Dec. 20th, 2004

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    Dec. 20, 2004

     

     

    Bite at the Stratosphere?

    http://www.reviewjournal.com/lvrj_home/2004/Dec-19-Sun-
    2004/living/25450759.html

    Sunday, December 19, 2004
    Copyright © Las Vegas Review-Journal

    HOLIDAY IN VEGAS: Don't Sit By the Fire

    From suite full of bears to light show downtown, there's plenty to
    see and do in December

    By SONYA PADGETT
    REVIEW-JOURNAL

    The great thing about holidays in Las Vegas: You'll never lack for
    something to do, especially on the Strip or downtown. For some
    serious holiday fun, check into some of the following attractions and
    events.

    Visit plush suite

    FAO Schwarz loans more than 500 teddy bears to the Four Seasons for
    its annual "Teddy Bear Fantasy Suite." Bears are arranged in a
    variety of scenes, including a safari, slumber party, bubble bath and
    this picture out of the Old West.

    The attraction is free to the public and open daily from 11 a.m. to 7
    p.m. through Tuesday at 3960 Las Vegas Blvd. South.

    Feel free to take photos of your favorite bears.

    Shop under the lights

    Check out the International Holiday Market at the Fremont Street
    Experience, 425 Fremont St., featuring dozens of vendors from around
    the world. The market is set up like a holiday village and offers
    shoppers a variety of gift-buying opportunities, from clothing to the
    folk art of Europe.

    It is open daily from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. weekdays and until midnight
    on weekends through Dec. 29.

    While there, check out the Christmas tree and holiday-themed light
    shows on the large canopy overhead. It's all free.

    Stop to smell the flowers

    Six flower-covered Arctic polar bears are among this year's
    attractions at the Bellagio's conservatory, 3600 Las Vegas Blvd.
    South.

    About this time every year, the horticulture staff installs a floral
    show with a winter holiday feel. This season's display includes giant
    ice bursts suspended from the ceiling and a 45-foot holiday tree
    decorated with sparkling mirrors and ornaments. An 18-point star tops
    the tree.

    Elsewhere at the resort, holiday music accompanies the fountain show
    every day in Lake Como. Showtimes are 3 to 7 p.m. on the half-hour
    and every 15 minutes afterward until midnight. The attractions are
    free. \
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    http://www.sealander.com/las_vegas.html

    Christmas in Las Vegas - by John Sealander

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    The parking lots were full. And the airport itself was a cornucopia
    of Christmas cliches. Everywhere you looked there were people walking
    briskly toward their plane, wearing festive red and green holiday
    sweaters, festooned with sequins and reindeer. They carried big,
    bright red Neiman sonar0m sacks, filled with colorfully wrapped gifts.
    Many were traveling with small children, and most were struggling
    with far more luggage than they would ever be able to squeeze into
    the overhead compartment.
    I almost thought I had made the wrong decision, until I negotiated my
    way through a final throng of festive travelers and entered the
    jetway to my own plane. As the flight attendants greeted me, I looked
    down the aisle toward my seat and saw that I had entered another
    world. There were no holiday sweaters on this plane. No children. And
    not a present in sight. Passengers were dressed in a muted pallet of
    grays and black, with the occasional metallic gold leather purse as
    an accent. Two men in the seat behind me were not talking about
    relatives or stringing Christmas lights. The were talking about where
    to find a good single deck game and wondering if anyone still offered
    10 times odds on craps. I tightened my seat belt as the flight
    attendant came on the intercom. "Welcome on board." she said, "we
    will be flying non-stop from Dallas to Las Vegas."

    Rich Hall once said that spending Christmas in Las Vegas is a lot
    like spending Halloween at the Vatican. But that, of course is part
    of the appeal. As I catch a cab at the airport for the strip, I'm
    surprised at how crowded the place is. It is not a typical crowd
    though. Not as many college kids. Not as many children. Not as many
    tourists, period. The people I see outside the window as we drive
    down Las Vegas Blvd. are regulars. We have returned like lemmings to
    the village of the lost souls.

    As we pull up to the Mirage, I hear another cabdriver come on the
    radio. "Hey, is it Christmas Eve tonight?" he says. It is a
    legitimate question. During our drive I have not seen a single Santa.
    There are no Christmas trees in front of the casinos. And no holiday
    lights have been strung across Las Vegas Blvd. The place looks
    exactly the same as it does the other 364 days of the year. My cab
    driver starts laughing at the voice on the radio. "What's it to you,"
    he replies through his microphone. "You"re going to be working
    anyway."

    Las Vegas reminds me that nationalism and regional boundaries have
    become largely irrelevant. Americans are in the minority here. At
    breakfast you will hear French being spoken at a table to your left,
    German behind you, and Japanese everywhere else. The new world order
    is not being worked out behind closed doors at the United Nations, it
    is evolving one-day-at-a-time in breakfast buffets throughout Las
    Vegas. You look out over the crowd and realize that wars are fought
    because the world's wealth is so poorly distributed. There are few
    natural enemies. With plenty of money in their pockets, Iranians eat
    breakfast next to Israelis, Germans next to Japanese. Even the French
    seem to get along. Although some would long for a world without
    money, the answer seems to lie in finding a world where everybody has
    money. There are few fights on full bellies.

