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2917girls night

 

    Feb. 8, 2005

     

     

    we met up at the flightpath, onyxlynxx was leaving as I got there.
    Terriblelynne     & Kulilinei came next, then Nikiyoy. We went out to the patio to talk
    & drink our bevvies. Rkentspeth showed up, and then Ladydreamtime. That was fun &
    interesting. We had a nice visit.

    R brought up an interesting thought re: mom. Would I tell a
    friend the same things I tell her, knowing that my sharing would make
    her uncomfortable?...unfo, I think the answer is yes.

    But I make a distinction between something like T's history of
    abuse making her unwilling to be around discussions or implements of
    bdsm and something like Mom rejecting my Krav Maga or my opinion of
    Rubber_Pig. One seems like a healthy boundary that T has for her own
    protection and well-being, T is not saying "you're sick for
    doing/liking that" she is just saying "I don't want to hear about it"
    whereas Mom's prohibitions come across to me as though I'm being
    judged and found lacking/wrong. and, honestly, I suspect it may not
    be that way at all, but only my own perception.

    Being an adult instead of being her child means that some boundaries
    exist that did not exist in the mother-child relationship. Including
    the child's expectation of unconditional love and support. That's not
    the way grownups relate...

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2918Re: girls night

 

    Feb. 8, 2005

     

    me to onyxlynxx:

    Gals night was really pretty nice. Eventually Terriblelynne
    and Kulilinei showed up, followed by Nikiyoy, and then Rose
    and, finally, Ladydreamtime. Pretty good crowd. I think we all
    had a nice visit.

    Rose actually brought a craft--a Mardi-Gras colored
    afghan that she worked on while we visited. I really
    think Rose needed to get away from her family
    obligations for a while and just relax. She gave me
    some fantastic (if slightly owie) insight into my
    recent estrangement from my mom.

    I'm never sure what Ladydreamtime thinks about things, she
    always seems a little distant or distracted. She
    arrived last and left first, but I hope she had a nice
    time, too.

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