3043 [brother A] - crap hitting the fan re: Paulie

[evile]

Mar. 23, 2005

 

 

evile wrote,
@ 2005-03-22 10:55:00

Current mood: blank

The phone calls last night from both brothers? You called it--useless
pointless drama!

Several months ago, The Pig insisted on moving them into an apartment
that didn't take pets. The problem with that is that my brother [brother A]
had a dog at the time, who was pretty much a member of the family &
her children loved, bla bla.

The dog was a pretty pitiful specimen--[brother A] adopted him when he was
living in New Mexico, living with a woman who had several dogs, and
the dog grew up roaming free over several acres with about 4 other
dogs. When [brother A] moved him to Austin, he was an only dog in a house
and a backyard. He was scared to go outside, he was scared to be on a
leash, he was pretty miserable until he moved to San Antonio and the
children became his new pack.

The Pig was making noises that sounded to me like she was going to
get the dog put down, and then of course that could be a nice big
guilt-chip to play against [brother A] anytime things got bad. You know she
would have found some way to twist it around and make it [brother A]'s fault.

So in desperation & perhaps an attempt at making common cause with my
brother sineater and his wife, I asked for their help to find the dog a
home. Turns out that they have a neighbor with 4 or 5 dogs, and
acreage, so we talked among ourselves, and worked out a plan with
[brother A], he would bring the dog to my aunt & uncle's in Austin, and then
sineater would stop by and pick up the dog and take him to Rockdale and
the cool neighbors.

sineater and his wife [told me that they] told my brother [brother A] that this
was a permanent situation, that the neighbors were adopting the dog,
and [brother A] agreed, apparently feeling at that time that a live dog you
can visit is better than nothing.

I made contact with the neighbor lady, promising to pitch in for vet
expenses. She took him in for a checkup later that week, got him
caught up on shots, and turns out the dog was riddled with heartworms.

I sent off a money order, the dog was treated, and a couple days
later he disappeared. Heartworm medicine is poison, and the dead
worms can clog the veins and arteries and kill an animal...I fear the
worst, but I don't really know.

A couple months after that, [brother A] started calling sineater and talking
like he wanted the dog back. sineater didn't know what to say, so didn't
say anything.

Apparently, it was decided by my mom and stepdad that it would be
better to tell [brother A] that the dog was dead, rather than disappeared.

And apparently sineater told [brother A] last night that very thing. So that
went over badly and now sineater and [brother A] are both calling me.

I have no doubt that it will all become my fault, and the dogs
disappearance/death will be on my hands. I find it rather hard to
care, honestly. And I'm not calling either of them back. I get to be
the big bag of shit no matter what I do, so may as well make the
least amount of effort.

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nikiyoy
2005-03-22 19:09 (link) Select
*hugs* ....It's sad that they need to find things to have drama
about.. it seems like they are scraping the barrel here.


bramblekite
2005-03-22 20:50 (link) Select
Good timing on all of that--my aunt & her friend are going to San
Antonio for the day today, were going to drop by the apartment
(management of which STILL doesn't allow pets, BTW, so why the HELL
is this coming up now??) to drop off easter baskets for the children
and run...now that will turn into a "how could you do that to my dog,
how could you let THEM do that to my dog? wah wah!" session if my
Aunt isn't careful. (she got a psych degree, she can take care of
herself. I'm not too worried)

And of course my stepdad is in Houston Monday-Wednesday trying like
hell to get his mother's legal affairs and bills and whatnot in order
so he isn't going to want to hear all of this hysterical phone
calling from his sons over the damn dog.

And of course either/both brother may know that Mom and stepdad are
planning a nice stress-free couple of days at my house, so let's go
ahead and ruin THAT too while we're at it...

AND ITS ALL evilE'S FAULT!!!!!

Fuck. Me. Runnin.

onyxlynxx
2005-03-22 20:51 (link) Select
*hugs* No good deed seems to go unpunished with this group.


yup
bramblekite
2005-03-22 20:58 (link) Select
Sometimes the only sane response is withdrawal.

I am cleaning house & enjoying the sun and breezes; this too shall
pass.

kulilinei
2005-03-22 21:09 (link) Select
Sounds like a script from the Fox TV series "Arrested Development"...

***hugs***

ya know
bramblekite
2005-03-22 22:41 (link) Select
I wondered why I disliked that show so much...
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evile (bramblekite) wrote,
@ 2005-03-22 21:30:00
Current mood: crappy


It is as I assumed it would be: a Situation created in which my
brother [brother A] feels betrayed by his birth family and cuts them out of
his life. It didn't have to be the dog, it would have been something
else if that hadn't been so convenient.