    Having discovered the secret to world peace in the Mirage breakfast
    buffet, I begin to look for the secret to happiness, and discover
    that things are not quite so simple. In this village of lost souls,
    you see a lot of people alone. You quickly realize that money and
    good looks are no guarantee of happiness. Waiting for a table in the
    Planet Hollywood bar I notice that I'm seated next to a striking
    woman in a black Donna Karan dress. She is staring at the ceiling
    with the saddest look on her face and her hands in front of her face
    almost as if she is praying. She doesn't move for at least five
    minutes. I have to look away because I am intruding on someone's
    privacy.

    Las Vegas is an intensely private world. You walk through the casinos
    and see a thousand faces, all looking inward, mechanically hitting
    the spin button on the slots with their index finger. Their game of
    choice has become an analogy for their life. Here you can play out in
    a few hours a cycle of luck that might take years to visualize in
    real life. The casino floor becomes a laboratory experiment. And you
    are the lab rat. Every turn of the wheel, every toss of the dice
    becomes an opportunity to ask, "Does she love me?" "Will I get that
    promotion?" "What would happen if I moved to Oregon tomorrow?" You
    look at your life and realize how much of it is actually outside your
    control. You could get hit by a truck tomorrow. Or you could just as
    easily find the soul mate you have always been looking for.

    It is interesting to watch people try to manipulate luck. You realize
    that most people are very uncomfortable with random chance. They have
    to wrap this randomness in a cloak of order so that their life has
    meaning. Everybody has their game. Control freaks love blackjack, and
    try their best to become card counters so they can beat the system.
    Las Vegas loves blackjack players. Their illusion of being in control
    has made the city rich. Roulette players seem the most content with
    the random nature of life. Some of them probably have "Shit Happens"
    bumper stickers on the pickups, but many seem to approach their fate
    with grace and style. Craps players are almost universally men, and
    most of them are the kind of guy that wonders if he's going to "Get
    lucky" on a date long before he wonders what his dinner companion's
    dreams and aspirations are. Personally I like roulette. I watch the
    wheel spin and wonder about the stochastic process. This is my notion
    of luck: that you can shoot an arrow in a general direction, but you
    can never be certain exactly where it will land.

    In certain parts of town, it is easy to assume that everybody has a
    more glamorous and exciting life than you do. I'm eating dinner with
    a friend at Spago. We're out on the patio where we can people watch
    during our meal. There is this continual parade of glamorous people.
    Impossibly thin women in little Betsy Johnson knit dresses. Groups of
    guys dressed in black and looking suspiciously like members of U2.
    There are older men who look like their Learjet is waiting for them
    at the airport. And there's always at least one bridal couple,
    walking in their wedding garb through the Forum Shops as if nothing
    in the world mattered.

    Everyone in the restaurant is speaking a different language, and I
    start to feel sorry for myself. I don't know any foreign languages.
    And even though I'm a firm believer in luck, I'm not really much of a
    gambler. I start to rant to my friend about how my life is not all
    that exciting, but she cuts me off quickly. She's heard this all
    before. "Quit complaining about not doing anything creative," she
    says. "You've spent all your creative energy creating this perfect
    little world where nothing can touch you." "Nothing good is ever
    going to happen, unless you're willing to let something bad
    happen." "You've got to take a few more risks." Janet understands
    risk intuitively, while I tend to philosophize. She is really the
    reason we're here.

    I ask her to expand on this notion that creativity must come through
    pain. "You know, the best song that sineater Clapton ever wrote," she
    said, "Came after his kid fell out of a hundred story building and
    died." This is a stark analogy, and it leaves me uncomfortable, but
    she has made her point.

    I decide during dessert that one of my New Year's resolutions will be
    to take a few more risks.
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    Dec. 20, 2004

     

     

