evile

 

evile: howdy.

SkyeDS: mornin! (just barely)

SkyeDS: Sineater had long talk w/ Aunt Lynn last night

evile: Lynn told me.

SkyeDS: I think we're all meeting Easter weekend at the park in RR

evile: Too bad I'll be recovering from surgery.

SkyeDS: I told Sineater what you said about the picture and so he
apologized to her.

SkyeDS: recovering from brain surgery might be more pleasant than
[Rubber Pig] & kids in park.

evile: I don't think Lynn actually expects thank you *letters*
anymore, but she does like to hear tha tpeople got her present &
liked it.

SkyeDS: /me nods

evile: Not brain. The other troublesome organ.

SkyeDS: I was exaggerating

evile: You haven't met her yet. You never know...you may find a way
to like her, or you may enjoy her stories & her personality in a way
that I do not...

SkyeDS: so I asked him, did you know that the picture was from Aunt
Lynn and not evilE? and he said yes.

SkyeDS: so I'm like, that's great, I was defending you.

evile: I did tell him when I handed it over in Live Oak. But...there
was other stuff going on, as I recall, so he might not have
remembered who gave who what.

SkyeDS: besides that, he talked to Aunt Lynn on the phone about it,
before getting it (I think)

evile: yup.

SkyeDS: adn I also told him, look, roads travel two directions

SkyeDS: next time you feel inclined to say "nobody tells me anythign"
why don't you pick up the phone and make calls yourself.

evile: Life was alot easier when I blamed you for his incommunicado
status. But once I analyzed that rationally, I realized he's always
been that way, long before you were in the picture. :P

SkyeDS: I suspect that he finds it easier to let people think a great
many things are my fault.

evile: And, really, I'm that way too. I just really hate talking on
the phone.

SkyeDS: adn some people are inclined to see things that way no matter
what he says to the contrary

SkyeDS: /me shrugs, just the way it is

evile: How's your dad doing?

SkyeDS: he's walkign, eating, and talking a very little

SkyeDS: he will have to have speech therapy because that's the part
of the brain t hat was damaged

evile: that's an improvement!

SkyeDS: I think he ought to file for disability and retire

evile: He sounds like a pretty stubborn guy.

SkyeDS: he's eligible for full retirement this year as a matter of
fact (60 yo and 28 years of teachign)

SkyeDS: he and my mother are two of the four most stubborn
personalities on the face of this earth.

SkyeDS: she is a Taurus and he is an Aquarius, which astrologically
is the biggest of no nos

SkyeDS: so I use them as an example frequently

evile: It's possible he could be persuaded into retiring and then
going back to work part time "double dipping" they call it in State
service.

SkyeDS: yes, the impossible can be done, it's just very rare, few and
far between

evile: Frame it like he's putting something over on them rather than
admitting he can't work FT anymore.

SkyeDS: whatever he does, if he does something part time, taint gonna
be teachin because he can't teach when he can't talk well

evile: Something administrative, maybe?

SkyeDS: Mom wants him to retire

SkyeDS: I suspect Mom will get what she wats

SkyeDS: I think Mom is probably eligible to retire too, either this
year or next

SkyeDS: they're coming with Gramma midMay to visit

evile: well, especially if there's also a medical opinion to bakc her
up.

SkyeDS: I need to get three fishing poles

evile: heh. good plan.

SkyeDS: I told Mom that 100% of our practice is health law,
representing doctors.

SkyeDS: and that the neuro's and the psychs say that the brain is
just like electrical wiring

SkyeDS: there are pathways

SkyeDS: adn you can forge new ones if you try hard enough

evile: yup.

SkyeDS: I ought to make them use great big old bamboo poles without
reels, like I had to use when I was a kid

evile: that would be fun.

SkyeDS: and I wanted to play with the reels andn wasn't allowed.

evile: aww.

SkyeDS: but since I don know nuthin bout buyin no fishin poles, Miz
Scarlett, I think I will wait till they get here, take them shopping
and let them pick out their own.

SkyeDS: I am surprised they don't have any left. When I was growig
up, we had both ski boat and fishing boat.

evile: that would probably be a nice way to while away an hour of 3.
shopping is always good.

SkyeDS: makes me wonnder if they saved my expensive slalom ski when
they sold my skiboat...oh well.

evile: yup.

SkyeDS: I was the one that suggested the park.

evile: Being the gadget-freaks they are, they probably have a lot of
Goodwill runs/garage sales/whatever to make room for new stuff and
get rid of old stuff.

SkyeDS: I intend to spend my time with my children

SkyeDS: since I am not necessary to anything

evile: That should be nice. The kids will have something to do
besides trash Lynn's house.

SkyeDS: and if I do well babysitting hers, good

SkyeDS: if not, I intend to get on my low horse and ride away

SkyeDS: (they're too little to be high horses :P)

evile: I had suggested a park, last time Lynn was trying to organize
a get-together. But my favorite park doesn't have a playground (Bull
Creek)

SkyeDS: I suggested the park when nobody sounded thrilled about
coming out to the house <shrug>

evile: And parks with playgrounds have sprogs. Which, in addition to
{Rubber Pig} 's, would be toooo much for me.

SkyeDS: Kelly's kids and little 1 yo Constance have never given me a
moment's worry around all my pretty breakables.

evile: I don't care if I am feeling fine by easter sunday, I'm still
going to be at home recovering from surgery, whether I feel sick or
not I'm going to take it easy on myself and not heap stress upon
stress.

SkyeDS: but X's children were problematic that one time

evile: ?

SkyeDS: and I am so shortsighted, I never know there's trouble
brewing until it's too late

evile: I don't remember it at all.

SkyeDS: well, I didn't know much about childproofing homes at that
point

SkyeDS: first she invited us over for dinner

SkyeDS: then their place got flooded

SkyeDS: when the little girl was still of an age to eat half a piece
of food and then shove the rest in X's mouth

evile: yuck.

SkyeDS: so they came over to our place when we were living with
Janet, for dinner

SkyeDS: and the kid<s> I don'nt even remember whether they had one or
two at that point, I think just onen

SkyeDS: threw food all over the house

evile: wow. that's pretty awful..

SkyeDS: I had just enough foresight to have all my stuffed animals
easily reachable

SkyeDS: adn told them it was okay for her to be on my carousel horse

SkyeDS: but did not realize that with all that beign permissible

SkyeDS: that they would head for the one thign that wasn't

SkyeDS: the curio stand full of porcelain and crystal

evile: of course.

SkyeDS: and then got told when all was said ad done that it was my
responsibility to remove the temptations completely from the living
room ad into my bedroom

SkyeDS: all I know is, when I was of an age to be fascinated by
beautiful thigns (and I still am) like at elderly aunts adn uncles
houses (grandparents brothers and sisters)

SkyeDS: I was raised damn good ad nwell to knonw I did'nt touch
without askign

SkyeDS: (damn keyboard sigh)

evile: I *hate* it when the breeders expect us to childproof our
homes for them. FTS. It's my damn house. control your cuntlings.

SkyeDS: well you know how easy it is to cow me into accepting blame

SkyeDS: tis my greatest weakness

SkyeDS: someone tells me I'm awful and I believe them

SkyeDS: Kelly and the kids have pillow fights at my place but I have
ever worried about any of my stuff

evile: Well, for a woman who supposedly comes from an Old Texas Oil
family & went to Charm School, her children sure don't know shit
about how to behave anywhere.

SkyeDS: what did they do to Lynn's house?

evile: I have no idea. Lynn just said they 'trashed' it.

evile: I wasnt there, we'd made other committments that day.

SkyeDS: there are lots of thigns in my house to fascinate children

SkyeDS: some of which they can play with ad some they can't

SkyeDS: I try to go out of my way, like with little Constance (1 yo),
to put stuffed animals in the floor for her

SkyeDS: and let her beat on my bodhran

SkyeDS: play with the tamborine et

evile: Polite adults/children will ask before they touch. Most
parents dont' seem to be teaching this anymore.

SkyeDS: andn of course the carousel horse can bear a certain amount
of weight

SkyeDS: /me nnods

SkyeDS: it's p roblematic when child heads for altar, shrine or curio
shelf

SkyeDS: if parental doesn't say no

evile: If I can help it, I don't want kids in my house unless I've
met them already & know they behave (Rio & Dee's kids come to mind)

SkyeDS: even those things can stand being handled, if they are
handled carefully, and that's definitely a parental involvement thing
there

evile: yup

SkyeDS: Dee's child is remarkable. (Princess is too).

evile: A couple of yers ago some dumb bitch wrote to Dear Abby
because she'd taken her crotch goblin to a CF friends house, and the
kid started touching the Hummel figurines. TheCF friend smacked the
kids hand and the friend was outraged & wanting Abby to tell her she
was right to be mad.

SkyeDS: what did Abby say

evile: Abby did so, being the brainless breeder pleaser she is. I was
FURIOUS & Iwrote Abby and said "No. It was the MOMS responsibility to
keep the kid from touching the figurines, and if Mom wasn't doing her
job, I don't blame her friend AT ALL"

SkyeDS: I think conventional wisdom (ie the wisdom of vanilla
mundanes) is usually no wisdom at all

evile: Abby was all like "oh, everyone should childproof their homes
for the little visitors!" and I was just....NO.

SkyeDS: by nature of vanilla mundanes being spineless brainless
bipedal chimp sheeple.

evile: It's MY house. I don't have kids so that I can keep pretty,
breakable, poisonous things wherever I like. (well, I have cats, so
that's not 100% true, but!)

SkyeDS: seems like it's easier to Arthurproof than to childproof
sometimes

evile: probably.

SkyeDS: you know he was loose in the house 12 hours one day and
didn't so much as create a singe splinter

SkyeDS: he could have turned the whole house to toothpicks in that
time

evile: wow.

SkyeDS: I got home from work and he's on top of his cage doing
the "I'm all that, I've been loose all day ha ha ha" dance

evile: hee.

