3043 [brother A] - crap hitting the fan re: Paulie

Mar. 23, 2005

 

 

evile wrote,
@ 2005-03-22 10:55:00

Current mood: blank

The phone calls last night from both brothers? You called it--useless
pointless drama!

Several months ago, The Pig insisted on moving them into an apartment
that didn't take pets. The problem with that is that my brother [brother A]
had a dog at the time, who was pretty much a member of the family &
her children loved, bla bla.

The dog was a pretty pitiful specimen--[brother A] adopted him when he was
living in New Mexico, living with a woman who had several dogs, and
the dog grew up roaming free over several acres with about 4 other
dogs. When [brother A] moved him to Austin, he was an only dog in a house
and a backyard. He was scared to go outside, he was scared to be on a
leash, he was pretty miserable until he moved to San Antonio and the
children became his new pack.

The Pig was making noises that sounded to me like she was going to
get the dog put down, and then of course that could be a nice big
guilt-chip to play against [brother A] anytime things got bad. You know she
would have found some way to twist it around and make it [brother A]'s fault.

So in desperation & perhaps an attempt at making common cause with my
brother sineater and his wife, I asked for their help to find the dog a
home. Turns out that they have a neighbor with 4 or 5 dogs, and
acreage, so we talked among ourselves, and worked out a plan with
[brother A], he would bring the dog to my aunt & uncle's in Austin, and then
sineater would stop by and pick up the dog and take him to Rockdale and
the cool neighbors.

sineater and his wife [told me that they] told my brother [brother A] that this
was a permanent situation, that the neighbors were adopting the dog,
and [brother A] agreed, apparently feeling at that time that a live dog you
can visit is better than nothing.

I made contact with the neighbor lady, promising to pitch in for vet
expenses. She took him in for a checkup later that week, got him
caught up on shots, and turns out the dog was riddled with heartworms.

I sent off a money order, the dog was treated, and a couple days
later he disappeared. Heartworm medicine is poison, and the dead
worms can clog the veins and arteries and kill an animal...I fear the
worst, but I don't really know.

A couple months after that, [brother A] started calling sineater and talking
like he wanted the dog back. sineater didn't know what to say, so didn't
say anything.

Apparently, it was decided by my mom and stepdad that it would be
better to tell [brother A] that the dog was dead, rather than disappeared.

And apparently sineater told [brother A] last night that very thing. So that
went over badly and now sineater and [brother A] are both calling me.

I have no doubt that it will all become my fault, and the dogs
disappearance/death will be on my hands. I find it rather hard to
care, honestly. And I'm not calling either of them back. I get to be
the big bag of shit no matter what I do, so may as well make the
least amount of effort.

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nikiyoy
2005-03-22 19:09 (link) Select
*hugs* ....It's sad that they need to find things to have drama
about.. it seems like they are scraping the barrel here.


bramblekite
2005-03-22 20:50 (link) Select
Good timing on all of that--my aunt & her friend are going to San
Antonio for the day today, were going to drop by the apartment
(management of which STILL doesn't allow pets, BTW, so why the HELL
is this coming up now??) to drop off easter baskets for the children
and run...now that will turn into a "how could you do that to my dog,
how could you let THEM do that to my dog? wah wah!" session if my
Aunt isn't careful. (she got a psych degree, she can take care of
herself. I'm not too worried)

And of course my stepdad is in Houston Monday-Wednesday trying like
hell to get his mother's legal affairs and bills and whatnot in order
so he isn't going to want to hear all of this hysterical phone
calling from his sons over the damn dog.

And of course either/both brother may know that Mom and stepdad are
planning a nice stress-free couple of days at my house, so let's go
ahead and ruin THAT too while we're at it...

AND ITS ALL evilE'S FAULT!!!!!

Fuck. Me. Runnin.

onyxlynxx
2005-03-22 20:51 (link) Select
*hugs* No good deed seems to go unpunished with this group.


yup
bramblekite
2005-03-22 20:58 (link) Select
Sometimes the only sane response is withdrawal.

I am cleaning house & enjoying the sun and breezes; this too shall
pass.

kulilinei
2005-03-22 21:09 (link) Select
Sounds like a script from the Fox TV series "Arrested Development"...

