Nov. 27th, 2003

evile: (clutter)

 

    27 Nov. 8:58 am

     

     

    I posted this:

    From: "evilE"
    Date: Tue Nov 25, 2003 8:20 pm
    Subject: If you don't succeed, Breed!

    I just have to share this with y'all:

    I just had a major Epiphany!

    Having babies is the ultimate admission of failure.

    You get to a point in life where you realize you're never going to be
    Harrison Ford, Britney Spears, Cher, Madonna, Bill Gates, President
    of the US, or whatever. You realize you will never be as talented,
    beautiful, thin, popular, powerful, rich, or famous as you wanted to
    be.

    So you spawn and pass off all the pressure to succeed on to another
    generation and settle into obese, flatulent, mature mediocrity. And
    then you paint all your faded, failed ambitions with the martyred
    brush of "I wanted to write a novel, but there just wasn't time after
    Mistayke was born" and "Oh, I wanted to go to art school, but then
    Junior came along and now he's going to be the artist in the family,"
    or whatever.

    Kinda makes you realize exactly what's going on in the heads of all
    those sicko stage moms we saw on "American Idol Junior", doesn't it?

    Yes I've been drinking.

    But...in vino veritas & allathat.

    XO!

    =E

    =======
    Got this in response:

    From: Jim S
    Date: Tue Nov 25, 2003 10:27 pm
    Subject: Re: [austinnokidding] If you don't succeed, Breed!

     


    On Nov 25, 2003, at 8:20 PM, evilE wrote:

    > I just have to share this with y'all:
    >
    > I just had a major Epiphany!
    >
    > Having babies is the ultimate admission of failure.


    Normally I let your anti-kid diatribes slide right past. A lot of the
    time, you're dead-on with your complaints, and I agree 110%.

    This is not one of those times.

    So everybody knows now ... I'm the divorced dad of three beautiful
    children.


    I based my personal decision to reproduce on a number of things.

    First, I'm reasonably attractive, articulate, and intelligent. I'll
    let others judge my attractiveness, but I'll boast that I have no
    hesitation about calling a dumb mutherfucker a dumb mutherfucker to
    their face. Sometimes that turns out to be a stupid thing to do, but
    since I'm a former member of Mensa with a history of scores on
    standardized tests averaging me around 150 IQ, you can call me as dumb
    as you want. Just be careful when you hold up your own yardstick,
    because you might not measure up.

    Next, I do have some interest in prolonging my family lineage. Since I
    happened to be the most suitable breeder among my siblings, it turned
    out to be my task to procreate. My ex-wife and I spent our
    children-to-be's inheritance on fertility treatments to have 'em. You
    don't want to hear about it. Trust me on this. Regardless, our kids
    are a lot smarter than her sister's only kid, even though he'll make a
    better football player. Or goalpost.

    Finally, I've always felt that eugenics was a good concept in theory,
    and I've felt that limited uncontrolled experimentation might be in
    order. As it stands with the experiment now, we have three cute kids
    who are so fucking intelligent that they promise to follow in my
    footsteps, and if they do, they will demonize every teacher they
    encounter in public school. As far as attractiveness and
    articulativeness, the two older kids are posed to break every heart
    and every rule they want, and get away with it every time. The
    youngest will just punch your fucking lights out, and then take a
    photograph.

    Hell starts in September.

    Now here's where your part comes in.

    If you choose to whack yourself now, you need not suffer from what my
    kids will do in your lifetime. Nor will you suffer from what other
    people's kids will do. However -- if you, like most people, choose not
    to take a header off the 360 bridge, here's what will happen. OTHER
    people will continue to breed and to produce ugly, inarticulate,
    stupid children who will grow up to steal cars, abuse drugs, and
    sexually assault sheep. Or commit other misdemeanors great and small.
    (cf: Texas congressmen)

    On the other hand, MY kids will grow up to join the elite class of
    people who set examples for other peoples' kids; who arrest other
    peoples' kids when they forge money or hijack airliners; who formulate
    policy that governs generations of other peoples' kids; who write the
    great books, paint the great pictures, and orchestrate the great
    symphonies that will define how generations of other peoples' kids
    perceive our society -- as a species, and not just as a culture.

    It's goddamned hard, shitty work making a future for society. It takes
    a few dedicated people with superlative brains and dedication, and
    little or no self-concern for personal indulgence. Without these few
    of us, the rest of you can expect to live in a life of Wal-Mart for
    eternity.

