Quora: When a female narsacist gets older to the point that they realize this and state that does sh

When a female narsacist gets older to the point that they realize this and state that does she at some point become more tolerant to their main supply once they notice that their good looks are slowly ageing away?

 If a regular woman is like a fine wine, becoming mellower, richer, and smoother with the years, a narcissist woman is like a wine with a bad cork—she just turns into vinegar!

They don’t get easier to live with, they don’t become kinder, they don’t mellow with age.

Some don’t seem to recognize that they are getting older and need to ‘put aside childish things’. The female narcissist as she ages may try to squeeze herself into her daughters’ (or granddaughters’) clothes and paint herself with young woman’s makeup style. She is likely to get ‘work’ done on her face and color her hair. She may even attempt to seduce her childrens’ friends as they become teenagers and young adults.

She may say things about herself being “too old” or “too fat” but don’t agree with her, this is another manipulation. That’s your cue to tell her how young and beautiful and desirable she is. If you do or say anything that doesn’t prop up her ego, she will rage out and punish YOU because you “made her feel” that she is old and unattractive.

The older narcissist may change her tricks some— for example, instead of knocking out new sources of supply with kinky sex acts that would make a goat vomit, she may put on a ‘poor pitiful me’ persona. This is especially true of narcissistic women whose adult children and first (second, third, and fourth) husbands have left them and gone ‘no contact’…she can paint up a pretty sad picture of a lonely and betrayed woman who did “everything” for her children and first (second third etc) husband and how they took everything from her and left her with nothing. It’s a good sad story, for sure.

The older narcissist may play up her health problems (brought on by her own lifestyle choices of self-indulgence (overeating, binge drinking, anorexia, drug abuse, etc.) and depend on her new supply for care.

The older narcissist will also tend to manipulate more often with suicide threats “Everyone I ever loved left me, and now you are going to leave me too, I guess I’ll kill myself,”

It’s different (and in many ways worse) manipulation than a young narcissist woman will try, but it is still manipulation and emotional abuse.

One last thing: If you’ve been with one for many years, you may get so worn down and broken that you feel their behavior is acceptable, or don’t notice it anymore, or feel you deserve it. The time to get out is while *you* are still young. And the second best time to get out is at whatever age you are while you read this. While you are alive, there is hope of healing yourself and finding and making a better life for yourself. Put down the vinegar bottle. There are many fine vintages out in the world to enjoy.

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