SkyeDS: the only thing out of place was something from the top of the
fridge

SkyeDS: I surmise he climbed his daddy's drawing board to get to the
bananas

SkyeDS: but you know how much antique wood I"ve got, and he didn't
touch a piece

SkyeDS: ad there was no poop on the floor anywhere either

evile: wow.

SkyeDS: I meann good lord

SkyeDS: if someone gives me permission to bring Arthur into their
abode, I'm not going to take him in a room where there's wicker
furniture and say, ok, host, now birdproof this room.

evile: right.

SkyeDS: adn contnrary to popular belief

SkyeDS: I do'tn expect people to let us into the house with Arthur
for multiple overnight stays

SkyeDS: I have said may times I am perfectly happy in a hotel

SkyeDS: affords more privacy too

evile: yup

SkyeDS: I can walk naked from bed to bath or whatever

SkyeDS: be up all nnight

SkyeDS: etc

SkyeDS: when people get upset is, well but we want you to stay HERE

SkyeDS: for whatever reaso

evile: wierd

SkyeDS: well, wherever I stay, Arthur is, and that's that

SkyeDS: and, if I stay in a hotel, I"ve got to be able to afford it

SkyeDS: which means, we travel when we have the money to do so

SkyeDS: it's no skin off my nose, one way or the other

evile: yup

SkyeDS: but there are facts of life

SkyeDS: where we stay, Arthur stays, so that's either a motel, or
wherever, there are choices, but you have to choose

evile: I'm glad we just have cats now. Very low maintenance.

SkyeDS: if Arthur were a smaller bird it wouldn't be so hard to find
him a sitter

SkyeDS: but we've left him home three times in our history together

SkyeDS: adn all three times, he cried piteously and loudly nonstop
for Sineater

evile: aww

SkyeDS: I would imagine that to be quite nervewracking for the
caretaker.

SkyeDS: and two of those three times he was in the care of
professional birdpeople.

evile: yup

SkyeDS: how hard is it to say to a child

SkyeDS: isn't that pretty

SkyeDS: you don't want to hurt it do you?

SkyeDS: ask nicely if you can touch it

SkyeDS: and be very careful with it if you do touch it

SkyeDS: ad here, let me help you

evile: yup

SkyeDS: I have never met a child personally that wanted to hurt
something

evile: Most parents cant be bothered. Kids break shit and mangle
animals and they just look on and say "oh, s/he's just a child,"

SkyeDS: on purpose.

SkyeDS: oh nno no no, there will be no mangling or other abuse of my
animals

evile: My sister knew "pet the kitty soft" before she was 1. I know
it can be done, so I don't ever buy the 'just a child' excuse.

SkyeDS: we've worked too damn hard to have babies as perfect as they
come, to have anyone, child or no, ruin that

SkyeDS: I knew that before I knew how to talk

SkyeDS: and I bet you did too

evile: There was a news story about a guy who beat a puppy to death
for biting his kid.

SkyeDS: I hope the spca got him

SkyeDS: I've watched animal precinct before we lost cable

evile: He was not supervising the child's interaction with the puppy,
so you know the kid was probably pulling the damn things ears off
before the puppy finally had enough and bit.

SkyeDS: I would like to be an animal officer

SkyeDS: but we don't have them here

SkyeDS: I have never had a child come down off the horses

evile: I'd like to be a child control officer. "I'm sorry ma'am, your
child's gotten a taste of human flesh, he's going to have to be put
down.."

SkyeDS: that's going to be potentially bad, first time it happens

SkyeDS: would be my luck, will happen next weekend

SkyeDS: (I know, don'nt borrow trouble)

evile: could be.

evile: [Rio's son] came real close to falling off Mirage at Live Oak.

SkyeDS: he did?

evile: yup

SkyeDS: I thought all we did was walk around with sonar0m leading them.

evile: yup

SkyeDS: of course Jess was being overly exuberant and I had my hands
full so I could'nt see the entire time

evile: yeah.

SkyeDS: occasionally she forgets that she has brakes

evile: it happens.

SkyeDS: was he scared? did he get over it ok?

SkyeDS: /me feels neglectful now

evile: It happened so fast I don't think he even knew he was
overbalancing and fixing to fall.

SkyeDS: was that when he was mounting?

evile: nope. on the way back.

SkyeDS: I do remember vaguely that it looked like he was going to go
all the way over the side

SkyeDS: as much as I enjoy trips to SM, it's always too stressful

SkyeDS: so no more

evile: too bad, but probably for the best.

SkyeDS: I could wage a battle with the City Council (go over the
heads of the peons I dealt with last time)

SkyeDS: adn I would win it

SkyeDS: but it isn't worth the time or effort

evile: yup.

SkyeDS: ya know...

SkyeDS: if there are vendors at CRW

evile: It would be one thing if you lived there & went out to the
park frequently....but since you don't, it's probably not worth the
fight.

SkyeDS: why should I give rides away for free....

evile: true.

SkyeDS: mercenary thought, bad llama

evile: or at least keep a tip bucket.

SkyeDS: if the other vendors don't give their earnings to HFS can't
see why I should have to right?

evile: exactly.

SkyeDS: reasoning I get tired of hearing

SkyeDS: "If you don't bring children into the world and raise them
right, then the only children the world will be the ones raised wrong"

evile: so?

SkyeDS: first, that's not even a true premise, there ARE people
raisign their kids with manners. I know some personally.

evile: and I should bring my brilliant, gifted, elfin adorable
children into the world to be beaten and shamed by the oafish
offspring of the rotten parents of the world?

evile: Sorry, I experienced that, and I won't inflict that kind of
life on an innocent soul.

SkyeDS: I am not happy about STuart abandoning his kids

SkyeDS: I mean, how can he be even a part time parent from three
states away.

evile: *shrug* my mom made it as a single mom and we turned out Ok.

SkyeDS: and the oldest is 5, surely none of the three is old enough
to be travelign constantly

SkyeDS: for all I know, they might be better off without him

SkyeDS: lord knows we don't need them to be raised to be like him

SkyeDS: but I'm still not happy with him

SkyeDS: and if he hits mom up for money while he's there I'll kill im

evile: nope.

SkyeDS: I told her that last night ad she laughed. I wasn't joking.

evile: heh.

SkyeDS: I wodner if my chances of meetign the children are less ow

SkyeDS: I want to meet them without him immediately attached.

evile: I think for the sake of your dad's health, you should try and
get along with your brother for now.

SkyeDS: that's why he's in Txka at the moment and I'm not.

evile: good plan.

SkyeDS: Mom told him last time he abused their monetary aid that
there would be no more

evile: *shrug* it's their money, anyway. If the wanna throw it down a
rathole, that's their business.

SkyeDS: but that was before he had the perfect excuse "but I'm
gettign divorced and I have three kids to support"

SkyeDS: that's true too.

evile: yup.

SkyeDS: all I want is to meet the kids

SkyeDS: andn it's not a particularly burning desire,just when I think
about it, from time to time

SkyeDS: burning desire = dually, 4H w/ LQ trailer, babies, a
Friesian, a Gypsy and an Andalusian

SkyeDS: and maybe another bird or two

evile: yup

SkyeDS: so Sweetie will be chauffeur service to future family events
right?

evile: yup. Or I'll drive one of the troopers & he can drive one of
the VWs

SkyeDS: good.

evile: I dont' trust the troopers on long road trips, but they're
fine for in-town.

SkyeDS: same with the ranger atm

evile: I still don't understand why Lynn's going thru all this hassle
to do what {Rubber Pig}/[brother A] wants. If it's important for [brother A]/{Rubber Pig}, they
should be the one calling you, and set up a time for Sineater & you to
meet {Rubber Pig} & her kids...

SkyeDS: Sineater had that thought.

evile: Just my 2 cents. The less I hang with normal people, the less
I seem to understand why people put themselves through unpleasant
situations in order to be 'normal'.

SkyeDS: Lynn is tactful. She withheld her opinion and told Sineater to
form his own.

evile: Good for her.

evile: Like I said, you may find that you enjoy her personality.

evile: Mom likes her.

evile: And [brother A] is happy. So, really...that's the important part
right there

SkyeDS: Lynn said that last night (bout [brother A])

SkyeDS: your mom said why she likes her?

evile: I haven't talked to my mom in a while (I hate talking on the
phone. I feel guilty,and I do need to call her...but. agh.)

evile: {Rubber Pig} is quite beautiful and smart and outgoing. In short
doses, she's probably great fun.

evile: However, when she comes over to your house and spends 2-4
hours talking nonstop and doesn't even pretend to be interested in
what you think or who you are...it gets tiresome.

SkyeDS: would surmise then that your mom has not been that exposed to
her , didn't notice, or is impervious

evile: Mom has met her in a party context, which I think she is good
at. And they've talked on the phone. maybe {Rubber Pig}'s better on the
phone.

SkyeDS: no tellin

evile: And maybe she's just been nervous around me and therefore too
talkative. Maybe she gets better.

evile: I'm really a very mean, judgemental, stubborn bitch

SkyeDS: next weekend should be instructive, one way or tother

evile: But ya know...I work damned hard and my free time is precious
to me, so why should I spend it doing things I dont' want to do with
people I dont' want to see?

evile: Even if they're lovely people & whatnot...

evile: Sineater is sweet with kids, {Rubber Pig}'s kids will probably love him.

SkyeDS: /me ods

evile: And you'll have an out if she tries to corner you and yap at
you for too long "oops, gotta check the
horse/bird/water/saddle/whatever"

SkyeDS: zactly

evile: yup.

SkyeDS: I like parks

SkyeDS: I can just ride away

evile: heh.

SkyeDS: from whomever

evile: yup.

evile: Hopefully the weather will cooperate. It usually rains on
easter.

SkyeDS: Joanie thought I would just drive off and leave the horses
and the bird in the park with her

evile: WTF!!?

