JD vs AH, final thoughts

Here's something I haven't seen many people commenting about. Depp admitted and acknowledged a drug and alcohol problem. But Heard was drinking and drugging right along with him, and somehow only HE got mean and irrational while using? Only HE had a substance problem? Her use/abuse of drugs and alcohol didn't contribute to their sick and violent relationship, at all? Come onnnnn, man. Not buying it.

And now folks are saying that Marilyn Manson is going to use the same 'misogynistic' court techniques to win his defamation suit. Well, let's look at the differences: Depp has had multiple relationships, and only one accusation of DV in something like 35 years of being a famous person constantly in the public eye. His accuser had past incidents of being a DV abuser. Manson, on the other hand, has multiple accusations and multiple women who reported Manson's problematic behavior. I just don't see how people can compare these cases, they're apples and oranges.

Can the legal system be misused by abusers to further traumatize their victims? Yes. It can and it HAS--especially in cases of a female abuser and male victim.  And especially when it comes to family courts and parental alienation. The legal system is terrible and flawed. I don't feel that the Depp verdict is a proof of that (though the fact that he is a public figure with enough money to get good lawyers might be),  any more than I feel that AH's behavior invalidated the entire 'me too' movement or proved that all women are gold digging liars.

I guess what this is highlighting for me is that no matter how righteous your initial cause, lowlifes will hang themselves on it like a barnacle and co opt it for their own agenda.

I don't know if anyone remembers the original Tea Party tenets, they made sense and seemed decent. haha.

Mens Rights? yeah. They were looking for the same things I think men get screwed out of in family court--fair divorces, shared custody, reasonable child support, etc.

And now it's coming to the same with 'me too'....bad actors (literally!) attaching themselves and using a movement to advance their own sick goals.

On a micro level, I've seen and heard abusers co-opt the language of self-help, abuse and therapy to justify their abuse and vilify their victims and anyone else who calls them out on their shitty behavior.

So.....maybe humans are just garbage.

And now we have Jan 6 public hearings starting. ughhhhh