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Narcissists are malicious childish little goblins; they get energy from every bit of attention they are given—good or bad, it doesn’t matter.

Of course their egos enjoy praise and worship, but their egos are also fed by people being angry with them, arguing with them, fussing at them. Because that also makes them feel important and powerful.

Power struggle? GREAT! Lots of fun, lots of mind-games to make you feel terrible about yourself and to make the narcissist feel great because she or he is the focus of your attention and she or he is having fun outsmarting you.

They have no morals and no ‘bottom’ for how low they will go to beat you, so if you have any morality or any sense of right and wrong, there is just no way to beat them. And, really, if you are a decent human being, it feels gross and sickening to play those kind of low down and dirty mind-games with people. You just end up being disgusted with yourself for doing all those petty little BS things you know are wrong.

If you know the old southern story of Brer Rabbit and the Tarbaby, think of the narc as the tarbaby. If you touch it, it has you. The more you fuss and struggle, the more stuck you become.

The only way to beat the narcissist is to make sure that they do not exist in your world—shut them out completely. Do not engage. Do not argue. Do not agree. Do not thank or praise. Do not gift. Do not speak to them. Do not even see them. Live a good and happy life, enjoy being a decent human being with other decent human beings in your life.

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