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How do some narcissists make begrudging apologies?

Well, they’d prefer to just vomit their emotional abuse all over you and leave you to clean up, pretending nothing happened and everything is OK. BUT, if you keep bringing it up, then gosh:

“I’m sorry you feel that way,”

“I’m sorry if you misunderstood what I was trying to say,”

“I’m sorry if I didn’t make my meaning clear enough for you to understand,”

And, the grand finale “I’m sorry BUT,” Where the but is blame-shifting, minimizing, playing the vitctim, etc….

A true apology will never come from the mouth of a narcissist. A true apology admits fault, shows empathy, expresses regret, and includes accountability. Narcissists are incapable of admitting that they made a mistake or committed a fault, they do not have empathy for others, they don’t take responsibility for their behavior, and since they can’t admit when they screw up, they can’t possibly either learn from their mistakes or regret them.

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