evile: hey :) I was so glad to read that ArgonEric and Kirby had such a
nice time...but now they are second guessing and worrying. I want to
smack them both! :P
Sharjinka: I know what you mean. Three hours! That's really good.
I can't imagine talking to anyone for three hours over dinner.
Sharjinka: I think that's a really good sign.
evile: I know! Me too. I just told them both to keep communicating,
and not to assume the worst right off the bat!
Sharjinka: I saw that. I did the same in an e-mail to ArgonEric. He's so
worried and he really LIKES her. It's like watching school kids
date. ;-)
evile: I know. They've both been hurt, and they act from past
experience rather than what's going on right now...I hope they'll
work through it and keep communicating.
Sharjinka: I do too.
evile: I love my friends; they all deserve to be loved and happy.
Sharjinka: I AGREE!!
Sharjinka: Andrea isn't talking to me. It's been kind of nice. ;-)
evile: Awesome :)
Sharjinka: :-D
evile: I had a really great talk with my stepdad on the way from the
airport; it really strengthened my resolve not to give any more of my
energy to those types of people in life.
Sharjinka: I know what you mean.
Sharjinka: I've noticed some of the kids don't talk to me anymore and
that does make me sad. I don't want to be nasty but I have to wonder
if she said anything to them.
evile: You are better than that. Keep being your sterling self and
eventually the shine will wear off the other and they'll realize that
the base metal underneath isn't worth it...know what I mean?
Sharjinka: Yes. It's happened before. I'm here if they have
questions or want someone to listen. (Chris is still the same, but
Jubilee was staring at me like I was some odd alien creature this
weekend.)
evile: Jubilee is very (insanely) protective of Andrea, for whatever
reasons.
Sharjinka: Insane is a good choice of words.... *TIRED*
evile: she threatened to "lynch" my friend Niki.
Sharjinka: I saw that. I thought she went overboard....
evile: Me too. Her first reply was fine, and if it had been left
there, it would have been fine. but the response to Niki's apology
was obscene.
Sharjinka: I thought so too. Rubbing someone's face in like that.
That was just uncalled for.
evile: You know...when someone says something to you, you're entitled
to be mad, or even think of terrible things to do to them, but you
are NOT entitled to sic your friends on them, or create a situation
where one group of friends fights another. It should be between Niki
an Andrea,and Andrea is trying ot turn it into 'my friends vs your
friends'
evile: Oh well. No more energy to that situation. I have a good life,
good friends, good job, wonderful sweetie, great house, health, love,
happiness....and thats where my focus should be.
Sharjinka: I couldn't believe that myself. *sigh* I agree. We both
have the good life. :-)
evile: I'm so proud of Niki for staying above the fray. She and I
talked it through and she understands the tactics being used and
agrees not to give it any more of her energy. I know it hurt her,
especially to be called names by sineater, but there is not any way to
salvage the situation, so best to walk away.
Sharjinka: I thought it was very mature of her too. I was angry at
sineater for a while, I admit that.
Sharjinka: I wanted to write something but I was afraid it was just
add to the fire....
Sharjinka: I never apologized to Patrick online because I knew he
would rub my nose in it. I offered to talk to him in person two or
three times and he turned me down.
evile: A very wise man once said "With a Self Righteous Skank, you'd
have better chance of driving a
rubber nail into a two-by-four than pounding into their thick skulls
that something is wrong,and that *they're not being persecuted
because they're mystically noble, they're being harangued because
their behavior is appalling."
Sharjinka: What a wise man! ;-)
evile: yup.
Sharjinka: On a much lighter and happier note, JG and I were talking
about seeing Batman Begins on Thursday or Friday. Would you be
interested in joining us?
Sharjinka: We need to move away from the WoW addiction!
evile: eeps....maybe Thursday. I was thinking of going to Fajita
night Thursday evening, but didn't have any solid plans yet. Isn't
Steve's party Friday?
Sharjinka: Yeah....we were thinking an earlier show.....
Sharjinka: We can try for Thursday though.
evile: Oh, well, we could go to the movie and then Steve's party, if
we could get to the theatre early enough. It's your idea, do what you
prefer to do :)
Sharjinka: I'll probably send out an announcement to the Drandmir
list when we get it sorted out.
evile: *nod* cool.