    You have your right to chose not to breed. I respect that. You have a
    unconditional right to fault those parents who are incapable of
    raising their kids up right -- as a parent myself, I hate those
    worthless slackers even more than you do, believe it or not.

    But don't tar the few parents whose kids WILL make a difference with
    the same brush you use for the Epsilon-Minus breeders whose kids will
    impose a lifelong burden on whatever social system will survive.

    Jim

    PS -- Want to know what we tell our kids when they see other kids
    misbehaving in a store, and our kids ask why those brats are acting
    badly? We tell them, "Honey, those kids act badly because their
    parents don't love them." OUR kids have been dragged home and grounded
    enough times to act right. And to know the score.

    I would hope that if you were ever in such a position as my ex- and
    me,
    you'd love your own children enough to teach them wrong from right,
    and
    how to behave in public.

    =======
    My reply on group:

    From: "evilE" 
    Date: Wed Nov 26, 2003 8:11 am
    Subject: Re: If you don't succeed, Breed!

    1. No kidding! is a group for people who don't have kids. What are
    you doing here?

    2. I own this group, son, so you don't want to be starting s**t with
    me.

    savvy?
    =========
    Jim's reply, just as full of shit as his original, but sent via email
    rather than posted to the group:


    From: "Jim S
    Subject: Re: [austinnokidding] Re: If you don't succeed, Breed!
    Date: Wed, 26 Nov 2003 08:54:28 -0600
    To: "evilE"




    An off-list reply.




    On Nov 26, 2003, at 8:11 AM, evilE wrote:

    > 1. No kidding! is a group for people who don't have kids. What are
    > you doing here?

    Take a look at the original "No Kidding" national charter. It
    discourages discussion of kids and promotes adult discourse and
    friendship outside of interaction with children. It doesn't promote
    age-based hatred and bigotry. It also doesn't exclude parents.

    Just children.

    Would it surprise you to know that most parents in custody of their
    kids need a break FROM their spawn even more than childless folks
    (that
    would be this group) do? Would it surprise you that some parents ARE
    able to benefit from hearing from slightly prejudiced outsiders to
    parenthood (that would be childless people like you), and CAN modify
    their childrens' behavior to be more suitable for our society?

    Would it surprise you to hear that every "No Kidding" interaction
    I've
    had, I've taken away at least one thing that helped make me a better
    parent?

    And I've done it the whole time without broadcasting the fact that
    indeed I do have children. Only Janet and Eric know the whole deal.


    > 2. I own this group, son, so you don't want to be starting s**t with
    > me.
    >

    You don't own ME.

    Hmm, "son." What does that make me think of?

    Spawn?

    I think you need a puppy.

    I may or may not post a conciliatory reply on the group if (1) you
    haven't removed my first reply, (2) you haven't put me on moderated
    posting, and/or (3) you haven't deleted me. And put away your
    yardstick. It looks like there may be an inch missing off the end.

    =====
    My response:


    Date: Thu, 27 Nov 2003 06:26:48 -0800 (PST)
    From: "evilE
    Subject: Re: [austinnokidding] Re: If you don't succeed, Breed!
    To: "Jim S




    --- Jim S wrote:
    > An off-list reply.
    (snippy)
    > And I've done it the whole time without broadcasting
    > the fact that
    > indeed I do have children. Only Janet and Eric know
    > the whole deal.

    Personally, I think you just want to start your life
    over with a cool Childfree woman.

    (snip)
    >
    > Hmm, "son." What does that make me think of?
    >
    > Spawn?
    >
    > I think you need a puppy.

    I think you need to see "Pirates of the Caribbean". I
    was channeling Captain Jack Sparrow, thanks very much.

    > I may or may not post a conciliatory reply on the
    > group if (1) you
    > haven't removed my first reply, (2) you haven't put
    > me on moderated
    > posting, and/or (3) you haven't deleted me. And put
    > away your
    > yardstick. It looks like there may be an inch
    > missing off the end.
    >

    You are a coward for not posting this reply on the
    group. And I am busy with Thanksgiving just now, so
    you've got a few days to cringe and shudder while I
    think up an appropriate way to deal with you.

    Thanks for playing! Bye now!

    =E
    ==========
    Another CF! group member's reply, in group:

    From: "equiraptor"
    Date: Wed Nov 26, 2003 10:13 am
    Subject: Re: If you don't succeed, Breed!

