The Online predator, part 1

The Online Predator

1) Definition:

The Online Predator is one who uses the mechanisms of cyber space to hunt human beings with the intent to exploit, rob, plunder and pillage their body, mind, heart and soul.

2) Characteristics of a Predator:

1. Liar: ( Self explanatory )
2. Deceiver: self situation is presented as other than what it is.
3. Betrayer: is likely to break trust.
4. Insecure: is worried that others will be faithless.
5. Inconsistent: will say one thing while doing another.
6. Lacking Honor: Usually while protesting that s/he has honor.
7. Lack of Respect: will tend to denigrate others.
8. Transient: is unlikely to have many long term friends.
9. Manipulator: calculates and contrives for her/his own benefit
to the detriment of his/her partner.
10. Secretive: will tend to cloak self and activities.
11. Charming: If s/he could not steal your breath away, s/he would
not be a successful hunter.
12. Selective: will pick victims carefully, looking for weaknesses and
filling those voids completely.
13. Chameleon: will appear to fit any need perfectly and adapt to
fill any desire.
14. Lacking in Self Control: Although at times, may have extraordinary
self control and discipline.

A predator probably exhibits these characteristics in all aspects of his/her life. It may be that the only place the predator seems to have honor and value Truth is in the Relationship s/he is developing with his/her victim. When developing a new relationship, a person should make a conscious effort to observe his/her partners interaction with others, not just how s/he interacts with her/him. The predator may well reveal his true self through her/his
interactions.

But, the victim may only see this revelation if s/he is committed to taking every precaution for her/his own safety.

Online predator, part 2

The Online Predator

3) Predator Warning Signals:

While any of these phrases or actions may be acceptable in a
given context, pay close attention when seeing or hearing them.
Phrases:
1. Do not tell _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ .
2. ( _ _ _ _ _ ) is crazy ! ( or psycho, sick, a liar, or out to
get me )
3. It would be best if you no longer spoke to _ _ _ _ _ _ _.
4. I do not need to defend myself against lies.
5. They are just jealous ( of me, of us, of what we have, that you
have me).

Actions:

1. May seldom be in the chat rooms. Operates from other areas or
private rooms.
2. Has personal information which is incomplete or not verifiable.
3. Becomes defensive or angry when questioned.
4. Questions your sincerity when questioned.
5. Will usually discourage or forbid the practice of reference checks.
6. Will usually discourage or forbid the use of Safe Calls.

4) Personal Warning Signals:

These are items that a person should pay attention to if s/he is
saying them to her/himself or hearing them from others.

1. I feel he/she is just too good to be true.
2. You are hearing consistent warnings from more that one person.
3. Your instincts are whispering something is not right about this
person.

5) Summary:

The final best defense any person has against an Online Predator
is his/her own common sense and judgment. The potential victim should
always remember that desires, needs, and the heat of the moment can
combine to drown that judgment. Always take a moment to step back,
take a deep breath and look at a potential partner with common sense
and not with passion.