2832Re: so, the weekend. , me to J, plus email from e.

Jan. 18, 2005

 

 

I love 3 day weekends! I had a great time. Yoga on Saturday a.m. with
e. (she is always late, so we don't even sit next to each other,
but whatever...the yoga itself is good for me, so that's fine). the
GWNN party was Saturday night and my friend Sir M (who goes to poly
group also) showed us his collection of toys and later demo'ed them
for me :) And then I got home to find my sweetie still awake & I got
lucky! ;P

Sunday we slept in. Sweetie made breakfast & coffee, and we ran some
errands, then went and saw "Amelie" at the drafthouse downtown Sunday
evening.

Monday I had breakfast & shopped with Aunt L, we went back to her place
to divvy the loot, then we called mom & talked to her for awhile (she
is realizing that Brother A does not recognize her efforts in his
direction, as far as quitting her job & coming to take care of the
new baby, talking about finding something closer so she can be there
for him,etc. Sad but gratifying)

Monday night, we had girls night out with the usual craft nite
bitches, but we went to dinner instead at this family style Italian
place. I never feel that good paying so much for Italian food, since
I can make it so much better & cheaper myself at home. But the
atmosphere was fun, the company was delightful, so I enjoyed that
very much.

As we were wrapping up the bill, Sweetie called & said he and Max were
headed out to Baskin Robbins, since Max wanted 31 scoops of ice cream
for his 31st birthday. I invited the gals to come with, and my friend
Nikiyoy took me up on it, so off we went to celebrate with Max. There
were 7 of us and we actually finished off the giant pile of ice
cream...that was so fun and entertaining. Some of the flavor
combinations (bubble gum and chocolate, strawberry and creme brulee)
were dreadful, but we laughed and ate it anyway. It was a hoot and a
half.

--- e wrote:

> From: "
> <e..
> To: "evilE (
> Subject: yoga
> Date: Mon, 17 Jan 2005 10:38:50 -0600
>
> I thought Saturday's class was amazing! I rode
> afterwards and I felt so
> limber, it was a great ride.
>
> So yoga this Saturday right? It is great, I get to
> do something really good
> for myself and see you! I may try to ride after yoga
> again, do you want to
> do lunch? Like 12:30 or 1pm? Maybe Austin Java?
>

here is my actual reply:

I did not realize that this upcoming weekend is the house & garden
show, so the only thing that would really work for me would be
hitting brunch directly after class.
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but I felt like saying something snarky like "gee, I'd love to starve
for 2 hours waiting for you to go to breakfast with me..."

 

 

2833Re: so, the weekend. , me to J, plus email from e.

 

Jan. 18, 2005
e wrote:

okay maybe brunch the weekend afterwards? I have a
friend in and I am dragging him to yoga :)
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-----Original Message-----
From: evilE 
Sent: Tuesday, January 18, 2005 9:18 AM
To: e.
Subject: RE: yoga


I might be going to San Antonio that day, but if not,
I'll be at Yoga!
==============

ok so yoga Saturday and I will see if I can move some stuff around so
maybe brunch afterwards??? Yeah yoga! I am going to get another 8 or
12 class pass. She is such a good instructor. :)

EJ - online chat w/UB

2836icq w/A

Jan. 18, 2005

 

 

(icq not working anymore?)

