May. 13th, 2002

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  • May 13, 2002

     
    Friday: Dinner & a movie w/ e.

    Stopped at Central Market to look at flavor syrups to make my own
    soda. They didn't have much. Made me late for dinner. e had said
    she might be as late as 7:20 to Suzi's but then of course she was
    there before 7 and calling my cell phone to see where I was.

    Very syrupy beef & broccoli. Probably the lowest carb thing on the
    menu, but not good.

    Scorpion King at Barton sq. mall. Good movie. The Rock can't act
    much, but he's better than Schwartezenneger...so I'm sure he'll go
    far. Home late-ish, off to bed.

    Saturday: tried to get up earlyish for yard work, but didn't quite
    make it. We snuggled a bit when we were both awake, then had sex. I
    didn't go back to sleep! Finally got up, did some yard work, put
    mulch in my garden, trimmed some bushes, blabla. Tom and I went to
    Target, Petsmart, Van's, and Wolfe Nursery. Got some new plain polo-
    type shirts. red, black, blue, and purple. The purple is actually a
    guys shirt, but I liked it too much to pass up. Also got Tom
    a 'barrel of monkeys' button-down short sleeve shirt. He wore it to
    K&K's engagement party. Great party, btw. Lots of champagne. I saved
    part of the label around the neck to tell Jen what kind it was. I was
    drinking it with Chambord at the end--very nice. K&K are so nice; we
    always like spending time with them, rare as it is. The house where
    the party was was also a really cool house. The hostess got
    drrunk !!! She was cute drunk though.
    Didn't get to bed until almost 2. wow.

    Sunday: up at 9, Tom had said he wanted to get up with me and drink
    coffee before I went to Yoga, but then he was a grump and didn't want
    to get up. So I got up, took a bath & shaved my legs, ate a cheese
    stick, drank water, took allergy medicine, then tom got up around 10,
    and we hung out until 10:30, when I went to Yoga. It was me, Lonnie,
    Ron (both from Yoga at CMA beltaine) and this other guy, Dionysus,
    and it was some pretty good yoga. I came back home, called my mom,
    talked with her and Holly a bit, then went to sleep on the couch for
    a couple hours. Woke up, went to dinner w/ Tom & Max (Popeye's, not
    low carb!) and then home to watch TV. Xfiles wasn't as good as I'd
    hoped. Went to bed again at 11pm. Sleepy!

    I didn't do my paralegal online classes this weekend. But I did get
    yard work and laundry done. I set out my clothes for the week: Polo
    shirts and khakis every day except Friday, which is polo shirt and
    jeans. Yay for uniformed E.

    Taurus
    Horoscope (by astrocenter.com)
    Your heart may be seriously dragging you away from your work today,
    dear Taurus. You may find yourself extremely distracted by its extra
    loud ticking. Your romantic nature is trying to pull you out of your
    current situation and have you pursue a new one. Whether this is
    something you want is up to you. Try to maintain a level head. This
    may be hard since it seems like your heart has the reins today.

    Gemini
    Horoscope (by astrocenter.com)
    Adopt a new approach to your romantic life today, dear Gemini. Maybe
    you are not being realistic about your current situation. Take a
    break from TV for a while. Let your mind clear itself from images of
    fantasy relations that only exist in Hollywood. Every relationship
    has its problems. Realize that you need to take the good with the
    bad. Be realistic about your expectations you have of your partner.
     
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    • May 13, 2002
       
      from POE:

      http://www.geocities.com/avengingcynic/
      This guy apparently tracked down everything about this gal, sammie,
      and posted it all on one page, with links at the bottom about
      internet stalkers. Is he trying to imply that Sammie is a stalker?
      No...I think maybe we need to redefine our psychoses here. Sammie may
      be delusional and have multiple personalities, but she's not the
      stalker here...

      http://www.sarcasticgirl.com/#

      I like this web pg. it's cute.

      514Library trip

       
      • May 13, 2002
         
        RE/search #13: Angry Women

        Warrior Princesses, anthology edited by Elizabeth Ann Scarborough &
        Martin H Greenberg

        A Good Old Fashioned Future, by Bruce Sterling

        She Flies Without Wings: How Horses Touch a Woman's Soul, by Mary D
        Midkiff

        Distraction, by Bruce Sterling

        Artemis Fowl by Eoin Colfer

        Jack the Ripper:Uncensored Facts, by Paul Begg

        Due June 3.

        515 e

         
        • May 13, 2002
           
          Trading emails with Jen has made me realize how really damaged my
          relationship with Elena is, and how very little I want to make the
          effort to fix it:

          ME:
          Friday I went to dinner & a movie with Elena. It started out "meet at
          Suzi's at 7" and then she sent an email saying it would be more like
          7:20 or so. So I took my sweet time, stopped at Central Market to
          browse on the way, and at 6:59 she is calling my cell phone,
          wondering where I am, and hoping that she didn't tell me the
          wrong Suzi's location. Argh. If you say "I probably wont' get there
          until around 7:20", I am not going to bust my ass to
          go all the way across town by 7 and wait for your flaky ass. WTF.
          From now on, I am just going to leave all planning up to her. Fuck
          this. But dinner was fine, and then we saw The Scorpion King, which
          was just too silly and fun. I liked it. It was way better than the
          Conan movies, and that's saying something, because I realllly liked
          those.
          =================================
          JEN:
          Yargh!!! What is Elena's deal? I could see Jen E. doing something
          like that - she is always late, so the rest of us either plan to meet
          on time for drinks before she gets there, or plan to be late as well.
          If she ever manages to show up on time, and no one else is there, I
          bet she'd have a cow.

