Oct. 21st, 2004

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    Oct. 21, 2004

     

     

    Had a good/sad conversation w/Sweetie last night on the way to HEB for
    him to get wing stuff and me to get paper plates for boss day
    luncheon at work today. My attempts at discussion are viewed by him
    as attempts at manipulation, and that's apparently why he refuses to
    deal with me when I ask for help with household things (housework,
    bills, big projects that I really dread paying for by myself but he
    won't address, so if I don't want the roof to cave in I get to go
    into 10K worth of debt all by myself to get a new roof someday soon).
    I don't know how to ask without having him shut me out...but at least
    I know why he does it now. *sigh*

    I am really thinking that Dave & Dave have the right approach:
    they've been together 5 years happily and monogamously and Dave has
    his house in the Heights and David has his apartment (condo?)
    Downtown, and they dont' share household bills or responsibilities.
    If I had it to do over again, that would be the way I'd do it.

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    Oct. 21, 2004

     

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  • evilE

    Oct. 21, 2004

    2494435253 Oct-13-04 Oct-20-04 12:04:55 US $13.50 The Fat Flush Plan
    by Ann Louise Gittleman (2001) rubynraisin (*) spjj13

    7107057552 Oct-10-04 Oct-20-04 15:23:18 US $39.00 Fencing MASK SABRE
    France ,NEW $119 lazlo40 (*) alexandr101

    2494620865 Oct-14-04 Oct-21-04 08:03:02 US $2.25 99 CENT BOOK Fat
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    6932324566 Oct-14-04 Oct-21-04 08:29:59 US $4.00 The fat flush
    cookbook by Ann Louise Gittleman slporterpd (*) iamkimberly

    2494704787 Oct-14-04 Oct-21-04 13:13:50 US $7.50 Exile's Valor by
    Mercedes Lackey (2004) pmiyano dhall9

    2495778765 Oct-18-04 Oct-21-04 19:27:42 US $3.99 The Fat Flush
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  • evilE

    Oct. 21, 2004

    2494435253 Oct-13-04 Oct-20-04 12:04:55 US $13.50 The Fat Flush Plan
    by Ann Louise Gittleman (2001) rubynraisin (*) spjj13

    7107057552 Oct-10-04 Oct-20-04 15:23:18 US $39.00 Fencing MASK SABRE
    France ,NEW $119 lazlo40 (*) alexandr101

    2494620865 Oct-14-04 Oct-21-04 08:03:02 US $2.25 99 CENT BOOK Fat
    Flush Journal And Shopping Guide skyeds (*) 99centbookshop

    6932324566 Oct-14-04 Oct-21-04 08:29:59 US $4.00 The fat flush
    cookbook by Ann Louise Gittleman slporterpd (*) iamkimberly

    2494704787 Oct-14-04 Oct-21-04 13:13:50 US $7.50 Exile's Valor by
    Mercedes Lackey (2004) pmiyano dhall9

    2495778765 Oct-18-04 Oct-21-04 19:27:42 US $3.99 The Fat Flush
    Cookbook by Ann Louise Gittleman M.S. ... skyeds darksunblade

    7107878645 Oct-14-04 Oct-21-04 19:30:00 US $33.00 FENCING HELMET MASK
    FACE GUARD ..FOIL..EPEE skyeds retiredoncemore

    7107435504 Oct-12-04 Oct-22-04 12:19:10 US $37.00 Fencing MASK 3-
    weapon FRANCE ,NEW $89.99 hairnet57 alexandr101

    7107435516 Oct-12-04 Oct-22-04 12:19:15 US $46.00 Fencing MASK SABRE
    France ,NEW $119 porrrrring alexandr101

    7108195589 Oct-16-04 Oct-23-04 12:08:33 US $40.00 Fencing Mask by
    Triplette sz XL foil epee ozmann11 starsower

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    Oct. 21, 2004

     