***hugs***

ya know
bramblekite
2005-03-22 22:41 (link) Select
I wondered why I disliked that show so much...
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evile (bramblekite) wrote,
@ 2005-03-22 21:30:00
Current mood: crappy


It is as I assumed it would be: a Situation created in which my
brother [brother A] feels betrayed by his birth family and cuts them out of
his life. It didn't have to be the dog, it would have been something
else if that hadn't been so convenient.

I got a call from [brother A] on my home answering machine about 6pm
(luckily we were not home--on our way to dinner with Peglegasus at the time)
and the gist of it is "You've been making assumptions and talking
behind my back, I don't want you or anyone else in my family involved
with me anymore. Don't call me. I am not speaking to you anymore"
(more swear words than that, but there ya go.)

Interestingly, "Skye" called both my cell (with her cell--that's
NEVER happened before) and also left a message on the home phone
sometime after [brother A]'s call and before I got home this evening 9-
ish. "just wanting to check in"...this woman NEVER EVER calls me.
EVer. She has sineater call me to ask me stuff for her; I think this is
the second time in the entire time she's been with sineater that she has
actually picked up a phone and called me with her own hands.

I suspect that whatever conversation [brother A] and sineater had last night
(and maybe another one today?), I got painted in a very unsavory
light, indeed, thanks to the helpful background noise of Symmastia
NightmareScreecher.

So that puts me down one brother, and if I don't jump through the
next hoop very carefully, I suppose I'll be on the outs with both of
them.

Then again, inaction seems to be gaining me as much or more than
actually doing anything or calling anyone, so really, why should I
actually WORK at being the bad guy in all of this ridiculous garbage?

I called my Aunt this evening, and she said that [brother A] called her
earlier and started yelling and swearing at her (while holding
rubber_pig's newborn) and since she didn't want to hear it, and didn't
think it was good for the baby to hear all of that, she hung up.

Apparently, my mom & stepdad were going from his mom's house in
Houston to San Antonio so my stepdad could see the baby on Thursday,
and then to Austin to stay with me Thursday evening, Friday, and then
leave Saturday morning. Now, thanks to me, the dog-killer, Stepdad is
no longer welcome in their home and can't see the baby.

I love how this is all my fault. They were going to take the goddamn
dog to the fucking pound, and I at least saw to it that the dog's
last days were in an environment where he was comfortable, happy,
running with a pack, well-cared-for by people, etc.

*sigh*

In the good news, I am almost done cleaning house. The master bath
needs some work, the kitchen still needs mopped & swept (that's for
tomorrow evening), and hopefully Sweetie will at least get his stuff
that is on the dining table put away so Mom & stepdad will have a
place to sit and have coffee, or whatever, while they're here.

3044Sweetness from Zenrhino

 

Mar. 23, 2005

 

 

02:43 pm March 22nd, 2005
frozenrhino

While I'm Thinking About It...

Amateur Living Will, ala Rhino:

As a paramedic, I learned there are Four kinds of dead:

Not Dead -- pulse, respiration, enough cognitive function to know
better than to vote Republican. But that doesn't count as dead.

Dead -- no pulse, no respiration. This can be fixed given a little
luck, knowledge, and good timing.

Really Dead -- no pulse, no respiration, no way to get them back
short of Miracles of Modern Medicine from guys for whom an MD was
just a walk in the park.

Extremely Dead -- no pulse, no respiration, and the parts it takes to
get and keep them going are missing, destroyed, or long past the
point of function. This includes people who look Not Dead but
aren't, such as that political football of a woman in Florida.

You have my permission to keep me from being dead.
You even have my permission to move me from Really Dead to Dead to
Not Dead, but not if it involves some big pain in the ass reversal of
my own stupidity (liver or heart transplant, etc.)

Having said that....

Any of you motherfuckers (or anyone else, for that matter) tries to
keep me alive when my brain is dead or the rest of me is Extremely
Dead, I'm going to come back as a herpes virus and give you weeping
sores on your junk so bad you'll never get to come again and every
time you piss it'll be like the electric chair.

