EJ entries 1/29/03

 

1163 Re: Jen shares photos with Rick

Jan. 29, 2003

 

 

Tangential to this:

1/27/03 - me to Jen
A sent another email this afternoon; now she's asking
me if she can bring E to our dinner. She would not
think to ask about the bird and just bring that
fuckin' vermin, but she WILL ask whether or not I want
to see my brother. for fucks sake. I have a feeling
that this may turn into "Skye and her staunch eunuch
champion telling E what a crapbag she is". I am up for
it; I will stay calm and tell E I love him, and
that it's his choice, not hers, whether he and I stay
in touch.

Me to Thax:
Date: Mon, 27 Jan 2003 16:08:57 -0800 (PST)
From: E
Subject:Re: What? Me gossip?
To: M

I've never met Kim, so I don't know if that's the San
Antonio person she had the falling out with. I was
told Kim. It could have also been Catrysa.

But, I imagine that tonight at dinner, I'll find out
more than I want to know about all of the terrible
people who have offended 'Skye' lately. :P

I am having bizarrre paranoia; she emailed me to ask
if it was ok for E to come with us to dinner. I was
all like "COOOOOL!" (not that either of us will get a
chance to say anything, but at least I'll get to see
him).

So I am now running worst-case scenarios: the first is
that she's feeling like attacking me, with E in the
role of her trusty champion to help her put me in my
place. Doubtful, but possible.

#2 is far more likely: she and E will arrive with
the bird in tow. Of course, it would not occur to ask
if *Arthur* is invited. Only to ask if human husband can come
along. And I do not know a single restaurant that I
frequent which will allow Arthur inside, and I am
fordamnsure not sitting out on some frozen patio so
that Arthur can come to dinner with us.

The question in #2 would be "Do I address the
miscommunication and let her know that I don't
consider Arthur to be automatically welcome, but I DO
consider Eric to be automatically welcome in all
situations?" Or do I nod and smile and freeze to
fuckin' death while they show passers-by all of
Arthurs' tricks?

And besides which, even the slightest amount of cold
can kill tropical birds, so it always really appalls
me when they bring him out in bad weather. I don't
know if Eric just has no sense, either, or is afraid
to say something to A, but they have really lousy
judgement when it comes to taking their animals
places.

The main consideration seems to be how much attention
they can get, rather than what's good or bad for the
critters. Like when Jessie had a hurt foot and they
used to bring her out to Drandmir and let everyone
ride her, anyway. I think Mirage once had a sprain
that they rode on, too. That pisses me off. I am so
grateful that they don't have human offspring.

Argh. A is taking up too much of my psychic space
again. I'm gonna go do some Yoga.

1/27 Me to J-Law:
2 more hours in this poop hole. I am so tired & ready to go home. I
have a sneaking feelign that A is going to flake out & we won't go
to dinner. That would be great; I am not really feeling up to it at
all. nod, smile, bite tongue. lather, rinse, repeat.

1/28, me to Jen:
I am going to get some good A photos this weekend;
there's a 'kingdom event' or some crap at the park on
Sat. and she'll be introducing her role-playing
persona to everyone. Or some shit. I'm alternating
between getting really cleavaged up renfaire-style OR
doing my Orc costume thing to go out to the park &
witness this :) Probably will end up wearing jeans &
a puffy shirt, as usual.

She has always had a very small head & delicate face
compared to the rest of her, one of those faces that
makes people say "Oh, what a pretty face, if only she
could lose 200 lbs"...but I noticed last night that
she's getting jowly & piggy-looking in the face, too.
She must weigh at least 300 lbs. Of course, she went
on & on about her new diet, "The Zone", and then
proceeded to eat all sorts of bread and honey butter
and cake and whipped cream. (I had suggested we go to
Souper Salads so that she'd have lots of healthy
options, but NO. Oh well. What she crams down her
gullet is not my responsibility.)

Anyhoo...enough A blather. She takes up too much of
my time/brain.

Jen's Reply:
John and Rick want to see what A looks like. :) So, if you send me a
link, would you mind if I forwarded it to them?

The Zone is scary. It is the fundamentalist, snake-handling of the
diet world. The preparation of actual meals would be so arduous
because of all the stupid requirements that most people order their
meals from the Zone nazis and have them delivered. I read all about
it in Marie Claire.

It is appalling how far apart the concepts of nutrition and diet are
in the common lexicon. It's like, people believe that they just have
to diet, diet, diet, and give no concern to what they need to
survive. It is stupid and, ultimately, self-defeating. Someone of
A's size really needs a medical solution. Fad diets are not going to
work for her, even if she sticks to them.

