How may my narcissistic MiL view me after she massively underestimated me? She crossed a massive boundary and I ghosted her after that, 2 years ago. My husband is very supporting but still have contact with her when she initiates it.
To a narcissist, everyone is a tool or a threat. If you refused to be used as a tool (flying monkey, applauding audience member, supply of admiration, money, drugs, booze, sex, whatever) then you are a threat.
If your MIL is a narcissist as you say, she has been talking hellacious sh*t about you from that day to the present, to anyone who will listen. Whatever awful things she may have done to you and your husband, she tells other people lies about how YOU are the one who did those things to her. If she attacked you, she will tell everyone that you attacked her. (or did it first, or did it worse, whatever she needs to say to justify and excuse whatever violent antisocial behavior others may have observed)
The smear campaign, projection, and DARVO will not stop until and unless she gets you back as a flying monkey/tool, or until your husband divorces you (being her tool/flying monkey/obedient son)
It’s a toxic situation. I hope you and your husband are in therapy and have a very good, solid base of love and trust in your marriage.
It’s going to be very hard for him, and for you to stay married to him and stay on good terms with all your in-laws on that side of the family if she’s doing the usual narcissist things behind your back.
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