Mar. 1st, 2005

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    evile

    Mar. 1, 2005

     

     

    I sent J-law the ICQ between me & sineater. Here are her thoughts:


    --- J-Law wrote:

    Damn.

    Well, he certainly sounds serious, although it is worrisome how much
    he blames himself. It takes two people to make a relationship good or
    bad. He might have his contribution, but UB was contributing plenty
    of bad shit herself.

    As for the "she changes for the better and stays better," I don't
    really think that is true. She is good at appearing to change and
    maintaining that appearance for a period of time, but she
    always reverts.

    Speaking of family drama, did rubber_pig pop her sprog?

    ============
    evilE wrote:

    it's very sick and codependent. I don't think sineater can change enough
    to be the mind-reading perfect man she seems to need. I think he will
    kill himself trying.

    I had read this at first as "I need to leave"="I want to leave" and
    the more I consider it, it seems that he is being told he needs to
    leave, if he won't buckle down and be perfect just like she is!
    *vomit vomit*

    rubber_pig went into labor this a.m. and Mom drove to SA.

    No word yet. Aunt L and I have a Tina appt tomorrow after work, I guess
    I'll hear all about it then.
    ==================

    J-law . wrote:

    Yes, it is. The other thing is, Sineater shouldn't *have* to change into
    a mind-reading perfect man, and it is wrong/immature/sick of skye_ds to
    expect that out of someone else.

    I hope Sineater is the one making the decision here. It makes everything
    too ambiguous if it is UB kicking him out. I mean to say, if it is
    all up to her, he might be left wondering if he could have fixed
    anything, done something different, etc. More significantly, if its
    her making the decision, she could always change her mind and, if
    sineater is feeling any big regrets and wanting to "make it up to
    her" type stuff, he might well go back.

    Cart's way before the horse on that one, though.

    Meantime, the best you can do is be there in whatever capacity you
    are able to provide help. What do you think Sweetie will say?

    Let me know what happens with rubber_pig. If the 'kid' looks remarkably
    like a cabbage patch doll, I won't be remotely surprised.
    ================
    evilE H wrote:
    I think it's all blown over now...false alarm, back
    to the honeymoon phase, everything is lovely, lalala.

    I'm VERY VERY glad I didn't say anything nasty
    about skye_ds to Sineater. Hell, for all I know this was some
    elaborate ruse to trick me into saying shit about
    her. You just never know when dealing with someone that
    nuts.
    ========================
    --- J-law . wrote:

    Ohlord. In the back of my mind, I was thinking
    this
    might be some temporary state. Damn. Well, at
    least we know that sineater leaving has been an option
    in someone's mind at some point in time.

    That was very wise of you not to say anything
    about
    UB. I thought you handled it very well -
    supportive, diplomatic, etc., but not taking sides
    or talking shit.
    =============================================
    evilE H <eekatfreaksdotnet@yahoo.com wrote:
    I went home and talked things over w/Sweetie. He's so
    great. I took a deep breath and said "Sineater is
    talking
    about leaving skye_ds. He wants to stay here for
    awhile. I told him I needed to talk it over with you
    first." and his response was "What's to talk about?
    He's leaving her! GREAT!"...But I went ahead and
    talked about the ideas/boundaries I have in this
    situation, and we did come up with ONE thing that
    Sweetie
    has a boundary on--no bird. I am the one who felt
    like
    we needed a time limit, and limits on phone calls,
    skye_ds not being allowed over while sineater is in the
    house, sineater not having a key and not being in the
    house when we're not there, etc.

    Here is what I sent sineater. I fear it's too harsh, but
    I
    tried to establish boundaries for our peace &
    safety,
    rather than as a controlling effort. So I hope that
    it
    looks like that's where I'm coming from on these: [sent the 6 rules
    to J-law]
    ==================================

    --- J-law . <jendewitt2000@yahoo.com wrote:

    I am glad Sweetie is so cool about everything, but
    you're absolutely right - you all definitely need to
    law the ground rules at the outset. I think your
    rules are perfectly reasonable. I read them as
    coming from a desire to make everything go smoothly
    and safely, but, given all of his emotional drama at
    the moment, I don't know that he will take it that
    way. I hope he does. But, even if he doesn't, you
    had to be firm.