And then when I die as a herpes virus, I'm coming back as a cat and
taking big runny shits in your kids' sandbox.

And then when I die as a cat, I'm coming back as a yeast infection so
bad you'll be praying to Poppin Fresh for mercy.

And then when I die as a yeast infection, I'm coming back as a shark and eating
your children. Live in Indiana? I don't care. LANDSHARK.

When I go, it'll be from cholesterol poisoning or a jealous husband,
and both of them are deaths I've earned.

Even if it's some random and comedically tragic thing like getting
stomped to death by a moose or choking to death on a piece of sushi
or getting splatted by space junk or being ripped apart in a paper
recycling shredder or being slowly eaten alive by a flesh-eating
virus, just let it happen. I'm a fucking BUDDHIST. I'll be back in
fourty-someodd days whether you like it or not. I sure the fuck
won't hit nirvana this life time.

Don't keep the grumpy Buddhist from his next life.

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From: bramblekite
Date: March 23rd, 2005 - 05:01 am
hell yeah

You should get "I'm a fucking BUDDHIST." tatooed somewhere, just so
medical staff will know what to do with ya.

*hugs & kisses* I don't like to think of the world without you in it,
my friend.

From: frozenrhino Date: March 23rd, 2005 - 10:52 pm
Re: hell yeah

You either! *smooch*

3045fun wickedness

Mar. 23, 2005

 

Sharjinka (sharjinka) wrote,
@ 2005-03-23 07:24:00

Current mood: annoyed

Smoking rant..... :-/
I recently had someone tell me that they have every right to smoke
and they knew they could get lung cancer and it was up to them, not
me.

You are so right! You can do that. However....you do not smoke in my
house, asshole. That's my call.

After I told the person I had worked at the Amercian Cancer Society
for ten months, he apologized. I wanted to really go off on him. I
wanted to say, "Yeah....you know how many people I spoke with that
wanted to smoke and live as they want, and now they were diagnosed
with lung cancer and had less than six months and wanted to know if
there was anything else they could do." Why were they calling ACS?
They had six months left to live. They did what they wanted to do,
right? They smoked what they wanted. I suppose the whole lung cancer
and death thing was supposed to happen to someone else, not them.

I remember a lady at ACS lost it and had to spend a few hours in the
room for crying because some young person had called. They were going
to die and they were poor. They wanted to know how to make funeral
arrangements because they had no close family.

Yeah....smoke all you want. It is your choice. It is MY choice not to
allow smoking in my house and not to give you money to support your
habit.

Here is a little something about cloves (scroll down):

http://www.cancer.org/docroot/PED/content/PED_10_2X_Child_and_Teen_Tob
acco_Use.asp?sitearea=PED

You'd be surprised how often I hear that cloves have flavor and
aren't as bad for you. Clove may have flavor, but they still have
nicotine and you can still get cancer. But hey....whatever helps you
sleep at night.....

As for cigars....I had someone tell me that cigars aren't as bad
because they smoked them in lower quantities. Okay....one cigar
equals seven cigarettes. You smoke two...you've already smoked half a
pack of cigarettes. Way to go.

Whatever.

Lie to yourself if it helps. Just don't lie to me. I've spoken to
people dying from them. And when I call back three months later for a
follow up, they're gone.

Don't expect my support if you smoke. I love you enough to worry
about your smoking. But hey...your life. Do what you want.

---------------------------------------------------

cloves
bramblekite
2005-03-23 05:55 (link)
rock on,girlfriend.

I only smoke cloves when I'm feeling really wicked...and I know they
make my lungs bleed. Go big or stay home, that's what I say. I will
not bitch to you if I end up dying from it. :P

Re: cloves
sharjinka
2005-03-23 06:17 (link)
I try really hard to respect personal freedoms, but a personal
freedom that could end up killing you?? It just makes me sad. People
are allowed to smoke outside at my place and I do try to resepct
them. I just wish they would think about it.