     

    evile: howdy :)
    SkyeDS: mornin :)
    evile: How's your day going?
    SkyeDS: "when a witch is tired, a witch goes back to bed" ~ Z.
    Budapest. Wish I could have. However, I'm sitting here, vegetating
    because I'm lethargic and cramping, doing nothing, which is no big
    deal, because Hugh isn't here today.
    evile: *nod*
    evile: I was sad that sineater had to leave so soon last night :(
    SkyeDS: he said he would be home by 10 anyway, and the funny thing
    is, even leaving when he did, he didn't make it home until a quarter
    of 10
    evile: wow.
    SkyeDS: so if he'd left when he originally planned to, I doubt he'd
    have been home until between 11 and midnight.
    evile: I guess not.
    SkyeDS: and I'm sorry, but when every dish and fork I own I find
    dirty, and there are dozens of bugs crawling in the sink, and I go to
    microwave dinner because I certainly can't cook anything, and even
    the microwave is filthy, and all of this is because he left it that
    way, that's his problem, and he needs to handle it. I don't deserve
    that.
    evile: I dont' really get that, but OK.
    SkyeDS: you can cook in a kitchen where every single inch of counter
    space is covered and filthy, every dish you own is dirty, there are
    bugs in the sink and even the microwave is nasty?
    evile: I know how to do dishes, clean microwave, etc....
    SkyeDS: so do I
    SkyeDS: but I'm not going to clean up his mess that he left there for
    days and weeks on end
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: and he's going to stop leaving them or his kitchen privileges
    will be revoked, and I don't really care how he feeds and waters
    himself.
    SkyeDS: the deal behind giving him a room of the house to do with
    what he will, means he does NOT get to leave common rooms that are
    necessary for all of our use the way he leaves his room.
    evile: I certainly sympathize.
    SkyeDS: he *swore* there would be no bugs in my new house. gave his
    sacred oath.
    evile: apparently the bugs had other plans.
    SkyeDS: yes well, the bugs are a direct result of the boys habits.
    both of them. And it will stop or they will both live outside of my
    home, and sure as hell not use my kitchen anymore.
    evile: I think Festive and David have the right idea: they have been
    together 5 years but each has their own home.
    SkyeDS: we have 11 acres now. t hat is a possibility. Among the
    trash we pulled off is an old dog house. I was going to give it to
    Connie.
    SkyeDS: my point to him is simply this. There are lots of things I
    would like to do. My responsibility to the house and the land comes
    first.
    SkyeDS: He doesn't want to go do anything fun this weekend because he
    wants to work all weekend. Fine.
    SkyeDS: then why did the kitchen look like it did, while he's off
    playing.
    SkyeDS: I'm tired of him saying one thing ("No more bugs, I swear"
    and "need to work before play") and then doing the exact opposite.
    SkyeDS: kind of like i"m tired of hearing I'm sorry for things he
    does repeatedly
    evile: that's human nature...we all do that.
    SkyeDS: not to the extent that he does.
    evile: There's not much I can say here. I like you but I wont' join
    you in excorciating sineater.
    SkyeDS: that's fine
    SkyeDS: although I will point out, that I don't defend Sweetie to you
    when you vent.
    evile: You're not Sweetie's sister.
    evile: And you weren't Sweetie's friend before he met me.
    SkyeDS: and you criticize him for far less than what bothers me.
    evile: You're free to have your opinions about sineater, and the dynamics
    of your household are none of my business...and I will listen to
    whatever you have to say...but that's as far as I go.
    evile: I didn't say anything about sineater being blameless, or 'defend'