    Any word on rubber_pig's sprog? Is it named Madeleine
    Celinda, and did she come with all her adoption
    papers and a cute change of clothes?

    ==============
    me:

    I love the Cabbage Patch theory. Alas, it seems to be an actual
    infant.

    Aunt L called yesterday at 3:20 to say it was born, it's small, female,
    and cries constantly. I do not know its name, and I don't care.

    Mom called my cell and left a message around 4:30 (which, honestly, I
    did not listen to all of it, I missed her call becuse she called as I
    was sitting at the bus stop & it was noisy so I didn't hear my phone
    right away. Then I was getting into voice mail & the bus came).
    Something about how it's "tiny" 5 pounds and 10 ounces, bla bla.

    The smallest baby we've had on our side of the family was [brother A] at 7
    lbs and some. Mom and aunt L were both over 8, I was over 8, [sister H] was
    over 9. I dunno about Uncle Bubba, but I know he wasn't no damn 5 lbs.

    So, I'm thinking: this isn't ours, it's early, and/or rubber_pig did not
    take care of herself properly during pregnancy, possibly kept up her
    use of pain meds during the pregnancy. (It was born at home under
    midwife supervision, so there's a good possibility rubber_pig did it that
    way on purpose to keep the standard hospital blood tests from being
    done to see if it was born addicted...that is my personal theory on
    why it won't stop crying..)

    all very sad.

    In hindsight, I could have phrased some of the rules to sineater more
    tactfully, but I am not regretting any of them. sineater has always been
    a bit sneaky/guarded (In ICQ yesterday, I had to ask him 3 times
    yesterday where he was) and I feel that tendency has been reinforced
    by having to hide his thoughts and feelings from skye_ds, and then
    skye_ds's nuts and also sneaky and unethical and violent (by her own
    admission! She has stories she likes to tell to illustrate these
    traits in herself, and she always seems very self-satisfied and
    utterly justified in doing these things), so I really wouldn't put it
    past her to have engineered this whole 'fight' as a test of my
    loyalty, or plot to get sineater into our house to snoop, steal, or
    destroy something, or plot for sineater to get a key and have a copy made
    for her. Who knows? It's sad that I can't trust him, but...I don't.
    Which does not stop me from caring about him and wanting to help, but
    I need to protect my household, too.

    *sigh*

    Anyway, I went out to the Austin Java Co. with my gals last night
    (forced myself, since I really didn't feel like it) and had a really
    great visit. We all unburdened ourselves of our various troubles,
    talked some smack, shared what's good in our lives, laughed and
    hugged 'bye. Everyone felt better going home, I think. I know I did.

evile: (clutter)

 

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    Sineater: [offline] doing better. how are you? on and off today.
    phone interview at 1. you helped me a lot yesterday. thank you. i
    love you, sister.
    Sineater: *hug*
    evile: hey! How did your interview go?
    Sineater: i think really well
    evile: excellent!
    Sineater: nodnod
    evile: Feeling better today?
    Sineater: yes
    Sineater: at least when we fight lately some things actually get
    accomplished
    evile: I'm glad. When people are upset, it's hard to see any possible
    goodness and easy to write off the good stuff because the bad stuff
    is so overwhelming.
    Sineater: yes it is.
    Sineater: we are going to try living together until gulf war. that
    will give us time to work out a better plan if i have to leave.
    Sineater: right now it looks better. neither one of usis going to kid
    ourselves though
    evile: *nod* Sweetie & I talked & we hashed out a standing offer that is
    available whenever you want or need it
    Sineater: thank you. it's a lot to ask of you.
    evile: well, and I think that our rules are a lot to ask of YOU...
    Sineater: i would expect to have to contribute to your household.
    also i would think you would want rules in place to keep any angst or
    drama out of your home
    evile: *nod*
    Sineater: i don't think that's too much to ask then :)
    evile: Well, it would be a serious commitment on all our parts to try
    to live in the same house...
    evile: So I figure the best way to ensure the least amount of drama
    is to have everything right out in the open, right up front.
    Sineater: nod
    evile: And, if it turns out that you need to leave and can't live by
    the house rules here, I am still willing/able to help you in other
    ways...so please don't think that I am saying my way or the highway,
    or whatever.
    Sineater: nod
    Sineater: would work something out
    evile: I hope so. I hope that it doesn't become necessary for you to
    leave..but you have to take care of your well being, because if you
    aren't safe and sane, you aren't going to be good to be around for
    anyone.
    Sineater: no shit
    Sineater: reminds me, need o call the mhmr in cameron also
    evile: *nod* I believe the Human Potential Center also has resources
    you may be able to use.
    Sineater: thanks. will look them up
    evile: http://www.humanpotentialcenter.org/
    evile: Bob McGarrey comes out to poly dinner from time to time, and
    is one of the people who always has a good presentation/discussion at
    Big Fun.
    Sineater: is this the poly-friendly councillor(s) that were posted to
    the list a while back? was looking for that
    evile: Oh, maybe. I know Bob is one of them.
    evile: (maggiemaepisces) says her psychologist is
    pagan/poly/kink friendly.
    Sineater: glad to know there are psychologists in the world who don't
    consider pagan/poly/kink a disease
    evile: Onyxlynxx sees a therapist too. I'm assuming that person is also
    open minded to her choices in life.
    Sineater: if i get the job i interviewd for today, i'll have
    insurance again
    evile: that will be a good thing
    evile: Did they give you a time-line on their process?
    Sineater: i am supposed to hear from them by the end of the week
    evile: *fingers crossed, toes crossed*
    evile: If they called you this week, when would they plan on starting
    you?
    Sineater: doh. didn't ask
    Sineater: told them about gulf war in the first interviesw. i would
    presume it would be after that
    evile: hope so. Hope that's not a deal-breaker for them.
    Sineater: shouldn't be
    evile: good :)

