3323icq w/ thewordnerd

Jun. 24, 2005

 

 

evile: so, have you abandoned poly for burners, now?
thewordnerd: Hey. No, just hiding lots during the past few weeks. Not
really dealing with things in general terribly well--or, at least,
haven't been for the past few weeks. Being broke has also kinda
discouraged me from dinner-type functions in general because buying
food is so tempting.
evile: OK
thewordnerd: But the financial situation has changed recently (within the
past day or two) so perhaps I can start going again soon.
evile: cool.
thewordnerd: And I have another phone interview in a couple hours. Yay,
let's hope that it goes better than the last one I had.
evile: *fingers crossed*
thewordnerd: Thanks, I'll need that. :)
evile: who is it with?
thewordnerd: I think they're called Accenture, I'm researching them now.
Looks like some sort of entry-level java programming with a months'
worth of paid training in July.
evile: sounds interesting :)
thewordnerd: Eh, I don't know if I'd say 'interesting,' but the fact that
it's entry-level and offers paid training and more experience is a
good fit for me, and I wouldn't necessarily be tempted to claw my
eyes out doing it. :)
evile: that's always a fine thing.
thewordnerd: I'm hoping that it isn't in AZ, though, because the person who
is emailing me seems to be based there. Isn't a certain indication,
but worrying nonetheless.
evile: hm. I guess that would be important to find out.
thewordnerd: Indeed. I'm poking around on their page now.
evile: it's nice to be contemplating a somewhat permanent thing, I
guess. temp jobs are fun, in that you know you won't be stuck
somewhere bad forever, but sometimes you want a little security
thewordnerd: Yeah. Plus, these temp agencies aren't returning my calls.
It's pissing me off beyond belief.
evile: I can imagine. dealing with temps is really frustrating.
thewordnerd: 'Sorry, W told me to call you yesterday and I forgot to do
it . . . but it's enough to call us and just leave a message. You
don't have to speak to another person for us to keep you on the list
and call you if things come up.' Ok, am I the only one who notices
the PROBLEM with these two statements when taken together?
thewordnerd: They've 'forgotten' to call at least 3 times now . . . and
that doesn't even take into account the many calls they've just not
returned at all.
evile: yeah.
evile: I think the only way I was successful with the temps was to
actually go in and do their free training & typing tests and such ALL
the time, so they got tired of me being in there and using their
stuff, so they placed me.
thewordnerd: Heh, that's funny.
thewordnerd: Oh, and the really fun bit, which I have second-hand through
my parents so don't know if it's *entirely* true but I don't know why
they'd make something like this up, is that SSI will give me *more*
money if I'm living with someone and sharing bills/expenses with them
(and, as such, spending less) than they will if I'm living alone and
spending more. If I understand that correctly, it's just so
braindead. I'm just getting so enormously frustrated with all of
this. Try harder to find a job, spend more of my days sending out
resumes and bugging temp agencies but nothing seems to come of it.
Then apply for aid, and encounter this braindead policy. I'm just
looking for enough to cover expenses, but there's no way to get 'just
enough' in a few months when my parents want to start charging, so
I'll have to move and get more than I'll need, unless a job pans out
by then.
evile: is this policy something you've seen/read yourself, or your
parents version of it? That sounds very screwy to me.
thewordnerd: According to them, it's what they were told when they
explained that they were paying rent and I was paying everything else
to the woman who is managing my program. They started dragging their
feet last week and not sending me some additional info that was
requested (I.e. my life insurance policy which is legally mine and
which I consented for the SSA to see . . . ) So, like I said, it may
be wrong, but I was told that I'd get $325 if I lived alone, and $575
if I shared expenses.
thewordnerd: I don't know why they'd make something like that up.
thewordnerd: And, of course, my program person is tough to get ahold of to
ask. She calls at very odd times, usually before 8 AM. Might have to
just wake up early again and again until I reach her. Ugh.
evile: *nod* yup...I always got best results when I called the temps
early
thewordnerd: Hmmm, didn't think that time of day would make a difference,
especially if I'm leaving voicemail. Perhaps it's worth a try.
evile: I think so.
evile: it's probably pretty much a first come first served type of
thing. the first messages on the VM will get the first call back.
