Dec. 17th, 2004

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  • Dec. 17, 2004

    Sweetie's gradmother passed away yesterday afternoon. She had been in and
    out of the hospital a lot this year, and Sweetie had been worried that
    this Christmas would be the last one he'd have with her.

    I think he's still planning on driving out to FL, probably leaving
    the 21st or 22nd, and coming back maybe the 1st or 2nd (?)

    There isn't going to be a funeral, his mom is having her cremated and
    then she wants Sweetie and Jeanne to come to FL in the spring for a
    memorial service.

    Sweetie's not really talking about it, he cried a little bit when he got
    home and then we went to his VW gang's Xmas party. I think it was
    good for him to be with a big group of friends. They are really very
    nice people, very kind-hearted and generous. They throw a great
    potluck & their 'white elephant' gift exchange was really fun to
    watch.

    Anyway...TGIF. I'm exhausted, cant' wait to get home, make a batch of
    cookies, and go to bed.

evile: (clutter)

    Dec. 17, 2004

     

     

    I'll Take You for a Spin in My Apartment...

    20 minutes ago Oddly Enough - Reuters



    SAO PAULO, Brazil (Reuters) - Feel like you need to turn your life
    around? Then a new apartment building in the Brazilian city of
    Curitiba could be for you.



    Each floor in the 11-story building can revolve independently 360
    degrees to the left or to the right.


    "This is the only building in the world in which each apartment can
    spin individually," said Joao Carlos Peters, marketing director at
    the Moro construction company.


    The project took 10 years to complete and the suites, which each
    occupy an entire floor of the circular building, went on sale on
    Thursday for $300,000.


    "This is really a work of art because this was based on an entirely
    new concept of living," Peters said.


    Spinning in the high-tech building is activated by voice commands. It
    takes an hour for each 3,000-square-foot (300-square-meter) apartment
    to complete one rotation.


    "You can't have it spin any faster because you need the turning to be
    subtle," Peters said.

evile: (clutter)

    Dec. 17, 2004

     

     