SkyeDS: lol

SkyeDS: no, I don't think so

SkyeDS: you can have Sineater, but I'm not leaving them

evile: Even if she did have clue 1 how to manage 3 animals, she's not
big enough or healthy enough to do what needs to be done.

SkyeDS: let me revise

SkyeDS: wanted me to leave her & Sineater with them

evile: aha.

SkyeDS: but Sineater doesn't need to handle all three by himself either

evile: nope.

SkyeDS: neither of us handles all 3 alone

evile: exactly.

SkyeDS: she wanted me to leave them in the park with them becaue I
told her that she wouldn't be comfortable going to dinner with my HPS
friend

evile: oh.

SkyeDS: so I said, you two stay here if you want to, but load the
chilldren up because I'm taking them with me

SkyeDS: I was'tn about to drop the trailer and just leave

evile: nope.

SkyeDS: ad Sineater did'nt want to stay in the park with his mother

evile: too bad.

SkyeDS: it would have been completely untenable for her to come with
us

SkyeDS: I wasn't even sure if it was ok for Sineater to come with us
until we got there

SkyeDS: I knew we were going to talk shop, and some shop talk can't
be shared

evile: yup.

evile: I should have just called in sick today...I am not getting
jack done.

SkyeDS: I have half the day to myself. Hugh is at a hearing.

evile: Nice chance for you to catch up on mundane tasks that he
doesn't need to bother his head about, I guess.

SkyeDS: wish I were outside :(

SkyeDS: for like the whole week

evile: It was nice this a.m. I was outside waiting for the bus for
about 1/2 an hour after the lease car went byebye.

SkyeDS: everything tur nout ok?

evile: super easy. The guy was half an hour EARLY, I signed some
paperwork, got my copy, and that was it.

SkyeDS: great :)

evile: I plan on writing a nice note to the tow truck co. to let them
know I appreciate that level of service.

SkyeDS: I have to deliver something by hand today

SkyeDS: woder if I ca talk him innto letting me leave early enough to
hit the bank too

evile: He seems pretty easygoing about stuff like that.

SkyeDS: I have never worked for someone so easygoing in my life

SkyeDS: but he can outcuss a sailor

evile: heh. That would be funny to watch/hear

SkyeDS: and is easily upset (but not by me)

evile: tha's good. (not being upset by you, anyway. )

SkyeDS: I just have to stay calm when something upsets him, for his
sake

SkyeDS: like this morning when he couldn'nt find a file he had last

evile: yeah. It's always good to stay level headed when other people
are freaking out. If you can. It's a good quality to have.

SkyeDS: it is the legal secretary's job

SkyeDS: to be calm cool collected

SkyeDS: quiet dignified graceful and serene

SkyeDS: at all times

evile: heh.

evile: I'm afraid I'd need too many drugs to be qualified for a job
like that.

evile: Though I did OK as a service dispatcher. And that was pretty
high pressure/panic mode a lot of times.

SkyeDS: I don't necessarily achieve perfection ;)

evile: nobody ever does. That's what being human is all about--
fucking up...

evile: learning from mistakes, trying to be a better human...or at
least have more interesting, different, and larger fuckups.

SkyeDS: yep

evile: A friend of mine told me that the main thing about growing up
is your mistakes become more expensive. sad but true

evile: [brother A] left his San Antonio # on the machine at home. I think
I'll email that to Sineater and let him take it from there, get out of
the middle.

SkyeDS: good idea :)

evile: And Its probably too late, but I really ought to NOT poison
people against {Rubber Pig} by stating my opinions before they have a chance
to meet her and decide for themselves what to think of her.

1993icq w/A

 

