evile | EJ - girls night

2917girls night

Feb. 8, 2005

we met up at the flightpath, onyxlynxx was leaving as I got there.
Terriblelynne & Kulilinei came next, then Nikiyoy. We went out to the patio to talk
& drink our bevvies. Rkentspeth showed up, and then Ladydreamtime. That was fun &
interesting. We had a nice visit.

R brought up an interesting thought re: mom. Would I tell a
friend the same things I tell her, knowing that my sharing would make
her uncomfortable?...unfo, I think the answer is yes.

But I make a distinction between something like T's history of
abuse making her unwilling to be around discussions or implements of
bdsm and something like Mom rejecting my Krav Maga or my opinion of
Rubber_Pig. One seems like a healthy boundary that T has for her own
protection and well-being, T is not saying "you're sick for
doing/liking that" she is just saying "I don't want to hear about it"
whereas Mom's prohibitions come across to me as though I'm being
judged and found lacking/wrong. and, honestly, I suspect it may not
be that way at all, but only my own perception.

Being an adult instead of being her child means that some boundaries
exist that did not exist in the mother-child relationship. Including
the child's expectation of unconditional love and support. That's not
the way grownups relate...

2918Re: girls night

Feb. 8, 2005

me to onyxlynxx:

Gals night was really pretty nice. Eventually Terriblelynne
and Kulilinei showed up, followed by Nikiyoy, and then Rose
and, finally, Ladydreamtime. Pretty good crowd. I think we all
had a nice visit.

Rose actually brought a craft--a Mardi-Gras colored
afghan that she worked on while we visited. I really
think Rose needed to get away from her family
obligations for a while and just relax. She gave me
some fantastic (if slightly owie) insight into my
recent estrangement from my mom.

I'm never sure what Ladydreamtime thinks about things, she
always seems a little distant or distracted. She
arrived last and left first, but I hope she had a nice
time, too.