    thewordnerd: [offline] Bye!
    evile: Sorry to hear about the coffee pot. They sell replacement
    carafes, if your thing is still brewing properly.
    thewordnerd: Ah, really? Maybe I'll buy one, just get a very sturdy non-
    glass one.
    evile: You might not be able to find a compatible non-glass carafe.
    evile: but if such a thing exists, I'm sure it's at Fry's. I hate
    that place.
    thewordnerd: Ah. I'm tired of glass. I use the thing to make ice tea, and
    I'd really like to be able to stick the thing in the freezer to chill
    it in a matter of a few hours instead of, oh, 9-12.
    evile: *nod*
    evile: I am trying to finagle a parking space at work on Wednesday,
    so I won't have to bus home, get a car, and THEN go back downtown.
    thewordnerd: Whee. Sorry, doing the conversation-juggling thing with Dave;
    haven't chatted with him since HH and my birthday. :) Did Nikiyoy
    mention to you her idea of maybe waiting a bit, getting a later start
    and meeting up with her when she's off of work?
    evile: I was figuring we'd be on poly standard time anyway, which is
    why I picked a place that serves food and beer as teh meetup place,
    rather than the cold-ass hobo park.
    thewordnerd: LOL
    evile: (the cold ass hobo park next to the big house where the
    children go to die, to be more accurate)
    evile: So my plan is to hang out at Scholtz for as long as it takes
    for the people I know are coming to get there.
    thewordnerd: LOL wow, what a depressing image (unless you really hate kids,
    of course.)
    evile: I just think it's a giant waste of resources to keep these
    poor little suffering things alive.
    thewordnerd: I can understand that.
    evile: Of course, if people weren't donating to ronald mcdonald
    house, what would they use to masterbate their egos with?
    thewordnerd: Good question.
    evile: Oh, well. Anyway...enough holiday bitterness. I'm drinking
    beer and hanging out on Wednesday. If I can get the car thing
    sussed, I'd be glad to come get you, if you're interested & need a
    ride.
    thewordnerd: Ah, down to one conversation now. :) Nifty, yeah that'd be
    appreciated.
    evile: If the car thing doesn't work out, we could try and meet up
    where Bus 1 drops people off in front of the Capital and walk to
    Sholtz from there, maybe?
    thewordnerd: Hmmm. Unfortunately I don't know where the nearest #1 stop is
    to me. I have a #5 nearby, though.
    evile: Pretty sure every bus in Austin stops at the Capital at some
    point on it's route.
    thewordnerd: Ah, ok. I'll call and find out, and if it does then I can meet
    up where it drops off. Actually, I'm fairly sure it does now that I
    think about it, because I used to take it from south Austin and
    recall hearing a capital stop.
    evile: I will be in San Antonio tomorrow, but I will do my best to
    remember to call you & let you know about the ride situation.
    thewordnerd: Ok, sounds good. This is on Wednesday, right?
    evile: Yup. I had suggested we meet up around 6:15, which in poly
    pagan speak means "7:30 or so" I think.
    evile: But if I'd actually said 7:30, people would not bother to show
    up until 9.
    thewordnerd: Hah! Right, so that's why you're meeting so early. I shouldn't
    have wondered about that at this point. :P
    evile: I really like punctuality, but I've decided not to let it be a
    deal breaker, which means I manipulate people more than I really like
    to...but if they won't accept that 6:15 means "be there at 6:15" and
    not "start to t hink about leaving the house, maybe after checking
    livejournal again at 6:15" what can ya do?
    thewordnerd: Indeed. Makes sense to me. It's what I do for parties and
    gatherings when I'm sure I'll have non-punctual people showing up.
    evile: As far as I know, it's just me, you, Mary K (hopefully not her
    odious preteen), maybe onyxlynxx, maybe Nikiyoy, maybe skye_ds and maybe sineater
    thewordnerd: Hmmm. Well, if anything, it's a big park. Can't be too
    difficult to lose people in the throngs. :P
    evile: oh, and maybe skye_ds's boyfriend.
    evile: *shrug* I can tolerate anything if it's for a finite period of
    time.
    thewordnerd: Heh. Dunno if *I* can, however. Might have to pounce on the
    kitty train and make a covert exit if things get to be too much
    (assuming it's running that night, of course.)
    evile: I think it is.
    thewordnerd: Whee. Good to plan out possible stealthy escape routes in
    advance, that's my philosophy.
    evile: This close to my mom & stepdad's visit, I am trying to make
    very nice to skye_ds, so that sineater can have a pleasant visit with the
    family
    thewordnerd: Ah, that makes sense. Ugh.
    evile: yup.
    evile: It'll be fine.
    evile: I *did* mention we are meeting at a place that serves alcohol
    beforehand, yes?
    thewordnerd: Aha! I see. Sorry, I've got a game of phonetag in progress.
    evile: Ok.
    thewordnerd: Bleh. Christmas shopping. I can't shop for my sister's gift
    with her, and likewise with my parents' so I get to bounce around
    between the groups.
    evile: Oh well...make the best of it, I guess. And if not, get
    alcohol before hand.
    thewordnerd: LOL Now *that's* an idea I hadn't considered.
    evile: it's the best coping strategy I know for dealing w/family.
    thewordnerd: Indeed. It's more the shopping that I need help dealing with.
    Niki and I went shopping the other night, and I just wanted to play
    the happy Run Down The People game, first with the cart, then with
    her car.
    evile: I know that feeling.
    thewordnerd: I finally suggested a scoring system, but she didn't take me
    seriously enough to try for points. No one ever does, unfortunately.
    evile: car insurance is pricey enough without hitting people.
    evile: OH, I got parking for Wednesday. So I'll come get you after
    work Wednesday. 5:30 ish maybe.
    thewordnerd: Ah, good point . . . but there's no cart insurance. :P
    thewordnerd: Nice. Sounds good.
    evile: I just checked the forecast again, it looks like it might rain
    on Wednesday. That would SUCK
    thewordnerd: Ewww.
    evile: low temperature Wednesday is supposed to be 31. WTF.
    thewordnerd: Whee. I like cold Christmases. It just isn't christmasy if I'm
    thinking of jumping into the pool the day after, as I was last year.
    evile: i don't mind cold, I dislike cold and WET intensely.
    evile: and I'm not risking pneumonia 2 days before Vegas
    thewordnerd: Yeah, agreed.
    thewordnerd: Heh. I'm noticing how excited you are about that trip. :P
    evile: I am little miss attention defecit disorder over here.
    evile: I am having to make mini-micro lists for myself: 1) get on
    bus. 2) go home. 3) change clothes. and suchlike.
    thewordnerd: Wow. Damn, you aren't kidding. :)
    evile: Otherwise I just get too frazzled and forget to do the stuff I
    really need to do.
    thewordnerd: Understandable. I'm actually getting vaguely excited about the
    California trip, even though it is with the family.
    evile: You will have a great time.
    thewordnerd: I *really* hope so. Past family vacations have turned into
    family disasters, and I've skipped weekend trips because of this
    unfortunate fact.
    evile: well, hopefully it'll be better.
    evile: Maybe you can get an ipod to drown them out.
    thewordnerd: LOL Oh, I'm bringing my laptop loaded with music and books.
    Hopefully I can bring them both, if my friend fixes my cheap one with
    the games.
    evile: good plan.
    evile: argh. skye_ds is going to make it a challenge for me to stay on
    good terms with her this year. But I will do it.
    thewordnerd: What's she doing now?
    evile: crazy talk about her poly rules and why sineater is not actually
    allowed to date anyone who shows interest.
    thewordnerd: Jesus. That's disgusting.
    evile: if anyone asks questions about the rules, that is seen as them
    trying to defy the rules, and that is just not allowed.
    thewordnerd: Wow. Is this posted to LJ for everyone's amusement/dsgust?
    evile: no, icq
    thewordnerd: Oh, damn.
    thewordnerd: So you're being subjected to it one-on-one? Yuck, I'm sorry.
    evile: "there is a long list of women in the past few years who have
    wanted to pursue something with him, and when they proved they could
    not abide by the Family Rules, decided that they didn't understand
    the Rules ergo the Rules were stupid"
    thewordnerd: Hmmm.
    thewordnerd: And it just never crosses her mind that he seems to break the
    rules left and right but she, mysteriously, does not? I don't like
    hypocracy.
    evile: makes little, if any, sense to me.
    thewordnerd: Yeah. I'm going to stop trying to understand it.
    evile: I'm sitting there going through her rules and comparing them
    to what she's told me about her ex (Kaleon in LJ) and her current
    boyfriend, and seems like she broke pretty much all the rules when
    she picked them. Unless, of course, you read "family" to
    equal "skye"..in which case of course she never does anything without
    her own approval, so it's OK.
    thewordnerd: Ewww.
    evile: which is pretty much how I read it in the first place, so I'm
    not all that surprised. disgusted, but not surprised.
    thewordnerd: I'm just continuously astounded that people don't spot their
    own inconsistencies more often.
    evile: most people just dont' have any kind of introspection at
    all..or if they have it in one area, they're blind in others.
    thewordnerd: Yep.
    evile: personally, I try to exist in as much denial as possible--less
    painful that way.
    thewordnerd: Yeah, makes sense. I don't really know of any other solution
    for a third party.
    evile: oh, denial over my own issues, too, not just family crapola.
    evile: but every once in a while something breaks thru the denial,
    and it's like finding something rotten in a coat you hadn't worn in a
    year...
    thewordnerd: Ah. Wow, that's a nice and disturbing image. :/
    evile: that's how it feels to me, anyway.