Sharjinka: :-) Poor Pip. I need to go by the vet for him. He has
dandruff!!! ;-)
evile: oh, poor doggie!
Sharjinka: I'm kind of relieved. I thought he had fleas but it turns
out to just be slightly uncomfortable doggie dandruff. That's why
I'm reading the Greyhounds for Dummies book. It had recommendations
on what to do. Vets have a special shampoo / conditioner mix for
it. I just need to pick it up.
Sharjinka: It should clear up in three to six weeks. :-D
evile: sounds like fun!
Sharjinka: It's not bad at all. It's not all over the house or
anything. Jonathan noticed it at the park on Sunday.
Sharjinka: I also have some questions on how to bathe a big dog. We
always had little dogs and I'm not sure how it works with big dogs.
Sharjinka: Do you bathe them outside or do you put them in the tub or
what??
evile: depends on the dog, I think.
Sharjinka: I've already noticed he doesn't like water. The dummy
pee'd on his front leg and I got the hose out before I let him in the
house and he didn't like it.
evile: then probably outside, with his leash tied to something.
otherwise he'll be jumping out of the tub and making a giant mess in
the house shaking off water everywhere.
Sharjinka: Okay. :-) I think I know how I'm going to do this. At
least, it's hot outside. I don't have to worry about him catching
cold.
Sharjinka: Book suggests the tub because of the outdoor
temperatures. They don't have body fat and don't handle extreme
temperatures well. This is going to be a wrestling match.... ;-)
evile: yup. I used to wash our golden retriever in the tub, but she
got arthritis and it got too hard for her to get in and out of the
tub. So then we went to the backyard. and then I had to keep her from
running off to her favorite patch of dirt while she was still wet!
Sharjinka: Wheee!!!!!
evile: I always wore my swimsuit when washing the dog. just easier
that way.
Sharjinka: I think I'll do that too.....
Sharjinka: I have a feeling I'm going to get wet.....
evile: yup!
Sharjinka: Oh, well.
evile: welcome to dog ownership :P
Sharjinka: YAY..... wow....
evile: I know...it's a lot of responsibility & work, too.
Sharjinka: I know. I'm glad I was a bit prepared going in. :-)
Sharjinka: I put off adopting a dog for a long time because I wanted
to make sure my home was okay for it.
evile: it definitely helps to be as prepared as possible...especially
the big dog
Sharjinka: Yep, yep.
evile: A. is still after me about the whole Nikiyoy thing. I don't
know what the fuck she wants from me.
Sharjinka: Why??? Did you talk to her about it???
evile: on ICQ
evile: SkyeDS: did you see what I posted for your benefit and Onyxlynxx's
in my LJ yesterday?
evile: saw it. you & I have already discussed this via ICQ, and I
feel like I've said all that is productive to say. Whatever goes
forward from this should be between you and Nikiyoy
SkyeDS: right
Sharjinka: Smart thing to say.
evile:
SkyeDS: that was my final word on it, and I thought you might like to
know, because as far as I'm concerned, that's the end of that
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: I wanted to ease whatever awkwardness was there.
evile: *shrug* this shouldn't be a 'my friends vs her friends' gang
style encounter, and as far as I'm concerned it's not going to be.
SkyeDS: it made onyxlynxx feel better, and that was a good thing.
evile: good.
Sharjinka: I really don't like her pulling others into her
discussions with others.
evile: nope. I hate it. And I am NOT picking up sides. I just wish
she'd understand that some of my friends aren't going ot like her,
and that's just life, and I"'m not going to pick sides and fight with
anyone.
Sharjinka: It just seems like such a....uhm....defamation of
character thing.
evile: exactly.
evile: SkyeDS: was hoping it would help you rest easier too
evile: We talked it out in ICQ already.
SkyeDS: nods, but the last I remember you saying was the word awkward
SkyeDS: so I wanted no more awkward
evile: *turns off teh switch* Better?
