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May 19, 2005

 

 

evile: *wave* enjoy your time off!
Rhino: Hey, Beautiful. =)
Rhino: Oh, I dont get time off from work (and IM, since I use IM for
work), just LJ. =)
evile: Oh, Ok then. Work. Bleh. My work ethic took a nosedive
yesterday; I spent an hour and a half talking to an ex in the hallway
& had to actually bust my ass to get my quota yesterday. Today...I
may not get my numbers at all, at this rate.
Rhino: What do you do? Sales?
evile: *snort* NO!
evile: I'm a state employee, I push paper. Can't push too much paper,
make the coworkers look bad, cant' push too little, makes the boss
mad.
Rhino: LOL
Rhino: Im a firm believer in the overachieve and F the cow-irkers
method.
evile: *shrug* I'm in the 'what's in it for ME' school of thought.
There's no benefit to me for working hard, no penalty for NOT working
and playing games and talking to my friends, so...may as well do the
minimum.
Rhino: Well, you are a state employee afterall. ;)
evile: yes, I am.
Rhino: which dept do you work for?

evile: Workforce Commission.
evile: (unemployment)
Rhino: and just when is sxsw next year? its been too long since I
went to Austin.
evile: *growls* Do I LOOK like the fuckin' Chamber o Commerce over
here?
Rhino: LOL
evile: March 15-19, looks like.
http://2005.sxsw.com/
Rhino: Sounds like a good excuse to carouse. It certainly was last
time I went. =-)
evile: *shrug* It's like New Orleans & Mardi Gras. Everyone's gotta
do it once, but I prefer the town without all the crazy stuff going
on.
Rhino: *nod* Ive done MG, SXSW, and spring break at Daytona, Oregon
Shakespeare Festival. Sundance is on the list, for sure.
evile: *nod* But be sure and talk about how you went to the Very
First Sundance, and how everyone who is just now going for the first
time is just a Poseur. Because the natives like to laugh.
Rhino: LOL
evile: Sweetie's sister came out for SXSW a couple years ago; that was
fun.
evile: But I wouldn't go to anything just for fun, only if I was
playing 'tour guide'
Rhino: yeah, I hate being tour guide and getting dragged around by
people who enjoy doing it. I just like to wander around, soak up the
local flavor, and plant somewhere to watch for a while.
evile: I'm just a regular "show off my town" person, not Tour Guide
Barbie. I try to take people places I think they'll like & go at
whatever speed they seem to want to go...
Rhino: That'd be nice. Most of the time people want to drag you to
50 places in one day.
evile: 50 places in a day is me on vacation...I know it's
exhausting, I wouldn't do it to a guest unless that's what they wanted
Rhino: *nod* Put me on the main drag with a camera, a journal and
pen, and walking around money. I'll end up gravitating to someplace
for lunch and writing. =)
evile: *nod* That's what I do when I live someplace.
evile: I'm slowly facing up to the possibility I might be a Type A
personality...but I have enough empathy to realize that is annoying &
try to tone it down. :P
Rhino: *nod* Ive got a list of about 10 coffehouses and smokefree
bar/restaurant places I can plant in for a day.
Rhino: heh
evile: The Bitches have found an ideal spot outside the Ben & Jerry's
on 5th, for people-watching and talking about boys. We're practically
a fixture there. :P
Rhino: *grin* The chess geeks have taken over a joho in Uptown.
We're there all day open to close sometimes banging on clocks and
pushing pieces.
evile: heehee :)
evile: Peglegasus and I were talking about the Jims we used to
occupy, back in the day.
evile: This one waitress had the giantest crush on him & made him a
birthday cake.
Rhino: =) I got written into a comic strip because I planted in a
joho in KC so much back in the day.
evile: *laff*
Rhino: Yeah, it was pretty funny to see myself drawn into the
scenery. I even had lines. =)
evile: Sweet!
Rhino: And that was back when I had my badass mullet + pompadour. Aw
yeah.
evile: *laff* That's AWESOME.
Rhino: Yeah, I had a mullet that would ringlet when it was wet. I'd
let it dry into ringlets, and then braid them. it'd go down to my
belt. The top went about 8" up. The best was when I would DA the