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Mar. 1st, 2005 05:08 pm
evile: (clutter)

    Mar. 1, 2005

     

     

    evile: *hugs* Hope you're feeling better today.
    SkyeDS: some, thank you. I am sorry for being curt yesterday.
    evile: No problem. Thank you for expressing your needs clearly
    SkyeDS: outside of the immediate situation, I learned an important
    lesson that I should have already known before anyway.
    SkyeDS: I *always* need to check with the source, whomever it may be,
    before I react.
    evile: Some lessons have to happen a few times before we 'get' them.
    At least in my own experience...
    SkyeDS: I did a good job of that with J/[MIL], more than once, so I
    knew this. Sometimes I guess I forget.
    evile: *nod* It happens. Don't be too hard on yourself.
    SkyeDS: I hope I stopped myself before I flew off the handle
    yesterday.
    evile: I hope so, too.
    SkyeDS: I meant with you.
    SkyeDS: with the birth, this is the LAST thing you needed yesterday.
    evile: With me, for sure. Like I said, you stated your needs to me
    very clearly and that totally worked.
    evile: There was no name calling, there was no profanity, you said
    you didn't feel like talking, and that is fine.
    SkyeDS: if I'm going to go to war over words, I need to make sure
    those words were spoken first, and that they were spoken with the
    intent/understanding that "dem is fightin words"
    SkyeDS: he has always had problems with his memory
    SkyeDS: carpal tunnel, memory loss, and depression, are all symptoms
    of thyroid problems too
    evile: Whatever happened between you and sineater is between you and
    sineater. I have said and done plenty damning in RL without anyone having
    to make anything up.
    SkyeDS: I really want him to explore both behavioral (psychological)
    and chemical (thyroid or whatever else) roots of stuff.
    evile: I do hope he gets whatever help he needs.
    SkyeDS: he's more likely to do so with you and others encouraging him
    than with just me. thanks.
    evile: You're welcome...I really hope so.
    evile: Scorpios have that very independent, private streak that will
    make it hard for him to share the extent of his troubles with anyone
    else...
    SkyeDS: nodnod yepyep
    evile: I think there's less stigma attached to a biological problem
    than to a mental health one...so maybe if he can approach it that way
    it will help him to be more open and unashamed.
    SkyeDS: well, if he has a thyroid problem, we know it's "subclinical"
    because he had a thyroid panel done already
    SkyeDS: so that's the same situation I may find myself in if I test
    in low-normal range
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: once we have insurance again, we either find a doctor to
    treat our symptoms
    SkyeDS: or we treat them ourselves, which I know can be done
    SkyeDS: regardless, he still needs a psychiatrist to talk to.
    evile: *nod* I can't believe I didn't think of this yesterday, but
    the Human Potential Center also has counseling available.
    SkyeDS: I will make a note of that and mention it to him when he
    comes back online.
    evile: http://www.humanpotentialcenter.org/
    SkyeDS: he has a second interview with a job we'd both really be
    happy for him to have today at 1, via phone.
    evile: *fingers crossed*
    SkyeDS: it did him a lot of good to talk to you yesterday.
    evile: I hope so.
    SkyeDS: although it was the absolute worst time for you with the
    baby :(
    evile: *shrug* I do'nt know what people don't understand about these
    three one syllable words: "I DONT CARE"
    SkyeDS: I went to pieces yesterday, I don't know how I got through my
    work day.
    evile: Yeah, I was definitely unproductive yesterday.
    SkyeDS: speaking of children.
    SkyeDS: so a couple of weekends ago, we discovered this bbq place
    that we've driven by for years now right that's been hiding under
    Klingon cloaking device.
    SkyeDS: and we rode up to it, and would have eaten, but my wallet was
    in the truck on the far side of the park, so we got driving
    directions and drove there and ate instead
    SkyeDS: and got permission to keep the horses tied up in the yard in
    future
    evile: cool.
    SkyeDS: so this past Sunday, we take them up on that
