243 revelations abound

 

• Jan. 14, 2002

   

  I had a real epiphany today. Why can't I walk away from my BPD sis in
  law and just let her ruin my brother's life, finances, sanity & self-
  esteem? After all, he's consenting to her abuse by staying in the
  marriage. Today I realized that I can't walk away from BPSIL any
  more than I could walk away from a burning house, knowing that he was
  in there, trapped under a heavy weight. I will go into that house
  again and again as many times as it takes to save his life.
  
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  Posted the above in nonbp nook, originally wrote something similar to
  Jen when talking about my correspondence with stupid OK J.
  
  So, to further the metaphor, I am the firefighter, rushing in trying
  to save the victims from the burning fire, and the victims are calmly
  walking around, cooking, cleaning, sitting on the burning couch
  watching TV, trying to live a normal life in the middle of this
  burning house.
  
  Wierd. But there it is. I think it's pretty apt. He's trapped but
  either doesn't realize it or doesn't think enough of himself or his
  chances to try and get out. So he is just living as best he can,
  maybe not even realizing that fresh cool air, freedom, peace is just
  beyond the door.