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evileSep. 13, 2004
evile: *hugs*
SkyeDS: hugs :)
evile: So, roughly 24 hours after calling sineater, [brother A] dumped the dog
in our backyard.
evile: No leash, no collar...
SkyeDS: sighs
evile: [brother A] left a msg on our machine around 5:30PM, nobody was home,
and dumped Paulie a couple hours later, nobody had been home to check
messages, and nobody was currently home.
SkyeDS: [The Rubber Pig] called right as I walked in the door at 8 pm Friday
night
SkyeDS: my parents had already been to the house to see me, and I
didn't get home in time
SkyeDS: because a prospective client wanted to talk for an hour and a
half
SkyeDS: and [The Rubber Pig] wanted me to drive back to Austin, right then
SkyeDS: and then [brother A] wanted us to drive to Austin Saturday, and was
told, we have out of town guests, not happening.
evile: ugh!
SkyeDS: I am bound and determined, that I am going to surgically cut
all drama from my life.
SkyeDS: hopefully sineater should have no problems picking Paulie up and
delivering him to Connie :)
evile: *nod* I'm on phone duty, will be slow until 12:30 or so...
evile: no drama is good.
evile: our in house system is incredibly buggy. It terrifies me.
SkyeDS: system = phone system?
evile: No, our in house interface between our job and the shitty
mainframe.
Just heard from an employer who hadn't gotten copies of decisions in
the mail. Looking it up on the in house, the address is correct,
printing out the decisions actually mailed, the address is wrong.
SkyeDS: oh man :(
evile: How are we expected to have any accountability when somewhere
between what WE type in and what gets printed out, some bizarre shit
happens that we have NO knowledge of or control over??
SkyeDS: (hugs)
evile: hate the job today, I really to.
SkyeDS: is half over?
evile: But I had a cool weekend, so I'm just going to blow it off.
evile: a bit more than half, maybe, even. I leave at 3 today :)
SkyeDS: that was my plan of action this morning too
SkyeDS: had a new experience this weekend, already looking forward to
expanding on it next weekend
evile: ? do tell
SkyeDS: I talked half a dozen people in Drandmir into being human
pells for us to run a mounted combat course
SkyeDS: so then all these journalism student photographers show up
and want pictures
evile: cool
SkyeDS: but by that time, no one there was in garb anymore but me
SkyeDS: so what they wanted, was me, on Jesse, running the course I
set up
evile: oh well
SkyeDS: I've never run a course on Jesse, and had not planned to any
time in foreseeable future
evile: good publicity for you anyway
SkyeDS: I figured, what the hell, so I did it
evile: awesome :)
evile: sineater knows that the dog is at Lynn & Bob's, not our house,
right?
SkyeDS: right
evile: OK
SkyeDS: or let me rephrase
SkyeDS: that's what I told him
SkyeDS: more than once
evile: OK
evile: I am taking the rest of the dog food over after work, so I'll
be at Lynns, and no telling when Sweetie will be home, so I just didn't
want sineater showing up at our vacant house after work & getting
peeved/confused.
SkyeDS: he says he's leaving at 5:30 to go over there
evile: Okeydoke.
evile: I'll be glad when that's all done. The crappy part is over--
getting [brother A] & [The Rubber Pig] to do their part. The rest should be fine.
SkyeDS:
evile: *hugs*
SkyeDS: hugs :)
evile: So, roughly 24 hours after calling sineater, [brother A] dumped the dog
in our backyard.
evile: No leash, no collar...
SkyeDS: sighs
evile: [brother A] left a msg on our machine around 5:30PM, nobody was home,
and dumped Paulie a couple hours later, nobody had been home to check
messages, and nobody was currently home.
SkyeDS: [The Rubber Pig] called right as I walked in the door at 8 pm Friday
night
SkyeDS: my parents had already been to the house to see me, and I
didn't get home in time
SkyeDS: because a prospective client wanted to talk for an hour and a
half
SkyeDS: and [The Rubber Pig] wanted me to drive back to Austin, right then
SkyeDS: and then [brother A] wanted us to drive to Austin Saturday, and was
told, we have out of town guests, not happening.
evile: ugh!