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evile: (clutter)

    Dec. 20, 2004

     

     

    evile: hey! How was your weekend?
    SkyeDS: perfectly lovely, yours?
    evile: I got stuff done. Not as much as I wanted, but it was
    productive.
    SkyeDS: :)
    evile: Now I just have to figure out how to get the rest done before
    I leave on Friday morning.
    SkyeDS: ya. I'm behind on my scheduling too. Which I will regret,
    when it comes to the horses' necessities.
    evile: Have you found any place to stash them during your Xmas trip?
    SkyeDS: sonar0m is going to drive out once a day.
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: I was amazed that that was possible, situation being what it
    has been, but, it's all good for the time being.
    SkyeDS: maybe a sign things can get better, that would be lovely.
    evile: It really would.
    evile: eee! there's a new ride at the las vegas hilton! live action
    with the borg! I'm sure J-Law won't be in the least bit interested in
    that...but she might humor me if I offered to buy her a drink at
    Quark's first :)
    SkyeDS: lol
    evile: I need to slow down and enjoy this week first before getting
    all vegas-ed out.
    SkyeDS: people are talking about snow at the end of the week
    evile: not gonna happen.
    evile: Icks, it might rain on the trail of lights Wednesday. that
    would suck.
    SkyeDS: :(
    evile: I guess we'll play it by ear..
    evile: I'll just have to remember to cancel everywhere I posted the
    info, if the weather ends up being bad.
    evile: I even scammed a parking space for Wednesday, so I could have
    a vehicle up near work once we get back from the trail of lights.
    SkyeDS: I thought at one point they let people drive through the
    trail.
    evile: they haven't allowed that for a couple of years, from waht I
    understand. There are some charter services that go through the park,
    but no private vehicles.
    SkyeDS: just realized this is one of the things on my list of have
    never done even though I've been here 16 years
    evile: heh.
    SkyeDS: on the list with Mexico, Padre, etc.
    evile: There's a lot of cool Austin stuff I never do unless I have
    out of town guests. I guess it's easy to take for granted that you
    could do it any time, and therefore never get around to doing it.
    SkyeDS: the man who at the Rockdale parade made a point of inviting
    us back to the Milano parade turns out to be the mayor (we found that
    out Saturday)
    evile: cool. How did that go?
    SkyeDS: we won 4th place ( a plaque and $25)
    SkyeDS: we didn't even know there was a contest
    evile: how fun!
    SkyeDS: and of course both Sat and Sun were just the loveliest days
    for riding anywhere in any capacity
    evile: it was pretty out.
    evile: I opened the windows while I baked, cleaned, and did laundry.
    SkyeDS: does strike me as being a little out of whack, last week's
    weather
    SkyeDS: 80 degree weekend
    evile: I kept telling myself I could go play once I was done
    working...and then I never got done working.
    SkyeDS: 27 degree freeze
    SkyeDS: and then back to 60 degrees
    SkyeDS: in a matter of days
    SkyeDS: that jsut doesn't strike me as "normal"
    evile: nope.
    SkyeDS: I am not complaining or looking the gifthorse in the mouth,
    mind you.
    SkyeDS: beautiful warm weather is an obvious blessing.
    SkyeDS: and freezes are necessities too.
    evile: yup.
    evile: I have a pepper plant that survived last winter because it was
    so mild. I wonder if it died this last freeze...I should go check
    SkyeDS: people who aren't in Texas seem to have the attitude that 107
    degree summers for weeks on end are normal Texas weather
    SkyeDS: I've only been around 34 years, which likely isn't a drop in
    the bucket with regard to weather patterns
    SkyeDS: but I remember when we didn't have droughts every summer
    evile: me too.
    SkyeDS: and it hasn't always been 107+ for two weeks every summer
    evile: this past summer was mild enough.
    SkyeDS: they say that omens a bad winter
    evile: we usually get our truly shitty weather in jan-feb.
    SkyeDS: that's been when the "3 day freeze" has hit last two years or
    so, first or second week of Feb
    evile: oh well, I can use the free time off work.
    SkyeDS: I don't think that one bad freeze per winter constitutes
    a "bad winter"
    SkyeDS: but "they" don't define what they mean by "bad winter"
    evile: nope.
    evile: I was in Pennsylvania during the blizzard of 96, nothing Texas
    has can bother me.
    SkyeDS: words mean things
    SkyeDS: much misery abounds because they mean different things to
    different people
    evile: yup
    SkyeDS: everybody always talks about my foresight and my insight.
    SkyeDS: seems to me like I operate on hindsight a whole lot. lessons
    learned the hardway and not figured out till too much later.
    SkyeDS: just got a little more insight as to why Kili reacted to
    a "perfect stranger" the way she did to me
    evile: Oh?
    SkyeDS: I wasn't a perfect stranger
    SkyeDS: she was a stranger to me, but I was not to her
    evile: ?
    SkyeDS: she took an interest in sineater two years ago and he didn't
    return it
    evile: Oh, wow....where did they meet, then?
    SkyeDS: polys of course
    evile: oh. sineater's come out to like...4 poly dinners in his life. She
    must have really been hunting.
    SkyeDS: apparently
    SkyeDS: I'm kind of wondering why I'm just now finding this out.
    SkyeDS: but that's a whole nother issue and I don't think you want to
    know or that I want to tell you.
    evile: ?
    SkyeDS: but it does shed some light on why, at any rate.
    evile: I don't understand. If she approached him and he rejected her,
    was he obligated to tell you that she approached him, anyway?
    SkyeDS: there are things that are very long and protracted that I
