what could
be cleaned, and not clean what needed replacing, and not charge me
SkyeDS: can't beat that with a stick, in the situation I find myself
in now
SkyeDS: and they have an excellent webpage
evile: sounds good.
SkyeDS: even have a home remedy stain removal page
SkyeDS: said, do you take credit cards? yes? that cinches the deal.
SkyeDS: saving up all the receipts to sue, you know
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: might not get blood out of that turnip but I'll feel a whole
sight more better having beat the turnip into a nice mash
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: what did the Gemini say when asked to pay for the battle of
San Juan Hill?
SkyeDS: (Charge It!)
evile: :P
SkyeDS: what kind of monkeys don't clean a home in six months?
evile: that's pretty nasty.
SkyeDS: the stove had to be cleaned with a wire brush
evile: ew.
SkyeDS: which took off paint, and then it had to be repainted
evile: jeez.
SkyeDS: the inside a/c has not been cleaned in I don't know how long.
evile: sounds really nasty!
SkyeDS: I know my housekeeping standards are not up to yours or my
mother's, but my home is not a health hazard.
SkyeDS: I do not understand how people can live that way.
evile: nope. Me neither.
SkyeDS: you said you tried to get hold of your mom, I take that to
mean you haven't managed to yet?
evile: nope.
SkyeDS: and going is contingent upon?
evile: Well, I'm not a rude jerk, and I don't want to just show up on
a day/time when she's not expecting me. I'm silly like that.
SkyeDS: I thought that was the case. But I don't like making
assumptions, I frequently turn out wrong when I do.
evile: her b-day is monday the 14th, so I was thinking of going up,
taking her out to lunch, nice visit, and then come home.
SkyeDS: I relayed it as tentative hinging on phone contact, so I will
now step out and let the two of you communicate
SkyeDS: :)
evile: I wasn't going to bring it up at all until I know for sure
when/if I'm going....
SkyeDS: I gave it to him as something to think about
SkyeDS: given how he is about plans, sometimes I really don't think
it matters
evile: no point in thinking about it yet, IMO
SkyeDS: lol, well, no problem there, unless one of us brings it up
again, he will forget all about it :)
evile: I just have to find/make time to call again that isn't too
early or too late. I was hoping Nana had an answering machine, but it
just rings & rings.
SkyeDS: he's gotten the same thing
evile: and I hatehatehate talking to her on her cell because it cuts
out all the time.
SkyeDS: <pleads ignorance of cell phones
evile: they suck.
SkyeDS: were it not for sonar0m I would not be able to operate mine at
all
evile: *grin*
SkyeDS: I have mastered making calls and receiving them and one of
the games by myself, and that's it.
evile: *shrug* tha's about all you need, minus the game.
evile: everything else is just fluff.
SkyeDS: oh, and the calculator, I can work the calculator
evile: heh.
evile: well, time for me to head out. Since today was so peaceful,
I'm sure tomorrow will be a zoo here.
SkyeDS: wind to your wings :)
evile: you too. Have a good evening :)