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EJ 12/16/02
Dec. 16th, 2002 10:20 am- forgot to write about my dream after I cut & pasted horoscope stuff:
dream was about my mom & greg's house, and having to get Jess from
school and take her somewhere,or something. showering in LR or mom's
work rm, there was a drain in the floor, but the floor was wood & was
getting soft due to water. spaz pooped on glass topped coffee table.
that's about it.
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evites to Decemberween still have not been sent. I will send them
tonight if Tom hasn't done his part.- Dec. 16, 2002my right eye is hurting today--woke up around 4 this a.m. with
soemthing in it, it was scratching up my eye and watering horribly.
Got up, looked in the mirror--it was like pinkeye. I put all kinds of
drops in it and went back to sleep. it was still a bit red & tender
this a.m. but my eyes weren't 'crusty' the way pinkeye usually is.
contact lens solution has boric acid in it, which is the usual cure
for pinkeye. That or opthalmic neosporin, which i think you can get
without a prescription.
SIL wrote back to me re: drandmir drama & CRW. I wrote back. It was
pleasant.- Dec. 16, 2002-----Original Message-----
Sent: Friday, December 13, 2002 12:07 PM
To: A
Subject: meow meow meow
I just have to say this,and I have nobody to say it
to but YOU, and you're not on ICQ, so here goes:
(Have you been keeping up with the $1 feast cost
discrepancy in the Drandmir Midreign event?
Apparently it's been causing all sorts of discord among the
Drandmirians. )
I am >thisclose< to saying "Look, let's all just
pitch in $10 and use the extra $ to buy y'all some chill
pills' god d***. it's a f***ing dollar, people! If
your budget is so close that a single dollar makes
that much difference, you probably have no business
having an expensive hobby like making costumes &
padded weapons and driving all over half of Texas to
camp and poke each other with said weapons."
F***ing christ.
I am also feeling more and more ambivalent about
attending said midreign, even though it's close &
the weather is looking like it might be lovely this
weekend. I just have better things to do than deal
with childish drama over something that should be a
non-issue.
*sigh* Thanks for letting me vent, I feel MUCH better!
XO!
-E
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From: "A
Subject: RE: meow meow meow
Date: Mon, 16 Dec 2002 09:03:02 -0600
No, I hadn't really been keeping up with it, but it
doesn't surprise me to hear it. Drandmirians seem to like being
upset, and so if they don't have a good reason they just make one
up. I am a much happier person now that I am part of Barad Duin.
Now that I think back, I was pretty much annoyed or upset every
single weekend that I went to Drandmir, and I have not been
upset, annoyed or anything else but completely happy
now that I go to Barad Duin instead. I keep intending to go back to
Drandmir on Sundays once the move and the holidays are past, but I
wonder if it's even a good idea, as much as I like the park (I can
always go there to ride, and not necessarily submit myself to the
black hole that is Drandmir.)
I might have considered going to midreign had it not
been f'ing halfway to Dallas. And while we're talking about event
fees, Barad Duin had a Coronation the first weekend of December, and
our event fee was only $5. Of course, feast only consisted of beef
and gravy over rice, vegetable stew, rolls, sugar cookies and
beverages. Which reminds me, I need to buy feast gear. I still
think that if you were Feast O Crat that you would blow everybody
pretty much away with what can be done for how much money.
What I *have* been keeping up with, as you are no
doubt aware, is the money issue over the upcoming CRW. It has been
all of 3 months since the last CRW and they're already at it again.
They want toilets, showers, camping with electric and water, an
indoor feasthall that will seat 120+, and room enough for a
battlefield. And oh, by the way, they don't want to pay $30 per
person.
As it turns out, it isn't that Burnet County Fairgrounds is out of
business. They just won't take any more business from LARP
groups at all (live action roleplay) because of the bad behavior of
some other LARP group - no one will tell me who or what they did, but
it wasn't HFS. I wonder if they've checked into Travis County
Exposition Center yet. Probably too expensive.
Someone should explain to them the concept of wanting champagne and
having a beer budget.
Benedizioni,
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Mon, 16 Dec 2002 07:45:45 -0800 (PST)
From: evilE
Subject: RE: meow meow meow
To: "A
As much fun as it would be to plan & orchestrate a big
garbed feasty-thing, I wouldn't do it for the HFS.
"Pearls before swine" & such. I'm having a really fun
time planning our fare for the Decemberween Party, and
since it's *my* event, I don't have to worry about
staying in someone else's budget, taste range, comfort
zone, etc.
On that note, I found my menu notes from last year's
dinner with you, E, Mom & G, and the white wine
you liked is Llano Muscat Canelli. It was probably a
1999 or 2000. I'll probably get another couple bottles
for Decemberween.