SkyeDS: I am bound and determined, that I am going to surgically cut
all drama from my life.
SkyeDS: hopefully sineater should have no problems picking Paulie up and
delivering him to Connie :)
evile: *nod* I'm on phone duty, will be slow until 12:30 or so...
evile: no drama is good.
evile: our in house system is incredibly buggy. It terrifies me.
SkyeDS: system = phone system?
evile: No, our in house interface between our job and the shitty
mainframe.
Just heard from an employer who hadn't gotten copies of decisions in
the mail. Looking it up on the in house, the address is correct,
printing out the decisions actually mailed, the address is wrong.
SkyeDS: oh man :(
evile: How are we expected to have any accountability when somewhere
between what WE type in and what gets printed out, some bizarre shit
happens that we have NO knowledge of or control over??
SkyeDS: (hugs)
evile: hate the job today, I really to.
SkyeDS: is half over?
evile: But I had a cool weekend, so I'm just going to blow it off.
evile: a bit more than half, maybe, even. I leave at 3 today :)
SkyeDS: that was my plan of action this morning too
SkyeDS: had a new experience this weekend, already looking forward to
expanding on it next weekend
evile: ? do tell
SkyeDS: I talked half a dozen people in Drandmir into being human
pells for us to run a mounted combat course
SkyeDS: so then all these journalism student photographers show up
and want pictures
evile: cool
SkyeDS: but by that time, no one there was in garb anymore but me
SkyeDS: so what they wanted, was me, on Jesse, running the course I
set up
evile: oh well
SkyeDS: I've never run a course on Jesse, and had not planned to any
time in foreseeable future
evile: good publicity for you anyway
SkyeDS: I figured, what the hell, so I did it
evile: awesome :)
evile: sineater knows that the dog is at Lynn & Bob's, not our house,
right?
SkyeDS: right
evile: OK
SkyeDS: or let me rephrase
SkyeDS: that's what I told him
SkyeDS: more than once
evile: OK
evile: I am taking the rest of the dog food over after work, so I'll
be at Lynns, and no telling when Sweetie will be home, so I just didn't
want sineater showing up at our vacant house after work & getting
peeved/confused.
SkyeDS: he says he's leaving at 5:30 to go over there
evile: Okeydoke.
evile: I'll be glad when that's all done. The crappy part is over--
getting [brother A] & [The Rubber Pig] to do their part. The rest should be fine.
SkyeDS:
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Sep. 13, 2004
evile: *hugs*
SkyeDS: hugs :)
evile: So, roughly 24 hours after calling sineater, [brother A] dumped the dog
in our backyard.
evile: No leash, no collar...
SkyeDS: sighs
evile: [brother A] left a msg on our machine around 5:30PM, nobody was home,
and dumped Paulie a couple hours later, nobody had been home to check
messages, and nobody was currently home.
SkyeDS: [The Rubber Pig] called right as I walked in the door at 8 pm Friday
night
SkyeDS: my parents had already been to the house to see me, and I
didn't get home in time
SkyeDS: because a prospective client wanted to talk for an hour and a
half
SkyeDS: and [The Rubber Pig] wanted me to drive back to Austin, right then
SkyeDS: and then [brother A] wanted us to drive to Austin Saturday, and was
told, we have out of town guests, not happening.
evile: ugh!
SkyeDS: I am bound and determined, that I am going to surgically cut
all drama from my life.
SkyeDS: hopefully sineater should have no problems picking Paulie up and
delivering him to Connie :)
evile: *nod* I'm on phone duty, will be slow until 12:30 or so...
evile: no drama is good.
evile: our in house system is incredibly buggy. It terrifies me.
SkyeDS: system = phone system?
evile: No, our in house interface between our job and the shitty
mainframe.
Just heard from an employer who hadn't gotten copies of decisions in
the mail. Looking it up on the in house, the address is correct,
printing out the decisions actually mailed, the address is wrong.
