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How come narcissists, after reaching rock bottom, don't realize that something needs to change?

Narcissists DO NOT (CAN NOT) change! It is part of their pathology. They have absolutely ZERO self awareness, and ZERO concept of cause and effect.

Good things that happen to them are perceived as happening because they are deserved, because the Narcissist believes that he or she ‘worked hard’ ‘deserved good things’ ‘has special powers’ ‘has a special relationship with God’ or “IS God” or a ‘priest/priestess of God’

Bad things that happen to a narcissist are perceived by the narcissist as happening because ‘people are mean’, ‘they are out to get me’, ‘they are jealous’ ‘black magic is being used against me’ or some other preposterous nonsense.

Nothing negative that happens to the narcissist will EVER make him or her change their ways, issue a heartfelt apology, improve their behavior, or realize that the stuff that happens to them is their own fault, the people who abandon them do so because the narcissist has treated them like crap, etc. They just can’t do it. It’s part of their sickness. Rock bottom is not a place the narcissist will recognize or do anything about, other than cry and complain to their next ‘rescuer’ that someone was mean to them and ‘made’ them fail. They just don’t understand the bad things that happen to them are consequences for their own crappy behavior. It’s not possible.

THE. NARCISSIST. IS. NOT. CAPABLE. OF. CHANGE.

Read that as many times as it takes to internalize the simple, sad, frustrating fact.

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