1623OH DEAR GHOD

[evile]

Sep. 16, 2003

 

 

I am sorry. I love you. J[X's daughter] misses you very much.The children and
I all
miss you. Please consider calling me. [xxx xxxx]. I will never quit
trying to
touch base with you, but I won't bother you all the time either. 33
years is
a long time. You won't have to see [M - X's husband].There is alot I want to tell
you.

call when you can.
X
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My reply:

Please do not email me at my work address
 

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1624Re: OH DEAR GHOD

 

Sep. 16, 2003

 

 

me to J-Law:

Just got another email from X at work. WTF is wrong
with my 'inbox assistant'?!? I have it set to delete
if the email is from her. Anyway, here's the latest.
Apparently I am now supposed to do what she & [M - X's husband] did
to me, only this time it'll be X & I ganging up to
demonize [M - X's husband]. Because it's all [M - X's husband]S fault that she
said all those dreadful things to me about how I'm an
unfit role model for her children and how I'm so nasty
& negative, bla bla. What the fuck ever. Hereyago:
------------------------------

I am sorry. I love you. J[] misses you very
much.The children and I all miss you. Please consider
calling me. [xxx xxxx]. I will never quit trying to
touch base with you, but I won't bother you all the
time either. 33 years is a long time. You won't have
to see [M - 's husband]. There is alot I want to tell you.

call when you can.
X
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My reply:

Please do not email me at my work address
 

 

Comments

1625Re: OH DEAR GHOD

[evile]

Sep. 16, 2003


My rant on the brat page:

Rant Number: 33580 When: Sept 16 2003
What kind: I just wanna flame Where: my work email

I recently gave a breeder the boot out of my life because I had
ceased to be her friend & become her gravy train/babysitter instead.
Things pretty much went to shit when I suggested that we start doing
things one-on-one as ADULTS again and leave the kids with Spermdonor
or a sitter.

She has since been sending me emails about every 2 weeks to beg for
my "friendship" (read: "$$") again.

Here's the amusing part: she tries to manipulate my feelings by
telling me how much her mutant horde MISSES me. Aww....cry me a
fucking river. STFU, breeder cunt. I wanted more time with *you* not
your nasty pile of nosepicking freaks.

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ps: I also liked the bit about " I have so much to tell you "....like
my thirst for drama & gossip would go above my better instinct &
compel me to call her. Sure, I'm nosey as heck but...I am done.

1626Re: OH DEAR GHOD

[evile]

--- J-Law wrote:
GAAAAAAAAAAAAAH! WHATEVER!
---------

My reply:


My thoughts, exactly.

If she really wanted to talk, she has all my phone
numbers. If she really wanted to talk, she knows where
i live. She doesn't really want to talk. She just
wants to try and make me feel bad.

I guess she's hoping I'll somehow believe that all the
nasty email she sent me and the letter she sent my mom
were somehow engineered by [M - X's husband], and not her. Sorry,
but that 33 years cuts both ways--I know better.

I also suppose I am supposed to be fired up with
curiousity & drama-seeking with that "There's so much
I want to tell you" or whatever the hell.

Nope. I'm done. It takes a LOT to get me to the point
where my instinct for self-preservation overrides my
love and loyalty and stubborn need to HANG ON to
people, no matter how badly they treat me. But...it's
to that point & past it.

*sigh* How tedious. I *must* figure out how to get my
OUtlook at work to just delete that crap as soon as it
hits the inbox. Or better, just block the sender
completely. My yahoo mailbox is the best for that.

1628Re: OH DEAR GHOD

[evile]

Sep. 17, 2003

J-Law:
LOVE YOU HUGELY [thought you needed to hear it]. Specific replies to
comments in >blue.

evilE H <eekatfreaksdotnet@yahoo.com> wrote: My thoughts, exactly.

If she really wanted to talk, she has all my phone
numbers. If she really wanted to talk, she knows where
i live. She doesn't really want to talk. She just
wants to try and make me feel bad.
>Exactly. This is clearly an approach-avoid/passive-aggressive
thing. It is very easy for her to shoot off an email to you on the
theory that the ball is then in your court. You don't reply, you get
to be the bad guy (in her mind, that is).


I guess she's hoping I'll somehow believe that all the
nasty email she sent me and the letter she sent my mom
were somehow engineered by [M - Xtal's husband], and not her. Sorry,
but that 33 years cuts both ways--I know better.
>Well, not only do you know better, but the "[M - Xtal's husband] engineering" theory
assumes that she is the sort of person who would abandon a friend of
33 years at the request of a spouse whom she acknowledges is off his
nut. What kinda friend would do that? It's really not a good
argument for her to be making. There's me. Thinking like a
lawyer. :)


I also suppose I am supposed to be fired up with
curiousity & drama-seeking with that "There's so much
I want to tell you" or whatever the hell.
>Again, more of her a-a/p-a crap to get you all worked up.
Nope. I'm done. It takes a LOT to get me to the point
where my instinct for self-preservation overrides my
love and loyalty and stubborn need to HANG ON to
people, no matter how badly they treat me. But...it's
to that point & past it.
>Good for you. The fact is, she chucked your loyalty & love right
down the can. She stopped seeing you clearly, valuing your
friendship, and understanding you. You're the kind of person
who "sticks." That's very admirable and very rare. If the people
you love "stick" back, it's a wonderful thing. The downside, as you
know, is that some people just can't or won't "stick," and you're the
one who gets the shaft.

