1850yesterday evening

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Jan. 14, 2004

 

 

I had a really bad moment last night at dinner--our
friend Jaime said something about how Sweetie wanted a
puppy SO BAD and I should let him have one. It was
like a twisted version of the kid argument, which
nobody EVER brings up to me anymore. And, bizarre &
sad as it may be, my objections to a puppy are mostly
the same as to a kid, and boils down to "Sweetie wants it,
but I'd be the one responsible for it."

Sad, but true.

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a post in BRATS that seemed really relevant:
Rant Number: 36441 When: January 13
What kind: Other Where: At a get-together with friends

I was with a bunch of girlfriends today, most have kids of course,
and I find it interesting to see how that works out for everyone. One
friend who never wanted kids but had them because her husband wanted
them and she didn't think that she didn't have to was talking about
her day yesterday. She said she has felt so overwhelmed, she works
all day at the business that she owns, picked up the sprogs at
daycare, went home to find hubby sitting on the sofa watching
television. She got dinner started, went upstairs to change and
realized what a mess the kid's rooms were and began to pick up the
mess. At that point she said she broke down and started crying. So
there she found herself, sitting in her daughter's closet, crying.

So very, very glad it's not me.




My probably irrelevant brat rant:
Rant Number: 36447 When: Jan 13
What kind: Other Where: out at dinner
Oh, god...my SO is pressuring me to have....a puppy. If he was
bothering me for a baby, I'd show him to the curb. But I find myself
vulnerable to the idea of having a puppy. Even though I know it'll be
me up at night when it cries, me cleaning up its messes, me walking
it, me taking it to the vet (and paying for it), and me scooping poop
in the yard.

Not quite as dreadful as the rant where the woman ended up doing
everything and her husband sat on the couch watching TV while she
cried in her kid's closet, but still more responsibility than I want.

At least puppies are cute, grateful, and (eventually) obedient. Plus
they potty train a lot quicker than kids. It's tempting. But...no.

Comments

1851Re: yesterday evening

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Jan. 14, 2004
J-Law's thoughts:

I totally get you about the puppy (there was a Sex &
the City episode re: puppy as couple's kid, and
Miranda was the one who ended up taking care of the
puppy).

And who the hell is Jaime to lobby for Sweetie? I mean,
if Sweetie, your boyfriend, hasn't asked/can't convince
you, then who the hell is Jaime to ask you and/or
try to make a case for the puppy?




My reply:

Like I said, it was a very 'breederiffic' moment. It
never happens to me, but from what I understand, a LOT
of ChildFree couples end up being harangued by
well-meaning friends/relatives about "When are you
going to give your SO children?" "When are you going
to give us grandchildren/nieces/nephews/cousins?" "SO
would be such a great mommy/daddy, you should have
kids" bla bla bla. So I kind of 'read' it in that
context.

Sweetie's mentioned wanting a puppy to me, and he really
enjoys spending time with other peoples' dogs.

You're right, though. Jaime has no business pressuring
me to have a dog any more than he'd have trying to
make me decide to have babies.

One of my arguments was that I like being able to come
and go as I please without worrying about having a dog
at home. Travelling, or even this week of working 10
hour days, would be impossible with a puppy at home.
Sweetie says "Oh if it was a young dog, we could just take
it with us."

and I'm like "Do we really want to be sineater and
Skye_DS?"

You'd think that would've settled it right there...

*sigh*

I totally agree with you - after Pepper, I am not going to have
another pet - the time committment, responsibility, inconvenience,
etc. is just.... huge, especially with a puppy. It is easy to forget
what a pain in the ass puppies are when you haven't had one in a
while.

Skye_DS/sineater factor aside, you can't just take a dog, even if s/he is
a puppy, any ol' where.

The thing that is so irritating about the "why don't you have
kids/puppies" people is the attitude that they think they know what's
best for you, or what you want when they haven't a clue - and they
conveniently forget what a huge responsibility it is, and fail to
realize that maybe, people don't want that responsibility. Good luck
with it!!!