    One thought - All generalizations are false.

    The original post was a generalization. This means there are cases
    where there may be an exception to the rule. Jim, it's possible you're
    an exception, but we're not the group to judge.

    I like the idea that having kids is a way to pass the "need to
    succeed" to someone else. I don't know why I do, but I do. Maybe
    because I feel a great deal of pressure from my mother to be
    "successful." Maybe because I just like the idea of people having kids
    because they think they've failed. I dunno. Whatever the case may be,
    it's still a theory.

    ========
    my reply:

    From: "evilE"
    Date: Thu Nov 27, 2003 8:17 am
    Subject: Re: If you don't succeed, Breed!

    Actually, I was posting in 'hyperbole' which is a form of extreme
    exaggeration in order to make a point.

    I can't help it if I hit a nerve.

    And got "Bingo" in the process.

    =E
    =========

    Mark's email to me:

    Date: Wed, 26 Nov 2003 11:03:24 -0800 (PST)
    From: "Mark 
    Subject: Re: [austinnokidding] Re: If you don't succeed, Breed!


    --- evilE 
    > 1. No kidding! is a group for people who don't have kids. What are
    > you doing here?

    A misunderstanding that needs to be corrected... by Jim leaving. I'm
    already talking with Janet and the other organizers about this.

    > 2. I own this group, son, so you don't want to be starting s**t
    >with me.

    You have my support, evilE.

    -Mark

    =====
    My reply:

    Date: Thu, 27 Nov 2003 06:23:15 -0800 (PST)
    From: "evilE
    Subject: Re: [austinnokidding] Re: If you don't succeed, Breed!
    To: Mark

    It wasn't the snappiest reply, I should not post before I have had
    coffee.

    I could have been a whole lot cleverer and had more fun with my
    breeder-dissing...

    But thanks for getting my back.

    XO!

    =E

    ========
    Posted in LiveJournal & replies

    evile ( bramblekite) wrote in childfree,
    @ 2003-11-26 08:07:00

    Current mood: amused

    It's good to be the queen

    I own the Austin No Kidding! Yahoo group, and posted my "Breeding is
    an admission of failure" epiphany.

    Got a snootful of self-righteous garbage from a member of the group
    who happens to be....*dum ta dum!* a DIVORCED FATHER OF THREE.

    Who happens, I suppose, to prefer the company of childfree women.
    Hmm, wonder why?

    ANYWAY...I laid the smackdown BUT GOOD on his sorry ass. May just go
    ahead and ban him now, but I am itching for a good breederbashing, so
    I may let him stick around and see what sorry garbage he spews next.

    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/austinnokidding/

    Gee, think I hit a nerve?

    farrah
    2003-11-26 06:54
    What an absolute crock of shit! What the fuck is he rambling about in
    the beginning of his letter? How attractive he is? Ha, as if it's
    suddenly going to make people perk up and listen to him.

    I find it funny how this guy goes on and on about how smart he is,
    and yet he's a father of three who joined a childfree mailing list.

    His entire letter is nothing but a load of bull. I'm sorry, but this
    guy sounds like an absolute prick, and it's sad to know that people
    like him are breeding.

    ragabashtule
    2003-11-26 07:28
    What about for those of us who aren't members of the group? It seems
    kind of silly just to join the list so we can read a few messages,
    then leave. Is there any way you could just post the text here?
    *joins and leaves*
    -- Sarah

    ragabashtule
    2003-11-26 07:39
    *eyeroll*
    2. I own this group, son, so you don't want to be starting s**t with
    me.
    God, not one of these arguments. No, really. Whatever happened to
    dealing with these jackasses with maturity? (even if they don't
    deserve it; it still looks better when you give them a polite
    smackdown since they have nothing to really come back at you with
    when you're being "nice.") This gives more fodder to the fire of the
    misguided belief that "all childfree people are immature and act like
    kids, because they're not mature enough to have kids."

    Given this guy is a total prick, but you just know he's going to come
    back at you for making that comment -- unless you're actually looking
    to start a fight there, which judging by this post ("I am itching for
    a good breederbashing..."), you are.

