Quora: How do you know when you’ve defeated a narcissist? I feel like no matter what, they come out

How do you know when you’ve defeated a narcissist? I feel like no matter what, they come out feeling like the victim and the one in control.

 


The only way to win is not to play. The narcissist thrives on power struggle, while power struggles deplete and exhaust normal people. You defeat the narc when you turn your back on them forever and no longer live your life in conflict with them. You will know they are defeated when you've been living a peaceful and productive life and suddenly stop and realize you haven't thought about them or spoken with them in days, weeks, or years. When you realize they have no power in your life, and that you truly do not care what they are doing anymore, they are defeated.

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