evile

Dec. 20, 2004

thewordnerd: [offline] Bye!
evile: Sorry to hear about the coffee pot. They sell replacement
carafes, if your thing is still brewing properly.
thewordnerd: Ah, really? Maybe I'll buy one, just get a very sturdy non-
glass one.
evile: You might not be able to find a compatible non-glass carafe.
evile: but if such a thing exists, I'm sure it's at Fry's. I hate
that place.
thewordnerd: Ah. I'm tired of glass. I use the thing to make ice tea, and
I'd really like to be able to stick the thing in the freezer to chill
it in a matter of a few hours instead of, oh, 9-12.
evile: *nod*
evile: I am trying to finagle a parking space at work on Wednesday,
so I won't have to bus home, get a car, and THEN go back downtown.
thewordnerd: Whee. Sorry, doing the conversation-juggling thing with Dave;
haven't chatted with him since HH and my birthday. :) Did Nikiyoy
mention to you her idea of maybe waiting a bit, getting a later start
and meeting up with her when she's off of work?
evile: I was figuring we'd be on poly standard time anyway, which is
why I picked a place that serves food and beer as teh meetup place,
rather than the cold-ass hobo park.
thewordnerd: LOL
evile: (the cold ass hobo park next to the big house where the
children go to die, to be more accurate)
evile: So my plan is to hang out at Scholtz for as long as it takes
for the people I know are coming to get there.
thewordnerd: LOL wow, what a depressing image (unless you really hate kids,
of course.)
evile: I just think it's a giant waste of resources to keep these
poor little suffering things alive.
thewordnerd: I can understand that.
evile: Of course, if people weren't donating to ronald mcdonald
house, what would they use to masterbate their egos with?
thewordnerd: Good question.
evile: Oh, well. Anyway...enough holiday bitterness. I'm drinking
beer and hanging out on Wednesday. If I can get the car thing
sussed, I'd be glad to come get you, if you're interested & need a
ride.
thewordnerd: Ah, down to one conversation now. :) Nifty, yeah that'd be
appreciated.
evile: If the car thing doesn't work out, we could try and meet up
where Bus 1 drops people off in front of the Capital and walk to
Sholtz from there, maybe?
thewordnerd: Hmmm. Unfortunately I don't know where the nearest #1 stop is
to me. I have a #5 nearby, though.
evile: Pretty sure every bus in Austin stops at the Capital at some
point on it's route.
thewordnerd: Ah, ok. I'll call and find out, and if it does then I can meet
up where it drops off. Actually, I'm fairly sure it does now that I
think about it, because I used to take it from south Austin and
recall hearing a capital stop.
evile: I will be in San Antonio tomorrow, but I will do my best to
remember to call you & let you know about the ride situation.
thewordnerd: Ok, sounds good. This is on Wednesday, right?
evile: Yup. I had suggested we meet up around 6:15, which in poly
pagan speak means "7:30 or so" I think.
evile: But if I'd actually said 7:30, people would not bother to show
up until 9.
thewordnerd: Hah! Right, so that's why you're meeting so early. I shouldn't
have wondered about that at this point. :P
evile: I really like punctuality, but I've decided not to let it be a
deal breaker, which means I manipulate people more than I really like
to...but if they won't accept that 6:15 means "be there at 6:15" and
not "start to t hink about leaving the house, maybe after checking
livejournal again at 6:15" what can ya do?
thewordnerd: Indeed. Makes sense to me. It's what I do for parties and
gatherings when I'm sure I'll have non-punctual people showing up.
evile: As far as I know, it's just me, you, Mary K (hopefully not her
odious preteen), maybe onyxlynxx, maybe Nikiyoy, maybe skye_ds and maybe sineater
thewordnerd: Hmmm. Well, if anything, it's a big park. Can't be too
difficult to lose people in the throngs. :P
evile: oh, and maybe skye_ds's boyfriend.
evile: *shrug* I can tolerate anything if it's for a finite period of
time.