You are so wicked!! ;-D But there are naughty things that are more
rewarding, aren't there??? ;-D

You can bitch to ACS if you want. It's what they're there for but
they can only do so much..... :-D

Re: cloves
bramblekite
2005-03-23 06:30 (link)
Everything has a risk - alcohol, caffeine, sugar, fat, running,
driving, hiking, camping, sex, walking across the street...one of
these days, something you've chosen to do will kill you. Life is
fatal. Anyway, as Redd Foxx said - "you sure would feel dumb at the
end of your life, sittin' there dyin' from NOTHIN'."

When I meet someone who is addicted to smoking (as opposed to someone
like me who smokes occasionally, maybe 4 a year) it grosses me out.

Sweetie smoked from age 15 to age 28, and he kicked the habit. I am
proud of him for that.

Oh, BTW, It's YOUR house, if someone can't control their addiction
long enough to be in your home and abide by your house rules, maybe
they should not visit. (and, yes, there are PLENTY of vrey rewarding
wicked things to do that don't pollute other people's air!)

Re: cloves
sharjinka
2005-03-23 06:39 (link)
My Dad was given the "quit smoking or die" from his doctor. After
more than 25 years of smoking, he quit. I was so proud. He told me
later he quit because he didn't want the nieces to see him smoking
and think that it was okay. I thought that was an awesome reason to
quit. Why was it okay for me to see it?? ;-D

We have a professor here who smokes so much that I CANNOT be in an
enclosed space like my office or mailroom with him. His clothes smell
so bad! Another downside to smoking - really BAD SMELL!!! ;-D
Ewwwwwww!!!!!

If I die from nothing, I am going to be upset with myself. ;-D

I also have my addictions which are bad: caffeine and chocolate.
That's why I gave up sodas for Lent. I was trying to deal with the
caffeine addiction. ;-D I need a better diet!!!


Re: cloves
sharjinka
2005-03-23 06:40 (link)
Please list the rewarding wicked things so that I can consider trying
them. ;-D

Re: cloves
bramblekite
2005-03-23 07:26 (link)
mmm....wickedness

Godiva chocolate (especially truffles!!)

really good coffee

skinnydipping at midnight on private property

Dows LBV port

French Butter

sex on a picnic table

Pate'

French cheese

Swimming in the ocean

pretty satin ribbons, a blindfold, ice & oral sex

shortbread cookies and whole milk

things that can happen in a darkened movie theatre with sufficient
forethought and lack of restrictive underclothing...

rollercoasters

finding new and interesting ways to use a park's playground equipment
after dark

running until you're out of breath and dizzy

jumping off the high dive

walking in the woods after dark

alternating kisses and bites from the top of your loved one's head to
the bottom of their feet

Staying in a hot tub or sauna for more than 15 minutes

The Mile High Club

flashing your goods at Mardi Gras

hiking at high altitudes (I'm remembering the glaciers in Montana---
so beautiful they almost stop your breath & heart)

Driving as fast as you can on a dark road

saying 'yes' when you're equal parts afraid and excited.

Falling in love


Re: cloves
bramblekite
2005-03-23 07:37 (link)
PS: feel free to delete that last, if it's TMI. It was fun to write,
though! :)

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3048icq w/A (pots & kettles)

 

 

 

Mar. 23, 2005

 

 