The Smoke & Fire company has a good selection of
wooden & pewter dishes; you could probably put
together your feast gear pretty inexpensively. I think
I put their link somewhere in the clothiers group
links. Let me know if you can't find it there and I'll
dig it up again for ya.
I'm pretty much done with talking about CRW6. I put in
my tuppence worth, haven't gotten much in the way of
feedback or whatever, so I'm done for now. The way
plans & events are cropping up for 2003, I will
probably be busy whichever weekend Patrick picks,
anyway. If he asks me to go take photos of Rocky Hill
Ranch, or asks me to get in contact w/management, or
whatever, I'll be happy to, but I've done as much as I
feel like doing on my own.
XO!
-E
- Dec. 16, 2002Sent this to tom today:
Subject: Decemberween Evite
I'm sending it tonight when I get home from the discussion/debate I'm
going to, if you haven't sent it already by then. We can always add
names after it's sent, anyway.
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Then I realized that he may not want to have the party, and he's not
just being lazy, but actually trying to practice some kind of
avoidance, so I sent this:
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Subject: Unless
If you really would rather not have a Decemberween party, just let me
know. We can erase the evite and pretend it never existed. I dont'
want to drag you kicking and screaming thru a shitty holiday that we
hate.
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Then I got pissed and sent this to Jen:
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Date: Mon, 16 Dec 2002 11:17:32 -0800 (PST)
From: "E
Subject: passive agressive bs
To: "J Law
It occurred to me that Tom has changed his mind about
having a Decemberween party and just didn't want to
tell me, hoping that if he put off doing his part long
enough, it just magically wouldn't happen.
So, I've got a couple of options:
Send out my invites anyway, knowing that he will not
lift a finger to help, clean, cook, or participate in
any way, knowing that it will be 100% 'MY' party.
Ask him directly "Have you changed your mind, would
you rather not have a party?" and (cheerfully?) abide
by his decision if his answer is "no party"
Just ignore the unsent evite until the date has passed
and the party didn't happen, continuing in the
passive-aggressive vein. Maybe buy lots of food and
make him eat it all since nobody came to our party
(since we didn't send invitations & all)- Dec. 16, 2002sigh* Tom _still_ hasn't added his friends' addresses to the
Decemberween evite. You can always go in and add addresses after you
send it, but for some reason he wants to send it all at the same
time. He is pissing me off with the foot-dragging. I am going to send
that sucker tonight whether he's added his friends or not. Since I'm
the one buying the stuff & making the stuff, I really could give a
rats hind end whether his friends, former coworkers, etc. come or
not. Would be nice to have him interested & participating, but
dammit, if we wait too long, nobody will come because they all have
other committments. except the losers, and they'll all be Tom's
losers, anyway.
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It occurred to me that Tom has changed his mind about having a
Decemberween party and just didn't want to tell me,hoping that if he
put off doing his part long enough, it just magically wouldn't
happen. So, I've got a couple of options:
Send out my invites anyway, knowing that he will not lift a finger to
help, clean, cook, or participate in any way, knowing that it will be
100% 'MY' party.
Ask him directly "Have you changed your mind, would you rather not
have a party?" and (cheerfully?) abide by his decision if his answer
is "no party"
Just ignore the unsent evite until the date has passed and the party
didn't happen, continuing in the passive-aggressive vein. Maybe buy
lots of food and make him eat it all since nobody came to our party
(since we didn't send invitations & all)
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In the past when we've been able to address the issue of his non-
communication, he says he doesn't like giving me direct answers
because I get 'mad'.
Well, I'm going to be mad if I have to do all the work and he acts
all shitty before, during, and after the party. AND I'm going to be
mad if we end up not having a party at all, so if I'm going to be
pissed either way, he might as well say what he thinks.
What the fuck? How am I supposed to act when we've been planning this
thing more or less since before thanksgiving, and now he's acting
like he doesn't wanna do it? "Oh, tra la la, look at the flowers
growing out of my ass, oh happy day"???
And, it seems to me that I would be LESS mad if he had just let me
know he was having second thoughts at the time he started having
them, instead of letting me waste time on menus and shopping lists
and getting excited & happy about it.
I hate this crap.
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Well, I called his cell & asked him point blank if he wanted to
cancel the party. He said "why do you ask that?" and I explained
why,and then he said he would call me back, when he was back at work.
I sincerely doubt he'll be calling me back.
YES OR NO. That Is all I fucking need.
Not that goddamned hard, they're one syllable words.- Dec. 16, 2002Dec 16, 2002, 2:31 pm
No, it's cool. I just started studying as soon as I got to work
today and forgot.
My reply: 12/16 2:30
I promise I will not be ugly to you if you'e changed your mind and
would rather not do it.
We need to make up our minds and either send the thing or delete it,
there's less than 2 weeks until the 27th.