    have no business unloading on you so I won't
    SkyeDS: but what does bear on this, is, one of the reasons he turned
    her down is because she's so nasty to the "other" women in her
    relationships
    evile: *nod* I know from my other friends that is true.
    SkyeDS: so he knows that about her, knows he's rejected her, and goes
    off and leaves me there completely unknowing to be blindsided
    evile: How was sineater supposed to predict that a woman he'd presumably
    politely rejected 2 years ago would hold a grudge that long?
    SkyeDS: it's over and done with now, so it's all academic
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: I just can't help feeling that had I known about what had
    happened, I wouldn't have been so blindsided
    evile: well, truthfully, I don't think there was enough experience
    with her for either of you to predict her behavior and avoid the
    situation.
    SkyeDS: maybe so, maybe no
    SkyeDS: not something I'm going to debate with him anyway, I don't
    like wasting energy on abstracts with no practical application
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: very entertaining to debate angels/devils on heads of pins
    when it's not important and there's nothing riding on it
    evile: yup.
    SkyeDS: so again, it wasn't Personal
    evile: She may not be around much longer anyway.
    SkyeDS: and I know there are people who think they "know" me because
    they have heard of me, or whatever, that I don't know.
    SkyeDS: that's just a good reminder.
    evile: *nod*...also maybe a reminder not to discuss sensitive topics
    in mixed/unknown company?
    SkyeDS: unless you're going to be a sycophant/yesman, definitely
    SkyeDS: and I'm usually good about that, judging my audience and
    adjusting my expressions appropriately
    SkyeDS: under the jack nicholson "you can't handle the truth" axiom
    evile: Well, and if she'd already decided to be nasty, she might have
    picked a ifight with you over something else...but no reason to give
    people ammo, and if she'd blown up at you over something more
    innocuous, it would have made her look worse than she did.
    SkyeDS: I will keep in mind from now on that someone that I don't
    know, may think they "know" me, as a corollary of don't take it
    personally
    SkyeDS: that is illuminating
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: just because I don't see where there should be issues,
    doesn't mean someone else doesn't think there are
    evile: yup
    SkyeDS: it isn't like I don't know that I have an undesirable
    Reputation that precedes me
    evile: But if the first time someone meets you face to face, after
    hearing nasty things about you, you are polite, civil, non-
    inflammatory, the reputation recedes and the reality takes its place
    SkyeDS: well, I think I was polite and civil about it
    SkyeDS: but at least it's not so bewildering anymore
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: and the other issues are going to be dealt with in due time.
    evile: I wonder how anyone who calls themselves 'poly' can then go
    and treat a potential love interest's current SO(s) badly and expect
    to attract that person?
    SkyeDS: who the hell knows?
    evile: Granted, your love interest's SO may not be anyone you really
    like, or love, but at least be fricken polite.
    SkyeDS: I guess maybe our marriage is more closed than open, that
    could certainly be argued.
    SkyeDS: debated successfully I should say
    evile: I think it's more of a challenge to do the 'big happy family'
    model of poly. The more long term ones I've seen seem to be where
    it's fairly compartmentalized. But, that makes a lot of people
    unhappy because they want to share their loves with one another, when
    the loves do not want to share their time with one another.
    evile: Terriblelynne had mentioned this in her LJ a while back.
    SkyeDS: not all polys are polyfi
    evile: like "All catholics are christian, not all christians are
    catholic." got it.
    SkyeDS: and perhaps polyfi doesn't mix well with other poly
    SkyeDS: like baptists don't mix with catholics
    SkyeDS: I don't know
    evile: *nod* I could never be involved with a swinger. There's just
    too much nasty crap out there.
    SkyeDS: there seem to be a lot of "polys" that don't understand/don't
    like our particular Rules
    evile: *shrug* I guess if they're interested enough, they will keep
    asking questions until they do understand.
    SkyeDS: and that's fine but I'm beginning to wish they'd keep t heir
    criticisms to themselves
    SkyeDS: if they want to be involved with us, that's the rules
    evile: where are you getting criticism?
    SkyeDS: if not, go find some other sandbox, no skin off the family's
    nose
    SkyeDS: so far from about every woman who wants to be with sineater under
    some rules other than the existing ones
    evile: ???
    SkyeDS: has wanted to be I should say
    SkyeDS: past tense
    evile: If you're talking about nikiyoy's comment in your LJ, I dont' see
    it, but if you're talking about other stuff, I don't have a clue.
    SkyeDS: not at all
    SkyeDS: that's why I made haste to say past tense
    SkyeDS: there is a long list of women in the past few years who have
    wanted to pursue something with him, and when they proved they could
    not abide by the Family Rules, decided that they didn't understand
    the Rules ergo the Rules were stupid
    evile: hm.
    SkyeDS: I don't like rules lawyers
    SkyeDS: I don't like them in my profession, where they abound and I
    can't do anything about it
    SkyeDS: I don't like them in gaming situations
    SkyeDS: I do not like green eggs and ham, I do not like them at all
    anywhere, sam I am.
    SkyeDS: and people who want to play rules lawyer with me, with rules
    I was instrumental in devising, I don't get the point in that
    evile: *shrug*
    SkyeDS: and no, this has nothing at all to do with Nikiyoy.
