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Narcissist sent a catalog from Fingerhut fetti (not junk because I researched they have to order it to be sent to an address) can someone please shed light on this? I’m no contact after he married someone behind my back. Is this a Hoover attempt?

How do you know the catalog was sent by your ex? Sometimes you will order something by mail and start getting all sorts of catalogs in the mail because the one place you ordered from will sell your information to other catalog companies, or the companies are all owned by the same organization.

Don’t assume it’s a secret message from your ex; it could just be a coincidence. If he married someone else, he has moved on and you should, too.

On the other hand, I had an experience with a crazy b***** who knows I’m childless who thought it would be funny and cruel to sign me up for various parenting and ‘mom and baby’ type magazines. She did that for a year or two after I helped her ex, who was an acquaintance of mine, get out of her foul clutches. Basically, I just provided information and he did the rest as far as getting divorce, restraining order, splitting the assets, etc. But since I was one of his friends she ended up fixating on me and blaming me for the end of her marriage. She did a lot of crazy stuff, including sending pornography to my employer and making terrorist threats against my workplace.

So, yes, it’s possible that someone with bad intentions would sign you up for junk mail in the hope of hurting your feelings or annoying you.

Either way, the best way to respond is not to respond. You can contact the catalog and ask to be taken off their mailing list if it bothers you, but whatever you do, do NOT contact the narcissist or do anything to suggest that you were hurt or affected by the catalog in any way. If they know how to hurt you or make you mad, they will keep doing it. Keep "No Contact" with the narc and go on about your own life.

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