SkyeDS: oh man :(
evile: How are we expected to have any accountability when somewhere
between what WE type in and what gets printed out, some bizarre shit
happens that we have NO knowledge of or control over??
SkyeDS: (hugs)
evile: hate the job today, I really to.
SkyeDS: is half over?
evile: But I had a cool weekend, so I'm just going to blow it off.
evile: a bit more than half, maybe, even. I leave at 3 today :)
SkyeDS: that was my plan of action this morning too
SkyeDS: had a new experience this weekend, already looking forward to
expanding on it next weekend
evile: ? do tell
SkyeDS: I talked half a dozen people in Drandmir into being human
pells for us to run a mounted combat course
SkyeDS: so then all these journalism student photographers show up
and want pictures
evile: cool
SkyeDS: but by that time, no one there was in garb anymore but me
SkyeDS: so what they wanted, was me, on Jesse, running the course I
set up
evile: oh well
SkyeDS: I've never run a course on Jesse, and had not planned to any
time in foreseeable future
evile: good publicity for you anyway
SkyeDS: I figured, what the hell, so I did it
evile: awesome :)
evile: sineater knows that the dog is at Lynn & Bob's, not our house,
right?
SkyeDS: right
evile: OK
SkyeDS: or let me rephrase
SkyeDS: that's what I told him
SkyeDS: more than once
evile: OK
evile: I am taking the rest of the dog food over after work, so I'll
be at Lynns, and no telling when Sweetie will be home, so I just didn't
want sineater showing up at our vacant house after work & getting
peeved/confused.
SkyeDS: he says he's leaving at 5:30 to go over there
evile: Okeydoke.
evile: I'll be glad when that's all done. The crappy part is over--
getting [brother A] & [The Rubber Pig] to do their part. The rest should be fine.
SkyeDS: <files this under No More Drama
evile: bigtime!
SkyeDS: [brother A] tried to talk sineater out of doing this
evile: doing what?
SkyeDS: taking paulie
evile: WTF. What are [brother A]'s alternatives?
SkyeDS: I have no clue
evile: How in the name of GHOD did [The Rubber Pig] & [brother A] turn it around so
that we are begging HIM to do the right fucking thing for that damned
animal??
SkyeDS: he obviously doesn't want to give Paulie up
evile: *headdeskvodkashot*
evile: And so he moved into an apartment that doesn't take pets?
evile: so whose fucking fault is it that he has to give Paulie up?
ours?
SkyeDS: <shrug>
SkyeDS: I do not understand
SkyeDS: I do not understand either of them
SkyeDS: I do not understand kaleon
SkyeDS: I don't understand most people
evile: me neither. Another one of [the rubber pig's] famous "the sky is blue,
therefore the sky is green" non sequiturs.
evile: "we choose to move into an apartmetn that doesn't take pets
and you nasty bad people take Paulie away from us"?
SkyeDS: I don't know that that was the implication
SkyeDS: I think it is more of his unspoken subconscious leaking
through
SkyeDS: he jsut really doesn't want this to be happening
evile: well, wTF. THEY are the ones who chose to live in a pet-free
apartment. So we were supposed to just let [brother A] take Paulie to the
pound to die?
SkyeDS: I don't think he's thinking
evile: We can't save [brother A]. We can't save those poor children from an
insane, filthy home. But we for damnsure can make sure that Paulie
doesn't suffer for [brother A]'s poor choices.
SkyeDS: from my understanding, it wasn't like he actively asked out
loud, please don't take paulie
evile: There are not a lot of choices here. Paulie can't live with
[brother A] anymore, through [brother A]'s own choices.
evile: Paulie isn't a cute tiny little puppy, so it's not likely that
he would be adopted if he was surrended to a shelter.
SkyeDS: that's conscious logical thought
evile: owner-surrendered animals do not get the same wait-time as
found strays, they are euthanized MUCH sooner.
evile: like, within 48 hours, from what J-law told me about her
experience.