thewordnerd: Heh. Dunno if *I* can, however. Might have to pounce on the
kitty train and make a covert exit if things get to be too much
(assuming it's running that night, of course.)
evile: I think it is.
thewordnerd: Whee. Good to plan out possible stealthy escape routes in
advance, that's my philosophy.
evile: This close to my mom & stepdad's visit, I am trying to make
very nice to skye_ds, so that sineater can have a pleasant visit with the
family
thewordnerd: Ah, that makes sense. Ugh.
evile: yup.
evile: It'll be fine.
evile: I *did* mention we are meeting at a place that serves alcohol
beforehand, yes?
thewordnerd: Aha! I see. Sorry, I've got a game of phonetag in progress.
evile: Ok.
thewordnerd: Bleh. Christmas shopping. I can't shop for my sister's gift
with her, and likewise with my parents' so I get to bounce around
between the groups.
evile: Oh well...make the best of it, I guess. And if not, get
alcohol before hand.
thewordnerd: LOL Now *that's* an idea I hadn't considered.
evile: it's the best coping strategy I know for dealing w/family.
thewordnerd: Indeed. It's more the shopping that I need help dealing with.
Niki and I went shopping the other night, and I just wanted to play
the happy Run Down The People game, first with the cart, then with
her car.
evile: I know that feeling.
thewordnerd: I finally suggested a scoring system, but she didn't take me
seriously enough to try for points. No one ever does, unfortunately.
evile: car insurance is pricey enough without hitting people.
evile: OH, I got parking for Wednesday. So I'll come get you after
work Wednesday. 5:30 ish maybe.
thewordnerd: Ah, good point . . . but there's no cart insurance. :P
thewordnerd: Nice. Sounds good.
evile: I just checked the forecast again, it looks like it might rain
on Wednesday. That would SUCK
thewordnerd: Ewww.
evile: low temperature Wednesday is supposed to be 31. WTF.
thewordnerd: Whee. I like cold Christmases. It just isn't christmasy if I'm
thinking of jumping into the pool the day after, as I was last year.
evile: i don't mind cold, I dislike cold and WET intensely.
evile: and I'm not risking pneumonia 2 days before Vegas
thewordnerd: Yeah, agreed.
thewordnerd: Heh. I'm noticing how excited you are about that trip. :P
evile: I am little miss attention defecit disorder over here.
evile: I am having to make mini-micro lists for myself: 1) get on
bus. 2) go home. 3) change clothes. and suchlike.
thewordnerd: Wow. Damn, you aren't kidding. :)
evile: Otherwise I just get too frazzled and forget to do the stuff I
really need to do.
thewordnerd: Understandable. I'm actually getting vaguely excited about the
California trip, even though it is with the family.
evile: You will have a great time.
thewordnerd: I *really* hope so. Past family vacations have turned into
family disasters, and I've skipped weekend trips because of this
unfortunate fact.
evile: well, hopefully it'll be better.
evile: Maybe you can get an ipod to drown them out.
thewordnerd: LOL Oh, I'm bringing my laptop loaded with music and books.
Hopefully I can bring them both, if my friend fixes my cheap one with
the games.
evile: good plan.
evile: argh. skye_ds is going to make it a challenge for me to stay on
good terms with her this year. But I will do it.
thewordnerd: What's she doing now?
evile: crazy talk about her poly rules and why sineater is not actually
allowed to date anyone who shows interest.
thewordnerd: Jesus. That's disgusting.
evile: if anyone asks questions about the rules, that is seen as them
trying to defy the rules, and that is just not allowed.
thewordnerd: Wow. Is this posted to LJ for everyone's amusement/dsgust?
evile: no, icq
thewordnerd: Oh, damn.
thewordnerd: So you're being subjected to it one-on-one? Yuck, I'm sorry.
evile: "there is a long list of women in the past few years who have
wanted to pursue something with him, and when they proved they could
not abide by the Family Rules, decided that they didn't understand
the Rules ergo the Rules were stupid"
thewordnerd: Hmmm.
