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Answer: Basically, any and every form of dishonesty, as follows:
Drama-stirring - creating conflicts, taking extreme offense to minor disagreements, ‘siccing’ their followers on those they disagree with or their former friends and lovers. They like to have people fighting over them or competing for their attention and affection. They like to sow confusion, upset, bad feelings, and fights. They like to cause friends and family to misunderstand and mistrust each other. They like their life to be a chaotic soap opera where they can be the center of attention and pull everyone’s strings.
Image-faking - posting quotes from famous dead people on their social media about wisdom & kindness, posting cute hearts, rainbows, butterflies & unicorns, etc. Pretending to be expert in some interesting field to attract followers. I call this putting on the “Great and Wonderful ME! Show” (it can also be the “Sad and Terrible Woe is Me! show” depending on what kind of narcissist they are—either way, the goal is to be the center of attention and have everyone’s energy, time, and effort focused on themselves)
Creating Chaos - the Narcissist must be the center of a storm of BS at any given moment. They are dead inside; they are endless black holes of need and boredom. They are not comfortable with calm or peace. So they do everything they can to keep everything confused, chaotic, and in a constant state of mess. This also keeps their victims from being able to stop, take a breath, and try to think straight. They just go from one disaster to the next, keeping their captives confused and upset so that they can never emerge from the fog of nonsense the narcissist creates and perpetuates.
Self-indulgence and/or addiction - in the mind of a narcissist, if something is worth doing, it’s worth over-doing. Whether that’s sex, drugs, beauty treatments, food, lovers, facebook ‘friend-farming’/ amassing social media followers, pornography, animals, collectibles, drugs, alcohol, whatever. They have no self control, no limits and no sense of satiety to tell them when enough is enough. Everything they do is a Binge.
Stalking former friends and lovers. Be wary of weird friend requests, odd followers, or even linked-in requests. They may send flying monkeys to watch your work place or drive by your house. They may show up in public places where they know you visit frequently, or to events you have RSVPd for online. They may subscribe you to offensive publications or email lists. They may create social media accounts that use your name and photo in order to send friend requests and ‘fish’ for information from your friends or family.
Hunting: Looking for new sources of supply - using all of the above to either hoover old friends/lovers back, make themselves look good, make themselves look like the center of a fascinating drama, or make themselves look like a poor, sad, misunderstood victim of the people they are badmouthing and attacking (or attacking by proxy)
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