    Please, just be the bigger person and ban him. Your reason for doing
    so would be "you have three kids. Therefore you do not belong on a
    childfree listserv."
    -- Sarah

    donnaidh_sidhe
    2003-11-26 08:29
    Oh, no! You own a group! If I piss you off, you might BAN ME
    and I'll have to go to one of the OTHER THREE DOZEN SIMILAR GROUPS
    around!

    donnaidh_sidhe
    2003-11-26 08:30
    Ahem. Sorry. I've had that argument used on me before, and it
    really doesn't impress me that much. :/


    You're right
    bramblekite
    2003-11-27 06:40
    It wasn't as clever and entertaining as I thought it was, I
    shouldn't be online before I've had coffee.

    The happy thought from all of this is that one of the "Big 3" Austin
    NK! organizers here is peeved enough at all this guy's breeder bingo-
    isms that DDO3 may be excluded from further Austin NK real life
    activities.

    I'm sorry, but as a childfree woman who has DELIBERATELY CHOSEN not
    to have offspring, I am offended as hell by the idea of some spawner
    of 3 trying to insinuate himself, and by extention, the 3
    fucktrophies, into *my* happy CF life. Or if not MY life, the life of
    one of my CF sisters.

    There are WORLDS of difference between dating a man, dating a
    divorced man, and dating a divorced FATHER OF THREE. You will NEVER
    have his total focus, his full attention, or, to get down to
    mercenary terms, his full financial support, if you decide to merge
    your life with his. FTS! I (and the cool CF women of Austin No
    Kidding!) deserve a WHOLE man, and not just the pathetic remnants
    some babymomma left once she had got her use out of
    him.



    danicia
    2003-11-26 09:24
    I'm lurking just so I can watch your brilliant mind at work. :)

    BTW..what the fuck is up with this statement?

    Want to know what we tell our kids when they see other kids
    misbehaving in a store, and our kids ask why those
    brats are acting badly? We tell them, "Honey, those kids act badly
    because their parents don't love them."


    the_missy
    2003-11-26 09:32
    Aww, I was hoping for a much better smackdown.

    That guy is one tremendous asshat. I don't even know where to begin
    with my complaints about his post. I really liked what he wrote about
    how "it turned out to be my task to procreate." What, was someone in
    the family holding a gun to his attractive and intelligent head?

    But thank the Gods ... "MY kids will grow up to join the elite class
    of people who set examples for other peoples' kids." At least we know
    for sure, thanks to this guy's assessment, that his kids will indeed
    be the next generation of lawyers, doctors and rocket scientists.

    I also love it that he's a former Mensa member. Strange thing, I'M a
    former Mensa member. And I seem to have the level of intelligence to
    not hang around where I don't belong. I'm smart enough to not post at
    the parenting boards and telling them how wrong they are. ARGH!


    you're right
    bramblekite
    2003-11-27 06:43
    My response was utterly lame.

    And now he's taken it to email, so unless I really stoop to bottom-
    feeder level and post his private email to the group, it's done.

    *sigh*

    I hate breeders.

    And all of his arguments, aside from giving me "bingo" on my breeder
    bingo card, basically proved my point:

    "I am a loser ex mensa member who hasn't done anything with my life
    other than fuck up a marriage and waste a bunch of money on IVF to
    spawn some kids, who now HAVE to grow up to validate my life by being
    doctors, lawyers, and cops."

    ========
    Which spawned this tangential post in NK! Group
    From: "evilE"
    Date: Thu Nov 27, 2003 8:48 am
    Subject: A thought on Divorced Parents joining No Kidding!

    This is my personal opinion, not the official policy of NK, Okay?

    As a childfree woman who has DELIBERATELY CHOSEN not to have
    offspring, I am offended as hell by the idea of some spawner of 3
    trying to insinuate himself, and by extention, the 3 fucktrophies,
    into *my* happy CF life. Or if not MY life, the life of one of my CF
    sisters.

    I can certainly see *why* a divorced parent would seek members of the
    CF community to socialize and possibly be intimate with. But it is
    not fair to the CF persons.

    There are WORLDS of difference between dating a man, dating a
    divorced man, and dating a divorced FATHER OF THREE. You will NEVER
    have his total focus, his full attention, or, to get down to
    mercenary terms, his full financial support, if you decide to merge
    your life with his. (Unless, of course, the divorced parent has
    renounced all parental rights, responsibilities, and financial
    obligations...but how many parents do you know who do that?)

    FUCK THAT SHIT!

    I (and the cool CF women of Austin No Kidding!) deserve a WHOLE man,
    and not just the pathetic remnants some babymomma left once she had
    got her use out of him.


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