2311 [Brother A] & The Rubber Pig broke up

[evile]

Jun. 25, 2004

 

 

I got home from work yesterday & there was a tearful-sounding message
from The Rubber Pig on the machine. I did not want to deal with whatever it
was unprepared, so I called Aunt L to see if she knew what was up.

Apparently, Brother A told The Rubber Pig he didn't want to go to the police
academy and The Rubber Pig gave him a choice to do that or leave, so he left.

He drove the van to Lee's parents' house & Trey was going to go to
get it later.

I don't know what Brother A is doing, he hasn't called anyone yet.

The Rubber Pig has Paulie for now. She is taking the dog & the girls & going
to live with her mother in Blanco for a while.

Trey is going home to his parents.

Brother A....? Who knows. Aunt L has visions of sending him back to
Greencastle, or to Montana with Mom. He hasn't had a job in over a
year. Very messed up situation.

BUT...there was/is no bun in the oven *fingers crossed* and so Mom &
[dad] at least won't be dealing with boomerang child with grandkid in
tow. Thank heavens for small favors.

I am sure Brother A is angry & hurt by all of this...but thankfully his
stubbornness will serve him well in this case by (please god) keeping
him from changing his mind and going back to The Rubber Pig.

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2313Re: Brother A & The Rubber Pig broke up

[evile]

Jun. 25, 2004


[dad]'s thoughts:

Date: Fri, 25 Jun 2004 10:09:21 -0500
From: "[dad] "
To: "evilE "
Subject: Re: I guess you heard

Yeah, I heard. The Rubber Pig called K/Mom yesterday and she told me about it.
We haven't heard from Brother A. K/Mom is distraught over it. I think he
has dodged a bullet myself.
I agree with you, I hope he doesn't return to her for what ever
reason. As to Aunt L's vision of sending him somewhere, she needs to
stay out of it. Brother A has nothing here in Greencastle in the way of
friends or a job. He is welcome to visit, but he can not stay here at
the house. It's not that I don't care but if he seeks refuge anywhere
he won't deal with the problems at hand. You know what I mean, if you
provide him a safety net it turns into a hammock. Your mom's
situation doesn't allow her to accommodate Brother A at this time, either.
I also am sorry for his pain. Better to find out now then down the
road when the entanglement would be more intense. I hope he is OK. I
think he is embarrassed to talk to any of us and fears an unspoken "I
told you so." If I only knew a way to really help him.

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me & J-Law:

evilE wrote:

*hugs*

TGIF!

I am still on Cloud 9 from all of yesterday's good
news. I am, of course, sad for Brother A's hurt feelings,
but just so glad that he didn't have to wait for her
to pop a puppy before he picked up the clue phone.

Apparently this all got started when she had his
future all planned out (she told him to go to police
academy) and he said "no"...after all, a good obedient
Jewish wife should NEVER have to hear the word "No"
from her husband...

Thank god/ess. The boy has more sense than I gave him
credit for, and I am also (for once) thankful for his
stubbornness--once he's turned his back on something,
that's IT.

Still looking for that Chinese Orphanage to donate to.
Or maybe I'll just put in a few bux to the Lilith
Fund.
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Date: Fri, 25 Jun 2004 08:49:32 -0700 (PDT)
From: J-Law
Subject: Friday. At last.
To: mE

This has been one nutty week. All ups and downs. I'd like some even
keel for a change. :)

Still, all of the ups have been really good news (like Brother A and
The Rubber Pig), and the downs haven't been so bad.

Mary continued to spam me the rest of the afternoon. All kinds of
random stuff; fortunately, none of it was like the horrorscope or the
article about love being a mental disorder.

Seeing Shane tonight. We're going swing dancing. :) I sure hope I
am not a total klutz.

2316Re: Brother A & The Rubber Pig broke up

[evile]

evilE
Jun. 25, 2004


me to J-Law:

I'm sending you [dad]'s thoughts on the breakup. I
agree 100%. Especially about Brother A's tendency to take
advantage when people offer him help.

It's too bad that this has upset my mom so much. Aunt L
and I are relieved and DONE. I guess we don't have as
much emotional investment in the idea of Brother A having
kids, or whatever.

I'm still not sure if I'll return The Rubber Pig's call. I
mean...Brother A is done. Therefore, I'm done. This woman
is a stranger that I don't care about and I don't even
have to make nice to anymore. So...why do I care if
she's upset? But I do like a little drama when it's
something that I have no emotional investment in. So,
I may call her. But with some kind of plan in place so
that I don't have to stay on the phone any longer than
I want to.
=====

J-Law:

I do feel bad for Brother A, and definitely for your mom - sounds like
she's taking it pretty hard. But it is certainly better that things
broke off now rather than later, when he had kids with her, or
whatever else. Hopefully, in time, your mom will realize that Brother A
is better off on his own for the time being, and will find someone
more suited for him in the future, when he is ready for this kind of
relationship.