ME:
You can forward all the A pictures you want; I'll
send you bunches.

She is looking for a 'magic bullet', poor thing. She
said something about losing 20 lbs in 2 weeks on The
Zone with this 'gleam' in her eye. Which is so
appallingly unhealthy. And not a reasonable
expectation. Plus, if you lose 20 lbs in 2 weeks,
chances are you'll be gaining 40 in 2 more weeks. You
don't fuck around with your body like that, esp. if
you are already sick (migraines, high blood pressure,
etc.).

My gym has all these posters to hawk their shakes &
powders & supplements, something stupid like "70% of
your results depend on diet!" Which is such total and
utter bullshit. When you and I worked out regularly, I
remember drinking beer and eating pizza and going up
to the chocolate shop on a regular basis. Maybe being
more active caused us to eat smaller portions or quit
eating sooner, but I really don't think so. I am
firmly in the 'exercise' corner. It is the one thing
I've done to lose weight that worked the best and
lasted the longest.

J:
Sad. My whole thing is - I know what I am doing wrong, what I am
willing to change, and how I'd like to do it. For example, I am
willing to (and actually do) eat smaller portions, but not
necessarily cut out entirely all of the foods I like.
I am sure that John and Rick would be more than delighted to share
their reaction with you. Rick is such a card. John is funny, too....
but the way Rick puts things is almost always so apt, yet so
unexpected.

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1164Re: Jen shares photos with Rick

 

Jan. 29, 2003

 

 

Sent to j and m/t:

Dinner with E & A actually ended up being OK. Eric and I got
to visit a little in between wife's ancient fucking stories. I am not
sure why talking about recent events & "what's going on in our lives
today" gets pushed aside in favor of telling some story about some
boy she dated in HS...but, whatever. It was not godawful, and they
didn't bring the bird.

-----
we went to souper salads, btw. she totally scarfed. it was disgusting
and sad.

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1165 me & Jen, a sweet thing for her to say.

 

Jan. 29, 2003

 

--- J wrote:
I called John last night, and we had a good talk. I had forgotten
about your "date" with E & A....

Anyway.... he was sweet and wonderful. It was his
birthday, which I didn't know (but now do) so you
know I will be trying to suss our astrological
compatibility.

I am such a ninny.

We talked again about me visiting... I brought it up this time, and
he's all, "when are you coming," all insistent in this really cute
way. He is buying a car - since he only drives Saabs, and is looking
for the certified pre-owned thing in exactly the model he wants (so
anal), he might end up traveling somewhere to get it. If it is in CA
(or even Reno), he suggested that he get his car, pick me up, and we
road-trip back to Wisco!

Even if it doesn't happen, I am just so jazzed that he suggested it.

And I need some happy thoughts to hang on to. If this house thing
doesn't work out, I am renting a studio in the City.

E wrote:
I'm glad you got to talk with John. Road trips are so much fun; it
would be interesting if you ended up driving all the way from CA to
WI with him. That's a big trip--at the end you'd either be in love or
killing each other ;P

--- J wrote:

I would love to go on a long road trip with John. Kevin and I once
thought about roadtripping.... much as I adore him, though, I would
probably kick his ass about twelve times during the trip.

E wrote:

I am the same way about road trips with Festive--love
him to death, but his idea of 'road fun' would make me
crazy after a while: mispronouncing road signs,
finding sexual suggestions in various items on the
road map, singing ABBA songs off-key on purpose,
endless channel surfing on the radio, etc. Apparently
he and his friend Sherri once went on a road trip with
a 3rd person, and by the end of the trip the 3rd girl
was curled up on the floor in the back, with a pillow
over her head. That would totally be me. I love
Festive dearly, but...

I don't want to be all sappy, but the best road trip
buddy (besides you & Dad, of course) I've found also
happens to be the person I've chosen as my life
partner. :) I probably put more importance than I
should on the fact that Tom & I road-trip together
very very well. But there it is.

Date: Tue, 28 Jan 2003
From J:

P.S. - the road trip with us and Greg reminded me (as indeed it must)
of That Girl, which reminded me of something I forgot to tell you.

Last weekend, I was packing, discarding, etc. and I ran across an old-
timey tin-type that That Girl and I had taken in Nashville, IN....
one of those places where you dress up in costumes and they take
pictures.

A few years ago, I would have looked at it and been sad, angry, or
something else unproductive.... but this time, I looked at it and
laughed.... it was a funny picture taken during a good time, and
that's all. I was ok with it.

And I "won" our feud, anyway, cuz I got you, and she got hitched to
some idiot. :)