SkyeDS: bk
evile: wb :)
SkyeDS: you could park them with us but of course we are 60 miles
away.
SkyeDS: pro/con - free vs not free, distance vs. close, etc
evile: yup.
evile: I think ideally he'd like a multi-car garage (like an old
service station or something) close to home.
evile: 2nd choice would be to get a plot of land & put a big ugly
metal building on it to put cars & junk in.
evile: I am too busy keeping my foot down on the puppy issue to fuss
much about the cars right now.
SkyeDS: Bob has his hands full with a border collie puppy
SkyeDS: there are so many breeds I love, big, little, indoor and out,
I wouldn't know where to start with puppybuying/stray adopting-
rescuing process
evile: Dogs are great, but they're a lot of work. And they do need
people to be at home more than sweetoe & I would be.
SkyeDS: well if he keeps coming home to hoodles messing with his
cars, I imagine he'll get motivated on his own.
SkyeDS: but ya'll are more than welcome to park at our place
SkyeDS: and of course park yourselves any time too (but the house
isn't clean yet, but if that doesn't bother you)
evile: thanks :) I'll let him know :)
evile: (obviously you haven't seen our house lately.)
SkyeDS: it's going to take a long time to get the land clean. I
haven't even managed to get my original acreage clean and now I have
nearly four times as much.
SkyeDS: your house has never that I've seen it looked like mine on an
average day
evile: Sweetie's sister & husband (you met them a couple of thanksgivings
ago when he was still the fiance) will be here for SXSW. The house
will be clean soon for them, I hope.
SkyeDS: when you want to come over let me know and I'll send you
directions
SkyeDS: or if you can cut and paste I can give them now
SkyeDS: or I could email them and then you'd have them in a record of
sorts
evile: Whichever's most convenient for you :)
SkyeDS: I felt very bad about the house when the SCA dropped in
SkyeDS: they didn't go in the house because they were visiting the
Lord Marshall's horse, but all the same, I invited them in, and was
embarassed
SkyeDS: the girls are tickled because Mom brought them home a pretty
boy. I told them enjoy it while you can, because he's just a loaner.
evile: Yeah, when The Rubber Pit & brother A dropped by last weekend & I was sick
as a dog on the couch, I felt pretty embarassed, too.
SkyeDS: there are many ways to get to 79N from Austin
evile: In a way, it's kind of like, you show up without an
invitation, you get what you deserve. But you don't want people
thinking you're a complete slob, either...
SkyeDS: you can go up the interstate and take exit 253 (dell diamond)
and that will put you on 79
SkyeDS: you can take 290 out toward Houston and take FM 973 all the
way up to 79N. Or Hwy 95 all the way up to 79N.
SkyeDS: or you can take 290 to Parmer, and Parmer to 79N (in Hutto).
973 and 95 put you on the loop around Taylor.
SkyeDS: but regardless of how you get to 79, you take 79N to
Rockdale. There is a loop around taylor that you can take or not,
but it's less confusing to take it.
evile: Ok
SkyeDS: and when you get close to rockdale, there is one grass
median, with a sign that says Rockdale 6 miles, and then the sign for
CR 306. Our driveway goes all t he way from CR 306 to connect with
79 where the grass median is.
SkyeDS: so what I do, because of the condition of the driveway, is to
turn around after the grass median goes away, and take the 79 driveway
SkyeDS: which has a red reflector on it
SkyeDS: (soon hopefully a ranch sign which I'm going to make out of
the old realtor's sign since he doesn't seem to want it back)
evile: cool.
SkyeDS: I do my uturn right after the median goes away, which I'm
sure is illegal. You'd probably want to turn at the left turn lane
for 306, and rather than do 306 (we're the first driveway on the left
off 306, and there is a mailbox with our address on it there)
evile: Ok.
SkyeDS: do a uturn from that lane.
SkyeDS: or you could just follow me home some day
SkyeDS: although everyone has used those directions quite
successfully.
SkyeDS: it isn't polite to just show up without calling
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: but it would be nice to have home be clean enough so that you
don't feel embarassed when someone does
SkyeDS: I was quite tickled at my unexpected visitors Monday night,
that was cool
SkyeDS: of course, I was on my way to go see them anyway, and it
wasn't a bad time
evile: I don't even answer the door if I'm not expecting people.
evile: Unfo, brother A has a key. I will need that back from him before he
moves to San Antonio for good.
evile: I have no problem with him having access to the house, but I
don't want the Rubber Pig rummaging around in here.
evile: She doesn't seem to have any clue about socially acceptable
behavior. Did I tell you she told aunt L that she needed to paint the
inside of her house??
evile: And she tried to tell Sweetie & I that we have foundation problems
(we do not.) and she knows this guy and she'd be happy to send him
over, bla bla. Good lord.
SkyeDS: she told aunt L what???
evile: She said "You shouldn't be afraid of color!!"
evile: Aunt L said she liked her walls jus the way they are, thanks.
SkyeDS: no telling what she's going to think of the redneck heaven
I'm living in (which is quite lovely inside but looks like the
doublewide it is on the outside)
evile: BTW, Aunt L is throwing her a lingerie shower. If I've got to
suffer through it, you're coming too. :P
SkyeDS: if you want to add insult to injury I of course am happy to
go wherever you lead
SkyeDS: but are you sure you want to deal with her and me at the same
time? in that we both are better in th e smallest doses possible?
evile: Well, if you've never met her, it'll be hard for us to talk
dirt abou ther, now, won't it? :P
SkyeDS: I will try very hard (I always do anyway) not to get on
nerves that will already be frayed
evile: I came about ><this close to siccing X on her. Sort of a
whole "Payback" scenario. The only thing that stopped me was that the
big confrontation would have taken place at L&B's and I wouldn't do
that to them.
SkyeDS: I have never heard of a lingerie shower. And I can't afford
shopping for me right now much less someone else. But when is it?
SkyeDS: how would you sic X on anyone without suffering damage
yourself.
evile: No idea. I am hoping that Aunt L was only kidding, or that this
will be one of the many things she says she's gonna do but doesn't
get round to it.
SkyeDS: ....isn't t hat kind of like buying someone underwear...?
evile: Rubber Pig, brother A, Pigs 3 kids, Uncle Bubba,his wife Ursula, were
all going to be at L& B's for dinner Saturday. I was tempted to
write X a very tearful email telling her I feel so bad about
treating her mean & begging her to come over Saturday night and let
me make it up to her. Saturday night I was at dinner & a play
elsewhere. I'd never ever do that, but the mental picture amused me
for hours.
evile: I have no idea what a lingerie shower is. It sounds
unbelievably tacky, whatever it is.
evile: the Rubber Pig also told aunt L when/where she waxes her body hair AND
said she doesn't wear tacky underwaer, but then bent over for
something and showed off her thong-ed butt to god and the world.
SkyeDS: I guess it is possible to be more of a bull in the social
china closet than I am.
SkyeDS: <still marveling at it though.
evile: I have seen you make a LOT of effort in that area, though.
the Rubber Pig doesn't seem to care that she's inappropriate and offensive and
talky. She just writes it off as 'that's just me'....
evile: Everyone has their quirks. I can be obnoxious and offensive,
too. I go into 'I'm talking and I can't shut up' mode. It happens.
SkyeDS: LOL that's a cute way to put it, never heard that one before
evile: But where you or I would recognize "gee, last time I hung out
with the polys/whatever I was obnoxious. I'll try harder this
time"...the Pig doesn't.
SkyeDS: I could see conversations like that happening between you and
me, because we've been family a long time
SkyeDS: but I don't know Aunt L well enough to have "family"
discussions with her
SkyeDS: and The Pig surely sure as hell hasn't known aunt L well enough
or long enough
evile: Exactly.
evile: On the plus side, I plan on making Hurricanes for the lingerie
shower, if it happens :)
SkyeDS: I'm not buying a stranger lingerie
evile: me neither.
evile: OTOH, we could go to Wal Mart and buy some size 67 grannie
panties. That might be funny.
SkyeDS: I haven't had a chance to examine my gift closely but I have
peeked into the bag, and it all looks wonderful ty ty ty :)
SkyeDS: you would venture the evil WM? wow.
evile: cool. :) I love that brand of soap--the lavender smelled very
fresh & herbal (my favorite). I got the same brand in Sandalwood for
me. It's yum.
evile: I'd have to go to wal mart in order to have the bag to use as
wrapping paper for the Pig's grannie panties, you see... :P
evile: 100% polyester. And maybe tie on a little tube of yeast
infection medicine for good measure.
evile: bet you didn't know my talent for finding 'perfect' gifts had
a dark side, did you? :P
evile: I would never do that in RL, but it's funny to talk about.
SkyeDS: igh
SkyeDS: oh well, better than no access at all I suppose
SkyeDS: what is last was said?
evile: true enough.
I think I said I would never really do anything that awful at the Pig's
lingerie shower. But it's funny to talk about.
SkyeDS: there aren't any vanilla mundanes in your work or other
acquaintance with sprogs they would be interested in having riding
lessons for are there?
SkyeDS: (or not vanilla/not mundanes for that matter)
evile: Not that I know of, but if you want me to print your webpage
and put it up where I can at work, I will. (break rooms & my desk,
basically)
SkyeDS: I was wondering if I might nto ought to give you a business
card
SkyeDS: I don't expect you to do mass marketing for me :P~~~
evile: I'd be happy to do what I can. Starting a business is tough.
marketing is very difficult. If I can help get you a customer, I
should.
SkyeDS: the business card has my webpage on it, and the webpage has
the same information the flyer has on it, so the card should suffice,
no?
evile: sure :)
SkyeDS: are they any closer to her becoming a more permanent part of
the family...?
evile: The wedding is set for July 10 in San Antonio. No word yet on
whether the divorce is final, and I haven't seen an official invite
yet...but that's what I know.
SkyeDS: well then. guess that's that.
SkyeDS: if the situation was other than what it is, I would offer to
play.
SkyeDS: but I doubt that would be wanted or appreciated, so I won't.
evile: I still don't know why there's such a big rush.
SkyeDS: I played at Phyl's funeral for Aeris to sing.
evile: I am not volunteering for anything, either. I sense far too
many 'Bridezilla" tendencies there.
SkyeDS: no thanks.
evile: I'm sure Phyl's kids & Bob were all very sweet and gracious
and didn't treat you like the hired help and diva around making your
life miserable. It's good to be open-hearted and give when you can
what you can...but not to people who are just going to suck you up
and spit you out again, ya know?
SkyeDS: specially not where my music is concerned
SkyeDS: I have a much thicker skin than I used to have, but still
evile: exactly.
evile: Honestly, best advice I can give you re: The Rubber Pig, is not to
appear to have anything she wants/needs. Don't mention your skills &
talents because she is the kind of person who tends to assume things
rather than ask
SkyeDS: that shouldn't be a problem
SkyeDS: my talents and skills don't seem to be immediately apparent
to most, much to my chagrin most of the time
evile: it's a fine line to walk, that whole 'hiding your light'
vs 'tooting your horn' thing. You don't want to be arrogant but you
don't want to be dismissed, either.
SkyeDS: I am in t he habit of mentioning whatever I'm capable of
contributing when the need seems to be present
SkyeDS: no need to catalog my various resumes in the meanwhile
evile: right :)
evile: My latest talent seems to be introducing people to things they
didn't know they were interested in.
SkyeDS: it engenders a lot of "I didn't know that about you" ...
well, you never asked, or the subject never came up.
evile: heh. Yup.
SkyeDS: that's fun though, facilitating new happiness that way, I
love that, it happens to me sometimes
SkyeDS: I am a satellite of so many different interest groups, they
blend here and there, and it's always interesting where and who
evile: it's happened to me twice in the last week, and It really has
made me feel good. Poly-group J told me he would not have joined
body choir if I had not introduced him to Z Helene & if he hadn't
taken her class. Rengeek said he had a bunch of assumptions about
Poly that I've dispersed for him & now he wants to hang out with the
Houston polys :)
SkyeDS: Z is teaching? sigh...something else I wish I had time to
do. I have professional dancing friends --
SkyeDS: one is Acadiana who you've seen at the skating rink
SkyeDS: and the other is Tracie, sineater's friend Mike's mother, who is
also a retired pharmacist and does olympic level dressage.
evile: Z Helene has one class at ACC she teaches and then she also
has private students. About 6 of the poly group folks got together
and took private lessons from her for a couple weeks last summer.
SkyeDS: she has tapes I should ask her if I could copy, or the names
of so I can buy them
evile: Definitely.
SkyeDS: everyone always expresses surprise that I have my fingers in
so many pies at once
SkyeDS: I don't know why
SkyeDS: Tracie is a pharmacist, a dressage equestrienne and a belly
dancer
SkyeDS: most people I know are multifaceted that way, professional or
otherwise (Tracie is also a Gemini too)
evile: Oh, Poly group Z is having a 'southern living' thing next
Sunday a.m. (14th) if you're interested. Brunch and Mimosas & looking
at girly home stuff.
evile: (speaking of Z's)
SkyeDS: all I need now is an antebellum/victorian home, and I have
got the southern living thing down pat.
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: I like Jim Walter's Victorian model but there are a lot of
hate sites about JW. And since Victorian is an architectural
standard, maybe I could get similar elsewhere
SkyeDS: I would really love something that looks like the San
Francisco Marqham doll house in Hobby Lobby.
evile: I was really impressed with an architect I met at the home &
garden show on Valentines day. He works with steelframe/green
building, but a lot of his plans are very traditional-looking once he
gets done.
SkyeDS: or, alternately, a replica of that Palladio villa (the name
eludes me at the moment) would be lovely
evile: here is the info on the Southern Living thingy:
http://www.livejournal.com/users/ladystorm/20764.html
SkyeDS: my entire home has an energy star rating, and I spend no more
on electricity now than I used to in half the square footage, and no
more in water evne with the horses.
evile: Our bills are better in the house than they were in the duplex.
SkyeDS: your house is so beautiful, the ceiling fan in the dining
room, nice kitchen, beautiful fire place, and awesome bathroom
mirror, and the backyard on the creek.
evile: It is needing some work/help, and I'm coming to find out that
it's me or nobody whose gonna do it. That's a little disappointing,
but oh well.
SkyeDS: Sineater tries very hard to keep the property picked up outside
SkyeDS: but it's overwhelming
evile: I'm sure!
SkyeDS: even moreso now that it's 11 acres and not 3
evile: I bet.
SkyeDS: I think I may have a clean up party, invite the SCA, the HFS,
Kelly & the Kids, offer to make barbecue, order pizza, or whatever I
have to do as an incentive.
SkyeDS: I've told everyone many times that I'm happy to host outdoor
stuff for them.
evile: that would be good
SkyeDS: I didn't even know this until I walked the entire property
the other day for the first time, but it's bounded by a creek
evile: awesome :)
SkyeDS: in addition to the pond, which is shallow enough through one
end to ride through
SkyeDS: might be nice to get a canoe.
SkyeDS: too small for a sailboat
evile: canoes are fun.
SkyeDS: if Sweetie does the fishing thing or the canoeing thing we can
accommodate that though
SkyeDS: and the little overlook where the previous owners were
fishing would be an ideal place to camp. Electric and water included.
evile: Hm. I've never seen him. We've been tubing on the Guadalupe,
that's about it.
SkyeDS: Randy says that the pond is clean enough to swim in. I don't
know that I would want to, but that's just me.
evile: I don't much care for still water, even if it's clean.
SkyeDS: I like pristine lakes, rivers, and pools, I'm picky
evile: me too.
evile: There are even times I'll go to bull creek park & not swim
SkyeDS: ya'll should come out sometime when it's nice and investigate
SkyeDS: please ignore the trash sigh
evile: heh. I'll tell Sweetie he's got another place to take the vanagon
camping :)
evile: I had a coworker get my knickers in a twist this a.m. talking
about disposing of unwanted kittens 'out on the dirt roads'...I
just 'bout lost it.
SkyeDS: I might have killed him myself
evile: her actually. But..jeez, bad enough when people throw garbage
out on rural property, but...animals. GRR.
evile: She seemed to think it was no big thing to trash little
animals, but someone who invoked the baby moses law and left their
newborn at the fire station was just evil. WTF is wrong with people?
SkyeDS: she holds both those views?
evile: indeed.
SkyeDS: let me guess, she's either pro euthanasia and pro life or
vice versa (also conflicting views)
evile: I try very hard not to speak or listen to her. She just makes
my head hurt.
SkyeDS: aye
evile: Time to bring the voodoo powders to work again, I guess.
SkyeDS: lots of stupid clients we have too
evile: Just do the nod & smile and then talk smack about 'em later, I
guess.
SkyeDS: the kitten killer makes me sad that his mother didn't opt for
abortion as birth control
evile: no crap, right?
evile: Or why not be responsible and neuter your pets if you have no
intention of taking care of the babies.
SkyeDS: Uncle Levi has two more dogs left
SkyeDS: a full pit and a half pit
SkyeDS: and one of them has mange
SkyeDS: I'm wondering if the horses could catch mange from the dog
SkyeDS: and I bet neither of them has shots
SkyeDS: and he has four trailers on one septic tank, which I'm sure
isn't legal either
evile: ew.
SkyeDS: I know that Connie's dogs could catch mange even if the
horses can't
SkyeDS: I think I'll mention that to her incase she hasn't noticed
evile: good plan.
SkyeDS: her husband is a good shot with his 3030
evile: you hate to see it come to that...but yeah.
SkyeDS: I don't want to see my friends' children tangle with a mangy
pitbull either
evile: exactly.
SkyeDS: and when I start giving lessons and having boarders, I can't
have that on my property
SkyeDS: an d they don't keep him leashed
evile: You hate to see an animal suffer because of irresponsible
owners, but you've got to protect your own, too.
SkyeDS: that will mean another call to t he county
SkyeDS: connie already called them about the attacks on their dogs,
and the county said, shoot them
evile: nice.
SkyeDS: a mangy pitbull is not an attack exactly
SkyeDS: but it is a threat
evile: especially if the owner isn't taking any responsibility.
SkyeDS: call county
SkyeDS: look, I don't know if they've had shots, and I know the pit
has mange
SkyeDS: you come out here and take care of it, or I will
evile: ugh.
SkyeDS: every time I have to deal with Uncle Levi I get nervous about
dead horses though
evile: oh, very bad.
SkyeDS: even though Wayne (connie's DH) shot their healer/pit cross,
I was afraid of what they'd do if they thought it was us and we don't
even have a gun
evile: yeah.
SkyeDS: luckily he thought someone kidnapped it or the shepherd (the
problem) got it
evile: how awful.
SkyeDS: I will just mention to connie that something should be done
hint hint about the pit with mange, for her dogs, and my horses, and
see if wayne won't take care of it
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: I didn't know mange was so zoonotic, but web search shows it
is zoonotic to both horses and humans. lovely.
evile: I knew people could get it.Didn't know about the horses. yucko.
evile: 1 hour until I am outta here!!! I need to go get info about
Krav Maga & Poly dinner's tonight, too. Can't wait to be done with
work.
SkyeDS: nods
evile: Are your new acres fenced yet? Do you think that'd solve the
dog problem?
SkyeDS: electric tape fence doesn't stop dogs
evile: too bad.
SkyeDS: otherwise they wouldn't be a problem now (tape fence already
in place)
SkyeDS: it's very simple
SkyeDS: they keep their dogs off my place, or they don't keep their
dogs
evile: It doesn't sound like they care about the animals or take care
of them. I hate to see stuff like that.
SkyeDS: me too :(
evile: That's the thing about living in the country, I guess. You
have to get tough & take care of things yourself.
SkyeDS: there aren't leash laws
SkyeDS: so if your dogs run around, we can't make you put them on a
leash
SkyeDS: but we can keep thme off our property if you don't
evile: yeah
evile: and if they're being neglected that badly by their owner, it
would almost be a blessing...sad to say.
SkyeDS: if we weren't dealing with pits I'd just take them to a pound
evile: I don't think they'll accept obviously diseased animals at
most shelters. I could be wrong.
SkyeDS: no, you're probably right
evile: with the fact that mange is contagious & zoo-whatever, I doubt
it would be an acceptable risk fo rthe shelter to take them in.
SkyeDS: so there isn't really anything humane I can do
evile: Not if the owner won't take care of his own animals. No. Sad
to say, you've got to protect your own critters & family members
here, whatever it takes to do that.
evile: The fact that your neighbor is a good shot is probably the
most humane thing that can happen at this point...
SkyeDS: :-/
evile: especially if the elected officials won't take any action.
That's so rude, IMHO.
SkyeDS: they can only do what county law allows
evile: Would it be different if the animals were running on county-
maintained roads? Maybe you could call them while the dogs are
running the roads or something.
SkyeDS: don't know, will ask them
evile: would be nice to see people doing work instead of just using
their titles to be assholes to you.
evile: Hey, I'm a bureaucrat, and I know that there's lots of things
that aren't my job and I'm not paid to do...but the very least I can
do when someone asks me to do something I can't do is to point them
in the right direction. Lots of people just don't seem to want to
bother.
SkyeDS: nods
evile: Maybe all public servants just need shock collars or
something. As soon as they give 'tude for no reason or say 'it's not
my job' they get a jolt...
SkyeDS: lol
evile: I just hate to see people being rude,nasty, and lazy on MY
dime. People should be outraged, and they just kind of shrug it off
as if it s to be expected.
evile: me, personally, I tolerate the crap in person, but then I'm
likely to write ugly letters to the guy's boss after the fact...
SkyeDS: I get very cranky very fast where my money is concerned
SkyeDS: I'm going to be doing some letter writing soon about this
past weekend
SkyeDS: I want to know what discretionary law is, and I want the city
council an d mayor to tell me
SkyeDS: and thten I'm going to inform them that I will no longer be
spending my money in their economy
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: a conversation I will soon have with rockdale too
SkyeDS: but even better
SkyeDS: I earn money in austin, I spend it here
evile: FWIW, I thought you did a great job of staying calm & cool on
Sunday. In your shoes, I woulda freaked.
SkyeDS: I bring in money, not only from rockdale to recirculate to
rockdale, but from anyone traveling the triangle corridors
SkyeDS: I'm a member of the chamber of commerce
SkyeDS: and the SCA which is service oriented and we do nice things
for people
SkyeDS: so please tell the cops to leave me alone