evile: boss lady is gone for the day & we're having a Goodie day, so
I'm going to risk it & be on icq. Hi.
SkyeDS: hugs - how was the time off? :)
evile: that's this upcoming friday & monday.
SkyeDS: oh. my bad.
evile: how was Gulf War?
SkyeDS: wonderful
SkyeDS: even though the drive was gawdawful and it snowed
evile: I had heard it was cold, I had not heard that it snowed. Wow.
SkyeDS: snowed at Troll but not at Barn
SkyeDS: which just goes to show Equestrians are full of hot air :P
evile: wow.
evile: If you get a chance, tell sineater not to feel too bad about [brother A].
He called Lynn last night and cussed her out.
SkyeDS: just so you know now
evile: And left an ugly message on my machine; thankfully I was not
home to take the verbal beating in person.
SkyeDS: I got tired of it and I stepped in
SkyeDS: this game will be played on my terms from now on, where my
family is concerned, and so I told them
evile: 'Games' are supposed to be fun. I don't consider this
a 'game'. But I think we all did what we thought best under the
circumstances,and if it hadn't been over the dog, it would have been
over something else. [brother A] was going to break with his family one way
or the other.
SkyeDS: he was really hurting sineater
SkyeDS: I stood by until I deemed that I didn't want to watch anymore
evile: I figure I get to be a big bag of shit no matter waht I do or
say, so why say or do anything.
SkyeDS: they were trying to beat Connie's number out of sineater
SkyeDS: I won't have that
SkyeDS: she is my friend and business associate
SkyeDS: I do not need another enemy neighbor
SkyeDS: and then rubber_pig is wailing aobut HER dog
SkyeDS: and already threatening to leave with the kids
evile: that's some fucked up shit, yo.
SkyeDS: I w ill not have either of them abusing my life mate of 14
years. I won't.
SkyeDS: and then they did exactly what I figured they would do, which
is call every last member of teh family trying to start a war
evile: I just know they called you and me, and then Aunt L last night
SkyeDS: no sooner than rubber_pig hung up on me than they called K/mom who
called stepdad/G
evile: Well, they pretty much burned bridges with Mom while she was
down helping with the baby, so I don't know what they expected to
accomplish there, other than chaos & upset, which they did.
SkyeDS: if they step foot on my ranch I'll have them arrested for
trespassing
SkyeDS: and/or shoot them
evile: *nod*
evile: From the message he left at my house, doesn't sound like that
will be a problem. He doesn't want anything to do with any of us
anymore.
SkyeDS: they were t hreatening to come look for Paulie and harass
Connie.
evile: nuts.
SkyeDS: what takes the cake for me is "her" dog
evile: I'm sorry y'all had to go through all that.
SkyeDS: as I am for the rest of the family (HUGS)
SkyeDS: guess the trip to the sisters' with t he kids didn't last
long as they were in the same room phonetagteaming us
evile: was bound to happen sooner or later. Divide and conquer.
Predators always cull their intended victim from the herd to go in
for the kill.
SkyeDS: I was afraid they'd say exactly what they did - "you know
this was just temporary"
SkyeDS: excuse me but no, I KNOW he told you otherwise, because I
HEARD him tell you, more than once
evile: bottom line: the dog is disappeared/dead, and the situation
would not be different if he was there 'for permanent' or 'for
temporary'
SkyeDS: I wonder if they're going to think about suing us
evile: rubber_pig's always talking about suing someone; far as I know it
hasn't happened yet.
evile: it's all just a game to keep [brother A] unbalanced, upset, and not
thinking.
SkyeDS: she's doing a damn good job of that
evile: yup
evile: and if anyone was able to talk sense into him (what has
changed here? the apartment management presumably STILL will not
allow dogs) then she'd open up a whole new attack on something
completely unrelated to get him upset all over again
SkyeDS: even if everyone else had believed the pair of us, I don't
know if that would have made any difference anyway
SkyeDS: I don't think anyone had power of prevention here
evile: They were going to take Paulie to the pound. he'd be long-dead
now, in that case.
SkyeDS: I hope everyone has the grace to apologize to you for the way
they treated you over this whole fiasco
evile: I could give a shit.
SkyeDS: a simple acknowledgement that you were right would be a nice
beginning at least
evile: I've been the punching bag for a bunch of other garbage all
through the years, might as well take this hit, too.
evile: I want my brother back. And/or her FUCKING DEAD! And since an
apology isn't likely to accomplish either, I don't need or want one.
evile: [brother A]'s message said he doesn't want to hear from me or see me
ever again. I don't know how I can let him know I'm still here and I
