Hurt people hurt people.

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/articles/narcissism-understood.htm

an excerpt:

Every Act of Abuse Is Born
From

Emotional Pain, Fear and a Need to Control.

When we are ‘at one’ there is no need to take, harm,
maim, manipulate or lie.

Narcissism is not a mental condition. It’s
a spiritual / emotional condition.

We’ve all been taught ‘me versus you’ and ‘survival
of the fittest’. Society’s lack of authentic emotional
training left us with the belief that ‘it’s weak’
to be authentic and real.

A narcissist feels terrorized at the thought of vulnerability
(being emotionally honest), and develops a pathological false
self to guard the unresolved emotional wounds.

The narcissist and many other individuals haven’t realised
that establishing healthy boundary
function and living truthfully in self-honouring ways keeps
us safe, and grants the freedom to be real, navigate
our lives with authenticity, self-love, self-esteem and self-respect
- whilst making decisions that work for the greater good.

Lack of Emotional Intelligence Training created:

• The Martyr / Co-dependent: “I lose you Win”, and


• The Narcissist: “I win you Lose”.

Our new world can now create “I win, everyone wins”
mentality, and it’s time this awareness and training took
place.