2838cool kids

[evile]

Jan. 18, 2005

 

 

something self righteous and prissy I was going to post in my LJ. I
don't think so.

If you know what it felt like not to be one of the cool kids, seems
like you've got one of 2 options when you finally ARE one of the cool
kids:

• 
  1) invite the uncool kids to be cool to join in and help them feel
  included. (it doesn't bring you DOWN to help others come UP to your
  level. As a matter of fact, doing nice things for people actually
  makes you feel even BETTER)
  
  2) stomp all over the uncool kids, because that's what the cool kids
  did to you when you were uncool. (it makes you feel
  bigger/stronger/smarter to make other people feel
  small/weak/stupid..and sadly, it's only the people who respect you
  and your opinions that you can make feel this way...so do you really
  want to do that to someone who regards you so highly?)
  
  ...
  
  I would like to say I try to always be the #1 cool kid, when I see
  someone feeling uncool and unhappy in a setting where I am cool and
  happy. Being human, and selfish, I'm sure I've missed more than one
  opportunity to recognize an uncool kid feeling bad and help him/her
  out.
  
  I would also say I believe that a majority of social structures make
  it easier, and more accepted, to be the #2 cool kid (fraternities,
  sororities, internships, abused children growing up to become abusers
  to their own children, etc.)
  
  Nothing really made this thought happen, it's been in my head awhile,
  and I wanted to share.