SkyeDS: or I will take my money somewhere else
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: I probably wasn't as meek as I should have been
SkyeDS: but a couple of things aggravated me greatly
SkyeDS: which is why I'm not letting it go until I write letters to
the mayor and the entire council
SkyeDS: I doubt anything will come of it but I will feel like I did a
little something at least
evile: yup
SkyeDS: the city manager needs to learn not to be so rude when
conducting city business
SkyeDS: ditto the parks manager
evile: exactly.
SkyeDS: and I'm sorry, but I've been a paralegal since 89, and Hugh a
lawyer since 77, and neither of us has ever heard of discretionary or
word of mouth code
evile: that was ridiculous.
SkyeDS: they need to put it in writing. on the web, post it in the
park, but I don't believe the administrators (and that's all those
two men are) have the authority to do what they did Sunday
evile: And could have been resolved far in advance if they'd bothered
to reply to your request, with a "no" which you could have then
accomodated or decided not to make the trip at all...
SkyeDS: exactly. I contact them by phone and in writing before I
visit, every single time
evile: That's what bugged me, it was so totally avoidable.
SkyeDS: and the police have waved at us in a friendly manner every
time they've driven past before.
SkyeDS: normally the police don't say squat if there isn't a
complaint, and there was no one in the park but us to be complaining
evile: exactly.
SkyeDS: time to go home?
evile: just about. I should go drop off papers & such.
SkyeDS: hugs
evile: Good luck with everything ;)
SkyeDS: travel safely, has been raining
evile: Yup. Maybe see ya Saturday at the voyager party?
SkyeDS: hopefully
evile: :) cool.
SkyeDS: have to see what I'll do with the children

 

Me to J-Law:
:
Well, the longer reprieve would be better, but
anything will do at this point :P

Dear Holy Ghod--Aunt L says she is throwing Rubber_pig a
Lingerie Shower for her wedding.

I said I'm only coming if I can bring Skye_DS.

Aunt L said, in her best East Texas Hospitality voice
"Of course! After all, she IS family!"

bwahahhah!

(btw, When Rubber_pig & Brother A visited L&B on Saturday,
Rubber_pig was there from 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. and talked NONSTOP!
Aunt L was so offended! AND Rubber_pig told Aunt L she needed
to paint her walls! "Don't be afraid of color!" was
the quote, I think--RUDE!)

Mostly I'm concerned that Rubber_pig is bringing her
kids. She says she hates all children but her own and she
talks about all the 'cute' and 'smart' things her
kids do that just sound like godawful bratty behavior to
ME. So...not excited about Friday. I did get an
adult responsibility for the first time ever--I get to
bring vanilla ice cream :)
===============
J-Law:


This is true.

It is raining like it's going out of style here. I
got soaked to the skin on the way over. I have
literally never seen rain like this. And it was
windy, so the umbrella was totally useless. I gave
up on it and ran to work. Those miles on the
treadmill sure came in useful. :)

Unfo, didn't have that great a workout last night.
I was still kind of depressed, and then, I was a
block away from home when I realized I hadn't packed
my socks. So, I went back, got the socks, and was
almost out the door when the phone rang. I
answered, hoping it was John, and it turned out to
be Bad John, and I just felt my heart plunk down in
my stomach like a big ol' rock. I very curtly said
that I was on my way to the gym. He was all
cavalier and whatever like usual and asked me what I
was doing later, and "if I felt like it" to give him
a call.

Quelle surprise, I didn't feel like it, so I didn't
call.

Anyway, after we hung up, I knew I was going to cry,
so I just dropped to my knees and let 'em go. After
that, I felt sick, but went to the gym anyway. I
didn't push it - I figured I was okay with just
going and doing something.