SkyeDS: if that was the awkward switch yes.
evile: sorry I don't work that way...but if people will quit poking
hte sore spot it will eventually heal on its own.
evile: SkyeDS: I think accepting an apology is necessary to start
healing a sore spot. Shouldn't leave one hanging, you either accept
it or not.
evile: it is/was between YOU and NIKIyoy. you and Nikiyoy have traded
apologies, it's over. Quit trying to prod me about it. I like you
both, it bothered me that you were at odds, give me a while and I'll
get over it.
Sharjinka: HeeHee...
Sharjinka: She is somewhat annoying and persistent about it!
evile: yup.
evile: After all her boo hoo about how you wouldn't stop bothering
her about the horses, when she wanted to disengage, then she does the
same to m e.
evile: evile: (this is me trying to disengage and change the
subject, please do NOT back me into a corner. bygones. over. no more.)
SkyeDS: fine, whatever
evile: vile: I will not pick sides, I willnot fight with youon her
behalf, i will not fight with her on your behalf. It was between you
and her.
SkyeDS: fine whatever = disengaging
evile: there is/was nothing to apologize to *me* for.
SkyeDS: I don't remember offering an apology
evile: there is/was nothing to post to LJ to me about, then.
SkyeDS: I remember accepting an apology offered to me, because I feel
it necessary to accept one or not, but not leave one hanging, the
person who apologized deserves as much
evile: evile: *nod* that was graciously done.
SkyeDS: and because you mentioned things being awkward, I thought
they might be less awkward if you were aware of said acceptance
SkyeDS: it was, as stated, merely an FYI, requiring no response on
your part, I just wanted to be sure you saw it
evile: Ok. saw it. let's talk about something else now.
SkyeDS: again, fine, whatever.
evile: evile: I had a nice 4 day weekend, a nice trip to Indiana & a
good visit w/my folks. Definitely a good way to step back and re-
assess my priorities in life.
SkyeDS: I'm sorry if I miscommunicated what I was after there, I
wanted a simple yes or no, you saw the fyi or you didn't.
SkyeDS: no discussion was intended.
evile: I saw it. I didn't feel any post on LJ was needed because you
and I had discussed it on ICQ already.
SkyeDS: I didn't expect a post
evile: Ok.
SkyeDS: boss gone, time to eat, brb
evile: OK
evile: dumb bitch.
evile: I really don't have any idea what she wants/wanted from me.
Sharjinka: Really!
Sharjinka: I can't believe anyone can drag something out like that!
evile: I''m not going to applaud and tell her what a great person she
is for accepting an apology (after siccing her friends on Nikiyoy first)
evile: And especially since the acceptance was so completely
ungracious and cut and pasted from some self-help blather somewhere.
Sharjinka: I totally agree and like I said...I knew Patrick's friends
would tear me apart so I refused to do it. I was only an arrogant
bitch for not apologizing publicly to him. I can live with that. ;-)
evile: exactly. I hate it when people shove your words back in your
teeth when you're trying to make things right. Fuck that and fuck
them.
Sharjinka: Absolutely! :-)
evile: I'm not going to tell her she's right. I'm not going to tell
her what a great person she is. I'm not going to take her side
against Nikiyoy's. It's not between me and her, it's betwen her and
Nikiyoy, and I don't want to hear about it, but that's all she fuckin'
wants to talk about.
Sharjinka: That would annoy me so much. I remember she annoyed me so
much, I told her I had to run errands and I got out of ICQ for the
rest of the day.
evile: to me when you get to the point where some of your friends
don't like other of your friends, you just DONT TALK ABOUT the
people that they don't like...makes sense to me.
Sharjinka: I know. I have trouble NOT talking about CB to his
friends. I try really hard not to trash talk about him in front of
his friends but it does hurt sometimes. *sigh* Older = slightly
more mature
evile: yup. seems to me that when you have a lot of positive things
and good friends in common, it would just be easier to talk about
those, and not dwell on the unpleasant stuff.
Sharjinka: I can be immature when my feelings are hurt. I've noticed
I can still be petty about it. I just try not to be petty to his
friends. They are so nice in that they are sympathetic about it.
evile: *nod*
evile: I'm sympathetic too...Nikiyoy nevrer should have said what she
said...but the response she got was like shooting a biting mosquito
with a machine gun. Neither were in the right.
