Mar. 21st, 2020

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Why does the narcissist hurt the one that goes out of their way to prove how much they care and are still there even after all the pain they've endured?


The narcissist is nothing but a black hole of hate inside; I’m sorry to sound so dramatic, but they know nothing else but hate. They hate themselves, and they are unable to acknowledge that they are bad people who deserve to be hated, so they have to find a scapegoat—someone to ‘project’ their bad feelings on to. Lucky you!

At heart, they know they are despicable low life creatures, and when they can convince someone seemingly kind and decent to fall for them and love them, they end up feeling contempt and hatred for someone so stupid as to fall for their tricks.

You cannot fill the black hole with your love and kindness, you cannot kiss the frog and turn it into a prince/ss. There is no amount of affection, gifts, love, and compassion that you can give that will magically heal them of their sickness.

The harm and the hate are the real core of the narcissist. Whatever show they put on to hook you in at the beginning was the lie. Stay away from the black hole. There is nothing you can do to help them, they will only suck you in and destroy you if you stay and try to help.


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