Got home, glugged some Gatorade, and crashed. I was
probably asleep by 8:30, and I slept all night.
Woke up feeling better, and the rain, oddly enough,
kind of cheered me up. It's still chucking it down.
I like the way it sounds, pounding on the building,
and looking up through the skylights, seeing it wash
over them in sheets. It's cool.

So. Rubber_pig is very very tactless. Definitely bring
UB. It'll be fun. Maybe it will descend into mud
wrestling.
=========
me to J-Law:

I always sleep really well when it rains buckets like that. A
skylight would be cool. Maybe if I'm ever in a situation like Aunt L &
Uncle B's where they've got property and they're having something custom-
built. I was really impressed by some of the 'green builders' we met
at the house & garden show. Nice looking homes, very cool floor
plans, etc.

John is an ass. I'm glad you went to the gym anyway. I agree that
it's most important to keep the habit of going, and just do your best
within your energy level that day. The important part is making the
time and going faithfully to engrain it into pure habit.

Rubber_pig has been warned about UB, so she will probably do her best to
thwart any efforts to get her into a screaming match. Rubber_pig doesn't
tell 1 boring old story and then pause for accolades from her adoring
audience like UB does, she just goes from one tangent to the next,
barely pausing for breath. At least with UB you could get in a word
edgewise. Sad day when you can compare two people and have UB come up
the winner as far as couth & social graces. ugh.

I don't know what I'm going to do if Rubber_pig's children misbehave on
Friday. I don't have much tolerance for genuinely well-behaved cute
kid antics, so bratty behavior that is applauded & encouraged
as 'cute' is going to be hard to ignore.

I sent creepy skate Jeff an email basically saying that I thought we
had already talked about me being 'taken'. I said I don't date and
I'm not sexually available, but I enjoy seeing people I know at Skate
Night & I enjoy hanging out with friends, so if that's OK with him
that's OK with me.

I doubt he'll write back. I think being very blunt really puts people
off. But...it was all truthful, and if he doesn't like me saying it
flat-out like that, too bad.

• Feb. 24, 2004

  I'm here until 4 today, since I got in early & I'm doing 1.5 ot. And
  then just a regular 8 hour day W-F. FTS! I have a life. I want to
  go to Mass tomorrow evening, and then Thursday's Tina & Friday's the
  lovely dinner with Aunt L & Uncle B, Bubba & Ursula, Brother A & Rubber_pig and her 3
  kids. I can't figure out what their names are. Michi and Bliss and
  Tiki or Lala or something. (When I asked Sweetie if he could figure out
  what their names were, he did his "Furby" voice and spouted a few
  Furbish words at me..guess not)
  
  I am figuring that she's doing the pretentious uppercrust thing where
  they're named "Barbara" and everyone calls them "Kiki" kind of crap.
  Also, I think Jewish people do that too. But _real_ Jewish people,
  the ones who speak Yiddish & stuff, not these crazy newfangled Jews
  for Jesus people.
  
  Oh, and apparently she was planning on bringing "Faith" along, too.
  This is apparently Rubber_pig's goddaughter or her oldest child's best
  friend or something. She's apparently child of mixed race--I'm
  sure that'll go over great with Uncle Bubba.
  
  I told Brother A to keep his bucket hat on over his yarmulke and take it
  off strategically after Uncle Bubba makes an anti-semitic comment.
  *So* looking forward to Friday. Really.
  ========
  J-Law:
  
  The thing about Sweetie's furby voice just cracked me up. Sounds like
  you all are going to have a very interesting Friday evening.
  
  *hug* It's all material, honey

Icq with A today

 

lost a bunch of it thru launchast crashing & me shutting it down
which shut down all my internet windows. foo.

We dished about Rubber_pig a bit. Skye_ds thinks Rubber_pig will not like her.
Oh well.

Talked about v.day. (no plans yet, Kaleon doesn't want to drive to
rockdale)

Talked about her getting more land & setting up to teach kids basic
horse stuff.

and that's it so far.
 

1944Re: icq with A tody

 

 

Feb. 10, 2004

 

 

 