I got a call from [brother A] on my home answering machine about 6pm
(luckily we were not home--on our way to dinner with Peglegasus at the time)
and the gist of it is "You've been making assumptions and talking
behind my back, I don't want you or anyone else in my family involved
with me anymore. Don't call me. I am not speaking to you anymore"
(more swear words than that, but there ya go.)

Interestingly, "Skye" called both my cell (with her cell--that's
NEVER happened before) and also left a message on the home phone
sometime after [brother A]'s call and before I got home this evening 9-
ish. "just wanting to check in"...this woman NEVER EVER calls me.
EVer. She has sineater call me to ask me stuff for her; I think this is
the second time in the entire time she's been with sineater that she has
actually picked up a phone and called me with her own hands.

I suspect that whatever conversation [brother A] and sineater had last night
(and maybe another one today?), I got painted in a very unsavory
light, indeed, thanks to the helpful background noise of Symmastia
NightmareScreecher.

So that puts me down one brother, and if I don't jump through the
next hoop very carefully, I suppose I'll be on the outs with both of
them.

Then again, inaction seems to be gaining me as much or more than
actually doing anything or calling anyone, so really, why should I
actually WORK at being the bad guy in all of this ridiculous garbage?

I called my Aunt this evening, and she said that [brother A] called her
earlier and started yelling and swearing at her (while holding
rubber_pig's newborn) and since she didn't want to hear it, and didn't
think it was good for the baby to hear all of that, she hung up.

Apparently, my mom & stepdad were going from his mom's house in
Houston to San Antonio so my stepdad could see the baby on Thursday,
and then to Austin to stay with me Thursday evening, Friday, and then
leave Saturday morning. Now, thanks to me, the dog-killer, Stepdad is
no longer welcome in their home and can't see the baby.

I love how this is all my fault. They were going to take the goddamn
dog to the fucking pound, and I at least saw to it that the dog's
last days were in an environment where he was comfortable, happy,
running with a pack, well-cared-for by people, etc.

*sigh*

In the good news, I am almost done cleaning house. The master bath
needs some work, the kitchen still needs mopped & swept (that's for
tomorrow evening), and hopefully Sweetie will at least get his stuff
that is on the dining table put away so Mom & stepdad will have a
place to sit and have coffee, or whatever, while they're here.

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3046Re: [brother A] - crap hitting the fan re: Paulie (me & J-law)

[evile]

evilE
Mar. 23, 2005


evilE wrote:
Hey, love.

I have phone duty today, leaving at 3:41 (bus got me
here a little late)

I'm thinking a nice big walk, finishing up the
housecleaning (sweep & mop kitchen, clean master
bath), grocery shopping, and then craft night at
Sharjinka's should put me in the perfect frame of mind
to see Mom & stepdad/G Thursday & Friday.

The fit hit the shan re: [brother A]'s dog & all of that. No
direct contact; [brother A] & sineater both called me Monday
while I was happily watching Margaret Cho and having
chocolate w/my girls, and then yesterday night while I
was at dinner w/Sweetie & Peglegasus, [brother A] called again and the
tone had gone from "I need to know some things" to
"[profanity, profanity] you are out of my life
forever!!!! [profanity, profanity]"

Considering that UB called my cell and home phones
after [brother A]'s big blow up call "Just to check in" (the
woman NEVER calls me, ever, so I'm not buying the
oh-so-casual tone here), I sense her hand in
orchestrating this blow up in such a way as to paint
me as the baddest of the bad guys...but I knew [brother A]
would eventually be driven to break with his family
and solidify rubber_pig's hold at some point, so this
wasn't a total surprise. Still hurts, but it's a
ridiculous amount of drama for the situation, and I
haven't done or said anything wrong, so fuck 'em.

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Date: Wed, 23 Mar 2005 08:40:13 -0800 (PST)
From: "J-law ."
Subject: Re: hump day
To: "evilE


Hey!

I sure can't wait to get out of here, and I have only been here for
about 15 minutes. Lots of drama here - work, of course, and, unfo,
on the homestead, too. Last night, just as I was finishing up the
dishes, my kitchen faucet went haywire. It is leaking hugely at some
connection on the faucet. Fortunately, it only leaks when the tap is
on, and there is no leak under the sink. I didn't call anyone last
night because I wasn't in the mood to deal with it (also need to
clean). And, tonight is date night, so it will have to wait until
Thursday. I am going to call in the morning and play it like the
sink did its festive spurting and spraying that morning.