    evile: hi :)
    SkyeDS: tgif :)
    evile: definitely. staying up past my bedtime 2 nights in a row has
    wiped me out.
    SkyeDS: nods. my sleepy is normal time of month sleepy
    evile: My plan for the evening is make forgotten cookies, and then
    bedtime.
    SkyeDS: hopefully we won't be out too late w/ Bob
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: he has to be somewhere at 8 or 9 and so do we
    SkyeDS: am Sat that is
    evile: *nod* I read about the parade. Sunshine & I might go,
    depending on the transpo. situation
    SkyeDS: that would be awesome :)
    SkyeDS: would there be time after to stop by the ranch?
    evile: This is my last weekend to get the house clean & prepare for
    Mom & stepdad's visit, and my Sunday is messed up (in a good way) by
    having a late lunch with L&B scheduled smack in the middle of
    my productive hours.
    SkyeDS: that's probably for the best. My house is nowhere near
    company ready
    evile: I'd like to, but it would be hypocritical of me to tell other
    people ' work first, t hen fun' and then not do it myself.
    SkyeDS: not like you haven't always seen my home that way, b ut it
    does embarass me
    evile: *nod* I know the feeling. I'm sure my folks won't give a rat's
    ass about the dust, cat hair, clutter and whatnot, but I want the
    house to be nice for them.
    SkyeDS: Debby, Jubilee and Chris (Keject) asked if they could spend a
    weekend at the ranch in January, and since the weekend they asked for
    was already taken, I suggested a NY party
    SkyeDS: will have to have the house cleaner than it is for that. one
    hell of a lot cleaner.
    evile: that sounds like fun :)
    evile: the yard people originally said they'd come out today and give
    me an estimate, but they managed to make it out yesterday afternoon,
    and the yard will get done today or Monday. I'm very happy about
    that, it's a big load off my mind.
    SkyeDS: happy happy joy joy dance!
    evile: so far, I'm impressed, they can at least respond to email and
    communicate effectively & in a timely fashion.
    evile: And I have no doubt that it will be done to my satisfaction,
    and that if NOT, I will have no problems calling them back and
    saying "can you come out and re do ____?"
    SkyeDS: so nice to find people like that to do business with
    SkyeDS: "hard to find good help these days". (trite but true)
    evile: *nodnod* I was really kind of staggered by the price they
    quoted, but it's a full day's work, and totally worth it so that I
    dont' have to do it, and it gets done WELL.
    SkyeDS: before Basil's closed (sadness), I would rather have paid $75
    for two of us to have dinner there, than $50 to eat at Cafe Roma
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: Basil's is worth $75, and Cafe Roma is NOT worth $50
    evile: exactly. That is the best gift J-Law has given me, teaching me
    that some things really ARE worth the money
    SkyeDS: I learned it the hard way by myself.
    evile: I am still not one to buy by the strength of a brand name, but
    I do now recognize that some brands are actually superior products
    and worth the money.
    SkyeDS: nodnod. I will still try anything once and if it hurts I
    don't do it again
    SkyeDS: when I was growing up, I wouldn't eat any ketchup other than
    heinz, or macaroni and cheese that wasn't kraft.
    evile: heh.
    SkyeDS: some name brands are worth it, some store brands aren't, and
    vice versa, so I just wade through them trial and error
    evile: yeah.
    SkyeDS: and sometimes some store brands are better than others.
    Like, HEB dayquil is as effective as the real thing, Walmart brand
    isn't.
    evile: *nod* reading labels for active ingredients is always a fine
    thing.
    SkyeDS: sometimes it isn't even just havin gthe same ingredients,
    it's amounts
    evile: yup
    SkyeDS: Walmart brand Pantene shampoo has the same stuff in it, but
    the quantities must be different because it isn't nearly as good.
    evile: yeah.
    SkyeDS: come to think of it, HEB is better than Walmart/Sam's just
    about in everything
    evile: I never shop at walmart.
    evile: Target generic meds are pretty good, cheap. I get their
    benadryl.
    SkyeDS: I like generic when I can get it
    SkyeDS: particularly when stocking first aid kits for us, Arthur, and
    the girls
    evile: I have brand loyalty to Robitussin.
    SkyeDS: you know, with horse stuff, it's exactly the same as people
    stuff
    evile: and that's about it, as far as drugs go.
    SkyeDS: triple antibiotic, mineral ice, what have you
    SkyeDS: but they put a horse label on it, make it SMALLER, and then
    up the price by 3x.
    evile: I noticed that with cat vs. dog products.
    SkyeDS: apparently, they do that in a BIG way with horse trailers
    that have living quarters in them
    evile: jeez.
    SkyeDS: they use substandard camping trailer materials and then
    charge 3x more than otherwise
    evile: that's not right.
    SkyeDS: why I decided, as much as I'd rather have a gooseneck
    horsetrailer, I'm going to get a bumperpull and a cabover camper
    instead
    evile: sounds good.
    SkyeDS: also means I don't have to have a dually, better gas mileage
    evile: definitely
    evile: I don't have any idea what Mom & stepdad will want to do for New
    Year's eve, if anything. Last year they wanted to make an early
    evening of it, since they left early on the 1st to go back to Indiana.
    evile: (BTW, Brother A & Rubber_pig's first meeting was not at the Sawyers'
    party last year, it was at an Xmas party H took him to in Boerne.)
    evile: Holly (jokingly I hope) said she blames herself for subsequent
    events.
    evile: OMG, *lol*, I sent this picture to Terri, and I just realized
    that it pretty much encapsulates ...everything. You can tell by
    looking at it which of the guys I've slept with , and which one ended
    up becoming my Sweetie.
    http://www.freaks.net/eek/fans.jpg

2732Re: icq w/A

 

    Dec. 17, 2004

     

    SkyeDS: bad icq, bad
    evile: Yeah, it got funky there for a sec.
    SkyeDS: I don't know what sineater's time off will be yet
    evile: Oh, for Xmas weekend?
    SkyeDS: ya
    evile: I hope that works out for you, I know it's important for you
    to put in an appearance with the fam.
    evile: and from what you've told me, the last few visits have been
    pleasant or at least not full of drama.
    SkyeDS: I'm not as concerned about a trip to Txka as I am seeing G&K
    while they're here.
    SkyeDS: I have five days off and I want to use them as wisely as
    possible
    evile: They said 'morning of the 27th' for arrival, and
    staying 'until new years' which could either be eve or day...
    evile: And I guess they'll be at my place the whole time.
    SkyeDS: ah. so that won't be done on time off.
    SkyeDS: and being at your place certainly makes finding them easier,
    yes it does.
    evile: I think before the 27th, they'll be in Houston, but I don't
    know the timeline on any of that.
    SkyeDS: and I'm thinking sineater will have much more time off than I do
    evile: Sweetie's still planning on driving to Florida. Leaving next
    Tuesday or Wednesday, I think.
    SkyeDS: long drive. I hope he finds what he seeks in going :)
    evile: His office is closed the whole week after Xmas, and it doesn't
    hit against his personal vacation hours.
    SkyeDS: that's sweet.
    SkyeDS: I'm sorry about his Gramma :(
    evile: He likes to drive, so it's no biggie for him to spend 2-3 days
    driving.
    SkyeDS: we are of an age now where I guess the losses keep coming and
    don't stop
    evile: And I think he'll need the time to process things.
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: it just seems like it's right on the heels of losing Nikki (I
    know it isn't)
    evile: 10 years ago, almost to the day, his father passed away.
    SkyeDS: sucks when people die on holidays. as if holidays aren't
    stressful already.
    evile: yeah
    SkyeDS: two attorneys we deal with on a regular basis = Rawhide, and
    Ace.
    evile: nice names.
    SkyeDS: Ace = the man's given name.
    evile: bless his heart. His mom must have been a KISS fan.
    SkyeDS: Ace Frehley?
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: I liked Frehley's Comet.
    evile: The kid across the street from me when I was in 4th grade was
    a big KISS fan, but I never got into them.
    SkyeDS: don't laugh. they were too weird for me growing up.
    evile: I think I liked the Beatles and Alice Cooper at that age.
    SkyeDS: omg, Cali wasn't kidding. 1st year teachers in the Valley
    make 30+K a year.
    evile: is that good or bad?
    SkyeDS: keep in mind that I haven't taught in a decade. But the
    starting salary used to be 18.5K
    evile: wow. neither amount is sufficient, IMHO, but 30 is definitely
    better than 18.5