          ME:
          You know, keeping up friendships is hard enough when
          everyone is making an effort. But when one person doesn't seem to be
          trying, it doesn't seem to be worth the effort. I don't think I'll
          spend much more time w/ Elena. Going to movies & shallow stuff is OK,
          but I don't get the impression that she has gained much depth since
          age 18, or that she's really interested in me as a person. Her wierdo
          friend Fred is the one who told her she needed to hang out more with
          me, and it seems that she's obeying Fred rather than acting from her
          own wants. Now, she and Fred aren't friends anymore, and she did
          mention that she's now questioning everything she learned from him,
          bla bla, so maybe she is working up to telling me she doesn't
          think we have enough in common to bother with one another. That's
          fine with me. I agree.

          JEN:
          v.v.v. true. Its really too bad re: Elena... but it sounds like
          getting together has engendered more drama than quality friendship
          time. For awhile, there was a bit of that with Kim & Vanessa, but its
          been much less since the whole Jen E. drama. In retrospect, she was
          the source of most of the drama. When it's just me, K & V we agree on
          a place right away, meet on time, etc.

          ME:
          I guess I'll go ahead and keep my plans to go out with Elena on her
          b-day the 23, but after that I'll just start thinking of nice ways to
          blow her off, unless she blows me off first. I was pretty hurt when
          she basically told me that she was hanging out with me because her
          friend Fred had told her to spend more time with me, and I guess I
          just haven't gotten over that. If someone is so shallow as to let
          another friend tell her who she should and should not be spending
          time with, how soon before another friend comes along and tells her
          NOT to spend time with me, and then she dumps me based on that
          friend's advice? So immature. So shallow. gah. AND trying to make
          plans with her for Memorial Day weekend has caused me to miss other
          MD opportunities. And now she's blown me off, has something better to
          do that weekend, but 'maybe we can get together that Monday'...If I
          have any $ left over by then, I may just spend the weekend in San
          Antonio by myself or go camping or something.


          JEN:
          As for Elena, whatever solid, more or less confirmed plans you have
          should be kept. To the extent that she waffles on them in the future,
          feel free to cancel. I wouldn't make plans with her in the future,
          either. What is the point, if she is just going through the motions
          (kinda like Jen E....) and flakes. I am very sorry about the business
          with Fred's advice. I can't believe she even told you that. I can
          see that it's v. hurtful.... and so bizarre. I mean, you don't know
          Fred, do you? So what does he care who she hangs out with? And
          usually, its the other way around, telling someone that you don't
          think she should hang out with so-and-so. If she didn't want to stay
          in touch/hang out, it seems weird that she would do it just because
          he told her to. Like he is some kind of life-guru for her, or what?

          And then to tell you that she is now questioning everything he ever
          told her. How could she not see that you would think exactly what
          you're thinking? The last several Elena stories, I have tried to give
          her the benefit of the doubt.... and I also know that you don't want
          to just chuck a friendship over smallish things. But this is getting
          to be a big thing... or, at least, an oft-repeated thing, to the
          extent that her cavalier-ness just isn't being a flake, it actually
          means she doesn't care. I am so sorry to have to say that.... but,
          yeah. I agree with you.

          *big hug* This whole situation sucks.

          ME:
          I don't think Elena is a bad person, I just think she is selfish and
          shallow and doesn't have any tact. She is smart and attractive enough
          that I don't think those negative qualities are a liability in her
          life (meaning: she won't ever have a reason to change them). But I'm
          done with her, as mean as that may sound. I just don't have the time
          and emotional reserves to bother with caring about someone who isn't
          willing/able to care in return. I've been accused of being cold
          hearted and 'what's in it for me' but that isn't it at all. I just
          don't believe in being a doormat or an audience for anyone.

          And, yes, Fred was her 'life-guru'. He'd started this group, it
          sounds like 4-5 women and himself, and he was kind of the leader,
          doing guided meditations, reading new age books and discussing them,
          assigning little 'self improvement projects' to everyone in the
          group. So...yeah, a guru. I thought it was harmless & silly, maybe
          even a little bit helpful; her last project for the group was to make
          a collage of things that represent where she wants to be in 1 year.
          But then he turned creepy/sexual predator, and now she is all freaked
          that whatever she learned from him is bogus, too. That's like saying
          that Shakespeare sucks just because you had a bad prof. No! Maybe
          Elena just needs gurus. I was kind of her guru at Tulane, come to
          think of it...

          JEN:
          I think you're right on re: Elena.  And, I agree that you shouldn't
          be a doormat/audience.  Basically a doll that she can take down and
          play with when she feels like it, and forget the rest of the time. 
          No one could justifiably call you cold-hearted for resenting/not
          wanting to do that.


       
 

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