*sigh* How tedious. I *must* figure out how to get my
OUtlook at work to just delete that crap as soon as it
hits the inbox. Or better, just block the sender
completely. My yahoo mailbox is the best for that.
>As for her emailing you at work - I bet she just has a nickname for
you in her address book and she shoots it off to the nickname, not
caring which of your email addresses it goes to. You have told her
before not to email you at work. The fact that she keeps doing it,
doesn't bother to look at/update her address book just goes to show
you how lazy she is, and how she thinks the onus for all of this has
to be on you. You shouldn't HAVE to filter. If she feels the need
to contact you and wants a productive discussion, she should call.
If she is too much of a wuss, she should at least send her crap to
your non-work address.
>Outlook sucks. Maybe tell your IT people that this woman is
harassing you? Maybe it's something they have to do to their server,
spam filter or whatever, if it can't be done by you in your inbox.
===============
my reply:

Love you, too :)

Thanks for your ever-sensible perspective.

I'd be amused if I wasn't so annoyed.

=E
==============
J-Law:
Well - my dad used to say to me, "never attribute to malice what is
more readily explained by stupidity." That is pretty much the maxim
upon which all of my thoughts on these situations are based.

It's sensible, I guess. But in a way, I'd rather be chucked as the
goal of a devious, malicious plot than because the other person was
too stupid, lazy, whatever to keep up their end.

Or maybe not. Both suck, probably equally, but for different
reasons. One you get to be wronged and martyred, and the other, you
get to sit back, be sensible and laugh sardonically.
===
me:
I should have just let her dump me last summer when we
had that stupid argument after Natural Magic's
Midsummer ritual. Then she could have felt all morally
superior and wouldn't be pestering me. Well, maybe.
The lure of the gravy train is hard to resist for
someone as greedy and grabby as she is.

Oh, well. Were I some sort of Newage white-lighter,
I'd say that there's a "Karmic lesson" or "karmic
debt" that I haven't learned/repaid yet and that she's
not gonna quit until I have. Luckily I don't believe
in that garbage.

1630Re: OH DEAR GHOD

[evile]

Sep. 17, 2003


My cell phone beeped at me this afternoon and it turns out I have a
text message from X waiting. Wierd.

From: 15125774014
08/29/2003 17:46

I am sorry. I want to make up with you. Please think about it. I will
not ask for anything, just that we can try to be friends again.

==============

No no no

This is so annoying...

And I know if I call her it will just be a big mess. I don't want any
guilt trips over the kids, I don't want to know how sad she is about
losing [M - X's husband] over fucking that other guy, I don't want to hear how
she's poor and can't get a job, bla bla bla. I just don't want to
hear any of it. And how could I *not* hear that the kids are hungry
or need school stuff or whatever and NOT want to do something for
them? Even though they aren't my responsibility and I don't want to
be used like that. :(

1631Re: OH DEAR GHOD

[evile]

Sep. 17, 2003


I went ahead and shared this email w/[Sineater] & [Skye_ds]. First I got an
email from [Skye_ds]:


From: [Skye_ds]
To: Me
Subject: RE: Dang it!!!
Date: Wed, 17 Sep 2003 13:05:33 -0500

Wanna go shopping some Sunday? World Market? Ross? Ulta? Spend face
to face time - spend money, vent, eat, etc :) Until the first weekend
of October, I work M - F 6 pm - midnight. Saturdays = park, so that
leaves Sundays for the next couple of weeks. Schedule might be due
to change after that but I don't know to what yet.

Also, I haven't got a clue what I'm going to do about a Halloween
costume and I usually spend all year working one up. Glad to hear
there will be a Witches Ball this year :)

Enjoyed the wedding and reception on Saturday, got to see Tom and
Tracy, haven't seen them in a long time.

As for retraining X, I don't know...I'm only qualified to train
horses and birds ;).

Benedizione chiari e scuri,
Skye DreamSinger
*** *** ***
May the Road rise to meet you,
May the Winds be always at your back,
May the Sun shine warmly on your face,
May the Rain fall softly on your fields.
Until we meet again, may the Lord and Lady
Hold you always in the palms of Their hands.