    evile: ok
    evile: Nikiyoy is a sub...I doubt she'd stay around long once she got to
    know sineater's feelings on the subject.
    SkyeDS: he's "enlightened" on t hat subject, now, remember
    SkyeDS: anyway, I am not going to impute past history onto her
    evile: that's all well and good in conversation, but I suppose it
    will remain to be seen what he does with someone who might actually
    want to go there.
    evile: I came up with the perfect way to deal with the creep at the
    BDSM party, a week late,but what the hell.
    SkyeDS: isn't that the way tho
    SkyeDS: 24 hours later, or more, you think, I could have said...and
    it would have been so witty/cute
    SkyeDS: and you don't get the chance again
    evile: Oh well. I hope I wont' have the chance to use it again, but
    if it comes up I've got a better coping strategy.
    SkyeDS: in my memory, I only once said something appropriate when I
    had the chance
    evile: *nod* yup, that's how it is for most folks, I think.
    SkyeDS: "Yes, I'm pagan, poly, bi-friendly/curious, sex positive and
    frisky. No I won't fuck you. Go play in traffic, gbye now"
    evile: *laff*
    evile: I wish I'd had that one at the first/last/only poly big fun I
    attended.
    SkyeDS: you might have reason to use it in future
    SkyeDS: it would make a good button/tshirt
    evile: *nod* I'd probably wear it sooner than say it.
    SkyeDS: wear it and you might not have to say it :P
    evile: I'm not particularly sex positive, not practicing bi at
    the 'mo, so it's pretty irrelevant to my own situation. Just very
    snappy & sure to get someone to shut up and leave you alone.
    SkyeDS: I have since revised it too
    SkyeDS: instead of go play in traffic, have a nice day, thank you,
    please drive through.
    evile: heh.
    evile: I can't remember if I told you about the post-munch party, but
    there was this guy who was pestering all the women there to see if
    they were dommes and would top him. Tried very politely to brush him
    off, but I think he lumped me in with the rest of the 'snobs' he
    hated. (like I care right?
    evile: If that happens again, I am going to tell the creep "I like to
    pee on people. Get in the bathtub with your clothes on."
    evile: now, if he takes me up on that...I guess I'll be in even
    bigger trouble...but I am hoping that is far enough out to give
    someone pause.
    SkyeDS: omg that's good
    SkyeDS: you may have to come up with something worse
    evile: I guess it's possible to think of worse...until the person
    finally backs away.
    SkyeDS: ya, could run through bestiality, necrophilia, coprophilia
    evile: yeeps.
    evile: I am not even sure I could talk about any of that, let alone
    with a straight face.
    SkyeDS: well, if with a straight face he agrees to all of it, tell
    him you're a sadist, and that when a masochist asks you to hurt him,
    you say no.
    evile: *lol!*
    SkyeDS: ;)
    evile: perfect! Brilliant! You should come to the next party & help
    me think of these things.
    SkyeDS: I would only embarass you.
    evile: not if I had you tied up with orders not to speak to anyone
    but me :P
    SkyeDS: lol that would work
    evile: *evil grin*
    evile: I think the next munch is the same weekend you'll be in the
    valley.
    SkyeDS: it isn't any further to there than from Austin to Txka
    SkyeDS: I don't know why I'm dreading the drive so much
    evile: unfamiliar roads maybe?
    SkyeDS: I DO know the drive to Txka, and I don't know the drive to
    there
    evile: exactly.
    SkyeDS: I don't know how much the unfamiliarity has to do with it
    SkyeDS: maybe all of it
    SkyeDS: I hope
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: because then it will go away
    evile: Yeah. I'm sure you'll have a great time once you get there.
    evile: I hate going places 've never been before. It scares me a lot.
    SkyeDS: didn't used to bother me. I'm getting old before my time.
    evile: More to lose if things go wrong, that is why you are more
    cautious as you get older. (my theory anyway)
    SkyeDS: I have to go to the bathroom a lot more now I"ve noticed
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: finally got to meet JG
    evile: He's a sweetheart, isn't he?
    SkyeDS: there are not words for how cute they were together
    SkyeDS: tentatively holding hands and then breaking apart looking
    guilty when they "got caught"
    evile: *rolls eyes* ugh!
    SkyeDS: I don't know what I was expecting, but yet I was surprised.
    evile: I can only take so much of the cutesey poo.
    SkyeDS: well, as long as I've wanted Sharjinka to find a man and be
    happy, I think my tolerance will probably last longer than usual
    SkyeDS: besides, it wasn't in my face, which is what usually grates
    on my last nerve
    evile: I'm disappointed I wasn't able to get either of them to go
    skinnydipping at that party. But then again, I'm an instigator like
    that.
    SkyeDS: you are? say it ain't so!
    evile: :P
    SkyeDS: I don't know why people think I'm an instigator (just because
    I actively matchmake on rare occasion)
    SkyeDS: <whistles innocently><oh wait, I haven't been able to whistle
    well since my two front teeth came back in>
    evile: heh.
    evile: We got invited to a NYE party in the sticks, thrown by a
    couple we thought was broken up. Should be interesting.
    evile: (assuming I go. I won't if Mom and stepdad don't wanna)
    SkyeDS: some sticks are more interesting than others.
    evile: I don't know what their travel plans are like. Last year they
    left early on the 1st,so they might not want to go to any parties. I
    definitely think we'll be skipping the Sawyers' this year.
    SkyeDS: no! rofl
    evile: I told Sweetie Rubber_pig will probably try for him next.
    evile: He made a face and said "Try back when you're rid of that