But yeah, the silver lining is definitely that tonight is date
night. I need to devise an inexpensive dinner plan that doesn't
require washing any dishes. So, some gourmet prepared dinner that I
can nuke (my butcher does some!) and paper plates. And disposable
wine glasses. :)

That family drama is very odd. So, you still don't know exactly why
everything blew up? What did the dog have to do with it?
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Date: Wed, 23 Mar 2005 09:11:33 -0800 (PST)
From: "evilE
Subject: Re: hump day
To: "J-law ."


Sorry to hear about all of that--hellllo Mercury
Retrograde? I'll have an extra helping of shit
sandwich today! ThANKS!

So the dog...long story as short as I can make it:

[brother A] moved in with the pig, [brother A]'s dog Paulie became a
beloved companion of the children, was the ring bearer
at the 'wedding, bla bla. Then they decided to move,
and the new apt. didn't take pets (so the story was at
the time) rubber_pig/[brother A] made noises about taking the dog
to the shelter, which triggered major issues for me,
remembering how you almost lost Pepper the same way,
so I start calling around, racking my brain for a way
to find Paulie a good home.

UB and sineater stepped up to the plate, saying they have
neighbors with dogs, and seeing how Paulie had been
raised in New Mexico with acerage and multiple dogs, I
thought this situation might be good for the dog
(being an only dog, with a backyard & on a leash had
really made him sad)....sineater & skye_ds talk it over
with their neighbors, bla bla, we come up with a plan.
E&A (according to their story) tell [brother A] that this is
a permanent new home for the dog, not a temporary
thing until [brother A] decides he wants paulie back. [brother A]
agrees. (again, according to sineater an skye_ds)

[brother A] dumps Paulie in Lynn & Bob's yard, no collar, no
leash, no food, no nothing, didn't even stay with him
until L&B got home.

sineater picks up the dog from L&B's on his way home from
work (I was there for this, so this is what I do know
as a FACT). I give sineater contact info for the
neighbors, I volunteer to help with vet expenses.

Neighbor takes Paulie to Vet, gets him caught up on
shots, turns out he's got heartworms BIG TIME. I fork
over the dosh for shots & heartworm treatment.

Paulie gets his first course of treatment, disappears.

Neighbors are terribly upset; they liked Paulie and he
liked them & was getting along well with their dogs.
E&A are terribly upset. Nobody knows what to tell
[brother A]. Mom & stepdad/G advise that the "official story" be
that Paulie is dead, to preclude [brother A], rubber_pig, and
children coming up to Rockdale to search and post
pictures on telephone poles & such every day from now
until doomsday, making drama & distress for everyone. (I advised that
sineater not say anything to [brother A] until [brother A] ASKS. And he hadn't until
Monday!)

This all happened MONTHS and MONTHS ago.

For whatever reasons, apparently [brother A] called sineater on
Monday to ask about the dog. [brother A] apparently felt that
the dog living with E&A's neighbors was temporary, and
now wanted him back(?) ([brother A] has not called anyone or
asked anyone about the dog in the intervening months)
He has not moved, the apartment management presumably
still does not accept pets (2 bedrrooms, 3 adults, 3
children and an infant...a dog has NO business being
added to that situation!)

So sineater and [brother A] had 'words' Monday and then they both
called me (I was at girls night, didn't answer any
calls or call anyone back when I got home).

Then last night, [brother A] calls my home phone & leaves the
'profanity/disowning' message, and oh so
coincidentally UB calls to 'check in' a few hours
later. I again did not return calls. If I'm getting
put in the bad guy position, anyway, why actually WORK
for it?

Turns out [brother A] also called aunt L. and yelled & cussed at
her last night (while he was holding the new baby the
whole time!! How unhealthy for the infant!) L. hung
up on him, feeling that she didn't need to hear that
and neither did the baby.

I smell a large rat. Maybe large screeching rats in
the background on both sides, actually...

Very coincidentally, I'm sure, stepdad/G's in Houston this
week taking care of his mother, and was planning to go
to San Antonio Thursday to see the new baby. Now, due
to my evilness, he's dis-invited.

Anyway...as hurtful as it is emotionally, I recognize
that it's all very stupid, and I really don't want to
deal with it.