evile: crap. My launchcast crashed all my internet stuff.
evile: sorry 'bout that.
SkyeDS: np
evile: when it works, it's great.
evile: "the program is not responding. do you want to close"?
yes, but ONLY launchast, not ICQ and everything that IS working!!
Dammit.
SkyeDS: <hands you choice of whip, frying pan, bazooka>
evile: hee. a magnet & a screwdriver ought to do nicely.
SkyeDS: <hands said objects over with alacrity>
evile: heh. So very tempting...
evile: I guess dinner with Rubber_pig could've been worse. Earlier in the
day it was said that her kids would be joining us...
SkyeDS: how old are they? have you met them?
evile: I am trying _very_ hard to paint this in the brightest
possible shades of optimism. Oldest is 10 (proud mom carries pads in
her 'mom purse' just in case she starts her period--like I needed to
know this, but there it is), middle daughter is 5 and named Bliss,
and NOT TREYS. (conceived between the first and 2nd time she married
& divorced him), and the youngest is 'twenty months'.
SkyeDS: you couldn't write a more complicated soap opera if you tried
SkyeDS: truth is stranger than fiction and all
evile: Why do breeder women say '18 months' and '20 months' and so
forth? Why can't they just say "year and a half' 'almost 2'
SkyeDS: something I've wondered before more than once myself
evile: She told Aunt L about the middle baby not being Trey's, just
right there at dinner. So very...TMI.
SkyeDS: maybe it's some developmental thing I don't udnerstand
because I am the dirty unwashed uninitiate
evile: to motherhood? Me too, but I know you don't discuss certain
things 1) the first time you meet someone and 2) at dinner.
SkyeDS: even I know that
evile: I still dont' get your 'uninitiate' remark...but okay.
SkyeDS: uninitiate into motherhood
evile: oh, gotcha.
evile: I think you should use 'months' until the kid is a year old,
then just say 'year' 'year and a half' 'almost two'...that's plenty
evile: Nobody needs to set their watches back to the second it
crawled out of yer twat, lady.
evile: (I didn't say that out loud, BTW. I -am- getting better.)
SkyeDS: ROFL
evile: oh, and she *snorted* when she laughed. Cousin B was so irritated
by that.
SkyeDS: B gives the impression of being refined well past his years
in an eccentric way (I know that makes no sense)
SkyeDS: worldly past his years, perhaps is better
evile: I probably just need to not worry about it. Brother A has been
unemployed for over a year. he lives in a dirty house full of slacker
boys. There really isn't a 'life' for her & her offspring to 'ruin'
as such.
evile: B is very worldly. Worries me a lot sometimes.
SkyeDS: makes me wonder what the hell she and Trey are thinking
SkyeDS: to introduce her beloved offspring into that
evile: Yeah, if I was Trey,I'd be introducing her to a wealthy friend
in San Antonio. Brother A is sweet, loyal, loving, and he does take his
responsibilities seriously. But he is not in a stable situation in
life.
SkyeDS: I guess he thinks he wants a readymade family
evile: I have resolved not to say ANYTHING to him, UNLESS he asks.
And then I will not say anything negative about Rubber_pig, but suggest
that it's not the best possible situation to bring another baby into.
evile: She does not seem like a bad person, just young & immature & a
little too talky. I just don't know what the big rush is as far as
marrying and having a baby.
evile: Cousin B, Aunt L & I agreed that Thanksgiving this year will be one
of the more interesting ones :P
evile: I told her I wanted something stronger than "Golden Muskrat"
to get me through.
SkyeDS: that approach has always worked well for me
SkyeDS: with my beloved "little sister" particularly
SkyeDS: all of her choices in men were hideous, until she found a
good one and married him
SkyeDS: and I couldn't be happier
SkyeDS: but she would reel in a loser
evile: Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before you get the
prince, eh? :P
SkyeDS: and I would be asked for my opinion, so I would say, exactly
once, what I thought, as tactfully as I could manage without
sacrificing honesty
SkyeDS: and let it go
SkyeDS: you say something more than twice and you defeat your own
purposes and I'm not going to lose her over some fucking loser guy
evile: All of Sister H's lovers I've met so far have been lovely &
attractive, but with a few of the [her dad]-behaviors I find so
unattractive.
evile: Luckily neither yours nor mine were entranced enough with the
frogs to make anything permanent :)
SkyeDS: thank god/dess
evile: yup. They're smart enough to figure it out for themselves,
given enough time & proximity. Just grit your teeth & wait it out.
SkyeDS: Shannon knew what I was doing when I did it
SkyeDS: she wasn't stupid
SkyeDS: and she let it pass
SkyeDS: and we didn't ever discuss it again
SkyeDS: and time bore me out
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: and we never discussed that either
evile: 'told ya so' is never very productive.
SkyeDS: what I do tell her ad nauseam is how wonderful James is and
how happy I am for them both
SkyeDS: very pleasant I told you so
evile: It's nice to be able to say that :)
SkyeDS: life is more pleasant when I make an effort to make a habit
of saying nice things, I notice
evile: yup. this is true.
SkyeDS: one of the qualities I notice in those I admire and aspire to
emulate most
SkyeDS: is that they make everyone feel good about themselves
consistently
SkyeDS: gift, that, I think
evile: If you look hard enough, you can usually find at least one
nice thing to say to/about someone.
SkyeDS: if you look hard, you find whatever it is you look for
SkyeDS: good or bad
SkyeDS: so be careful what you look for
SkyeDS: and what you wish for
SkyeDS: because I emphatically believe that there is self fulfilling
prophecy, and a certain malleability in personal reality
SkyeDS: "you're about as happy as you decide to be", I always that
that was Gramma, but now I know she got it from Abe Lincoln, lol, but
I believe that is an excellent self fulfilling prophecy type Truism.
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: I am no longer defective, woohoo, I managed to put nine
charms on a bracelet (an accomplishment for me). Now I'm going to do
something easy (the taxes) :)
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: I can resist anything but temptation ;)
evile: I think I've heard that one before, too :) too true!
SkyeDS: like I dono't have craft supplies galore that I never did
anything with, I bought tassels yesterday (half price, had to, I tell
you), nine charms, a bracelet to put them on, some crystals and some
string to put them on, and several pieces to make necklaces out of
SkyeDS: and I've struggled with the charms all morning (being
defective)
evile: The more you do it, the easier it will get. If JInx has a
craft night this week, bring your stuff over & we can play.
SkyeDS: I'm going to start trying to make craft nights once I get my
schedule with Hugh worked out
evile: good deal.
SkyeDS: I'm thinking about offering 30 hours a week tomorrow, 10
hours on 3 days
SkyeDS: but Wed would be one of them, possibly
evile: yeah.
SkyeDS: which means I wouldn't leave there till like 8 pm and not
make Michelle's till 8:45
SkyeDS: how long do those nights last? would there still be stuff
going on?
evile: people are usually still there at that time.
SkyeDS: that would work then
evile: People usually stay until at least 10.
SkyeDS: that's right on my way home too
evile: cool ;)
SkyeDS: and since the hours I'm going to offer are 9 am to 8 pm,
staying up late wouldn't be terribly problematic
SkyeDS: and he might not even want me 30 hours a week yet, but I hope
he does
evile: *fingers crossed*
SkyeDS: and if I can get him accustomed to that concept, maybe if he
decided he needed me full time, I could get him to agree to a 4/10
SkyeDS: and that would be very cool
evile: very.
SkyeDS: lol I probably could have gotten something at Claire's for
same money and no effort. But I'm pleased, I know I'm easily amused.
SkyeDS: actually a friend of mine bought me a $3 bracelet she saw me
admire at Claire's, cheap but precious in its way, and I loved that
little bracelet, and then someone stole it, and I was
disproportionately heartbroken, no monetary value but a great deal of
emotional attachment
evile: Some things are more fun when you do them yourself. Definitely
more meaningful.
evile: I can see that. I get attached to stuff more when it was a
gift than if Id bought it myself.
SkyeDS: don't know why people are like that
evile: stealing stuff with only sentimental value? Yeah...that is a
rotten thing to do.
SkyeDS: steal little cheap things as if they were diamond tennis
bracelets, things that don't have monetary value and no sentimental
value to anyone but one person
SkyeDS: nods
SkyeDS: not only is it hurtful from an emotional standpoint, from a
logical standpoint, it's stupid, nothing to gain
evile: yup.
evile: Jason just posted the dinner schedule for the month. Looks
like I'm skipping this weeks . Which is a bummer because I missed
first Wednesday, too.
SkyeDS: saw Johnathan request Hao Hao. I used to eat at the one in
Dobie a lot when I was at UT. Great place.
evile: I like Jonathan. His wife is a little standoffish, but I think
that's shy, not snobby.
SkyeDS: someone would have to connect his name with his face for me
(as usual)
SkyeDS: haven't been able to do poly stuff since that one time
SkyeDS: and I dont' think sineater has either but I'm not sure
evile: I think you're right--he hasn't been since that 1st Wed. ya'll
came to CM
SkyeDS: if I work a 3/10 that includes Wed, that would make CM
problematic
evile: true.
SkyeDS: which is too bad because I like taking Arthur there weather
permitting
evile: That is why they alternate Wed & Thursday nights, to give
everyone a chance to get to at least one dinner.
evile: Terri A. has a point re: same location, time, etc. being
easier to remember, but her "Let's be the Seattle Poly Group" mantra
gets OLD quick.
SkyeDS: if Hugh isn't hidebound, I can trade Wednesday hours for
Fridays or Sundays on occasion too
evile: yup. Contractors tend to have more freedom as far as that
goes, because if Hugh chooses your hours, you can say you're his
employee and fuck him up.
SkyeDS: to this point he has been a darling man, so I don't foresee
that happening, continue to knock on wood
evile: that's cool.
SkyeDS: I need some time there with him so we can tackle piles
together
SkyeDS: and then once those piles are wrangled to a certain point
there is a lot I can do without him there
evile: Yeah.
SkyeDS: actually more easily since I would need access to his puter
(he needs to get me one eventually)
evile: definitely.
SkyeDS: many of the paralegals and secretaries I admire say they get
their best work done early in the morning or late in the evening when
the attorney isn't there at all
SkyeDS: this is just going to be the best of all worlds
SkyeDS: schedule flexibility
SkyeDS: I like spending time with Hugh on a personal basis
SkyeDS: we work well together when he's there
SkyeDS: and I work just as happily when he isn't
SkyeDS: and I will make my own paid holidays/vacation/sick time and
such through my own industry, pretty much as I always have (what
happens when you're a contractor, although I hope sineater gets something
that would include health insurance, at least catastrophic, soon)
evile: that would be a big load off your minds, I know.
SkyeDS: I've been paying Hugh's bills, and I see what he pays for his
own health insurance, and how much major stuff costs him even though
he has insurance
evile: That is something that worries Sweetie, too.
SkyeDS: he's a health admin lawyer you know
SkyeDS: I told him about your idea for associations/collectives and
he agrees
SkyeDS: incidentally Congress is trying to move in that direction...
ineptly so far (what else is new)
evile: heh. of course.
SkyeDS: we have the mechanism in place for large self insureds
already, sheesh. You don't have to even event a brand new wheel.
evile: Just have to be real careful on what demographic 'they' decide
to put you in. I bet women our age have HUGE healthcare costs due to
childbirth & whathaveyou.
SkyeDS: cool website: http://www.ladyofthelakes.biz/
evile: fertility treatments account for a _huge_ chunk of healthcare
costs
evile: And a lot of employers cover that while refusing to cover
birth control. crazy.
SkyeDS: seems to me that fertility = elective
SkyeDS: but I know that's just going to be construed as hatefulness
on my nonmotherhood part
evile: I think so too. And I find it a trifle hypocritical that
people who won't allow 'god's will' to be thwarted by condoms will
allow 'god's will' to be thwarted through fertility treatments
SkyeDS: Kelly told me that mandatory sex ed in Manor starts in 5th
grade
SkyeDS: and it is segregated
SkyeDS: and then in 6th grade it is unsegregated
evile: I think ours was too. Karnes City TX.
SkyeDS: I can't believe there aren't rabid Xian parents who don't
throw a big fit over that
SkyeDS: I've always thought that sex ed should be inherently part of
anatomy, in Biology, which I think was 9th grade? 10th grade?
SkyeDS: but I know you have to catch the kids early
evile: I think there was an option for the Xtian kids to go to the
library or the auditorium or something, like you had to get a
permission slip and if your parents didn't sign it, you didn't go to
sex ed.
SkyeDS: they're having sex at age 8 now, a lot of them
evile: that is so alien to me..
SkyeDS: outside of the behavioral and sociological factors and
implications
SkyeDS: girls are starting their periods at 9
SkyeDS: that's purely biological
SkyeDS: and significant I think
evile: scary thought.
SkyeDS: no matter how you raise your daughter, an d what you do and
don't allow her to come into contact with, she's going to start her
period at a tender age.
SkyeDS: and you have the bleeding/breeding thing to deal with
(because she'll ovulate at 10)
SkyeDS: I have seen Kelly's job
evile: So maybe Rubber_pig isn't so nutty having pads in her purse in case
her 10 year old starts....Okay. points for the fiancee.
SkyeDS: she does a superlative job at it
SkyeDS: (and I don't fucking want it)
SkyeDS: when I was teaching (a decade ago) a 9 year old girl came to
me in tears because she started a day early and didn't have protection
evile: I think a lot of teenagers and young women could benefit from
spending time with real children & infants. Figure out it's not about
having a cute little dolly baby that will love you forever.
SkyeDS: I told her all I had were my supersize tampons (baby's arm
size)
SkyeDS: and she said that's the size she uses anyway and thank you
miss :)
evile: yow!
SkyeDS: you could have knocked me over with a molt feather
evile: i bet.
SkyeDS: only reason I used tampons right after I first started was
because I couldn't march wearing pads the size I needed.
evile: yeah...pretty bulky things back in the day.
SkyeDS: the world would be a better place if there were more mothers
like Kelly.
evile: She is sweet with her kids, but she doesn't take any crap
either. It's a hard road to walk, keeping that balance.
SkyeDS: she is an amazing mother, from all perspectives
SkyeDS: she is an amazing mother despite her motherhood being
a "mistake" both times
SkyeDS: getting pregnant as a teenager
SkyeDS: marrying and divorcing Michael's dad and not making that
mistake with Brittany's dad even though Brittany was a "mistake" too.
SkyeDS: she is not on welfare of any kind
SkyeDS: the child support checks don't come dependably
SkyeDS: and she hasn't latched onto some other man codependently
SkyeDS: and her children want for nothing, financially or
emotionally, and they are academically and socially exceptional.
evile: Bet you just want to hold her up and say "look, breeder
welfare cows, it can be done!"
SkyeDS: it can be done by a single mother thank you very much
SkyeDS: so two parent families should do at least that well if not
better
evile: exactly. But it requires *work* and consistent diligent
efforts, which a lot of biologically-capable breeders dont' want to
do.
SkyeDS: if I were a regulatory type person I would say require all
women to go through a course in how to be a mother like Kelly before
issuing them licenses to breed in a controlled fashion.
evile: ahh, utopia.
SkyeDS: and...her tubes are tied...there will be no more breeding for
her, through her own volition.
evile: smart move, if you're that prone to fertility :)
SkyeDS: I admire Kelly to no end.
SkyeDS: and why should I have children of my own, whom I would no
doubt mess up with, when I can enjoy hers, without doing any damage.
evile: hee.
SkyeDS: (in that she would kill me before she let that happen)
evile: being an auntE was fun. When the kids were unspoiled &
uncoached in 'gimme gimme'
SkyeDS: if you ever decide you want to die slowly and painfully, you
fuck with Kelly's children.
evile: I bet.
SkyeDS: you think I have a temper? I am Mary fucking Poppins next to
Kelly.
SkyeDS: when someone is stupid enough to set her off, I offer to kill
them, and then I sit in the corner quietly and behaving myself, so
that I am not in her way and don't draw her fire in my direction
evile: it's always rather terrifying to watch someone go
into 'lioness' mode. Mom, Dee, even sweet little Rio.
SkyeDS: oh good lord
SkyeDS: I sure as hell wouldn't want to be in Dee's line of fire
evile: nope.
SkyeDS: I have never seen a bull lose its temper
SkyeDS: but I don't doubt that I don't want a critter God gave 14
foot rack to giving me my first performance
SkyeDS: Skye is crazy, but she is not, contrary to popular belief,
that fucking insane.
evile: Thus far, I've only heard about it, in her dealings with the
school over Phine's dyslexia.
SkyeDS: one of the things I know sonar0m's parents did right was go to the
matt legally with Leander over his severe dyslexia.
evile: I know you have a hard time with them, but I do think they act
out of love & caring for him. Probably overprotective &
unreasonable...but not hateful.
evile: And they're working on it. If the shrink does nothing else,
hopefully they will find a healthful way to separate themselves and
their accomplishments & choices in life from their son's, realize
that he's an individual who will make his own choices & live his own
life.
SkyeDS: that was cute
SkyeDS: taxcut cd crashed my puter
SkyeDS: have the resident expert working on that now
evile: oh well. s**T happens.
SkyeDS: there's that website
evile: We're going to see the accountant on Monday.I need to finish
sorting out all my paper before then.
SkyeDS: ladiesonlysports.com
SkyeDS: good bra/exercise site
evile: cool.
SkyeDS: you'd think I'd have learned by now
evile: ?
SkyeDS: I ought to bring the mail in myself
SkyeDS: because if I want all the tax documents in a nice safe pile
where I can find it when I want it....
SkyeDS: every year it's the same way
SkyeDS: and insanity is....
evile: Sweetie used to have an 'in box'. That was helpful.
SkyeDS: sineater's inbox is the entire floor of his office
SkyeDS: I thought it would suffice to ask him to please put tax
documents in one place on or about my desk, and remember where that
place is
SkyeDS: I should have known better, we've been through ti before
evile: Sweetie's filing system is the dining table. That's not where I
throw Sweetie's stuff when it comes in, but that's where it ends up.
SkyeDS: there are things that if we want done right, we do them
ourselves, because we know they don't care, we can't make them care,
we can't foist it off on them because it will get messed up, it's
important it not get messed up, adn they don't care and we do
evile: true enough.
SkyeDS: you know...things like...the taxes....vehicle registration
and inspection....etc
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: even Dr. Laura agrees that women have the power, and we mess
up when we don't use it correctly.
evile: Sweetie's lost our deed & all the floor & outside plans &
measurements that were with it.
SkyeDS: omg, did you ever find them?
evile: nope. I wanted to copy the lot blueprint and do a garden plan
with correct square footage, but in the process discovered that it's
all MIA.
SkyeDS: there should be a copy of the deed with the bank, the title
company, etc
evile: i suppose I could blame Sweetie for losing them, but it was me who
let him insist on keeping them & believed him when he said he'd
file it in his filing cabinet.
evile: I don't need a copy of the deed right this second. But I
really wanted a lot plan to play with.
evile: When/if the time comes, since he's the one who lost the deed,
it will be his responsibility to get another copy.
SkyeDS: yep
SkyeDS: we ought to know better
SkyeDS: shame on me
evile: I positively despise passive-agressive behavior, but Sweetie has
used it so much on me that I have learned some of the finer points &
am now quite good at using it right back at him.
SkyeDS: Ayn Rand had a point about victims being victims by choice
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: I can and have dealt with these problems quite effectively
before, I know how
SkyeDS: I get criticized like a motherfucker for my methods
SkyeDS: but they work when I use them
evile: same here. I just hope that I don't become something I can't
like or live with as a result of using those methods.
SkyeDS: amen sister
evile: Would be so much easier to ask politely once and have things
get done
SkyeDS: maybe you will get the chance to be Aunt E again soon
(through Brother A)
evile: um...I doubt it.
SkyeDS: what is that from Pulp Fiction
SkyeDS: "don't make me get medieval on yo ass"
SkyeDS: or something close
evile: I think Rubber_Pigs concept of motherhood includes spending most of
her time with them. If they aren't with their dad, they are with her
kind of thing.
evile: That, or at lessons. Apparently one of her older 2 is musical
& she's cultivating that.
evile: She was talking about Austin Schools & Aunt L told her flat out
Eanes and Westlake(whatever district that is) are the only ones
comparable to where she is now in San Antonio (alamo heights)
SkyeDS: Round Rock too
evile: I don't know much about Austin's school systems at all. Brother A
may end up moving to SA so that the girls can stay in Alamo Heights.
SkyeDS: does he have job prospects in AH?
evile: Brother A doesn't have prospects anywhere, far as I know.
evile: He failed his drug test for the beer warehouse, BTW. it wasn't
his fault because he didn't realize marijuana stays in your system
too long. *bangs head against wall*
evile: How is it 'not your fault' to smoke pot of your own free will
and then get caught? Boy has his head up his ass. I love him to
pieces but...he makes me crazy. that cause-effect thing again.
evile: that was a decent blue collar gig, too. $12 an hour &
benefits. *sigh*
evile: You couldn't do anything fancy, but you could raise a family
on that.
SkyeDS: nods
evile: oh well. His friend Ron is in SA and working security, if he
moved there and could stay away from the wacky weed, he could get a
job there, maybe. Trey works high-tech, so probably would not be able
to get Brother A in at his place.
SkyeDS: don't know what to tell him
evile: Trey's in a very specialized unit in the navy reserves. Wonder
how it'll shake out if he actually is coming out of the closet. (that
is just my own twisted little theory, at this point, mind you. I'm
just idly speculating)
SkyeDS: nods
evile: personally, I don't think you can spend months in a confined
space with someone and *not* know their sexual preference. that
whole 'dont ask don't tell' is such garbage.
SkyeDS: theoretically it shouldn't matter
evile: not at all.
SkyeDS: you shouldn't be worried about sexual preference when people
are trying to kill you
SkyeDS: but it does
SkyeDS: and for people who are phobic, you can't reason with them
SkyeDS: phobias are not reasonable by definition
evile: right.
evile: Another possibility re: Trey passing Rubber_pig along to Brother A: he
is going active duty again soon & wants to be sure she's safe before
he goes.
SkyeDS: or any combination thereof
evile: yup.
evile: They've been married on and off for over 10 years, so there's
gotta be something there, even if it's not enough to make the
marriage work, or whatever.
evile: Aunt L said she got the impression that Rubber_pig was the one who
wanted the divorce & Trey didn't.
evile: But, like I said, I think we only see the tip of the iceberg
here & have no idea what's really going on with this.
SkyeDS: so she marries Brother A and then plays pingpong back and forth,
divorcing one and marrying the other.
evile: Wonder what happened to the daddy of #2?
evile: Think she & Trey picked him too & then changed their minds &
got back together?
evile: I'm so tacky...I should just steel myself to be kind & polite
& actually spend time with them if I want to know, instead of
speculating like the mean nasty childfree hag that I am.
evile: She's obviously quite willing to talk about herself & her
relationships, so I am sure I don't need to guess, I could just ask.
evile: Brother A, being Brother A, will change his story to fit his audience. I
don't get the feeling that Rubber_pig is like that.
SkyeDS: I would be wondering
evile: Then again, it's really none of my business. And I probably
don't want to know.
SkyeDS: there may be a time down the road when you must cross that
bridge
SkyeDS: but no reason to cross it before you come to it
evile: yup. Brother A is a grown man now, he can make his own decisions in
life.
evile: I wish he wasn't so selfish & immature. I wish he'd think
things through before making such a big committment...but things may
turn out OK anyway.
evile: Oh well. I should make my rounds & let you focus on your
taxes.
evile: Probably won't be at Poly dinner this Thurs, but hopefully see
ya 'round sometime soon!
*hugs!*