back and french braid it.
evile: heehee. That's cool :)
Rhino: Yeah. It was fun for a few years. I still think my shaven
head + 00 gague captive bead earring look is my favorite, but it
scares people.
evile: I would consider that a benefit, rather than a drawback.
Rhino: heh
Rhino: Well, I actually want to move up in this company or get into
law school or sometehing. Cant be scaring the snot out of people. =)
evile: Oh, OK then.
evile: I thought you were talking 'unwashed masses' rather
than 'people of note'
Rhino: LOL
Rhino: I dont mind scaring them.
Rhino: Plus, chix that like badass guys are my favorite. Thats a big
plus. =)
evile: I don't necessarily like badass guys, if it appears that
they're actually trying very hard to be badass.
Rhino: *nod* Posers suck no matter what flavor.
evile: I get a lot of mileage out of laughing and saying "aren't you
precious?" or similar to various goths/bikers/cowboys who try and get
in my face with their bad-ass-ness.
Rhino: heh
evile: The last gothfest I went to, I laughed and smiled the whole
time. I was dressed the part, but I just could not be that gloomy
about everything. The Real Goths gave me Looks.
Rhino: how dare you. ;)
evile: Sisters of Mercy give me big happy Nostalgia. Morrissey makes
me laugh. I can't help it.
evile: Life is too damn short and too fuckin' hard to make yourself
sad on purpose, ya know?
Rhino: amen to that.
Rhino: thats what I have family for
evile: bless their hearts.
evile: My stepbrother is currently involved in a convoluted scheme to
tell me 'no' without actually saying the word or being negative in
any way.
evile: Pretty hard to do when you ask a simple yes/no question of
someone. But he's trying very hard.
Rhino: LOL
Rhino: weasels are humorous
evile: Started by acting like he misunderstood my question
evile: Unfo, he has been beaten into weasel-ness by his abusive whore
of a wife who will not accept the word no in any shape, form, or
fashion.
evile: la la la. enough of that.
Rhino: ENGH
evile: I sent him email and told him I will accept the word 'no' as
an answer, and it's no big deal.
Rhino: what is it about spineless guys?
evile: *shrug* no clue.
evile: granted, she outweighs him by about a hundred pounds, but he
knows where the door is, he's employable, and still sorta cute, ya
know?
Rhino: exactly.
evile: And she likes to talk about her skill with firearms and
collection of live steel...but god damn, die on your feet rather than
live on your knees, if that's what it comes to.
Rhino: hell yes.
evile: AHA. finally got a straight up "no" out of the boy. Handled it
lovingly and graciously, of course. Perhaps he will eventually figure
out that direct communication works with people who are sane.
Rhino: LOL
evile: I get into similar (but not NEARLY as bad & crazy) with Mack [Sweetie]
sometimes. Yes, I don't like to hear the word 'no', YES I get
disappointed, sometimes even angry, but I will get over it better if
you just straight up TELL me something instead of waffling around.
evile: I don't know what's so threatening about being honest.
Everyone touts it as a virtue, but then gets offended when anyone is
actually honest.
Rhino: they want you to be honest FOR them, not TO them. =)
evile: *lol* Sorry, I'm honest for _me_. (Because I don't have the
good memory required to be a good liar, mostly. :P )
evile: Oh joy. He and the wife will be at our birthday dinner. *whee*
Rhino: oh joy!
evile: Oh, well. There will be lots of people there, plenty of
padding between me and her.
Rhino: less chance of semi-accidental strangulation that way
evile: oops, I drowned her in the giant fishtank. How *could* that
have happened?
Rhino: what.a.shame.
evile: she's 5'2" and almost 300#. I am just waiting for her to
stroke out.
Rhino: thats a big girl.
evile: well, praying, more like. But, yeah.
Rhino: thats big like Elvis big.
evile:
http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/eekatfreaksdotnet/detail?.dir=a808&.dnm=
8c89.jpg
Rhino: three words for her: Supportive Foundation Garment.
evile: She discovered Enell after that, it's gotten slightly better
in that area.
