2622Re: E & A's posts re: whatever happened at polydinner

[evile]

5 Nov. 5:21 am

 

 

Fri, 05 Nov 2004 00:52:26 -0600
From: "Kilsharion" 
Subject: Response to your post


What happened was that Ms. Skye decided to be very rude and obnoxious
because people disagreed with her opinion that we should have nuked
the hell out of any and all Islamic countries and that we did not
share her same opinions about the various parties, etc. And that we
had the gall to correct some erroneous data that she believed to be
fact. When I disagreed with her I continuously received dirty looks
and snorts so I went to join Markus where he has fled to get away
from the nasties.

After a while I wanted to spend some time with Andre and Robin, so
returned and joined back in on the discussion. This time, with sineater
behind her facing me, I received the nasties and thus turned to
where I did not have to see her in my vision and ceased discussion
with her to refrain myself from saying something that could not be
taken back and erased her from my particular reality.

After this action of mine, sineater decided to invade my personal space,
place his hands on me, and inform me of how badly I had behaved.
*shrugs* Considering he was standing behind her and couldn't see a
thing and all those facing her have validated what I saw, I can't say
I feel any need to apologize or attempt to appease.

As well, I received this as a _/*public*/_ comment in my journal,
rather than a private e-mail.

sineater

Squid Boy
(143.166.226.18)
Friday, November 5th, 2004 12:43 am

Look, I have to tell you this. I understand you were upset last
night, and I understand that people were talking about things that
made you more upset. I think you handled it badly. You took it out on
my lady, and I can't accept that.

I realize you feel as though you were being attacked. She was not
attacking you, in fact much of the time she was not even speaking to
you. You were coming in on a conversation between her and someone
else, and neither person was attacking you or trying to hurt you.
I know that you were, are, still very upset about the election, and
probably about something else that I don't know about. You took it
out on her in a way that I cannot accept.

I don't know you very well. Last night I realized how little I did
know you. I can't consider you a friend. Maybe this will change in
the future.

I am the pot calling the kettle black here. I have acted out and hurt
other people before, a lot, even Skye. I have something wrong inside
me that I have to deal with. I think there is something inside you
that you need to deal with as well.

I am not your enemy, and I am not going to attack you. Neither is
Skye.

We cannot be your friends as things stand now.

As with all things, I hope for the best.



Kilsharion
(70.113.54.42)
Friday, November 5th, 2004 01:07 am

Well, when I have three others informing me that they saw the same
thing I did, and you were behind her, I guess I have to take the word
of those who saw the action as opposed to one who did not.

I was not in a foul mood last night at all until "your lady" decided
to 1) intrude on a conversation originated between savanni, Robin,
knighthorse and I, 2) procede to take over said conversation and 3) then
begin shooting dirty looks at myself and others who dared to disagree
with her. When I came back to the area, I resumed speaking with Robin
and knighthorse. She happened to be involved in that particular
conversation as well, and again, when I disagreed she got nasty. It
was not my imagination as I have verified this with others.

I realize you love her and she is special to you. That does not mean
that her behavior was not inappropriate. I am glad she has someone to
love and support her and wish you well in your relationship.

Take care.

-----------------

I have since banned both from my journal, and screened this that
should have been a private communication.

And people wonder why I don't go to poly dinners anymore.

Sorry your loved ones and I are at odds. You don't need any angst,
and can feel free to drop me to keep the familial peace. I certainly
won't take it badly. This really is so not worth the drama.

*hugs*
//Kili

 

Comments

2623Re: E & A's posts re: whatever happened at polydinner

[evile]

Me to Kili:

You're right, not worth the drama. It's just unfortunate that the
person who suffers when Skye feels attacked is my brother....but
that's his choice, and he's made it clear that he will tolerate no
interference in that choice, even when it's perceived by people who
care about him as being unhappy and unhealthy for him.

I am sorry he has lost you as a friend. I don't know you that well,
but I'm not going to remove you from my LJ or avoid you in future
social encounters to try and please Skye or sineater. I will continue to
try and be cordial to all concerned.

Thanks for the info. I was just kind of ... boggled... because I
didn't see anything Wednesday night that was anything like what sineater
and Skye were perceiving.

2624Re: E & A's posts re: whatever happened at polydinner

[evile]

5 Nov. 9:00 am

Date: Fri, 05 Nov 2004 10:38:32 -0600
From: "Kilsharion"

Subject: Re: Response to your post


He hasn't lost me as a friend from my perspective. He has chosen to
vacate the position of friend to me. That's his prerogative. Should
he begin to view the world through a different set of eyes at some
point in the future, he is welcome to return to that status. Still
attached to Skye or not. The same is to be said for Skye. Though, I
don't know that the term friend really applies as I have not had
enough time to get to know them well enough to place them in that
category. :-)

*hugs* I'm glad to know you will not avoid me in the future and that
we still have a chance to work on learning about each other.

Take care, hun.

//Kili

2625Re: E & A's posts re: whatever happened at polydinner

[evile]

5 Nov. 9:30 am


That sounds like a good attitude to take.

I hate to see stuff like this happen, but god/dess knows I've seen it
happen often enough before not to be too dreadfully surprised.

Oh well. Have a good day & an excellent weekend. :) Thanks again for
filling me in.