still love him while respecting those stated boundaries.
SkyeDS: no clue.
evile: Me neither.
evile: Did anybody get any good pictures of y'all at Gulf War?
SkyeDS: think so, don't think they're downloaded off camera yet tho
evile: Did anybody win any eq. prizes?
SkyeDS: [Keject] took first place in ShrekQuest
SkyeDS: (Keject - Drandmir)
evile: oh, tha'ts very cool.
SkyeDS: I spent $200 in 20 minutes
SkyeDS: sineater helped but not much
evile: wow.
SkyeDS: was in teh company of queens, duchesses and baronesses all
week, loaned Mirage out to them, she acquitted herself admirably -
she is a lady's/child's horse
SkyeDS: 3500 people there
evile: big crowd!
evile: I had phone duty so I get to leave at 3:30
SkyeDS: that's a blessing :)
evile: yeah.
evile: I could not get to sleep last night, so I am pretty tired
today. I had been thinking of going to Sharjinka's craft night, but I
may go to bed early instead.
SkyeDS: there will be other craft nights
evile: yup
evile: I think I'm going to have to think about making my LJ friends
only...far too many wierdos friending me these days & tossing random
comments into my LJ.
SkyeDS: :|
evile: including your little friend. ugh. "always here for you" I'm
so f-ing sure.
evile: I am going to hurt my brain trying to figure out "why
now" ....what's changed? the baby drama dying down so we had to start
something new? what?
SkyeDS: which little friend
evile: You know, your favorite little friend. He who will not go away.
SkyeDS: I truly am confused
evile: I'm sure you'll figure it out. ;P
SkyeDS: not kaleon surely
SkyeDS: I have nto been to LJ today, so I'm not sure what's going
on ...
evile: Well, it'll definitely teach me not to throw pity parties for
myself; all kindsa wierdos show up uninvited.
SkyeDS: am I going to have to go look at LJ to figure out who he who
will not go away is?
evile: As far as I know, you only have 2 'don't go away mad, just go
away''s in your life.
evile: And Mr. New Zealand freak doesn't have a LJ as far as I know.
SkyeDS: did you delete whatever he said already?
evile: nope, not going to give him the satisfaction.
evile: Let it stand as a monument to hypocrisy and a reminder to self
not to put things out in public
SkyeDS: <looking>
SkyeDS: go ahead and come running. sineater will kill you and I won't
stop him t his time.
evile: *shrug*
evile: *takes knife out of back*...yeah, I'm going to call you when I
have problems in life...FUH-reak.
evile: I guess he probably assumed that you and I were at odds once
again and figured he could get the dirt by pretending to be
concerned. fool me once & allathat.
SkyeDS: we're at odds?
SkyeDS: which explains why we are mutually friended in LJ?
evile: no, but what else could I possibly be posting in LJ about? If
my life is miserable, obviously it's because of you. (that's true in
his world, he assumes it's true in all worlds)
SkyeDS: ROFL
SkyeDS: if it were me you would have removed me from your friends list
SkyeDS: something anyone with the iq of a house fly could deduce for
themselves
evile: *shrug* no tellin'.
SkyeDS: isn't that nice to know he still reads your LJ
SkyeDS: <smirk>
evile: I dunno...there's another one that hurts my brain trying to
figure out...
SkyeDS: my banishing must have worked on some level at least that it
took me that long to figure out who you were talking about
evile: yeah...if he won't move on, at least you aren't going to let
it upset you anymore.
SkyeDS: oh well, you know I'm here and my feelings and all that, so I
won't add my due lire to your LJ
evile: *nod* I really hadn't intended on throwing a pitty party...but
it was gratifying to realize that people do give a shit about me. Too
bad it's not my birth family, but chosen family is a fine thing, as
Onyxlynxx said.
SkyeDS: who else has been invading your LJ?
evile: a bunch of TIMsters I don't recognize, apparently, and some
guy from Nolans' friends list.
SkyeDS: :|
SkyeDS: guess I"ll update my journal
evile: 15 minutes to go!
SkyeDS: :)
SkyeDS: spent $155 on kuchis
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: got a belt, a big heavy piece that could be either necklace
or belt, have to figure out what to do with it
SkyeDS: and a reversible tassle belt
evile: this is at SCA war thing?
evile: I heard the vendors there are faboo.
SkyeDS: we spent $200 in 20 minutes
SkyeDS: sineater helped but it was mostly mee
SkyeDS: and would have been more if I hadn't grounded myself
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: I can't think of anything I might have wanted that wasn't
there aplenty
evile: My favorite scent vendor was SCA. Her website doesn't exist
anymore...I wonder if she's ever at any big SCA things.
evile: course I haven't done any sniffy stuff in awhile. I gave my
soapmaking stuff to Andre
evile: well, time for me to get gone. Have a good afternoon/evening.