Sharjinka: One girl even told me it hurts worse to be rejected by a
nice guy because it makes you wonder what is wrong with you when a
nice guy doesn't want you. She understood exactly how I felt and
she felt that CB was really missing out. I thought that was
extremely nice of her to say.
Sharjinka: That's true. The response to it was terrible.
evile: that really was!
Sharjinka: Overkill!!!!
evile: yup.
evile: very poor behavior on everyon'es part, I was very disappointed
in everyone.
evile: But Nikiyoy apologized and got over it...and apparently sineater is
over it, so the only person still crazed is skye_ds...and it's just
getting old.
Sharjinka: She always seems to behave like this. I wish she'd move
on.
evile: nope. It just isn't in her. She just keeps doing the same shit
over and over, wherever she goes. I can't believe those closest to
her can't see the cycle ofb ehavior.
Sharjinka: I know I did but I tried to be somewhat friendly. I
didn't like how she handled situations though.
evile: Me neither.
Sharjinka: *sigh* I was very happy to lose contact with her for
several years.
evile: yup. Hopefully she'll get sucked into SCA and won't do HFS
anymore. It's that whole big fish/small pond thing, though..she feels
more rare & important at HFS than she is at SCA.
Sharjinka: It seems to me she's ignored in both groups.
evile: as much as people can, yeah.
Sharjinka: I'm surprised she doesn't pick up on that.
evile: neither she and sineater are particularly good at picking up
social cues.
evile: I've always suspected sineater was mildly autistic. Aspergers,
maybe.
evile: I've seen her start talking, keep talking for the longest
time, people start looking away and starting other conversations and
she keeps telling her story long after no one is making eye contact
or looking at her.
Sharjinka: Yeah....social cues seem very difficult for them.
Sharjinka: I've done that to her. I've even looked at her and
said "please excuse me...I have to go."
evile: For her, I don't think it's autism, but...who knows. She's
very into 'performing' rather than 'interacting'. Even when you nod
and try to say something along the lines of what she's talking about,
she doesn't respond, she just starts another story.
evile: talking online with her is easier, because then at least I
have the illusion that she's 'listening' or paying attention to what
I have to say, instead of just putting on a show.
Sharjinka: I've noticed that.
Sharjinka: That's why MOST of HFS doesn't really talk to her.
evile: it's frustrating. We have things in common, you'd think we'd
be able to get along and do stuff together, but we can't.
Sharjinka: It's certainly NOT your fault. She's just not somebody
you can do that with. As you said, she's a performer. She doesn't
even try to get along with others in a social give and take kind of
way.
evile: I know what sineater and sonar0m think they get out of it, I just
cant' see why Jubilee hangs around.
Sharjinka: Jubilee doesn't have the best home life and she respects
strong female figures.
Sharjinka: She also latches on loyally to people.
evile: that's really too bad.
evile: loyalty is a wonderful quality. But it's good if what you're
loyal to is worth that loyalty.
Sharjinka: Yeah.... She also doesn't seem to think a situation
through thoroughly.
evile: *nod*
Sharjinka: Blindly loyal and devoted....
evile: I guess she's a drama junkie, too. So being around someone who
is so strongly polarized is probably a good source for her.
Sharjinka: She is fairly dramatic.
evile: yup.
Sharjinka: *sigh*
evile: yup.
evile: there aren't many strong women at HFS. Thats why A. finds such
easy prey...and another reason why she stays.
Sharjinka: I did wonder about Jubilee's odd looks on Sunday. *sigh*
I just didn't have time to talk to her.
Sharjinka: I don't come across too strong, I don't think.
evile: *shrug* Jubilee is going to believe who and what she wants to
believe. I don't think there's much you can do. Time will take care
of things, I think.
evile: but you have been with HFS for a long time, so that makes you
a strong figure in the HFS, IMHO.
Sharjinka: Thank you. I don't plan to say much. I figure if there
are questions, I'll deal with them when they get asked.
evile: *nod* My friend mouser had a great article on how to keep
trolls out of your group. skye_ds uses a lot of troll tactics.
Sharjinka: Damn.... I wish she wouldn't. She reminds me of Cathy a
bit.
evile: *nod* that 'poor helpless me' vibe.
Sharjinka: I have noticed I REALLY react strongly against that.
evile: me too.