thewordnerd: And it just never crosses her mind that he seems to break the
rules left and right but she, mysteriously, does not? I don't like
hypocracy.
evile: makes little, if any, sense to me.
thewordnerd: Yeah. I'm going to stop trying to understand it.
evile: I'm sitting there going through her rules and comparing them
to what she's told me about her ex (Kaleon in LJ) and her current
boyfriend, and seems like she broke pretty much all the rules when
she picked them. Unless, of course, you read "family" to
equal "skye"..in which case of course she never does anything without
her own approval, so it's OK.
thewordnerd: Ewww.
evile: which is pretty much how I read it in the first place, so I'm
not all that surprised. disgusted, but not surprised.
thewordnerd: I'm just continuously astounded that people don't spot their
own inconsistencies more often.
evile: most people just dont' have any kind of introspection at
all..or if they have it in one area, they're blind in others.
thewordnerd: Yep.
evile: personally, I try to exist in as much denial as possible--less
painful that way.
thewordnerd: Yeah, makes sense. I don't really know of any other solution
for a third party.
evile: oh, denial over my own issues, too, not just family crapola.
evile: but every once in a while something breaks thru the denial,
and it's like finding something rotten in a coat you hadn't worn in a
year...
thewordnerd: Ah. Wow, that's a nice and disturbing image. :/
evile: that's how it feels to me, anyway.

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evile

Dec. 20, 2004

evile: OH, BTW, I finally decided how I should have dealt with our
deaf creepy friend. I should have told him I like to pee on people,
so 'get in the tub and keep your clothes on! I want to soil you! YOU
WILL LIKE!'
thewordnerd: LOL!!!!!
thewordnerd: Send him screaming in terror all the way back to San Antonio!
evile: but then...what if he said "OK"...yeeeeeps!
thewordnerd: Yeah, then you'd have to stand and deliver. Ugh.
thewordnerd: But maybe you'd have to find an available bathtub first. That
might prove to be difficult.
evile: maybe I could just whiz in a cup and pour it on him from a
distance...
evile: "go stand in the yard, I will pour it out the window. You will
like!"
evile: and then lock the door behind him!!!
thewordnerd: LOL
thewordnerd: That's great.
evile: And, gee, I only thought of it a week late...
thewordnerd: He'd be making/frantically waving signs for people to let him
back in.
evile: LOL!!
thewordnerd: Or maybe there's an emergency skywriting squadron of
helicopters for situations like that. Like the kind that airlift
people to hospitals, only to get people's attentions when someone
gets locked outside naked in the cold.
evile: the mental picture is very very entertaining.
thewordnerd: Indeed.
thewordnerd: Could be like a volunteer fire department or something.
evile: next party. Hopefully we wont' have to deal with him, but now
we have coping strategies.
thewordnerd: Indeed. Thanks for graciously volunteering. :P
evile: heh. I think I'm the only one of us who could do it with a
straight face.
thewordnerd: Wow. That's impressive.
evile: Honey, I'm a domme. That's what we do.
thewordnerd: Well, right, I think I might be too, but there are some things
that just seem a tad . . . extreme, and I'd just have to laugh
regardless.
evile: Not when you're running a mindfuck.
thewordnerd: Heh, ok, I'll take your word for that. I was never good at
practical jokes with a straight face when I was a kid.
evile: *nod*
evile: my sense of humor seems to be rather dark and nasty, rather
than practical jokey.
evile: I laugh more with you and Nikiyoy than I do with just about
anyone else.
thewordnerd: Really? Wow.
evile: yup. Sweetie and I are silly sometimes, but mostly I'm a
pretty serious person.
thewordnerd: Wow, that surprises me.
evile: really?
thewordnerd: Yeah. I'd always assumed you were more playful/silly.
evile: this may be one of those things where self perception is very
different than external reality.
thewordnerd: Hmmm, possibly, or it could just be different aspects of your
personality surfacing in different surroundings.