    him so much as just say...hey, everyone fucks up. We're all human.
    But if you see that as me taking a side, I won't say that anymore to
    you.
    SkyeDS: all I ever want, when I point out a mistake, is that it be
    corrected
    SkyeDS: and in the case of multiple mistakes, saying I'm sorry and
    then doing it again, is pointless
    SkyeDS: and I am at the point with the house in general, the kitchen
    particularly, and the bugs, where he will honor his word, or else.
    It isn't one mistake, it's the same mistake repeatedly.
    SkyeDS: and there's no reason to make the same mistake twice. None.
    evile: Wow. I am not even that hard on MYSELF.
    SkyeDS: I am no harder on anyone than I am on myself. And I put to
    you that if outsiders saw the conditions he leaves our home in, that
    most would say I tolerate too much for too long.
    evile: I know its not fair and it sucks and it will eventually break
    the relationship if it hasnt' already, but when I get to the point
    where I can't stand the filth and clutter, I clean (as much as I can
    anyway with all Sweetie's crap in the way)
    SkyeDS: the boys are going to clean up after themselves or they will
    live outside.
    evile: I dont' have that kind of say so over where Sweetie lives, so I
    have had to find other ways to deal.
    evile: We had a belated "Boss' Day" Lunch at work today, the boss
    sent an email to the unit to say 'thanks'. I was so tempted to
    reply "now where's my damn raise?"
    SkyeDS: lol
    evile: :slaps own fingers away from the keyboard--the modern
    equivalent to tongue-biting.
    SkyeDS: Hugh took his legal specialization board test
    SkyeDS: he's going to jack his prices up
    SkyeDS: think I'll wait till January and ask for a raise
    evile: excellent :)
    evile: did you see this yet?
    http://www.prospect.org/web/page.ww?
    section=root&name=ViewWeb&articleId=8790
    SkyeDS: I was asked a long while ago if Bushs' public comments about
    witchcraft bothered me.
    SkyeDS: my response was, it's his opinion, he's welcome to it, it's
    like his asshole, everyone has one and they all stink
    SkyeDS: as long as SCOTUS makes him respect the wall of separation,
    I'm good. Problem is, they don't always, not like they ought to.
    (Padilla, Hamdi, et al).
    evile: yup. and if he gests another 4 years in office, that's just
    gonna get worse
    SkyeDS: I do not like the massing of 10,000 lawyers on each side
    ready to file lawsuits the minute the election is over. that really
    bothers me.
    evile: yup.
    SkyeDS: if the gods had wanted me to vote they would have given me
    candidates.
    evile: heh. I know that feeling.
    SkyeDS: I saw that on a bumper sticker and thought it was funny
    evile: *nod*
    evile: I recently found some guided meditation on launchcast & added
    it to my mix. It's nice to just suddenly be told to sit and
    relax...helps my day immensely.
    SkyeDS: wish I had speakers/sound card
    evile: If I iddn't havemusic here I would hav quit a long time ago.
    (or be homicidally insane, one)
    evile: I did the handwriting analysis thing, but it was wayyy too
    accurate for public consumption.
    SkyeDS: wow
    evile: Nobody really wants/needs to knwo what a pathetic loser I
    really am.
    SkyeDS: did it say that in so many words?
    evile: well it was nice about it, but basically, yeah.
    SkyeDS: a lot of friends' said interesting stuff about them sexually
    SkyeDS: mine didn't mention sex at all
    SkyeDS: <boring
    evile: mabye that means you dont' have any sexual issues...?
    SkyeDS: means I'm boring :)
    evile: means you're getting laid in a way you prefer, as often as you
    prefer.
    SkyeDS: rofl how do you figure
    evile: If not, it would show up as an 'issue' in your handwriting,
    right?