    SkyeDS: put the horses in the yard, and rearrange some of the wooden
    chairs around them by way of "demarcation" so to speak
    SkyeDS: two of us go inside to order food at a time, leaving four
    adults outside with the girls and Arthur at all times
    SkyeDS: and there's this big birthday party there, very little kids
    evile: oh dear...
    SkyeDS: and while we're in line ordering, somebody comes and
    complains that they want to let the kids play in the yard and they're
    scared they'll get kicked
    evile: oh for gods sakes.
    SkyeDS: the manager ( I presume to be because he was the only one
    wearing red, everyone else was wearing white, and the girl who
    reported it to him was wearing white)
    SkyeDS: said, so?
    SkyeDS: and I said, sir, those are my horses, and I'm very sorry for
    the complaint.
    SkyeDS: the manager last weekend said it was ok to put them in the
    yard
    SkyeDS: there are four adults out there supervising the horses and
    the bird
    SkyeDS: and we've barricaded off an area
    SkyeDS: the horses are my school horses, they're entirely child
    bombproof
    SkyeDS: and I didn't think the children out there would be an issue
    because they've got sufficient (like I saw 7) adults out there with
    them
    evile: and what the hell happened to the fucking parents watching
    their fucking kids when they're outside playing? Oh, heavens, let's
    not have parental responsibility! foam pad the world!
    SkyeDS: and he said, "I don't care, I'm not asking you to move your
    horses, I don't give a damn"
    evile: rock on.
    SkyeDS: ya know, if the party parents had played it right, they might
    have gotten a free birthday party ride or so out of it
    SkyeDS: since we're also in the birthday party/wedding/special event
    bidness.
    evile: *nod* instead of being asses.
    SkyeDS: I think next time instead of eating on the patio and tying
    the girls to the railing right in front of us, which I thought would
    be sufficient at the time
    SkyeDS: we will drag a picnic table in the yard over to one corner
    SkyeDS: and eat down in the yard, with the girls tied to the table
    evile: I would say ask management before moving furniture too much....
    SkyeDS: we always put everything back where we found it. everything
    in the yard is movable.
    evile: *nod* OK
    SkyeDS: I was wondering why they have this yard for kids but it has
    no playground equipment in it
    SkyeDS: now I know why
    SkyeDS: or think I do
    SkyeDS: gives parents more to complain about/sue over, if kids go out
    there and get hurt on playground equipment.
    SkyeDS: and then they have to have signage like the fast food places
    do, "play on the playground at your own risk" etc.
    evile: sad that the world is like that.
    SkyeDS: goddamn litigious society
    SkyeDS: share whatever resources you have to share out of the
    goodness of your heart, and you risk getting sued.
    evile: no good deed goes unpunished.
    SkyeDS: Hugh says that all the time.
    evile: it's totally true.
    SkyeDS: I know medical providers don't stop to help people on the
    road anymore because they get sued.
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: the continued sunshine keeps my spirits up, and cheerful
    music, when I remember to keep it playing
    evile: yup.
    SkyeDS: I really do want to go to the melting pot when I can afford
    it. And we want to go to Vivo too. very cool website.
    evile: it's nice. You'd like the patio. It came up in a 'dog friendly
    austin' article, so I'm sure Arthur would be fine. the parking lot,
    not so much room for the horse trailer, but...oh well.
    SkyeDS: not unusual for us to have Arthur and not the girls in
    various places.
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: may be the situation more often than not, I think
    evile: yup
    SkyeDS: that was pretty funny actually, the people who went in to
    complain said something about the kids wanting to play with Arthur.
    SkyeDS: I laughed and said, well, then they have a problem. The bird
    is mine too, you see.
    evile: heh.
    SkyeDS: pays better to treat everyone like duchesses than flower
    girls (My Fair Lady), because, you never know when you're going to
    treat someone like a flower girl and find out afterwards that she was