thewordnerd: And I think Niki and I are both somewhat playful/whimsical
people, so this makes sense.
evile: yeah.
thewordnerd: We hung out again last Saturday for a few hours, and it was
lots of fun. I dragged her off to a geek movie party that I was kinda
iffy about attending, but she seemed to want to go, and I hope she
had fun.
evile: She called me Sunday evening & told me about that. She sounded
like she'd had a good time.
thewordnerd: Ah. Hmmmm.
evile: I think she did mention that she wasn't enough of a geek to
get some of the conversation. But overall sounded positive.
thewordnerd: Is there anything you're able to say about that? I sent her an
email last night basically stating that I'm interested in her, but am
kinda wanting to take things slowly due to comfort issues and am bad
at tossing things like that into conversation initially, and am
better at expressing myself in writing. Haven't heard back from her
yet, though, and am trying to anticipate what kind of response I'll
receive. :)
evile: she didnt' say anything about any of that.
evile: It would be fun if y'all could be playmates in that way :)
thewordnerd: Damn. :/ I figured she'd probably get the email today, as she
doesn't have internet access at home.
thewordnerd: But I didn't know if she'd said something like 'That thewordnerd guy
is kinda creepy' or something similar.
evile: NO!
thewordnerd: Whew. :)
evile: I like you and I'm your friend. I would tell you if something
like that was going on and I knew about it.
evile: I'd try to be tactful, but I'd definitely let you know if you
were creeping Niki out.
thewordnerd: Ah, so I thought. :) I wasn't sure how much you could/couldn't
say because of your friendship with her, and I'd certainly expect you
to have confidences/secrets with her that you couldn't exactly share.
thewordnerd: Heh.
evile: No, if she was having a problem with you, first of all I think
she's woman enough to let you know herself. And if she wasn't, THEN
I'd say something to you.
thewordnerd: Yeah, sounds like what I thought as well. I think I've just
got random insecurities from past relationships, combined with a
general inexperience in communicating about things like that. And I
didn't really believe I was creeping her out, that was just me being
a dork. :) I just wasn't sure if she'd said anything about me, as I'm
not a big fan of anticipation. :)
evile: I'm going to bitches craft night tonight, so I'll keep ya
posted.
thewordnerd: LOL All righty.
evile: I think I can at least tell you whether you're getting 'hot,
warm, cold' without revealing any secrets.
thewordnerd: Excellent, that's what I'd hoped. ;)
evile: And I hope you're listening when she talks about what she's
looking for in a relationship in your presence.
thewordnerd: Oh, you doubt me? :P
evile: Not at all, I'm just saying, I hope you're taking notes!
thewordnerd: Actually, that's part of why I continue to get more interested
in her. I like that she's poly, someone I can go to BDSM parties
with, yet seems to be looking for a certain degree of security and
comfort. I've had a few bad relationships to date, and I'd kinda like
to be with someone with whom I can explore things but trust not to be
a psycho, dishonest, deliberately hurtful . . . and that requires a
certain comfort level.
thewordnerd: Heh, the only way I could be more effective at taking notes is
if I had my laptop and started typing as soon as she began. :P
thewordnerd: Now *that* would probably be creepy.
evile: *lol* yes.
evile: Physically, she tends to be attracted to bigger guys than you
are, but I think 'friends with benefits' could be an attainable state.
evile: Especially since y'all have fun together, share interests,
kinks, etc.
thewordnerd: Hmmm. That could work.
evile: And she's still confused about what she wants, I think. She
talks about wanting to be a lesbian, or being a lesbian...but she
seems to really enjoy flirting with guys and looking at them, so.