3047 Re: [brother A] - crap hitting the fan re: Paulie (me & J-law)

[evile]

evilE
Mar. 23, 2005


--- J-law wrote:

Oh my GAWD!

You're right - Mercury Retrograde. Can I have some
shit chips and shit-slaw with my shit sandwich?

I am very sorry to hear that all this crap is going
on. And it is totally unfair for [brother A], UB, whoever
to lay it all on your doorstep. What a crock! I
can't believe that [brother A] cussed out Lynn!!!!

It is a ridiculous situation, but it sounds like
you're trying to ignore it, which is good.

*hugs*

J-law
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Date: Wed, 23 Mar 2005 10:05:19 -0800 (PST)
From: "evilE
Subject: Re: hump day
To: "J-law ."


I seriously think that rubber_pig was hunting for reasons
to get [brother A] mad at his family and cut off contact with
them, especially in the face of stepdad/G making an effort
to keep the relationship going (despite being blamed
for the suicide attempt, etc.)

So, this is all just a big smokescreen/excuse to break
with the family & cause more crap for stepdad/G. Like he
doesn't have anything better to do with his mother's
health and his family in Houston being so unhelpful
with all of THAT.

Feh.

3051Re: [brother A] - crap hitting the fan re: Paulie (me & J-law)

[evile]

evilE
Mar. 24, 2005


I sent [brother A] a postcard.

It said, basically "I love you. I wish you would sit down calmly and
realize that someone's wife has manipulated you into disowning your
family. Please think about it."

[evile]

3052Re: [brother A] - crap hitting the fan re: Paulie (me & J-law)



evilE
Mar. 24, 2005


evilE wrote:
Today's my Friday and I'm taking MOnday off.
Helllooo
4 day weekend. Mom and stepdad/G haven't called but I'm
assuming the plan is still for them to be in
Austin
at
my house sometime today and stay at our house
until
Sunday a.m. when they'll be leaving for Indiana.

I am looking forward to a pleasant visit.

I still need to finish up the kitchen & get
groceries,
but I guess I can get that done tonight.

Hope your day is going well. Moony thoughts,
still?
:)
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--- J-law . wrote:
Oh, I wish today was my Friday. Shane gets a
half-day tomorrow. I wish I did - but it's cool
that he will be in the city earlier than usual.
Sounds like you will have a nice weekend. Give
your
mom and stepdad/G big hugs from me!

But today has been pretty slow/mellow so far.
After
all of the frantic whatever this week, I am
relieved
and not very motivated to actually work.

Still having moony thoughts. Lori made me a
countdown calendar thingy to mark the days until
The
Big Weekend. :)
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evilE wrote:
I am glad you're having a laid back day. I am going
to
try and leave my desk as empty as possible, which
involves messing around with old fraud cases with
multiple employers and trying to get them set up and
sent off. blech.

I can't wait to see my folks. I am so dumb; I am
actually feeling bad & guilty over the latest [brother A]
blowup...even though I've done NOTHING wrong here.
Nobody has any right to blame me for jack shit, and
there is NO reason for me to feel bad. And I still
do.
It sucks.

I was browsing friends-of-friends LiveJournals today
and found this. It's hilarious, if dreadful. I give
you: "Why Bicycle Shorts are Black":

http://www.livejournal.com/users/snapesmistress/63337.html


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--- J-law . wrote:
Oh my gawd. At least the guys were built. In a
way, the "red" pic was sort of titillating, which it
wouldn't have been if the guys were out of shape.

Whoo. Maybe I should get some bike shorts for Shane.
:)

I agree - you didn't do a damned thing wrong in that
[brother A] thing. This is all in his/rubber_pig's head and was
planned by rubber_pig for reasons we can only guess. You
have no reason to feel guilty. In fact, you went
the extra mile to do something helpful for them and
heroic for the dog. They should all be kissing your
feet.

Ungrateful fucks.

So, good news on the sink front. The maintenance
guy is coming round tonight at 6:00 to take a look
at my faucet. Hopefully, it will be a pretty simple
thing. Also, nice that I won't have to run home
like a scalded cat to do last minute vacuuming; I
can take my time. :)
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Me:

I'm glad your sink is getting taken care of--hopefully it'll be a
nice quick fix.

I sent the photos to e.--I wonder what she'll say about all of
that; she actually races guys dressed like that--I don't think I
could sit a bike after seeing all that! :P

I figured today would drag, since I've got a 4 day weekend to look
forward to, but it's going pretty quick. (knock wood)

Happy thoughts, happy thoughts.