    a duchess and you didn't know.
    evile: makes sense.
    SkyeDS: sometimes I think Texas in general and Austin specifically
    are much smaller than they appear
    evile: absolutely.
    SkyeDS: besides the concentricity of all the circles we run in
    SkyeDS: on our treks through the park in GT now, if I don't have
    Arthur on my arm, I get asked where he is, by kids I don't know (but
    who obviously remember us)
    evile: heh. that's cute.
    SkyeDS: and it isn't unusual for us to run into Important Personages
    while we're out with the children
    SkyeDS: and the Importance of some of those Personages is not readily
    apparent to us (like the Mayor of Milano)
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: Important Personages don't always tell you who they are, some
    of them are not tied to their egos at all.
    evile: yup.
    SkyeDS: when I met Scott Hamilton at a skating rink in Little Rock
    AR, he introduced himself to me as Scotty and asked me if I'd like to
    dance
    SkyeDS: the only clue I had was the nagging sense of having seen him
    somewhere before, and it was quite obvious from watching him skate of
    course that he was Really Good (tm)
    evile: wow :)
    SkyeDS: first husband was working on being a paramedic/rn, and most
    of his CME for the year came from the convention in Little Rock (for
    AR you know)
    SkyeDS: so I took the opportunity to go skating while we were there -
    no ice rink in Txka.
    SkyeDS: went Sunday afternoon, 2 - 5, most rinks of any kind are
    fairly empty then, this one was COMPLETELY empty
    SkyeDS: except for one man in serious competitive gear, and me
    evile: wow :)
    SkyeDS: I was there first, all by myself, and then the serious sports
    guy comes in and they change the music
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: and start playing Tzaichovsky Nutcracker Suite, which I love
    SkyeDS: and so I'm trying to stay out of Serious Dude's way
    SkyeDS: and I'm waltzing like an idiot around the very farthest
    perimeter, by myself
    SkyeDS: Randy wouldn't put on skates, he just sat in the stands
    scowling
    SkyeDS: Serious Dude is in the center doing backflips and triple
    jumps and shit.
    evile: wow!
    SkyeDS: and he comes over, and I figure he's about to tell me I'm in
    the way, and he says, "Hi, I'm Scotty, and you look like you could
    use a partner, would you care to dance?"
    evile: aw :)
    SkyeDS: then proceeds to lift me almost completely off my own toes,
    waltzes me around like I"m nothin, and I had the time of my life
    evile: I bet!
    SkyeDS: this is like the second time I've ever been on ice as opposed
    to wheels
    SkyeDS: and Randy got all pissy about it
    SkyeDS: and I think it was quite some time after that before I
    realized what Scotty's last name was.
    SkyeDS: I was watching some ice show, and thinking
    SkyeDS: and then it was like...well duh, you stupid witch
    SkyeDS: as in "Scott Hamilton Drive"
    evile: hehe.
    SkyeDS: the address of the rink
    SkyeDS: this was before he started cancer treatments and lost all his
    hair, although it was already thinning on top
    evile: aw...
    SkyeDS: but see, a lot of important people are like that, they aren't
    going to announce to you who they are
    SkyeDS: Ann Richards is very charismatic that way (although I did
    recognize who she was immediately, to my own dubious credit I suppose)
    evile: I saw Governor Ann at a play at Zach Scott. Didn't say hi or
    anything.
    SkyeDS: when sineater got laid off from Dell we had to attend a mtg at
    Paine Webber in the ofc building there at 98 San Jacinto to deal with
    the disposition of his 401K
    SkyeDS: her office is in that building
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: thankfully we were dressed business formal. They wouldn't
    let Arthur in (after he'd been in that very building about a million
    times before, but oh well), and so it was a gorgeous day just like
    today and we sat outside
    SkyeDS: and I was walking around and playing with him and I heard
    that voice behind me and I thought, it can't be, and it was
    SkyeDS: and she called him a macaw and not a parrot
    SkyeDS: and then she wanted to hear him speak, and I cajoled him
    with half a dozen pieces of candy and he'd only do half his full riff