thewordnerd: Ah, I hadn't looked at it that way. Sorry, I'm poking around
on this company's website, and just got a random call out of the blue
from GWNN James.
evile: nice of him to call, I guess....
thewordnerd: Yeah. Just wanted to let me know about a rope-typing class
that I'd been interested in, and to ask if I'd be interested in being
a consultant/helping redesign the website. Shame that I couldn't put
that one on my resume. :)
evile: yeah...oh well.
thewordnerd: Yeah, it'll be fun at least . . .
evile: I hope so. I haven't been to any GWNN stuff in forever.
thewordnerd: Yeah. Are the voyagers parties free or donation-only? Might
check them out if I can go for free or donate a few bucks instead of
paying $15.
evile: free, usually byob &/or bring food to share
thewordnerd: Oh, cool.
evile: *nod* they're usually at [captain scarlet]'s (where we enjoyed you will
like's company) or at Leo's
thewordnerd: LOL Wow, I haven't thought about him in so long . . .
evile: me neither.
thewordnerd: I wish there were some way of seeing what would happen if we
took a handful of freaks and tossed them alone into a locked room,
then watched them via camera.
evile: sounds like a new FOX reality TV show.
thewordnerd: Indeed, one that I might actually watch (at least for an
episode or two.)
evile: I still want a 'beyond thunderdome' death match between my
sister in law and the rubber pig.
thewordnerd: Ooo, neat.
thewordnerd: Can they train minions? Hunting parrots vs. children?
evile: *LOL!!!*
evile: In the mad max movie, the weapons were attached to the top of
the thunderdome, and each combatant was on a bungee cord type
apparatus so they could jump up and get the various implements.
evile: I can just picture UB bouncing up to grab her parrot
thewordnerd: LOL I didn't know that.
evile: it's an awesome movie...I should rent it...assuming I have
time to sit and watch a movie this weekend.
thewordnerd: Heh. Planning a busy weekend?
evile: tonight is my friend rio's kid's birthday, tomorrow is rainking1s
bday and the bellydance/fire show at natural magic, Sunday is tubin.
thewordnerd: Wow, you do quite a bit of tubing. :)
evile: yeah, it's turned into our Sunday Ritual, almost.
thewordnerd: Heh, neat. I'd definitely be interested in going sometime, now
that I'm not strapped for cash for a few months.
evile: *nod*
evile: Sweetie is orchestrating this weekend; I have no clue when
we're going to be leaving or anything like that.
thewordnerd: Heh. I'm not sure if I can go this sunday, actually, but if
you're going next weekend then I should be able to, or maybe the
weekend after. My family is throwing my sister a 'going away to
Japan' party on one of these weekends, though I'm not sure which.
evile: I'll keep ya posted, then. on the "Rl no drama" LJ filter.
thewordnerd: Excellent. Thanks.
evile: I haven't posted a calender type entry in a while...I just
haven't felt up to it. sineater keeps telling me there's 'something' he
wants to talk to me about, and I just dont' want to add any fuel to
the fire.
thewordnerd: Ugh, I hate it when people do that. Just give a hint about
what it is, or say something like 'It's nothing bad' or something.
evile: he says "I don't want to have drama or fight"..and then I
say "OK, I'm willing to listen, as long as it's about something I
have done or said to you. If it's something with skye_ds, or with one
of my friends, I don't want to talk about it" and then he doesnt'
respond for awhile.
thewordnerd: Interesting.
evile: and then A. will inform me in ICQ that sineater is mad at me.
thewordnerd: Wow, that's fucked-up.
evile: Which will then lead me to ask him if everything's OK, and
then I'll get another funky passive agressive post, lather rinse
repeat.
evile: it is bizarre.
thewordnerd: Yeah. Hmmm. Doesn't really seem like there's anything you can
do about it, though (or anything *else* you can do.)
evile: oh well. I'm doing pretty good avoiding drama with them
lately...unfo it seems that in so doing, I am avoiding any
communication whatsoever with my brother.
thewordnerd: :(
evile: exactly. I am here, I make myself as available as I can while
maintaining a hard limit , and if that's not acceptable, too bad. I'm
not going to let him yell at me for my relationship with his wife, or
my friends behavior.
thewordnerd: Good call.
evile: took me way too long to get to this point.