SkyeDS: I don't think he's thinking about that
SkyeDS: I think he was just emotionally not wanting to let go
evile: too bad. [The Rubber Pig] has made him choose between her and everything
& everyone else he cares about, and he keeps choosing her.
SkyeDS: I listened and I know that sineater made sure he knows this is
not temporary
evile: IT may not be that she has created an even playing field, or a
fair choice, but he still has a choice, no matter what dire
consequences of NOT choosing [The Rubber Pig] may have been created.
SkyeDS: there will be no taking him back from Connie three days or
three weeks or three whatever from now
evile: *nod*
evile: Please make sure Connie knows my contact info, if she wants
help with paying for initial vet visit, etc. I will be more than glad
to mail her a check, or pay the vet directly if they send me a bill.
SkyeDS: I'll let her know and thanks
SkyeDS: I don't know if there's going to be an issue or not
SkyeDS: she didn't ask us about shots
SkyeDS: but I would be very nervous about adopting a dog that had no
shots if I already had a pack of 6
evile: *nod* exactly.
SkyeDS: it isn't like me to not think about that
evile: I just want Paulie to be healthy & happy...
SkyeDS: I can just see it coming
evile: It's all I can fucking do to help [brother A], and it just goddamned
kills me.
SkyeDS: three days after he is happily settled at Connie's and
everyone is all attached
SkyeDS: "we found another place, can we have him back?
evile: Nope.
evile: I keep hoping that if he loses enough, he will eventually
realize what he is giving up to stay with this abusive nutcase.
evile: Not gonna happen, but I keep hoping.
evile: [brother A] never learns from mistakes, others' or his own. It makes
me crazy...
SkyeDS: I don't apparently understand someone I loved for seven years
SkyeDS: so I don't hold out much hope for me ever understanding
another human being
evile: gotta consider the source on that one.
SkyeDS: I don't understand Drama
SkyeDS: it's like a crack addiction
SkyeDS: I understand horses that are addicted to speed
SkyeDS: but not drama addiction
evile: so many problems could be solved by people asking for what
they want, and realizing that other people are human & need respect &
love as much as they do....
SkyeDS: it isn't like I have a reputation for saying no
evile: Don't manipulate, don't whine, don't act cranky because people
don't read your mind. just plain old, straight up ASK. Then the other
person can say yes or no and you can go on with your life
accordingly...
evile: I will willingly GIVE a great deal, but I will not be
manipulated or tricked, and anything I see as manipulation is an
automatic NO.
SkyeDS: I don't know what he thought he was up to this time
SkyeDS: I mean, it IS a repeat of the same smacktalk as last time
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: so I guess he's still coming from the "I'm hurt/angry, I
can't be accountable for what I say"
SkyeDS: however, to this he's added, you attacked me first
SkyeDS: and I didn't say a WORD to him
evile: bizarre.
SkyeDS: apparently someone did, and he automatically assumed it was me
evile: *nod* assumption is always a good drama-builder
SkyeDS: even though when I finally found the comment, it was one you
and others have made a number of times
SkyeDS: apparently while I was dealing with parentals and then out
having a good time Sunday, the shit hit the fan
SkyeDS: somebody took a poke at him, and he blew up
SkyeDS: and then somebody came to my defense and he blew up worse
evile: silly.
SkyeDS: I cried, I knew that's what he wanted, I did it anyway, it
hurt. Got it out of my system
SkyeDS: housecleaned
SkyeDS: that's it
evile: I love how he assumes he's been such a major topic of
conversation among the pagan & poly crowd. Um...whatever.
SkyeDS: least he apologized to you
SkyeDS: even if he misspelled your name
evile: very obliquely & indirectly. Oh well. I'll take it, it's
better than nothing.
SkyeDS: the thought occurred to me fleetingly
SkyeDS: why is it that he knows exactly where to hit me to make it
hurt
SkyeDS: but if I wanted to play "two can play at this game"
evile: 7 years? hello...