Sharjinka: At least with skye_ds you can see it coming a bit. I didn't
know until I walked into a room and was treated like a criminal that
anything had been done.
evile: that SUCKS.
Sharjinka: Yep. I managed to do my strong, tough act and then got
home and cried about it.
Sharjinka: I sometimes see the look CB gave me in my mind's eye when
he thought I had threatened her and it still hurts a bit.
evile: yeah. that's the worst thing...trolls take a small thing and
turn it into something bigger. at the core there may be a small
kernel of truth (you're a physically powerful woman...which gets
turned into you're a woman who could hurt her which then mutates into
you DID threaten it.)
Sharjinka: Yeah....I was very unprepared for what happened. At least
with A, I know it! ;-)
evile: yup
Sharjinka: Do you have a digital camera??
evile: yes, somewhere.
Sharjinka: Okay.
evile: http://esoterica.bichaunt.org/
Go down to 'trollspotting'
evile: "Trolls love to tell tales "in confidence", and can invent
convincing reasons why the members of the group shouldn't talk to
each other or to the Leaders about these tall tales."
Sharjinka: I'm reading the story of the adopted troll.
Sharjinka: Hmmmmm..... ;-)
evile: HFS seems fairly vulnerable to trolls due to the non
communication between various groups & kingdoms, and the youth of the
members.
Sharjinka: I agree that's true and I've seen it happen....
evile: When mouser was one of the people in charge of poly group, we
had less trollage. We seem to get more now.
evile: We are pretty good at keeping them out on our own, as a group.
We are all mature adults, with excellent communication skills, so
that keeps down the potential damage a troll can do.
evile: I personally need to work on not feeding the trolls.
Sharjinka: I think I do to.
Sharjinka: They really seem angry when I actually show backbone.
evile: they use your good nature against you. You want to be fair, do
the right thing, get to understand one another...and all of those
things just give the trolls more ammo to use against you. They use
your own good heart against you. that's what infuriates me most about
them.
Sharjinka: Yes, I know. I had to (and still do) work hard to be
fair. My background is not the best and suddenly....it was used
against me in a way I never thought it would be.
evile: yup
Sharjinka: When she told me that she would make sure they would take
her word over some scum, gang member, I almost lost it. (Not
violent....just tearing up and such.) I spent over 20 years trying
to move away from that....
evile: yeah.
Sharjinka: I'm rather up front about it because if I mess up or I do
something wrong...I'm responsible for my actions, of course. But I'm
still learning. People are still teaching me.....and it has taken me
a long time. I still cuss and drink. ;-) It's built into the
package. I just don't do it as much as I used to. ;-)
evile: yup.
Sharjinka: The troll that came into our group and convinced them that
she was a victimized princess really made me sick.
evile: Eventually, though...actions do speak louder than words. On
one hand you have Sharjinka, who is honest to the point of being
blunt, who does what she says she is going to do, and is always
consistent. And then you have this other person who says she's
forgiving and kind hearted and always interested in hearing what
others have to say....and when it becomes obvious that she is NOT
what she says she is, the decent folk are vindicated.
Sharjinka: Yes....it was terribly relieving to hear Katie say "how
could we ever take her word over yours? You should've spoken up,
doofus." It doesn't sound really nice but it made me laugh and cry
at the same time. (Thanks for all the compliments. Blunt. That's
MEEEEEE!!! :-)
evile: yeah. I admire people who are who and what they say they are.
As hard as it is to be yourself and be true to yourself, you always
walk that path.
evile: I am very quick to judge and it takes me a long time to
forgive or change my mind...but I have to say...my judgement is about
99%.
Sharjinka: Thank you. There are still some things I wish I could
change.... I swore I would NEVER fight again when I moved down
here.... and I still did. *sigh* Not only that, I played street
basketball for years. *sigh* I missed my....people from where I
used to live.
Sharjinka: I agree! You're an excellent judge of character.
Sharjinka: You really know what you're talking about. I loved the
advice you gave ArgonEric. That was right on!!
evile: I hope it wasn't too harsh.
evile: I am very blunt...I try to be tactful, sometimes it doesn't
work.
