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We see a lot of questions about how narcissists are difficult in therapy, but what are the challenging aspects of doing therapy with a client who is codependent, or who claims to be an "empath," or says they are a victim of narc abuse?

I’m pretty codependent.

In therapy, I have a tendency for my first session to be completely truthful and raw…and then once I’ve unburdened, I realize I’ve probably thrown up too much emotional gunk on the therapist. So then I back off, minimize my feelings and problems, care-take the therapist’s feelings, and by the 3rd or 4th session, convinced the therapist that they’ve cured me… while shoving all my own garbage deep down back into the place it came from.

It’s pretty sick! LOL. So I haven’t found therapy to be super helpful most of the times I’ve tried it. My last one was better, because I kept it specific to the current problem at hand and didn’t try to just throw all my trauma on them to try and fix a lifetime of BS in a few hours.

I feel that, much like going to a Dr. for a physical problem, you have to spend more time working on your own health outside the doctor’s office and only go to the Dr. when you have a specific pain to deal with. Or at least that has been what has been successful for me.

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