    SkyeDS: SCA event in Edinburg second weekend in January
    evile: I read about that.
    SkyeDS: gonna take as long to ge tthere, if not longer, than Texarkana
    SkyeDS: means will have to take off that Friday
    evile: yup.
    SkyeDS: and barring disaster, will get there, perhaps before Cali is
    done with his day
    evile: *nod* cool.
    SkyeDS: <grins> surprises surprises
    SkyeDS: now if I can just figure out how to get to his campus w/o
    asking him
    evile: Oh, so he doesn't know you're going to be there?
    SkyeDS: he does
    SkyeDS: know I'm coming
    SkyeDS: but doesn't know I plan to surprise him at work (after work)
    evile: That sounds like fun :)
    SkyeDS: last period ends at 4 pm
    SkyeDS: will have to bust butt to make that.
    evile: yeah.
    SkyeDS: no long stops (that will be hard)
    evile: yeah.
    SkyeDS: must plan way to miss rush hour/s on I35 too.
    evile: oh, definitely.
    SkyeDS: found a way to shave 5 minutes off my morning drive already
    anyway, that should help
    evile: excellent :)
    SkyeDS: I wonder where, when and how the hell I became the
    relationship expert/spiritual counselor.
    evile: heh.
    SkyeDS: about the only useful thing about me is that I am an
    excellent example of what NOT to do
    evile: well, you've managed to hang on to one guy for more than 10
    yrs, which means you must be doing something right...
    SkyeDS: not necessarily.
    evile: well, the assumption from the outside looking in would be that
    here's this devoted couple who have been together a good long time,
    I'm sure they know something I don't.
    evile: the reality may be that one or both partners are just too
    scared or lazy to leave, but that's not how it looks from the
    outside :P
    evile: I get a lot of people asking me relationship questions too...I
    feel like a total fraud dispensing info or advice. I just muddle
    thru, same as everyone else.
    SkyeDS: <shakes head
    evile: I think alot of people just dont' trust their own instincts on
    things and would rather hear it from somone else, even if they know
    what they need to know.
    SkyeDS: but then t hey want to debate it.
    evile: of course.