SkyeDS: I wouldn't even know where to start
SkyeDS: because I don't think that way
evile: It isn't worth it. He's just one of the silly boys who is
trying to bank new relationships using 'woman who done me wrong'
currency
evile: My friend Hoo did this for years...got lots of bootie out of
it, but quelle surprise, every new woman eventually got discarded and
added to the 'woman who done me wrong' story.
evile: With guys like that, you can't do anything to make it better
or 'fix' them...you just have to let 'em go & don't give them any
more ammo.
evile: I know you get tired of hearing me use this term, but it's yet
another 'no win' situation....
evile: With him, there's not going to be any closure, or any
understanding...you are just going to have to walk away from that
giant black hole before you fall in.
SkyeDS: wouldn't be here if I'd just deleted him when you told me to
the first time
evile: *hugs*
SkyeDS: instead of my usual wishywashy I'll be nice as long as he is
evile: Don't beat up on yourself over this.
SkyeDS: well, been burned by this stove more than once, that's enough
SkyeDS: anyone who wants to believe his "Skye is ugly, frigid, weighs
300 pounds, and is a hypocritical liar" is welcome to him
evile: Just let it go... it is not worth the bad feelings.
SkyeDS: seems to me from what sineater said there's just serious
disconnect between what [brother A] wants subconsciously and what he's
choosing to do
evile: yup.
evile: I think his suicide attempt was the last dialogue
between 'authentic [brother A]' and '[The Rubber Pig]'s puppet'...[The Rubber Pig] won.
SkyeDS: I'm still not clear on whether he really meant to die or not
evile: pills usually are a cry for help rather than a real attempt.
SkyeDS: I had kinda figured that people who really want to die tend
to get it right
evile: *nod*
evile: he just had to do something to violently disconnect himself
from himself, otherwise he could not continue to live with [The Rubber Pig]...
evile: (my crackpot theory, anyway)
evile: If your words and your actions actively oppose one another,
the body is going to take the hit.
SkyeDS: the truth is usually just so much easier
SkyeDS: even when the truth itself isn't easy
evile: yup
evile: there's just no way to be sane around her.
SkyeDS: you and I truly have much to be thankful for
SkyeDS: there but for the grace of God/dess go we - we could be
kaleon, or [The Rubber Pig]
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: I mean, from that perspective, we're Mary Poppins and Mother
Theresa.
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: and Cindy Crawford too :P ROFL
evile: Now you're just being silly :P
SkyeDS: laughter is good
evile: *nod* Yup.
evile: I mentioned that to sunshine. He was feeling guilty for
laughing at so many bad situations...but sometimes ya gotta laugh or
you'd cry.
evile: It's frustrating dealing with [The Rubber Pig] because there are
no 'hard' truths in her world.
evile: It's not like I could accept premise A and come up with
conclusion B, because she keeps changing the rules and her reality,
to suit herself, whenever she feels like it.
SkyeDS: I agree that there are perhaps very few unbending Truths
SkyeDS: but there are some because there have to be.
SkyeDS: you can't function sanely without them
SkyeDS: example: gravity hurts. it hurts to fall off horse, it isn't
desirable, it is to be avoided at all costs.
evile: well, I'm not even talking capital T truth. I'm just talking
about things like "we are leaving for Austin now (friday 8pm)" and
then not showing up until Saturday 8pm. with no intervening facts
disclosed to reflect changing of plans/reality.
evile: and then when questioned, getting unreasonably angry that they
were questioned.
SkyeDS: yep. I'll be at Lynn's on Monday / the ranch itself on
Wednesday
SkyeDS: I don't understand why sineater thought they'd show up at the
ranch this weekend
SkyeDS: they've never asked us for directions and you can't find us
with mapquest.
evile: They don't have directions, and if I were you, I would not
give them any.
SkyeDS: we mentioned that they should come and bring the girls and
the reply was we don't have the gas money
SkyeDS: and I already had family drama going on
evile: and then if they were given gas money, teh story would once
again change to reflect whatever they wanted to do in teh firs t
place.
SkyeDS: these projects that Daddy used to be able to do by himself in
no time flat, are tortuous now
SkyeDS: it isn't Daddy's fault, but he just can't do these things
anymore, and he's unbearable to be around while he's trying anyway
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: poor Mom, apparently balancing the checkbook is even worse.
evile: yuck.