    GUT"...and I said "yeah, she probably would"
    SkyeDS: I do not understand most women.
    SkyeDS: I just don't.
    SkyeDS: on so many levels I can't even get them all in my head at one
    time.
    evile: So many of them are just plain nuts.
    SkyeDS: I will sleep with you if your wife doesn't know, but not if
    she does
    SkyeDS: I will attack the wives/SOs of the men I want for myself
    SkyeDS: I will convert a polyfi man away from poly, make him mono,
    and then take him, his family and his property away from his current
    wife
    evile: I guess you could always pretend you didn't know and laugh
    about her behind her back together
    SkyeDS: until she found out and boiled Arthur in a pot.
    evile: ugh.
    SkyeDS: sineater has attracted such nuts in past.
    evile: enh. Who hasn't?
    SkyeDS: and then there's the "all women are my adversaries, we're all
    after the same prey"
    SkyeDS: and, I don't care if we both dated him, he was a jerk, we're
    both long rid of him, I'm still not going to be friends with my
    former lifelong best friend
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: and I'm going to think with my feelings and not with my head,
    rather than thinking with my head, and feeling with my heart
    SkyeDS: adn then there's, I can't possibly get mad at my man, who was
    the one supposedly committed to me, when he breaks that commitment
    SkyeDS: so Imina get mad at whoever she is
    SkyeDS: even if she didn't know about me
    SkyeDS: and even better, even if there WAS no commitment between me
    and him to begin with.
    evile: yup.
    evile: too complicated. I will stick with what I have and put up no
    trespassing signs, thanks.
    SkyeDS: one would think, how stupid could she be. but given current
    trackrecord, I'm laying no bets.
    evile: no tellin.
    SkyeDS: I agree w/ Cady that "men are difficult and exotic creatures"
    evile: people. not just men.
    SkyeDS: I have often jokingly appended, in past, too bad we can't
    keep them in the zoo, with the rest of the exotics
    SkyeDS: but I still say, women are more difficult.
    SkyeDS: generally speaking
    evile: true enough.
    evile: at least 2 of the three 'lesbian' relationships I've had, the
    girl had to pretend like something else was going on in order to be
    Ok with it...
    SkyeDS: ...I would ask how one pretends that something else is going
    on during sex....I understand doing one thing and fantasizing about
    something else....but I'm not sure I could get my mind around it....
    evile: pretend I'm asleep, pretend you're drunk and don't know what
    you're doing, refuse to talk about it when both are sober and
    awake...things like that.
    SkyeDS: :(
    SkyeDS: it has been a long time since I was in non-committed
    relationships, I have forgotten much
    evile: Oh well. it happens in heterosexual relatinships too, depauw,
    frats & the 'mash and dash' as shining examples of that.
    SkyeDS: people who lie to themselves can't help but lie to other
    people
    evile: My stuff is all ancient, ancient history by now...just
    sometimes still gets remembered with a little twinge.
    SkyeDS: they may not be hurtful on purpose, but that doesn't lessen
    the hurt
    SkyeDS: when MIL and I had that conversation a long while back, I
    told her, I don't care if ranch hand didn't mean to do harm, if my
    horse dies, she's dead. regardless of intention.
    evile: true.
    SkyeDS: "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" and all that.
    evile: well, and back then I didn't realize it was them,not me.
    evile: I took it as 'you're ashamed of me, you don't want to be my
    girlfriend'..but it was really they were not willing to deal with
    those feelings in themselves.
    SkyeDS: Was Not Personal
    SkyeDS: what's so hard about that is, obviously to them, it IS
    personal, it IS your doing
    evile: yup. I learned my lesson and moved on, but you will note,
    chose a male as my life partner.
    SkyeDS: and if your personality is predisposed from the beginning to
    that thinking
    SkyeDS: and that has been reinforced by your environment on top of
    that
    SkyeDS: it would be so nice to have a quad like NoelFigart does.
    SkyeDS: especially if the new wife and I were friends like that
    evile: *nod* but that's a lot of work too.
    SkyeDS: I have told the women I know right now that I already
    consider them Family and wouldn't mind if they became Family with sineater
    SkyeDS: Kelly, Sharjinka
    evile: aww.
    SkyeDS: I can't remember anyone else offhand
    SkyeDS: and t hen kelly, who is too weirded out by me offering sineater
    SkyeDS: slept with Ricky
    SkyeDS: as in Raptor of Raptor and Sora, Rick of Ricky and Angela
    evile: *shrug*
    SkyeDS: that, however, turned out badly eventually
    SkyeDS: but anyway, there are women out there, that because we are
    already so close to them, would be as seamless an addition to the
    Family as possible
    evile: yup.
    SkyeDS: Kaleon liked to play on my insecurities a lot, in a lot of ways
    SkyeDS: one of them is he says that I want to have multiples and then
    I don't want to let anyone else
    SkyeDS: and that isn't even remotely true
    evile: I would think that the 'rules' of Sharjinka's relationship with
    JG would preclude her involvement with sineater.
    SkyeDS: this was pre-JG :P
    evile: *nod* Oh OK.
    SkyeDS: and she wouldn't even take me up on the offer of his
    companionship when she was lonely
    SkyeDS: going to movies together and what not
    SkyeDS: I'd even feel comfortable with t hem off riding together alone
    SkyeDS: not many women I feel that way about
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: but a healthy well adjusted quad seems more balanced than a
    triad.
    evile: I would think so.
    evile: oh, crap! It's past my go time!
    SkyeDS: scram!
    evile: *hugs* hasta manyana!
    SkyeDS: ciao!