    evile: aw. Oh well.
    SkyeDS: I wasn't going to give him anything because he didn't do what
    he was supposed to, not entirely, and she folded her arms over her
    chest and said rather imperiously, I do hope you're going to give him
    some candy for that
    evile: she's a grandmother, you know...
    evile: grandmas are a soft touch :)
    SkyeDS: I never took any interest in her until I actually met her.
    And whatever differences I have with her politics, I have to say,
    that woman is just Something Else (tm)
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: and then there are the family members I can't ever remember
    names nor faces from one July to another
    evile: hehe.
    SkyeDS: who have seen us out at one event or another in garb with the
    children, and they remember us
    SkyeDS: and at Nana and Poppy's 50th anniversary party, where some of
    their friends ended up knowing my parents and family
    evile: very small world...
    SkyeDS: and the people from Texarkana that we met sitting on the
    patio at the Taco Bell in either Giddings or Elgin, eating with
    Arthur, who knew my parents
    SkyeDS: Austin is a big city to be as small as it can be, and Texas
    is a damn big state to be so small
    SkyeDS: "OH you're Mr. Drake's / Professor Drake's little girl!"
    SkyeDS: well, I'm not exactly a little girl now, but yeah.
    evile: heh.
    evile: Nikiyoy has run into friends of her parents both at poly group
    and GWNN
    SkyeDS: at GWNN must have been very interesting. Did it weird her
    out?
    evile: She is pretty unflappable.
    SkyeDS: my parents I think just barely understand the poly, pagan and
    renny thing, I don't think they could handle the bdsm thing, at all.
    evile: probably not.
    evile: It's always a good idea, in my experience, to err on the side
    of not giving out enough info, rather than too much.
    SkyeDS: "you can't handle the truth" ~ Jack Nicholson
    evile: It's just not polite to violate people's boundaries for no
    good reason..IMHO.
    evile: if there's no reason someone needs to know something, then
    they shouldn't be told. If they bring it up first, by all means, go
    for it, but there's just a lot that people don't need to know, aren't
    interested in, and shouldn't have to know about me.
    evile: sort of how some people like to trade horrific childbirth
    stories...if you've been through that and you're interested, that's
    fine, but don't tell ME that stuff.
    evile: Then again, I think I have traded my Freak Magnet for a TMI
    magnet--I met rei_kun in RL a couple weeks ago and got to hear all
    (and I do mean ALL) about his vasectomy experience. Omg..
    SkyeDS: gramma likes to say "you don't tell everybody you know
    everything you know all the time"
    evile: smart lady.
    SkyeDS: she turned 82 yesterday
    evile: wow!
    SkyeDS: says she got presents and sweets, and I said, well that's
    what it's all about ;)
    evile: absolutely :)
    evile: I think sineater's grandmother is right at 80
    evile: I sent sineater the link to the Human Potential Center, too, btw.
    I am hoping they will have some resources he can use.
    SkyeDS: tyty
    evile: I think it's an excellent sign that you're communicating and
    willing to keep working on this.
    SkyeDS: I am torn.
    SkyeDS: logic tells me one thing and my heart tells me something else.
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: I'm going with my heart, and i hope I don't get burned
    (again).
    evile: I admire your willingness to try
    SkyeDS: thank you for your support it is truly appreciated
    evile: You're welcome. I do care.
    SkyeDS: did they find a good caretaker for Nana?
    evile: I hope so. I think Kate had a litle freak-out after they
    decided on everything but hopefully that worked itself out.
    SkyeDS: that's good.
    evile: It's scary, I'm sure, to have to depend on a stranger to be
    in your family home, with such a large responsibility.
    SkyeDS: no doubt!
    SkyeDS: I don't remember how long it took Mom to do the same thing
    for Gramma and Grampa
    evile: I was glad that Stephanie was able to step in and do some of
    the daytime caretaking. I know that's a great blessing for the
    family.
    evile: Mom mentioned her idea: that sineater, me, and [brother A] take turns