SkyeDS: I handled it well, even Mom said so
evile: awesome :)
SkyeDS: so now I'm like, see, I can get myself out of drama with some
grace
SkyeDS: so am I going to get mired in [The Rubber Pig] or kaleon? not if I can
help it
SkyeDS: lost sleep last night, cried some this morning, got the head
beating against brick wall out of system, all good :)
evile: Family drama, you have to learn to deal, they are family.
But...[The Rubber Pig] is not family and neither is kaleon, no reason for you to
have to deal with them at all. Just slam the door in their fucking
faces.
SkyeDS: have bigger fish to fry
evile: *nod* exactly.
SkyeDS: like Lady Bridget's
SkyeDS: Imina smoke her and Moose's ass this weekend
SkyeDS: next weekend too
evile: heh. good for you.
SkyeDS: I may just compete until I win, once, so that I will be left
alone
SkyeDS: or I may just find that it's addictive and continue with the
ass kicking just for the hell of it
evile: sounds good :)
SkyeDS: Mirage is comforting to ride and good for the soul and the
blood pressure
SkyeDS: but especially now that she is more responsive, there is a
fierce predatory joy in riding Jesse
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: sonar0m and Keject were human pells for me for the journalist
students
SkyeDS: they seemed to find it faintly alarming, whatever expression
I had bearing down on them at speed with a boffer sword
evile: glad they survived the experience :P
SkyeDS: I was just concentrating
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: what usually keeps me off Jesse is because I'm not usually in
the mood to deal with what it takes to manage her
SkyeDS: but I changed her speed last night with my butt, literally
(shifting weight) and steered with little more than leg
evile: cool :)
SkyeDS: that and I don't like Mirage's reproachful hurt looks
evile: aww.
SkyeDS: I know, I'm a big fuckin pushover
evile: for one of the critters, it's perfectly understandable :)
SkyeDS: what is kind of amusing
SkyeDS: is when they do something they shouldn't do
SkyeDS: Jesse's expression is flat out, I didn't do it
SkyeDS: Mirage's is, I only did it because Jesse made me do it
SkyeDS: that doesn't really work well together
evile: heh.
evile: the cats are like "yeah, I did it. What are you going to do
about it, puny human slave?"
SkyeDS: I don't really have any desire to be horse slave aka ground
crew at an event
SkyeDS: on the other hand, I did have fun yesterday playing human pell
SkyeDS: simply watching the riders have fun
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: and Malikai (Prophet) cut a mighty fine figure yesterday I
must say
evile: hehe.
SkyeDS: imina create a Drandmirian cavalry :) and then we can start
having games at events and stuffs
SkyeDS: not one word from anybody yesterday about safety or don't do
that
evile: cool
SkyeDS: I just asked for volunteers and then we went way far away
from where everyone else was
SkyeDS: but still within eyesight
evile: *nod* good plan.
SkyeDS: "ok, so I need four volunteers to stand on the ground with
swords. The rider is going to swing at you, you don't get to swing
back, k?"
SkyeDS: rofl
SkyeDS: and when we get our course built, then we won't need human
volunteers anymore
evile: *nod*
evile: Oh, I meant to tell you, I took Rio to TinTinNio yesterday &
we tried the calamari. To die for!
SkyeDS: omg I love good calamari
SkyeDS: and I don't have to share it because sineater won't eat it
SkyeDS: but then I don't have room for anything else when I eat it
all by myself
evile: I was very impressed.
SkyeDS: now...if they just have good tiramisu and/or spumoni /
gelato...
evile: Sunday is supposed to be half price appetizers. Either they
have a special Sunday menu on which the appetizers are already priced
down, or I didn't get the discount.
evile: tiramisu was also to die for.
evile: Rio, Jacob & I split it 3 ways. It was ...gorgeous....