evile: you didn't miss anything at poly dinner last night, bTW.
thewordnerd: Heh, didn't sound terribly exciting. I can't believe Stinky
showed up.
evile: that was ultra bizarre. Seriously he walked into the patio
area, walked around the table once, looking into each person's face,
and then walked out.
thewordnerd: LOL That's just weird. Who was there?
evile: Sam & his little girl, Suzanne & Warren, some freaky woman in
an orange cast, me, Nikiyoy, Maiteclay & Penny
evile: oh, yeah, scrith, felisviolacious, Little One, and ladydreamtime showed up just as we
were leaving.
thewordnerd: Oh, wow, sounds like quite a crowd.
thewordnerd: Just as an FYI, the phone interview is scheduled at 2, so if I
vanish that's why.
evile: OK. *fingers crossed!!*
thewordnerd: Thanks.
thewordnerd: I wish I had more of an idea what they're looking for. It's a
month of minimum-wage paid entry-level training after which I may or
may not get a job. Not very much to go on as far as preparing and
knowing what they'll ask.
evile: well, that'll be a good question for the interview, then, I
suppose :)
thewordnerd: Indeed.
thewordnerd: That seems to have gone well. Not sure if everyone makes it,
but they're sending me instructions for an aptitude test that is the
next phase in the process.
evile: awesome :)
thewordnerd: ?I'm just a bit worried because it's a timed web-based test,
and considering the luck I have with websites not being
accessible . . . but I'll just give it a shot, and write a detailed
explanation after the fact if it doesn't work.
evile: yeah...definitely cross that bridge when you come to it. I
hope it works out.
thewordnerd: Thanks.
evile: a bunch of folks are going to hippie hollow on Sunday. I wish
I didn't already have plans. foo.
evile: weekends are too short and work weeks are too long.
thewordnerd: Heh, indeed. The lake's probably finally warm enough, too.
evile: Oh, I'm sure. Bull Creek was like bathwater on Tuesday.
thewordnerd: Oh wow.
evile: the main swimming hole has a lot more weeds on the bottom than
I remember from last summer. That was kinda gross.
evile: Or, as kulilinei's daughter M. said "oh! Somebody TOOTED over
here!!"
thewordnerd: LOL
evile: she's a cute kid, actually.
thewordnerd: Heh. Seems like it, from what I've read about her.
evile: I like all my friends kids. Too bad the rest of them are crack
monkeys
thewordnerd: Heh.
evile: everyone's already asking what I'm doing for the July full
moon. agh.
thewordnerd: Wow, must've been quite a bit of fun.
evile: I guess. It's starting to fall prey to the same crap that
happened when I used to have big parties--I run around doing stuff
the whole time and don't get to enjoy my own party. feh.
thewordnerd: Yeah, I was wondering if that were already the case . . .
evile: yup.
evile: and I'll probably have to move it back to my yard, one of the
guests was bitching about the dogs.
evile: it's a leash free park...I don't know what someone would not
understand about that...it means, yes, dogs run around. None of them
jumped on us, ate our food, or attacked us, so I don't know what the
big deal was.
thewordnerd: Hmmm, interesting. Were they any worse than they were at our
picnic? They were just cute then.
evile: no, I don't think so. They run over, sniff around, get petted
a couple of times, and run off again. No biggie, in my mind.
thewordnerd: Yeah, seems fine to me, too.
evile: this is the guy who just went out with onyxlynxx on a first date
right before she left for her road trip w/Maggiemaepisces. I was enthusiastic
until tuesday.
thewordnerd: Hmmmm.
evile: I am a picky bitch, no?
thewordnerd: Heh. Were there any other reasons, or just the dogs?
evile: he got fussy about where we drained the coolers when we were
packing up, because he didn't want mud.
evile: And Nikiyoy said he was saying some ultraconservative BS about
the war in Iraq, but I missed that.
thewordnerd: Hmm, that seems a bit extreme. I'm assuming that he could have
walked around whatever mud was created fairly easily. I mean, it
isn't like there's a narrow pass leaving the park and you were
muddying it.
evile: nope.
evile: Maybe he's one of those Virgos :P
thewordnerd: LOL Perhaps. Wouldn't have phased me.
