3256 Onyxlynxx peeving me

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Jun. 2, 2005

 

 

She was distant and bizarre last night, I didn't know what was up and
I really had better things to do than fuss with her. Lots of people
to visit, lots of hugs to give/get. (Polydinner is like TinyTIM but
in RL, I realized/discovered to my happiness and delight this
afternoon)

Anyway, here's the latest hoo ha in her LJ. A while back she was
whining and fussing because nobody responded to her posts. Now she's
whining and fussing because people aren't saying what she wants them
to say. I'm done replying for a while, I think.
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Onyxlynxx (onyxlynxx) wrote,
@ 2005-06-02 11:09:00





Current mood: okay
Current music: Learning to Fly by Pink Floyd

Asking for what you want....
Okay. I have a friend who feels that I do not do a good job of asking
for what I want. That is just another one of the many things that I
am working on.

For the record, my LJ is like a diary. That means that sometimes I
use it to vent. Writing about how I feel is a way that I process my
negative emotions and let them go.

I really do appreciate all the sage advice but I know that everything
changes, that I will be "alright" and that some things only happen
when they are meant to and wishing it different does not make it so.

If you want to be helpful, tell me how wonderful I am* or something
not how I need to learn to be patient and let things flow. I am
already working on that and telling a frustrated control freak to
relax is likely to get you snapped at.

*Thanks loverdenye. Did you leave a cd in my desk? That was a nice
surprise.



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terriblelynne
2005-06-02 16:24 (link)
*hug*
People do need to remember that your LJ can be a very skewed view of
who you are and what you express, depending on what it is you most
use your LJ for.
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thewordnerd
2005-06-02 16:25 (link)
Here here! This is something to which I can most definitely relate. I
write things because I'm emotional about them, or need to vent, or
something . . . but there are two important aspects of that. 1) There
is a need, and somehow I have to vent. 2) Venting is scary, and
when people criticize my actions, put words in my mouth or otherwise
attack me then it compromises the process. Yet, whatever was done has
already been done, so it does no one any good to tell me how I should
have done it better when I'm just trying to get past the emotions.

Anyway, sorry, didn't mean to start ranting, but this post really
resonated with how I feel, so I thought I'd let you know that you
aren't alone in that.

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skye_ds
2005-06-02 16:42 (link)
*hugs*

I was wondering if I was the only person out here who only gets all
the more frustrated when someone tells me "be patient" (or any other
similar similitude such as "calm down," "chill out," etc). I feel
better now, thank you :)

Namaste, Benedizione ~

P.S. You're wonderful :P
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roninjedi
2005-06-02 16:51 (link)
Well, I've been telling you you're wonderful for quite some time now.
You've gotten, if anything, better and more impressive the longer
I've known you.

So there! ;)
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*shrug*
bramblekite
2005-06-02 17:11 (link)
You can always turn off comments or make things 'private' if you'd
rather not deal with people saying inappropriate/annoying things.

I think you do a pretty good job of identifying your wants and needs.
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Re: *shrug*
onyxlynxx
2005-06-02 17:22 (link)
I don't know. I guess I am being perverse.

I want people to be able to say things...but only things I like.

It is like when I used to complain about being fat. I didn't want
someone to tell me that I just needed to take in less calories than I
burned. I knew that anyway but nothing is ever that simple. I wanted
to hear that people understood what I was feeling or simply that they
recognized my struggle or something.
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Re: *shrug*
bramblekite
2005-06-02 18:23 (link)
Ok. When you do entries like that, just type "NOD AND SMILE
SLAVES!!!!" at the top and we will all do so with alacrity :P
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Re: *shrug*
onyxlynxx
2005-06-02 18:29 (link)
I don't want to have to tell you to nod and smile. I want you to
agree with me and decided to do it yourselves.

It is like when you complain that your significant other doesn't ever
say anything flattering. You don't want him to tell you that you are
beautiful then. You want him to remember to do it later and you want
him to MEAN it.
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Re: *shrug*
sineater
2005-06-02 18:59 (link)
*blink* How are you fat???
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Re: *shrug*
bramblekite
2005-06-02 19:13 (link)
bro, I love you so much it hurts...but I gotta tell ya: when you find
yourself in a hole, first thing to do is STOP DIGGING.
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loverdenye
2005-06-02 17:53 (link)
Yes. I left you one of the CDs you asked about a long while ago. If
you like it, I can burn it for you laters. But keep it for a while to
decide. And yes, I will continue work on that mix CD I promise about
two years ago.

*Hugs*
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onyxlynxx
2005-06-02 17:59 (link)
Cool. I am really looking forward to that mix but I didn't want to
bug you about it.
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loverdenye
2005-06-02 18:10 (link)
No bug. My bad. I will work on finishing it up today- if I can get a
few minutes of Nate's time.

*Hugs*