SkyeDS: tiramisu should taste like the best orgasm you ever had,
frozen
SkyeDS: :)
evile: the chronicle had a review of it in last week's issue,
http://www.austinchronicle.com/issues/dispatch/2004-09-
10/food_feature.html
evile: their tiramisu wasn't frozen, however.
SkyeDS: long as it tastes good
evile: I was very impressed. Their tiramisu wasn't like any other I'd
ever had.
SkyeDS: (meant frozen in time and in one place for the purpose of
putting it in your mouth)
SkyeDS: very hard to find genuine tiramisu around here
evile: I despise the usual 'soggy twinkie' tiramisu ala what you get
at Olive Garden.
SkyeDS: mostly what I find is parfait made from lady fingers
SkyeDS: zactly
SkyeDS: it's supposed to more resemble Baskin Robbins ice cream cake
in terms of texture
SkyeDS: also known as Cassata in southern Italy
evile: this was done in layers, in a large glass, with the pastry
kind of sticking up out of the layers, slightly crisp layer of brown
sugar on the pastry .
evile: very very very light, not too sweet, and the liquor and coffee
flavors were also light.
SkyeDS: cassata = layer of poundcake, layer of espresso, layer of
sweet cream cheese with nuts and occasionally bits of candied fruit,
covered in chocolate and frozen till it can be cut in slices
SkyeDS: oops and of course the liqueur
evile: I think next time I go, I may have to just have appetizers &
dessert & skip the entree. Not that the entrees are bad..b.ut the
desserts & appetizers are just too yummy.
SkyeDS: originally made by nuns for fundraisers until teh Church told
them to stop. something about the nuns consuming the alcohol...
evile: heh.
evile: well, I'm going to go toss paper & head for the hills.
*hugs* see ya tomorrow :) Glad you survived the weekend!
evile: *hugs*
SkyeDS: hugs :)
evile: So, roughly 24 hours after calling sineater, [brother A] dumped the dog
in our backyard.
evile: No leash, no collar...
SkyeDS: sighs
evile: [brother A] left a msg on our machine around 5:30PM, nobody was home,
and dumped Paulie a couple hours later, nobody had been home to check
messages, and nobody was currently home.
SkyeDS: [The Rubber Pig] called right as I walked in the door at 8 pm Friday
night
SkyeDS: my parents had already been to the house to see me, and I
didn't get home in time
SkyeDS: because a prospective client wanted to talk for an hour and a
half
SkyeDS: and [The Rubber Pig] wanted me to drive back to Austin, right then
SkyeDS: and then [brother A] wanted us to drive to Austin Saturday, and was
told, we have out of town guests, not happening.
evile: ugh!
SkyeDS: I am bound and determined, that I am going to surgically cut
all drama from my life.
SkyeDS: hopefully sineater should have no problems picking Paulie up and
delivering him to Connie :)
evile: *nod* I'm on phone duty, will be slow until 12:30 or so...
evile: no drama is good.
evile: our in house system is incredibly buggy. It terrifies me.
SkyeDS: system = phone system?
evile: No, our in house interface between our job and the shitty
mainframe.
Just heard from an employer who hadn't gotten copies of decisions in
the mail. Looking it up on the in house, the address is correct,
printing out the decisions actually mailed, the address is wrong.
SkyeDS: oh man :(
evile: How are we expected to have any accountability when somewhere
between what WE type in and what gets printed out, some bizarre shit
happens that we have NO knowledge of or control over??
SkyeDS: (hugs)
evile: hate the job today, I really to.
SkyeDS: is half over?
evile: But I had a cool weekend, so I'm just going to blow it off.
evile: a bit more than half, maybe, even. I leave at 3 today :)
SkyeDS: that was my plan of action this morning too
SkyeDS: had a new experience this weekend, already looking forward to
expanding on it next weekend
evile: ? do tell
SkyeDS: I talked half a dozen people in Drandmir into being human
pells for us to run a mounted combat course
SkyeDS: so then all these journalism student photographers show up
and want pictures
evile: cool
SkyeDS: but by that time, no one there was in garb anymore but me
SkyeDS: so what they wanted, was me, on Jesse, running the course I
set up
evile: oh well
SkyeDS: I've never run a course on Jesse, and had not planned to any
time in foreseeable future
evile: good publicity for you anyway
SkyeDS: I figured, what the hell, so I did it
evile: awesome :)
evile: sineater knows that the dog is at Lynn & Bob's, not our house,
right?