It's a mystery.
thewordnerd: I wasn't sure what her physical type tended to be. I tend to
just not think about that all for obvious reasons. :)
evile: Well, she's a big tall girl. So she tends to like guys who
are as big and tall as she is, if not bigger.
thewordnerd: Heh. And with me she talks about being bi but tending toward
guys, so . . .
thewordnerd: Hmmm.
evile: *laugh*
thewordnerd: And I've gotten vague comparisons to Dre, not sure what to
make of that. According to her I'd like him, so . . .
thewordnerd: And she's talked about me with him, so . . . Hrm. No clue.
evile: His sense of humor is similar to yours.
thewordnerd: Ah, so perhaps that's the reason.
evile: And I think she and Dre have a similar level of honesty now
that they're broken up.
thewordnerd: Ah.
evile: And maybe Niki's just a flirt.
thewordnerd: Her email address *is* nikiyoy@******.com, right? That's what I
grabbed from LJ, so . . .
evile: yup
thewordnerd: Good.
evile: Shoot, I guess I should have gotten together with her when
she called yesterday evening. I was just so...blah, though. dammit.
thewordnerd: Hmmm. Long weekend?
evile: no .I just had a lot of stuff I needed to get done, and did
not get as much done as I wanted. So I was not in a mood to go out.
thewordnerd: Ah, understandable, happens to us all.
evile: I wanted to be all done so I could just run around and play
all week, but it didn't happen, so now I have to mush in some
housework in amongst all my social stuff this week. And dammit,
wasting 10 hours a day with this work crap is not helping.
thewordnerd: :( I didn't get nearly as much cleaning done as I'd hoped,
either.
evile: Oh well. It'll get done. And if not, well, it's just my
parents, so it isn't that crucial. I just hate to go traveling and
come home to a mess.
evile: What day are you leaving for California?
thewordnerd: Yeah, me too. I've got John staying over at my place just to
sleep in exchange for taking care of the cat, so I'm kinda afraid of
cleaning up now, then coming back to a mess.
evile: oh, yeah...that would suck.
thewordnerd: Leaving for Shiner on the 23rd, for CA on Christmas, and
getting back late on the 30th.
evile: aha. So no poly dinner for us on Thursday, then. poop.
thewordnerd: No, so I'm trying to get my fill of my friends before then.
evile: *nodnod*
evile: Even if the weather is suck on WEdnesday and we have to cancel
the trail of lights, we should still hang out.
thewordnerd: Indeed. Could just hang out at the beer garden for a few
hours. It's been awhile since I've done something like that.
evile: I guess we'll play it by ear & hope the weatherman is wrong,
as usual.
thewordnerd: Indeed.
evile: I was reading that there is a new fondue restaurant! I want to
try it. Maybe not this week, but sometime.
thewordnerd: Ooo, neat. Yeah, me too.
thewordnerd: How do those usually work?
evile: I've never been to a fondue restaurant, so I guess we'll have
to find out.
thewordnerd: Heh, okie. :)
evile: At fondue parties, there are just a bunch of pots with
different things and everyone uses their own fork and plate, but
shares the pot to dip stuff in.
thewordnerd: Hmm.
evile: we are probably talking pots with sterno, so you'd need to
watch your fingers :P
thewordnerd: What's sterno?
evile: it is this stuff that comes in a can, it's like jellied
alcohol. It burns.
thewordnerd: Yow! Interesting. :)
evile: it's used in a lot of catering type stuff, to keep dishes warm.
thewordnerd: And does the alcohol evaporate in the heat?
thewordnerd: Hmmm, ok, so it isn't intoxicating? Just meant as edible fuel?
evile: A fondue pot is set up above a can of sterno, which is lit &
keeps the stuff in the pot warm.
thewordnerd: Oh, I see.
evile: No, it's not edible. It's like...rubbing alcohol. Not drinkies.
thewordnerd: Gotcha.
evile: I would probably mock you unmercifully if you tried to drink
the sterno....
evile: "allright, Kitty Dukakis"
thewordnerd: I probably wouldn't be around to be mocked at that point. :P
thewordnerd: Probably go up like a Roman candle, and probably take everyone
at the table with me just to be spiteful.
evile: *lol!*
evile: Jeez, it's time for me to go! past time, actually.
thewordnerd: LOL I wondered when you'd notice.
evile: *smack*
evile: See ya later!