    evile: Because whatever it is would be uncomfortable and
    inconvenient, which is why they didnt' listen to themselves in the
    first place.
    evile: sort of like little kids who are tired but refuse to let the
    adult put them in the bed.
    SkyeDS: just seems to me the village idiot is an odd place to go for
    advice
    evile: whoever is seeking your advice probably doesn't see you as
    a 'village idiot'
    SkyeDS: no, but I do
    evile: it's always interesting to find discrepancies between how you
    see yourself and how others see you.
    evile: And nice when you realize that you give the impression of
    being competent and successful when your own perception is not that
    great.
    SkyeDS: ya, and scary to think I will ruin someone's life with bad
    advice
    evile: well, you could always tell the person you didn't feel
    comfortable telling them how to conduct their own affairs.
    SkyeDS: I preface everything w ith "this is my opinion" and
    then "this is why this is my opinion"
    evile: "i care about you and I'm your friend, but I don't feel that
    my advice would be helpful in this situation. Feel free to bitch or
    cry on my shoulder, but I can't tell you how to handle this."
    evile: *nod* your way is good, too.
    evile: When I commented in onyxlynxx's LJ, I was careful to make "I"
    statements about what I thought of M's behavior, but he still read it
    as "evilE hates me and thinks I'm manipulating and using K".
    SkyeDS: people hear what they want to hear regardless
    evile: yeah..but it kind of sucks to have stuff like that come back
    to smack you in the face--"SKYE said I should dump my boyfriend and
    now I'm miserable, and it's all HER fault!"
    SkyeDS: amne
    evile: Oh well.
    evile: it's hard to keep from wanting to help people you care
    about...and when you're a bossy oldest sib, like me, the way that
    usually happens ends up looking like me telling them what to do.
    *sigh* It's a habit I'm trying to break. Listen, hug, and let the
    person do what they know they need to do, somewhere deep down.
    SkyeDS: ya
    evile: it's a nice complement...I mean, if people are asking you for
    advice it means they admire you and what you've got and want
    soemthing similar for themselves.
    SkyeDS: go figure.
    evile: I haven't heard back from Sunshine. He does this from time to
    time, talks about getting together and doesn't follow up. I guess I'm
    supposed to chase him. Sorry, I'm not an 18 year old girl, not gonna
    happen.
    SkyeDS: lol
    evile: I'm just being nosy, you don't have to answer. Just wondering
    who is asking you for advice?
    SkyeDS: Jubilee and Keject
    evile: Oh, I didn't even know they were a thing.
    SkyeDS: they aren't. yet.
    evile: aha.
    evile: are they going to try poly?
    SkyeDS: no.
    evile: VERY interesting that they'd be asking you for relationship
    advice, then.
    SkyeDS: they're worried about hurting Debby.
    evile: who is Debby involved with?
    SkyeDS: Debby thought she was involved w/ Keject, and she wasn't
    SkyeDS: according to him
    SkyeDS: none of this is for public consumption btw
    evile: *nod*
    evile: of course.
    SkyeDS: after many hours of discussion about several issues, the
    bottom line is, only way not to hurt her is for Chris not to love
    Jubi and to love Debby instead
    SkyeDS: and t hat isn't going ot happen
    evile: sad but that's life.
    SkyeDS: Jubi's mom suggested asking Deb's permission
    SkyeDS: I'm like omfg that is so ...wrong.
    evile: ?
    SkyeDS: why would you ask someone for permission to have a
    relationship with someone you love?
    SkyeDS: Debby's going to be all kinds of hurt, betrayed and angry
    already
    SkyeDS: so let's just give her the chance to lash out with authority
    why don't we
    SkyeDS: Debby says, no you can't date
    evile: I dont' know about *asking* but obviously a miscommunication
    has occurred, and a nice thing to do would be for him to set Debbie
    down and say "look, I am sorry you feel that we were dating, Inever
    meant to mislead you. I am not interested in you that way."
    SkyeDS: ok, well, they still love each other
    SkyeDS: so now what's accomplished
    SkyeDS: squat
    SkyeDS: that's what I"m trying to talk t hem into doing
    evile: And since there was no relationship agreement, debbie really
    has no say in what he does or doesn't do with Jubilee, so jus tleave
    that part out of it.
    SkyeDS: exactly
    SkyeDS: "we don't want to hurt Debby"
    SkyeDS: ya, well, even if ya'll don't date, to keep from hurting
    Debby, the one thing you can't control are your feelings for each
    other
    SkyeDS: and as dense as Debby can be, she won't miss seeing them
    forever
    evile: he isn't very experienced with this kind of stuff, poor kiddo,
    I'm sure he doesn't want to do that, but it's the only option that
    has a chance of preserving the friendship.
    SkyeDS: they were plainly obvious to me, a long time ago
    SkyeDS: no matter what you d o, the fact of your love is going to be
    what hurts her.
    SkyeDS: so imprisoning yourselves over it accomplishes nothing.
    evile: And it would be nicer in the long run to tell her themselves
    rather than wait for her to figure it out herself or overhear some
    gossip or whatever.
    SkyeDS: exactly
    SkyeDS: the longer it takes, the more hurt will heap on, because "why
    did you wait so long to tell me, you lied to me" etc
    evile: well, not jubilee to tell her, becauseit's not for her to
    tell. Chris is going to have to take his testicles in hand and
    say "look its not about you, it's about the fact that I don't think
    of you that way, and I never will"
    SkyeDS: Debby is not...well adjusted.
    SkyeDS: I"m not going to live Chris to do this by himself
    SkyeDS: he hasn't got the experience
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: the plan is to sit down and talk about it over ny
    evile: oh boy.
    SkyeDS: Debby was there for me at one of the worst times in my recent
    past.
    evile: *nod* I remember you mentioning that.
    SkyeDS: I am going ot do my dead level best to be there for her
    SkyeDS: and the truly kind and compassionate thing to do is not to
    enable her to do what she would do left on her own
    evile: *nod*
    evile: Well, time for me to hit the bricks. Have a good weekend. :)
    SkyeDS: wind to your wings :)

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