Rhino: She needs to discover anti-grav.
evile: I'd pay her way to outer space.
Rhino: Im sure you could pull a Wiley E Coyote and ACME her into
orbit.
evile: *grinz* That's another good one for my library of evil
thoughts
evile: She looks better since she's started 1) wearing her Enell and
2) doing ME instead of 'generic gypsy' for garb.
http://public.fotki.com/Gabercrombie/gulf_wars_05/img_0224.html
Rhino: whats enell?
evile: Oh, that's right, you don't watch Oprah. "Enell" is a brand of
sports bra that is made in sizes up to ...I don't even want to know.
They're supposedly the best thing evar for big gals.
Rhino: Ah
evile: I followed the directions for measuring (their sizing is not
traditional bra sizing) and sent off for 2, they kept my ribs
admirably constricted but did nothing for the bosom.
evile: She followed their directions for measuring..and what's inside
the bra doesn't bounce, but what gooshes out under her armpits still
bounces...
Rhino: *snork*
evile: but she's happy, she has a husband and 2 boyfriends, and
thinks she's the cat's pajamas, so who am I to comment?
Rhino: theyre poly and he sticks around for that kind of treatment?
thats just pathetic.
evile: *shrug* I have removed my ego from the situation. If he says
he needs help, I will help him. My home is open to him, my guest room
is ready, I have money, my aunt has a lawyer on retainer for family
business, and I know where Sweetie keeps our firearms.
Rhino: sounds like a plan
evile: If he asks for my opinion, I'll give it to him. If he asks
for my help, I will give it. Until then, I am practicing
Compassionate Avoidance, as much as possible.
Rhino: sometimes thats all you can do.
evile: yup.
evile: The harder lesson for me has been to realize it does not
diminish or mock others' pain for me to have a good life, love, and
friends.
Rhino: People sure thing otherwise, don't they? Its almost
pathological sometimes.
evile: Worrying and/or bitching are not productive, so out they go.
(sorry to have sidetracked on that one a bit with you.)
evile: it's called 'codependency' I think.
evile: Half my girlfriends are reading Buddhist stuff these days, I
guess it's rubbing off.
Rhino: Buddhist chix rock. Smart curvy buddhist chix are the best. =)
evile: Yeah, you should visit Austin.
evile: Personally, I'm a Discordian Thelemite :P
Rhino: No, youre a Texican Hottie. =)
evile: silly, that's not a religion. Now, Texican Hottie
*Worshipper*, that would be a religion.
Rhino: I suspect you have more than one worshipper. =)
evile: The fools! :P
Rhino: Ive worshipped more than one beautiful curvy redhead in my
day. then again, I am a fool by trade. =)
evile: Not that it's not appreciated....but it does tend to make me a
little nervous.
Rhino: Yeah, theres a fine line between diggin a chick and being a
psycho. =)
evile: I'm just not sure I'm as wonderful as people seem to think I
am...not that I think I suck..but ya know?
Rhino: *nod*
evile: Niki had a LJ entry the other day where she said I was The
Goddess....eeps. I just don't want to let her down.
Rhino: It ain't easy. =)
evile: Ok, the exact quote was "Bramblekite who is a walking
embodiment of the goddess." And she's seen me first thing in the a.m.
so I don't know where she gets that stuff.
Rhino: LOL
evile: "Oh, Lord, please help me to be the person my friends think I
am"
Rhino: Im going to scoot while I can. You have a great night. =)
evile: Ok. *hugs* Have a good weekend, if I don't see ya online
tomorrow.
Rhino: =)

3227Happy Birthday To Me

May 19, 2005

 

 

This evening has been rollercoastery.

Dinner w/sineater, Skye_ds, and sonar0m at hideous buffet near Frys.
Hopefully I behaved & we are all on good terms still.

Onyxlynxx rescued me, we went to Mangia. I got a beer, she got pizza, we
shared cheese sticks.

Then we got Ben & Jerry's next door.

Then we met Niki at her place & went to IHOP. Lousy waiter, dreadful
coffee, great company.

Then we went back to Niki's and hung out by the pool & talked. Good
stuff. They were the first to wish me Happy Birthday a little after
Midnight.

The first song I heard at age 35: "Monkey to Man" by Elvis Costello.

Yay.