evile: happy Tuesday :)
SkyeDS: hola :)
evile: How was your weekend?
SkyeDS: nice, urs?
evile: excellent :)
SkyeDS: :D
evile: We already decided what we're wearing to the next GWNN party :)
SkyeDS: sounds like ya'll have been having a good time, I was reading
evile: yup :)
evile: I think I made good use of my 3 days away from work ;)
SkyeDS: what all did you do? (I haven't read LJ today yet)
evile: yoga, shopping, gwnn party, got lucky, ran errands, saw a
movie with Sweetie, more shopping, talked to mom on the phone, ate good
stuff with cute gals, and then celebrated Max's 31 at Baskin Robbins
with the usual gang o' freaks.
SkyeDS: <makes note of got lucky, which is not something you say (to
me at least) very often
evile: *grinz* I figure it's not really a subject that needs to come
up among family...but you're going to read my LJ post about Saturday
night at some point, so...
SkyeDS: oh that. yes, I read that one. I did read LJ yesterday.
Just not today.
evile: *nod*
evile: did your truck do OK this weekend?
SkyeDS: yepyep
evile: that's good. Was the birthday celebration fun?
SkyeDS: very :)
evile: awesome :)
SkyeDS: I'm going to take the SCA Eq handbook and adapt the games
officially for HFS, and run them in Morconor (Waco)
evile: Oh cool.
evile: OMG, LOL:
TEN COMMANDMENTS: The real reason that we can't have the Ten
Commandments in a Courthouse... you cannot post "Thou shalt not
steal", "Thou shalt not commit adultery", and "Thou shalt not bear
false witness" in a building full of lawyers, judges, and
politicians. It creates a hostile work environment.
SkyeDS: ROFL toof ucking funny!!!
evile: *grinz. * I love LJ.
evile: so...our next GWNN party, we are wearing furs, jewels, and
lingerie.
evile: (assuming the weather is still cold enough by March 19, anyway)
SkyeDS: TX weather who knows
evile: yeah. I'm garnet girl, so I am now in the market for burgundy
underthings.
SkyeDS: victorian burgundy and green :)
evile: that could be pretty :)
evile: One thing I've found in common with all the various hobbies &
groups I have--dressing up :)
SkyeDS: nodnods
evile: I got a nice follow-up email from Sir M, the nice dom who
shared his toys & expertise with us.
SkyeDS: :D
evile: He did his best not to mark me, but I did eventually get a
few bruises.
SkyeDS: price of the games we like to play (no different then the
numerous horse/bird bruises all the time I guess)
evile: heh. I doubt you've ever orgasmed from being bitten or stepped
on by one of your animals, but I do see your point.
evile: I don't like having any imperfections on my skin, so I think
I'll be on the other end of the floggers/paddles/straps/canes/etc
next time.
SkyeDS: I might as well not have an opinion about bruises
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: I have them all the time anyway whether I like it or not
evile: I bruise easy. Which I guess is why I prefer not to be bruised
if I can help it.
SkyeDS: I get these bruises that don't color, you cant' see them
SkyeDS: they hurt like hell
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: then I get big ugly colored ones
SkyeDS: that don't hurt at all mostly
evile: usually if it's a deep bruise, it doesn't show right away, but
it hurts, and by the time the color comes up it is mostly healed.
SkyeDS: problem is, if people cant' see it, they can't avoid it.
evile: yup
evile: Our Dom friend was very careful to avoid any areas we
mentioned as being too painful or tender.
SkyeDS: :)
evile: and when I rated an item as "# ___" in my "not friends" list,
he was quick to move on to a new toy.
SkyeDS: poly people and bdsm people learn the hard way about trust
and communication
evile: some.
SkyeDS: some of us didn't need to learn, goes without saying
SkyeDS: but if you do need to learn, you will learn it t he hard way
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: vanilla mundanes don't always get it in either case, and that
does not help their lack of understandings
evile: Lack of communication skills would be a problem in any
relationship, vanilla or otherwise.
SkyeDS: zactly
SkyeDS: something I tried to impart when doing readings, with who
knows how much success.
evile: well, like you say, some people have to learn the hard way, or
not at all, in some cases.
SkyeDS: I didn't tell them, this is the poly/bdsm discussion c
hecklist, I just went down teh checklist and said, you should discuss
these things
SkyeDS: ie what constitutes cheating
SkyeDS: what do you like/what don't you like
SkyeDS: money issues, etc
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: besides there are lots of marriage counseling books that have
same or similar checklists. I just happened to have those handy.
evile: heh. that's cool.
SkyeDS: but by and large the "I don't understand how that could
possibly work (insert poly, bdsm,w hatever you want in there)" well,
trust and communication. And some just dont' get it
evile: *shrug* Some people don't like chocolate ice cream. It's not a
moral failing. But I guess there are those who say "chocolate ice
cream? that's nasty, who could possibly like such a thing!?" I don't
care what they like or don't like, but I could do without the
judgement.
evile: totally random unrelated thought...I wonder if I'd have better
luck if I called it a "live-it" instead of a "diet"....
SkyeDS: lol worth a try?
evile: *nod*

2837Re: icq w/A

 

Jan. 18, 2005

 

 

(yahoo messenger)

evilE: ICQ totally crapped out on me!!
skye_ds: saw t hat
skye_ds: am tryin gto figure out whether I need to leave here at 3 or
not
skye_ds: supposedly I have a lesson at 4, but I haven't been able to
confirm that, and I"m wondering how a lesson will transpire at 4 if
he's in school
evilE: doesn't school usually let out 3 ish?
skye_ds: don't know. don't know what school he goes to. they move him
around every two weeks
evilE: Sucks not to be able to get ahold of anyone to
confirm the lesson...I guess if there's stuff to be done in the
office that can't wait till tomorrow, stay, but otherwise, go and if
there's not a lesson, enjoy the evening
skye_ds: guess so
evilE: Tina (and other service professionals I know),
charges a fee for missed appointments without 24 hours notice.
evilE: Something to think about, if this sort of thing
becomes common.
skye_ds: in similar fashion, if you don't call and confirm within 24
hours, I just won't be there.
evilE: *nod*
skye_ds: guess imina mosy
skye_ds: <hugs> wind to your wings
evilE: you too, babe! Have fun!

 

2838cool kids

Jan. 18, 2005

 

 

something self righteous and prissy I was going to post in my LJ. I
don't think so.

If you know what it felt like not to be one of the cool kids, seems
like you've got one of 2 options when you finally ARE one of the cool
kids:

• 
  1) invite the uncool kids to be cool to join in and help them feel
  included. (it doesn't bring you DOWN to help others come UP to your
  level. As a matter of fact, doing nice things for people actually
  makes you feel even BETTER)
  
  2) stomp all over the uncool kids, because that's what the cool kids
  did to you when you were uncool. (it makes you feel
  bigger/stronger/smarter to make other people feel
  small/weak/stupid..and sadly, it's only the people who respect you
  and your opinions that you can make feel this way...so do you really
  want to do that to someone who regards you so highly?)
  
  ...
  
  I would like to say I try to always be the #1 cool kid, when I see
  someone feeling uncool and unhappy in a setting where I am cool and
  happy. Being human, and selfish, I'm sure I've missed more than one
  opportunity to recognize an uncool kid feeling bad and help him/her
  out.
  
  I would also say I believe that a majority of social structures make
  it easier, and more accepted, to be the #2 cool kid (fraternities,
  sororities, internships, abused children growing up to become abusers
  to their own children, etc.)
  
  Nothing really made this thought happen, it's been in my head awhile,
  and I wanted to share.