234Letter to Victoria (lady victoria's castle closet) re chemise orders

 

 

• Jan. 11, 2002

   

  Just a ruff draft, but here's kind of what I want to say: (send via
  email & also certified/return receipt/whatever snail mail:
  
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  You have not responded to my previous two e-mails requesting an
  update on the status of my order. I am very concerned.
  
  I would really like our transaction to be a win-win situation. You
  win by earning money for your work, and you win by having a satisfied
  customer who wears your product proudly & graciously refers people
  to your business when they ask where the clothing came from. Word-of-
  mouth advertising is the best marketing you can have, and it is
  priceless!
  
  I win by having custom quality clothing made of my favorite fabric,
  obtained at a very reasonable cost. I win by having a satisfactory
  business relationship with an accomplished artist I can trust for my
  future costuming needs.
  
  I am an honest person. I enjoy creating and maintaining a positive
  environment in my life. I do not enjoy confrontations. It goes
  against my grain to have to be confrontational or unpleasant to
  people.
  
  But, I don't like to lose, especially after taking such heavy
  financial losses at the end of 2001. I will not tolerate being robbed
  of $____ with a smile on my face.
  
  I am prepared to talk to my friends and acquaintances who attend
  renaissance faires and other 'garbed' events from coast-to-coast and
  warn them not to order from you. I am prepared to post the entire
  contents of our correspondence to every mailing list, web group, news
  group, etc. I can think of in addition to my personal web page. I am
  prepared to lodge complaints with the Better Business Bureau in your
  area. I am prepared to contact PayPal regarding my payment of $------
  for no product in return. I am also prepared to consult an attorney
  friend to discuss the possibility of a small-claims court trial.
  
  I do not want to be unpleasant. I do not want to hurt you or your
  business. But I am not willing to just walk away from the money I've
  paid you and the agreement we have made in good faith. Since your
  store policy does not allow for cash refunds, I must insist that the
  items I ordered be delivered to me ASAP.
  
  Here is what I need from you in order to avert the unpleasant course
  of action I am unhappily contemplating:
  
  1. Email or postal mail ASAP regarding the status of my order: where
  are you in the process of making the items I have ordered, and when
  do you expect to ship the items?
  
  2. The items arriving safely at my door in a timely fashion following
  your email.
  
  If you cannot complete items 1 and 2, I must insist that you refund
  the money I have paid to you immediately, despite your posted store
  policy. A PayPal payment in the amount of $_____ to the account of
  ------- will be acceptable.
  
  I am very sorry for the tone of this note; it distresses me to have
  to be unpleasant to you. But since you have not seen fit to respond
  to my last two politely-worded notes, I feel I must adopt a stronger
  tone. If I do not have a reply from you by January 31, 2002, I will
  begin to take the steps I outlined above. If I do not have product or
  refund from you by March 1, 2002, I will complete the steps outlined
  above, up to and including small claims court if my attorney deems it
  practical and appropriate.
  
  I sincerely hope it does not come to that extreme. Please honor your
  committment to me and allow us to have a win-win conclusion to our
  business transaction.

236 gender test. I'm androgynous. Wierd!!

 

 

• Jan. 11, 2002

   

  The
  COMBINED GENDER IDENTITY AND TRANSSEXUALITY INVENTORY
  ( COGIATI )
  
  RESULTS
  
  Your COGIATI result value is: -90 Which means that you fall within
  the following category:
  
  COGIATI classification THREE, ANDROGYNE
  What this means is that the Combined Gender Identity And
  Transsexuality Inventory has classified your internal gender identity
  to be essentially androgynous, both male and female at the same time,
  or possibly neither.
  In some cultures in history, you would be considered to be a third
  sex, independent of the polarities of masculine or feminine. Your
  gender issues are intrinsic to your construction, and you will most
  likely find your happiness playing with expressing both genders as
  you feel like it.
  
  
  SUGGESTIONS FOR ACTION:
  
  Your situation is a little tricky in our current society, but not
  tremendously so, depending on your geographic location.
  
  The suggestions for your circumstance are not overly complicated.
  
  1. If you have any comfortability about your gender expression, some
  slight degree of counseling might well prove helpful. The primary
  goal would be to make it possible for you to enjoy your gender
  expressions free from any shame or embarrassment, and to resolve any
  remaining questions you might have.
  
  2. As an androgynous being, both genders, and both sexes are natural
  to your expression. Permanent polarization in either direction might
  bring significant unhappiness. It is not recommended that you go
  through a complete transsexual transformation. You might find a
  partial transformation of value, if you find yourself more attracted
  overall to the feminine. You are more likely a transgenderist, than a
  transsexual. It is recommended that you recognize that your gender
  issues are real, but that extreme action regarding them should be
  viewed with great caution.
  
  3. If you have not already, consider joining any of the thousands of
  groups devoted to gender play of various varieties. There is
  literally a world of friends to discover who share your interests.
  There are also publications, vacations, and activities that would
  expand your gender play.