evile: (clutter)

    Dec. 20, 2004

     

     

    went to craft night at Maggiemaepisces'. It was M, Niki, Me, Kulilinei & Kai,
    Terriblelynne, and eventually Onyxlynxx showed up with her friend Chuck.

    When I first got there, M's husband Matt was there and asked me
    questions about the VAX. No clue, man! That was a little off-putting.

    I was loud, obnoxious, abrasive, interrupted, negative, gossipy, and
    just plain nasty. I hated myself...but did not realize how awful I
    was being until I was back in the car, getting ready to go home.

    It does no good to intellectualize about things unless the
    understanding creates control over behavior. I must quit acting like
    that around these people, or I must stop spending time with them.

    Terriblelyne is going to tea with me tomorrow. That ought to be nice. I hope.

    Nikiyoy shared one of her earlier impressions/meetings with me: when I
    went to the Vagina Monologues with Stephanie and apparently I'd
    brought cookies. Niki interpreted it as me being goody goody and
    kissing up (she did not specify to whom)

    It made me sad. And then I shared my feeling that I'm not
    interesting or special enough all by myself so I have to bring stuff,
    and everyone said 'no no' and disagreed with me. Well and good, but
    that's how I feel and I can't really change that very easily. It's
    just polite to bring stuff, I think. Though, to a play...that was
    kinda wierd. Hopefully I won't pull too much more wierd shit like
    that.

    *sigh* shrug....I just need to quit spending time with them, or
    anyone. I don't know how to behave and I don't deserve to have
    friends.

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