Sharjinka: I thought it was the perfect thing to say. I know it'll
put his mind at ease!!
evile: I hope so. I really would like to see them both happy.
Sharjinka: :-) I hope so too....
evile: and, ya know...I've found that I can soften my approach
without compromising my Self. I can still make snap judgements and be
harsh...but no reason to do it out loud and alienate people. :P
Sharjinka: Yep. I try to hold back myself a bit. :-D
evile: A's still not back from lunch. I guess she's mad at me again.
Oh, foo.
Sharjinka: Long lunch.
Sharjinka: Maybe you'll be lucky and get the silent treatment. ;-)
evile: I don't really give a shit....I didn't do anything wrong. I
need to get better at not letting her push my buttons. I need to
say "OK, we're not talking a bout that anymore" and then NOT talk
about it.
Sharjinka: It wasn't really your fault. She's the one that kept
dwelling on it.
evile: she keeps trying to sic sineater on me and I keep telling sineater
that if there is something I have said or done to HIM, I'll talk
about it, but otherwise, I am not interested, and that keeps shutting
him down. I hate to be that way with him, but I am not going to fight
with him about her.
evile: I'm better at not letting sineater push my buttons. I guess
because we've known each other longer.
Sharjinka: I can understand that. I really do think that's the
smartest way to handle it.
evile: yup.
Sharjinka: I didn't handle the situation with Cathy very well and CB
and I were never the same after that.
Sharjinka: I was so upset but she followed through on that and it
ended just as she said it would.
evile: *nod* it's hard. especially when it comes clear out of the
blue. I am slowly but surely learning with skye_ds.
evile: it no longer surprises me when my efforts at kindness get me
bit on the butt....but I do keep getting bit in the butt.
Sharjinka: I saw skye_ds coming a mile away and avoided her. Cathy was
cute and delicate. She was very nice to my face. I really got roped
in. ;-)
evile: *nod* Lucky for us, skye_ds is not that skilled at manipulating
people. She's pretty good, but not perfect.
Sharjinka: I don't know.... After Cathy....skye_ds seems pretty clumsy to
me. ;-)
evile: yup. Cathy sounds like a real pro.
Sharjinka: She really was.
Sharjinka: Now....maybe you understand why I was actually frightened
at the skating rink. ;-)
Sharjinka: My hands were still shaking slightly when I got home.
evile: yeah.
Sharjinka: It was a real scary experience for me.
evile: I'm sure. we had a mid-management person here who was like
that, and I was terrified of her.
evile: I'm still finding little landmines she left for me, she's been
gone for a couple years now.
Sharjinka: I'm so glad that I took the action I did which was not
doing anything. Cathy kind of self destructed herself with her lies
and manipulation. The boys in Drandmir pretty much hate her.
evile: yeah. sometimes the best thing to do is just lay low until the
person blows up on their own. You hate to sit there and wait, knowing
that your reputation is being destroyed in the meantime...but a good
troll can twist anything you say and do to fit their story.
Sharjinka: Yep. I tried to talk to CB about it once when I just
couldn't take it anymore. I still can't talk about what was said
exactly. Just hurt like hell and I gave up.
Sharjinka: I never thought he'd believe that about me because I
thought we were good friends. She managed to make him believe it.
evile: *hugs*
Sharjinka: *hugs* I try not to dwell on it too much. I was sorry to
lose CB over it but at least, I didn't lose everyone.
evile: yeah. it still sucks...but yeah, it could have been lots worse.
Sharjinka: Yes, very true.
evile: it's like a witch hunt...they set up situations to where no
matter what you do or say, it 'proves' you guilty.
evile: I'm to the point with [brother A] and the Pig that I figure If I get
to be the villain no matter what, why do anything? And I'm getting
closer to that with sineater and skye_ds.
Sharjinka: Yeah....I can understand that.
evile: Just disengage completely....and realize that it's my
brothers' choice to stay in that miserable looney bin cesspit.
evile: I can't help them or save them, and if I stick around and get
involved, I could end up in there too. So...not worth it.
Sharjinka: I agree. It's sad and horrible....but sometimes if you
try to help....people just move further away from you.
evile: I quit responding to her LJ posts, because every time I'd
respond, sineater would call me and yell at me for my opinions. I guess I
am going to have to quit talking to her in ICQ too. I figured we had
enough in common we could just stick to those topics, but if we
can't, we can't.