    SkyeDS: I don't know whether it would or not.
    evile: that was the general trend I saw in other people's handwriting
    stuff--handwiting was revealing lacks.
    SkyeDS: it must have decided since I have plain old normal hand
    writing I'm plain old normal person ROFL
    evile: normal is not necessarily a bad word...
    SkyeDS: never said it was. however it isn't exactly applicable.
    evile: perhaps you're kinky, but not pathological about it which then
    makes your sexuality comfortable for you, which translates
    into 'normal' handwriting
    SkyeDS: convoluted but makes sense eventually :P
    evile: thats me.
    evile: We are completely caught up at work. I just went and got stuff
    right off the fax machine because our area is empty
    SkyeDS: :)
    evile: I wonder what I'll do tomorrow for work...
    evile: I bet a lot of people will call in sick.
    evile: e.'s trying to get me to take beginner yoga with her. blah!
    SkyeDS: I could do yoga on mondays if it weren't for fighter practice.
    evile: This is some kind of a deal where you buy a 1 month unlimited
    class and get an 8 class pass for __, and I guess she wants to go in
    on it together & I buy the 8 class pass.
    SkyeDS: I got used to the UT class, I liked it.
    evile: The last yoga yoga pass I had was a 5 class pass, it was good
    for 6 months, and it expired before I used all my classes.
    evile: the 'yoga club'? yeah, tha was nice until it got so damn
    crowded.
    evile: I don't know if they still do it or not. I haven't checked
    lately. the dillos got all screwed up so now I dont' knwo how to get
    to campus from here, other than walking.
    SkyeDS: yep
    SkyeDS: used to be admin parking was open at 4:30 now it isn't open
    til 5:45, damned inconvenient.
    evile: yeah, that is.
    evile: I like Yoga Yoga OK, but I dont' think I could commit to it
    frequently enough to use an 8 class pass before it expired. I guess
    that's lazy of me, but it's one of those things, I either need to be
    going because I know someone there is expecting me, or because its
    like the UT extension clases, every X and Y day for Z weeks, and
    that's all.
    evile: even with Krav Maga, I missed a lot of classes at the end
    because Mom & [sister H] were visiting.
    SkyeDS: ndos
    SkyeDS: err nods
    evile: Next time I go thataway for fabric, I need to pop in to the KM
    studio at Lamar & Airport, get a list of classes & prices.
    evile: oh shit. e. asks "What has you so busy?"...I don't really
    want to tell her.
    SkyeDS: couldn't it be summarized as just stuff in general?
    evile: I'm going with "standing dinner plans with some of my groups"
    evile: Hopefully that'll be good enough. It' snot that I woud mind
    taking her to poly dinner, or whatever, but she seemed freaked when I
    introduced her to Ladydreamtime and Rainking1 and his GF at Extravagasm & told
    her "yeah, Ladydreamtime has a couple of boyfriends, too" when she asked.
    evile: Depending on the venue, I don't attend every poly dinner, but
    I like to leave those nights open, anyway, just in case.
    evile: I'm VERY glad I skipped last night--Pace said it was indeed
    kids' night & there was a guy doing balloons.
    SkyeDS: lol
    evile: Pace seemed to enjoy it, but to me, that's what Hell will be
    like when I get there..
    SkyeDS: you would think a big group of pagan kids would be completely
    out of control, but only one out of many was out of control
    evile: that's good.
    SkyeDS: and not in a physically active way, just.... mean to the
    other kids and truth impaired
    SkyeDS: I said something to him about both but of course it did no
    good
    evile: *nod*
    SkyeDS: he belongs, of course, to Seneca, the control freak
    evile: heh.
    evile: doesn't she have 2?
    SkyeDS: may have, only one I know is hers, is the boy Cameron
    evile: oh. I may be thinking of someone else, then.
    evile: Oh, hey, they finally made a website with Witches Ball info!
    http://www.austinwitchesball.com/
    SkyeDS: bout time!
    SkyeDS: thx!
    evile: no prob. :)
    evile: Oh, poop, time for me to start headin that way.
    SkyeDS: may stop by there on the way to wherever we end up, ride up
    on the porch, and hang till we get asked to leave ;)
    evile: *nod* That would be cool :)
    SkyeDS: ciao :)
    evile: Have a good evening! *hugs* to sineater for me, please.

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