[dad] is right - spiriting Brother A out of Austin to parts undetermined is
not a good idea. If I may be candid, he has spent much of his young
adulthood running from his problems and getting bailed out. He made
a bad decision, and he needs to stick around and face the music, and
hopefully, build himself a life and home. It won't be easy, but it
might be the making of him.

I can't see him being a cop at all. Reminds me of how Kenna arm-
twisted Ken into joining the army so he could support her.
=========
me to J-Law:

Looks like it's going to rain here. There is an outdoor bellydance &
fire show on Saturday night, which I want to go to assuming the rain
doesn't cancel it.

And Sunday's a picnic & tubing thing in San Marcos but it looks like
the park service is issuing advisories about the excessive rain
making all the creeks, rivers, etc. too dangerous to swim or tube :(
I'm doing my best to see if the picnic part is still on, but can't
get anyone to write back to me. Oh well.

I will definitely be mentioning the 'no bail out' tough love thing to
Aunt L & Uncle B next time I see them. Nobody in this family is in a
position to be able to afford to take care of Brother A, and he's an able-
bodied man, he needs to take care of himself now. *sigh* It's just
hard not to think of him as a kid/lil bro all of that protective
instinct stuff...

I had forgotten all about the Kenna/Ken army thing. I'm so glad Brother A
has a bit more self-esteem than Ken did!

Re: 2316Re: Brother A & The Rubber Pig broke up

[evile]

2325Re: Brother A & The Rubber Pig broke up

Jun. 29, 2004


Me to D and Rio:

evilE H wrote:
I got home from work yesterday & there was a
tearful-sounding message from The Rubber Pig on the machine. I
did not want to deal with whatever it was unprepared,
so I called Aunt L to see if she knew what was up.

Apparently, Brother A told The Rubber Pig he didn't want to go to
the police academy (The Rubber Pig had decided that was what Al
was going to do with his life, apparently) and The Rubber Pig
gave him a choice to do that or leave, so he left.

He drove Trey's van to his friend Lee's parents' house
& Trey was going to go to get it later.

I don't know what Brother A is doing, he hasn't called
anyone yet, that I know of.

The Rubber Pig has Brother A's dog Paulie for now. She is taking the
dog & her 3 daughters & going to live with her mother
in Blanco for a while. Aunt L made sure to tell her that
Paulie has a home if he doesn't work out with them and
not to take him to the pound.

Trey is going home to his parents. (his dad, I guess,
since his mom is in CA)

Brother A....? Who knows. Aunt L has visions of sending him
back to Greencastle, or to Montana with Mom. He hasn't
had a job in over a year. Very messed up situation.

BUT...there was/is no bun in the oven *fingers
crossed* and so [dad] & Mom at least won't be dealing
with a wayward boomerang child with grandkid in tow.
Thank heavens for small favors.

I am sure Brother A is angry & hurt by all of this, and I
am sorry for his pain...but thankfully his
stubbornness will serve him well in this case by
(please, God) keeping him from changing his mind and
going back to The Rubber Pig.

So: 5 months after their first meeting, 3 weeks after
the Big Fat Fake Wedding, we have Big Fat Drama
Divorce.

That was Hollywood-esque. I think even Justin and
Britney lasted longer than that...

Hope your Friday is going well & that all is well with
you & your families. Love ya's!

-E


Rio:
Date: Fri, 25 Jun 2004 10:38:55 -0700 (PDT)
From: Rio
Subject: Re: The Big Fat Fake Drama Divorce
To: "evilE H"

Wow that sucks! So sorry to hear about Brother A's fake marriage. This ex
woman of his sounds controlling, I cant stand folks that likes thinks
they have he right to decide your fate. What the hell is that about?
This woman sounds screwy anyhow. I think that sometimes when youre in
a an odd situtation and with the wrong crowd your head is not on
straight and its hard to figure out what the future holds for you.

I wish Brother A the best in finding a job and to move forward with his
life.

Rio!
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D:

Date: Sat, 26 Jun 2004 07:39:28 -0700 (PDT)
From: Dee
Subject: WTF???
To: "evilE

Just when you think the comedy/tragedy gods have stopped visiting you
for a while here they come with some fresh new "reality tv" for you!
Hope you have a better weekend than Brother A seems to be having (a big
whatever to that!)
Mom says hello and hope you are well (she just got in yesterday
afternoon).
Love to you and Sweetie!
D



Bright the day Lord & Lady! As your priestess, may I live today as
an offering of my love and devotion. Blessed Be