Things I've learned from my friends
May. 3rd, 2004 08:12 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
evile1. Don't call during their TV shows (which are always on, it seems)
2. My problems are never as big and bad as theirs are, so don't bother mentioning them.
3. My success is a good reason to buy them stuff and do stuff for them. Why else would I be calling to share my happiness?
4. Don't invite them anywhere unless I'm going to pay.
5. No matter how carefully we've planned a get-together, if someone else calls or something comes up, I will be ditched at the last minute.
(5A would be: I am the one to call if none of your other friends are available, there's nothing on TV, the VCR is broken, and the batteries on your vibrator are dead--pretty much the last ditch option.)
6. I'm not interesting enough all by myself to be worth spending time with. I need to invite them to parties and get-togethers where my cool friends will be.
7. Nobody wants to spend time with me for who I am, only for what I have, who I know, and what I can do for them.
And I guess that's about it.
So if anyone was wondering why I am not in the habit of calling, writing, touching bases, or inviting them places...that's why. I've had a bunch of bad friendships that have taught me ugly things and I am trying to unlearn them so I don't create more bad friendships.
2. My problems are never as big and bad as theirs are, so don't bother mentioning them.
3. My success is a good reason to buy them stuff and do stuff for them. Why else would I be calling to share my happiness?
4. Don't invite them anywhere unless I'm going to pay.
5. No matter how carefully we've planned a get-together, if someone else calls or something comes up, I will be ditched at the last minute.
(5A would be: I am the one to call if none of your other friends are available, there's nothing on TV, the VCR is broken, and the batteries on your vibrator are dead--pretty much the last ditch option.)
6. I'm not interesting enough all by myself to be worth spending time with. I need to invite them to parties and get-togethers where my cool friends will be.
7. Nobody wants to spend time with me for who I am, only for what I have, who I know, and what I can do for them.
And I guess that's about it.
So if anyone was wondering why I am not in the habit of calling, writing, touching bases, or inviting them places...that's why. I've had a bunch of bad friendships that have taught me ugly things and I am trying to unlearn them so I don't create more bad friendships.
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Date: 2004-05-03 07:25 am (UTC)*sigh*
It wasn't any rudeness, I was just bored & lonely yesterday and posted in my LJ about it, and Niki replied...and I read it too late to make any plans and then I realized that I never even THINK about calling people when I'm bored and lonely anymore. Because all my old 'friends' pretty much beat that out of me. I was not allowed to need or want them, I was only allowed to jump up & get running when THEY wanted ME.