 

Date: Mon, 5 Jan 2004 11:30:40 -0800 (PST)
From: "evilE
Subject: Decemberween was OK
To: "D 

My family was there, but no friends that I really
wanted to see. Nobody from San Antonio or the deep
past or anything. It was a pretty bland crowd.

sineater and Skye_DS had car trouble in Texarkana so they
didn't show up.

None of the other High Fantasy Society people came,
either.

I kept turning the fire on the fondues down or off to
keep things from burning and every time I'd leave the
kitchen somebody would light them up full-strength
again. But the rest of the food turned out fine.

The decor was cool, I had a beaded curtain between the
entranceway and the living room, lots of pillows, and
lots of lights hanging down in the living room.

I had lots of Xmas lites outside & the back yard was
really nice.

We had a fire ring in the back yard, which people
really seemed to enjoy, even though the weather was
pretty warm & a fire wasn't necessary.

I wore a kind of bellydance outfit, with a great coin
hipscarf I got on Ebay for $18. That was fun.

But no scandals and no real gossipy fun. It was what
we call a "nice party". Borrring!

BUT! New Years Eve, we went to a party in San Antonio
& saw a friend of Brother A's from his childhood. This guy,
Trey, is 27 and has been married since he was 17 & got
his little girlfriend pregnant. They now have 3 kids.
After Brother A, Mom, Stepdad, sineater, I & Cousin Cousin B left, the
guy's wife went up to Sister H and said "Trey and I are
getting a divorce and oh by the way your brother is
HOT!"

Jeez!!! I wonder if I should offer Brother A a vasectomy as
an early bday/xmas present...if he's going to be
messing with little mrs fertile myrtle, he might need
something stronger than a Trojan!

Hope your 2004 is wonderful so far!

XO!

=E

Jan. 2, 2004