evile: I know, I was teasing. I do know some fussy Virgos, but you're
not fussy like that.
thewordnerd: Oh I know you were teasing, I was just amused.
evile: August 7. what' s that? Leo, I think?
evile: yup. Leo.
thewordnerd: I don't know my signs, just mine.
evile: I had to look it up.
thewordnerd: But you were at least able to guess.
evile: *shrug* comes from hangin' with hippie pagan types
thewordnerd: Ah, fair enough.
evile: My friend Rengeek had a hilarious link on his LJ about science
vs pseudoscience. I am surprised skye_ds still wants to meet him after
that. she's a psychic witch astrologer, you know.
thewordnerd: Heh. Could be an interesting clash of wills.
evile: Rengeek is very non confrontational. He will pronounce a
short 'bullshit' and get a beer, but he won't argue with anyone.
thewordnerd: Oh, that's probably for the best with her, and for non-
critical issues.
evile: exactly.
evile: And he says it in such a cheerful way, it's like *big
smile* "you're full of crap. Cheers!" *sip*
thewordnerd: LOL!
evile: I love rengeek...
thewordnerd: Sounds like an interesting guy. It'd be great to watch the two
interact.
evile: He'd probably just excuse himself, since he's usually
organizing something or taking pictures of something.
thewordnerd: Probably a good call. I've never dealt with her one-on-one,
but I'd probably find a way out too, even if it meant that I'd have
to walk home to avoid her. :P
evile: heh. she's pretty good at cornering people and babbling at
them in RL.
evile: Oh well. we all have our moments. I need to try to just let it
go & not waste so much energy on her.
thewordnerd: Good plan. That is, unfortunately, much easier said than
done. :(
evile: yeah.
evile: compassionate avoidance is good. Living my own life & being
happy is also very helpful :)
thewordnerd: Indeed.
evile: staying busy definitely helps a lot of situations/mental
problems.
thewordnerd: Right.
evile: I feellike I'm too busy now...I don't have enough time to do
everything I want to do. bDSM stuff has just fallen by the wayside
thewordnerd: Understandable. It also seems logical that it wouldn't be as
high of a priority as it would be for someone who is a lifestyler or
plays regularly, so it makes sense that it'd be lessened or removed
completely.
evile: yeah. Seems like a lot of subs get addicted to the endorphins.
I don't know if I ever want to get to that point, where I need it,
instead of just do it for fun.
thewordnerd: That makes sense. Is it really an addiction, or just something
that people find and learn that they're into? (I'm just wondering if
it's common for people to make the want/need transition like that, or
if it's that they've always 'needed' it and discovered that.)
evile: that's a good question. Or if there are some people who just
get addicted to altered body chemistry and would be into something
else if they hadn't found BDSM.
thewordnerd: Hmm, interesting. My impression was that it was always
discovered, so if you didn't 'need' it by now then you probably
wouldn't. I've never considered the addiction idea.
evile: it's a theory. Then again, it could just be another type
of 'orientation' like straight/gay/bi. My friend's daughter is
already very fascinated with collars and vampires
thewordnerd: Heh. How old is she?
evile: 12
thewordnerd: Wow, I don't know if that's funny or frightening.
evile: I'm not sure, either....she's a sweet kid. I've known her
since she was a baby. It's kind of wierd to think about her even
liking boys, let alone liking....other stuff.
thewordnerd: Heh, indeed. I had no idea that those tendencies appeared so
young.
evile: I won't tell you what I was doing when I was 11 then. :P
thewordnerd: LOL Oh I'm quickly being disaffused of that notion. One of my
bi friend's only gay experience, until recently, had been in
gradeschool, yet he identified as bi for years afterwards without the
experiential backing. :)
evile: Yeah...I guess that's no different than knowing you are hetero
before you have any sexual experience to back it up.
thewordnerd: I don't know. There's a lot of societal conditioning
suggesting that hetero is the 'right' way. I understand what you're
saying, but it also seems reasonable to be more surprised by someone
who defies the conditioning without the experiences for years than it
is in the case of one who silently accepts it, or who changes because
of experiences and not in spite of them.)
evile: yeah...
evile: well, it's about time for me to head out. I'll talk at ya
later!
thewordnerd: All righty, have a great weekend.
evile: *hugs* bye!