Then [Sineater]:

Date: Wed, 17 Sep 2003 16:20:45 -0500
From: [Sineater]
To: Me
Subject: Re: Dang it!!!
>Just got another email from X at work. WTF is wrong
>with my MS Outlook 'inbox assistant'?!? I have it set
>to delete if the email is from her. (any technical
>advice would be much appreciated on this front)
Outlook's rules are uh, special. I can't get a rule to function
consistently, and frequently they will do exactly the opposite of
what I intended. More than likely though, she may have sent from a
different email address. Or, capitalized part of it... my Outlook
will let stuff through if the capitalization does not match -exactly-
, which is absolutely retarded since email is supposed to be
completely case-insensitive. IE, if you have a rule to delete
anything from "X Velascue" and she changes her name in her
email program to "X" or "X Velascue" or "X
Velascue " Outlook will say, "Oh, this can't POSSIBLY be
the same person, I'll just let this right through!" Or if she sends
it to evilE.H----- instead of evilE.h-----. The possible combinations
of stupidity are just staggering. Thanks Bill, you inbred asshat.
>
>
>Anyway, here's the latest.
...
Yeah. She is still in "Explain it all away" mode. She still won't
take responsibility for her role in all this. It's [M - X's husband]'s fault she
had an affair for whatever, it's your fault she was such a bitch
because you didn't do what she wanted, yadda yadda.
>Think that will help her get the point???
Good reply I think. Get the point? Who knows? It may take her years...
>XO!
Woohoo!

===================
Hmm. Wonder if me writing back to [Skye_ds] re: a Sunday outing somehow
granted him 'permission' to email me? That slave contract thing or
whatever. Or maybe it was just total coincidence.

1668Re: OH DEAR GHOD

[evile]

Sep. 26, 2003
Me to D:


Date: Fri, 26 Sep 2003 14:33:53 -0700 (PDT)
From: mE
Subject: another chapter in the X drama
To: D

Apparently X and [M - X's husband] were arrested for drugs & the
house has been boarded up by DEA. The kids are with
X's stepdad's wife, C. She is a quiet, nervous
woman with quiet nervous cats & lots of breakable
things in the house. X's stepdad is working a
contract gig in California, so he can't help with the
kids at all, even though they are in his house right
now. :(

C called this afternoon and talked to Sweetie, Sweetie
called & gave me some of the info, but I wanted to
wait for the whole story when I'm home and can cry and
scream if I need to.

WTF is wrong with those people? You do whatever stupid
crap you want when you're young, but once you become a
parent, that is a sacred f'ing TRUST. Your home is a
safe haven for your family, not a drug den.

I am so pissed at her. I could kill her with my bare
hands. I could just murder her. [M - X's husband], too.

I don't know if C is going to try and get me to
take a kid, or all 3, or what. With Sweetie unemployed, I
don't think we can afford it. It's a huge
responsibility! But I can't stand the thought of them
in foster care where they may be mistreated some
more...this time by strangers.

Evile's Home for Wayward Youth, now open! *sigh*
Goddess give me strength! This has been one hell of a
week. Like Mercury Retrograde went and did a stealth
run after I thought it was done!

*hugs* to you and your wonderful, loving, functional
family! Thank you for your love & strength &
friendship. What a week..

1669Re: OH DEAR GHOD

[evile]

Sep. 27, 2003


D's reply:


Date: Sat, 27 Sep 2003 03:10:35 -0700 (PDT)
From: D
Subject: Re: X drama~WTF?!!!!
To: mE


Okay...I don't even know where to begin to rant about how stupid both
X & M are and after all of that guilt trip drama they tried to
lay at your feet they go and do something so stupid that there aren't
words in any language to describe the dispicable-ness of their
behavior! If they wanted to act like teenagers then why didn't they
use birth control insteand of bring 3 lives into the world and
scarring them with their....words really do escape me! It's people
like them that give parents a bad name! How horrid! REPUGNANT! I
have no sympathy for them but those poor, poor kids!!! Boy, I think
this last few months, the Goddess has heard way too much from me!
But Back onto the altar you go!
***Hugs****The Goddess will work it out!
D

1677Re: OH DEAR GHOD

[evile]

Sep. 30, 2003


Sent copy of unsent letter to J-Law with this note:

I posted this to "unsent leters" at diaryland. I feel
a ton better. I really hope I don't end up with the
kids. No way we can afford that, and I wouldn't
saddle Sweetie with the responsibility...but..*sigh* I
dunno. we'll see. anyhoo...thought i'd share, but you
dont' hve to read it if you don't want. It's pretty
evil. I would seriously LOVE to send it to her. But I
won't.
=========

her reply:

Dude!

You probably won't ever get custody of the kids - would more than
likely go to Xs's folks (i.e., M & C), or [M - X's husband]'s.
Failing that, foster care.

If I were you, I wouldn't take those kids, regardless of the
alternative. You have to look out for you & Sweetie, and what you can
afford.

And if you have those kids, you will be tied to that filthy two-faced
wretch and her psycho husband for the rest of your life. My 2 cents.