    visiting Nana on weekends. I figure she would be fine with the rest
    of us visiting, but [brother A] and rubber_pig and the rugrats would just be too
    much stress. Mom wants Nana to have 'a relationship' with 'the
    grandchildren'..urgh
    evile: My sundays are usually free. If transportation wasn't so iffy,
    I would not mind committing to that.
    SkyeDS: I completely agree
    evile: Nana is not that far gone. People keep talking about her, and
    making arrangements for her, but she's not to the point where she
    can't make decisions for herself.
    evile: then again, she spent so much of her life being responsible
    and taking care of everyone else, maybe she really enjoys being taken
    care of for a change.
    SkyeDS: nodnod
    evile: I'm not as good at keeping up with people as I should be....
    evile: oh wow! did you see Pace's pictures? Too cute.
    SkyeDS: I haven't been on LJ or newsgroups at all yet today
    evile: Oh, OK then. They're adorable. April did a great job.
    evile: april=ample in LJ. She has a naughty bbw website. She's a
    gorgeous girl. :)
    SkyeDS: :D
    evile: (I can't look at her website at work, of course..)
    SkyeDS: lol
    evile: I never know how seriously to take our IT agreement. better
    safe than sorry I guess.
    SkyeDS: better believe it
    evile: I see a good number of appeals across my desk that are people
    who got fired for doing stuff online at work.
    SkyeDS: nodnod
    evile: TX is at will anyway, so job security is an illusion, but what
    the hell. why make it easy for 'em.
    SkyeDS: friend said recently that stability is an illusion
    evile: yup
    evile: You have to take a lot for granted and make a lot of
    assumptions just to get through a day.
    evile: I just got a sweet email from one of the people at Sharjinka's
    housewarming. That was really a fun time.
    SkyeDS: had the weather not been the way it was I wanted to go
    evile: yeah, it was yucky.
    evile: Sharjinka was worried that she wasn't going to get anybody to
    come, because it was on such short notice, so I felt like I had to
    go . I got there about 11, it was packed. I left the party at 5 am.
    and there were still people having fun.
    evile: Prophet called me a "kitchen dominatrix"..heehee.
    SkyeDS: ROFL
    SkyeDS: Jinx and Prophet sound like they have a lot of fun together
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: Prophet is someone I would like to cultivate when I am a little
    less stressed
    evile: He has a good combination of qualities: smart, nice, and cute.
    SkyeDS: very rare
    evile: *nod* that is.
    SkyeDS: I told him and Sharjinka I wanted to authorize them first for
    mounted combat
    SkyeDS: Jinx told him, you can have the white horse
    SkyeDS: ROFL
    SkyeDS: poor Prophet
    evile: heehee :)
    evile: Lisalotte was at the party too. It was really nice to see her and
    thax together. Their body language suggests things are going well
    between them.
    SkyeDS: :D
    evile: They are both wonderful people. They deserve as much love and
    happiness as there is in this world.
    SkyeDS: time to go home
    evile: Pretty much. 6 minutes.
    evile: *hugs* have a good evening. Take care.

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    Sineater: got a call from the dod, they were doing the background
    check for sec clearance for someone i used to work with
    evile: oh, wow.
    Sineater: took em long enough. he enlisted last may
    evile: jeez. that's bureaucrazy for you.
    Sineater: only question that surprised me a little was did he
    associate with not only foreign persons, but persons of foreign
    descent... i mean, nana and poppy were both children of immigrants,
    how descended do we want to get here?
    evile: yeah...that's scary.
    Sineater: shrug. only foreign people i ever saw him with were
    coworkers at dell. it's not like you're not going to find indian,
    chinese, etc high tech workers
    evile: exactly.
    Sineater: fortunately ian is tall, blond and blue eyed. fits the
    aryan ideal
    Sineater: but the boy was apolitical as far as i could tell. should
    do fine.
    evile: good.
    evile: wel, time for me to get gone. I'll be thinking good thoughts
    for you :)

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