Sharjinka: Yeah, makes sense.
evile: I have her and sineater locked out of most of my LJ posts these
days. And poor little Malamorf [sonar0m] was never 'in' on any of them in the
first place.
Sharjinka: I will always feel sorry for that kid.
evile: me too...
evile: but, legally, he's an adult and can make his own choices in
life, too.
evile: His parents really tried....
Sharjinka: I know.
evile: At some point, I guess the parents just have to let go and
realize they did their best, time to let him go and make his own
mistakes in life.
Sharjinka: Yes, that's true but it's still sad.
evile: yup. sineater's dad and I talked about all that this weekend. It's
hard to see a guy that big and strong hurt so much.
Sharjinka: Poor guy!!
evile: I could kill A and the pig for that alone, not to even mention
all the other damage they've done to this family.
Sharjinka: *sigh* It is just terrible.....I can believe it.
evile: but, you know...we go on with our lives. We don't give our
energy to those people. We spend time with people we love, we do
things we enjoy, we are here when we are called, but until then, we
aren't going to waste our energy on them.
Sharjinka: Makes sense.
evile: that's his take on things, anyway. He and my mom have been
doing art together, and spending good quality time with their "empty
nest, " and living well.
Sharjinka: That's cool. My parents are enjoying each other's company
since my Dad's retirement.
evile: that's awesome. :)
Sharjinka: :-)
evile: seeing that makes me hopeful for my own future :) I hope Sweetie
and I have that much love for each other when we're 50+
Sharjinka: I know what you mean. I find my parents inspiring. Even
though they joke and such.
evile: yeah. My mom & stepdad have big fights at times...but they
stick together and work it out. that's important to see.
Sharjinka: Yep. I'm glad they work it out.
evile: The world is mostly a beautiful place. It doesn't hurt anyone
to appreciate that fact, and it doesn't help them to dwell on the sad
things of this world. So may as well do your best to be a good person
and make a good life for yourself and your loved ones.
Sharjinka: Very true!!
evile: it's just something I need to keep remembering. :)
Sharjinka: Yeah....me too. Did you go skating last night?
evile: No. My plane got in at 10:30. Next week is full moon in the
yard (you're invited, BTW. skye_ds and sineater are NOT). So maybe I'll go the 28th
Sharjinka: I might go. Full moon on the stream sounds so fantastic.
evile: You're more than welcome. I'll try to post an update & info
soon. Maybe another evite link to the elite non-drama folks.
Sharjinka: Thanks. :-)
evile: I always like having people over. Especially when they're COOL
people.
Sharjinka: Thanks. I love hanging out with you and the other cool
folks. ;-) They are just so interesting to talk to.
evile: Yeah. I'm so blessed; I have a lot of cool friends.
Sharjinka: They are so neat. I'm hoping to get bold enough to ask
questions soon. I'm really interested....
evile: heehee. I know what you mean :)
Sharjinka: They have a different lifestyle and I'm afraid I might
come off as offensive.
evile: I doubt it. Unless you just pipe right up with "so, what gets
you off?"
Sharjinka: Oh.... geez!! I don't think so!!
evile: Onyxlynxx said some guy at a happy hour just popped up with that
one. I think as long as you can keep from saying that, you'll be
fine :P
Sharjinka: Okay. I think I can manage to word questions a bit better
than that.
evile: I figured you could!
Sharjinka: :-)
evile: Most of my friends are pretty open. and if they don't want to
answer, they will say so, and no big deal.
Sharjinka: That's good. Sometimes my curiosity gets the best of me.
I try to word it as best I can.
evile: I think if people are open enough in conversation to let on
that they are unconventional, they are open enough to answer
questions about it.
evile: especially if it's someone they've met before, who isn't just
some anonymous pervert that showed up once, or whatever.
Sharjinka: I hope so. :-)
evile: I think so.
evile: people usually like to talk about themselves, as long as they
feel their 'audience' isn't hostile.
Sharjinka: True.
Sharjinka: I'm going to go catch the bus. Laters!!
evile: Ok. *hugs* laters!
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