REBT--Holy Cow!

So last night at dinner, I met jfrands and being the true LJ stalker that I am, I went and looked at his LJ today, browsed through his memories, etc. I found something REALLLLY F-ing AMAZING, it's called "Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy" and I think it would be helpful to find someone who does this.

"the 'Big Four'.

The big four- DEMANDING, AWFULIZING, PEOPLE RATING, and LOW FRUSTATION TOLERENCE is the classification that most REBTers now use when identifying and disputing irrational beliefs."
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YES. This makes so much SENSE to me!!!

meeting #2

this one didn't allow smoking in the building, so that was a plus. All the interesting-looking people ended up going to the simultaneous AA meeting. Oh well.( Read more... )

Anyway...I just ended the evening feeling disrespected and alienated and really like that crap's not for me. I just want to stop hurting and stop crying and stop doing things the wrong way. I just want to find a happy medium between 'doormat' and 'flaming bitch'. I just want to be the person I think I should be, which means being truthful and honest and decent and loving and not a lying hypocrite with giant walls all around.