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Discussion: Respect and Boundaries
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freyapax came up with some interesting discussion questions that I'd actually love to see or hear discussed 'live' perhaps at something like a Poly 101 or a meeting at the Human Potential Center.
Where things seem to get murky for me is in these two words: "respect" and "boundaries"
Respect seems to be a word that gets used a lot and seems to have a lot of definitions or assumptions built-in by others that seem odd to me.( Read more... )
Boundaries are a lot stickier. I am pretty sure I still have an imperfect understanding, mostly brought about by failing to identify my emotional state or true desire at any given time, or being unable to relate external events & behavior of others to my own thoughts and feelings.
I am not so good at recognizing or enforcing my own boundaries. But, here is my understanding, flawed as it may be:( Read more... )
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here are some signs of unhealthy boundaries:
We suggest going down this list twice. First thinking of yourself, and then as it may apply to the person in your life. . . .
Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries( Read more... )
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Personal Boundaries
"Setting boundaries is not a more sophisticated way of manipulation - although some people will say they are setting boundaries, when in fact they are attempting to manipulate. The difference between setting a boundary in a healthy way and manipulating is: when we set a boundary we let go of the outcome.
So, it is very important for us to learn to communicate about how another person's behavior is affecting us - without making blaming "you" type of statements. There is a simple formula to help us do this. It is: ( Read more... )
freyapax came up with some interesting discussion questions that I'd actually love to see or hear discussed 'live' perhaps at something like a Poly 101 or a meeting at the Human Potential Center.Where things seem to get murky for me is in these two words: "respect" and "boundaries"
Respect seems to be a word that gets used a lot and seems to have a lot of definitions or assumptions built-in by others that seem odd to me.( Read more... )
Boundaries are a lot stickier. I am pretty sure I still have an imperfect understanding, mostly brought about by failing to identify my emotional state or true desire at any given time, or being unable to relate external events & behavior of others to my own thoughts and feelings.
I am not so good at recognizing or enforcing my own boundaries. But, here is my understanding, flawed as it may be:( Read more... )
==============================================
here are some signs of unhealthy boundaries:
We suggest going down this list twice. First thinking of yourself, and then as it may apply to the person in your life. . . .
Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries( Read more... )
================================================
Personal Boundaries
"Setting boundaries is not a more sophisticated way of manipulation - although some people will say they are setting boundaries, when in fact they are attempting to manipulate. The difference between setting a boundary in a healthy way and manipulating is: when we set a boundary we let go of the outcome.
So, it is very important for us to learn to communicate about how another person's behavior is affecting us - without making blaming "you" type of statements. There is a simple formula to help us do this. It is: ( Read more... )
