Quora: How should I prepare for a court date I have with the sociopath narcissist

How should I prepare for a court date I have with the sociopath narcissist father of my 9 year old daughter as I try to hold him accountable for the myriad of ways in which he constantly violates and disregards our custody agreement?

 

 

*Disclaimer: I am NOT a lawyer!  Consult a lawyer!*

Document, document, document.

Honestly, Judges could care less about a mental health diagnosis, so don’t focus on that.

Keep emails, voice mails, and paper notes on whatever agreements were made and dates, times, and circumstances regarding each violation.

Stay calm and stick to facts.

“On January 7, our arrangement was for him to pick up the child from school at 3pm. The child waited until 4 and then my mother had to get her because he never showed up, did not call, and could not be reached by phone” ETC.

Dates, times, facts. Keep it simple and to the point. No name calling, no emotional displays, no “he did this because he is a selfish SOB”--Just keep it factual and stay calm.

Good luck.

*Disclaimer: I am NOT a lawyer!  Consult a lawyer!*

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Quora: Can I make a person narcissistic by telling them my secrets?

 

 

No. The current theory is that narcissists are born or made at an early age-either born with a damaged brain that does not allow them to develop into an emotionally mature adult, OR they suffer childhood trauma that harms their development.

There is nothing you would be able to do or say that would make a normal person turn into a narcissist, or a narcissist become a normal person.

What you may have experienced is the period of time called the ‘love bombing’ or ‘honeymoon’ phase of a narcissistic/abusive relationship, in which a narcissist was able to hide their true self behind a mask for a brief amount of time in order to gain your trust.

Please do not blame yourself if someone you trusted has become abusive or disrespectful. Narcissists are master manipulators. It is easy to believe the best of others if you are a normal person who has never been harmed by a narcissist before.

If you are being abused or mistreated, take steps to protect yourself and leave the relationship as soon as you can. Do not trust the person with any more personal information.

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 Editing to add:  Posts tagged 'quora' were originally my answers to peoples' questions on quora.com.  They were monetized but I am giving them away for free here. 

If you feel inclined to support my writing, here's my paypal 

And if you prefer to pay it forward, I recommend Safe Place as an excellent place to support.