SkyeDS: right
evile: OK
SkyeDS: or let me rephrase
SkyeDS: that's what I told him
SkyeDS: more than once
evile: OK
evile: I am taking the rest of the dog food over after work, so I'll
be at Lynns, and no telling when Sweetie will be home, so I just didn't
want sineater showing up at our vacant house after work & getting
peeved/confused.
SkyeDS: he says he's leaving at 5:30 to go over there
evile: Okeydoke.
evile: I'll be glad when that's all done. The crappy part is over--
getting [brother A] & [The Rubber Pig] to do their part. The rest should be fine.
SkyeDS: <files this under No More Drama
evile: bigtime!
SkyeDS: [brother A] tried to talk sineater out of doing this
evile: doing what?
SkyeDS: taking paulie
evile: WTF. What are [brother A]'s alternatives?
SkyeDS: I have no clue
evile: How in the name of GHOD did [The Rubber Pig] & [brother A] turn it around so
that we are begging HIM to do the right fucking thing for that damned
animal??
SkyeDS: he obviously doesn't want to give Paulie up
evile: *headdeskvodkashot*
evile: And so he moved into an apartment that doesn't take pets?
evile: so whose fucking fault is it that he has to give Paulie up?
ours?
SkyeDS: <shrug>
SkyeDS: I do not understand
SkyeDS: I do not understand either of them
SkyeDS: I do not understand kaleon
SkyeDS: I don't understand most people
evile: me neither. Another one of [the rubber pig's] famous "the sky is blue,
therefore the sky is green" non sequiturs.
evile: "we choose to move into an apartmetn that doesn't take pets
and you nasty bad people take Paulie away from us"?
SkyeDS: I don't know that that was the implication
SkyeDS: I think it is more of his unspoken subconscious leaking
through
SkyeDS: he jsut really doesn't want this to be happening
evile: well, wTF. THEY are the ones who chose to live in a pet-free
apartment. So we were supposed to just let [brother A] take Paulie to the
pound to die?
SkyeDS: I don't think he's thinking
evile: We can't save [brother A]. We can't save those poor children from an
insane, filthy home. But we for damnsure can make sure that Paulie
doesn't suffer for [brother A]'s poor choices.
SkyeDS: from my understanding, it wasn't like he actively asked out
loud, please don't take paulie
evile: There are not a lot of choices here. Paulie can't live with
[brother A] anymore, through [brother A]'s own choices.
evile: Paulie isn't a cute tiny little puppy, so it's not likely that
he would be adopted if he was surrended to a shelter.
SkyeDS: that's conscious logical thought
evile: owner-surrendered animals do not get the same wait-time as
found strays, they are euthanized MUCH sooner.
evile: like, within 48 hours, from what J-law told me about her
experience.
SkyeDS: I don't think he's thinking about that
SkyeDS: I think he was just emotionally not wanting to let go
evile: too bad. [The Rubber Pig] has made him choose between her and everything
& everyone else he cares about, and he keeps choosing her.
SkyeDS: I listened and I know that sineater made sure he knows this is
not temporary
evile: IT may not be that she has created an even playing field, or a
fair choice, but he still has a choice, no matter what dire
consequences of NOT choosing [The Rubber Pig] may have been created.
SkyeDS: there will be no taking him back from Connie three days or
three weeks or three whatever from now
evile: *nod*
evile: Please make sure Connie knows my contact info, if she wants
help with paying for initial vet visit, etc. I will be more than glad
to mail her a check, or pay the vet directly if they send me a bill.
SkyeDS: I'll let her know and thanks
SkyeDS: I don't know if there's going to be an issue or not
SkyeDS: she didn't ask us about shots
SkyeDS: but I would be very nervous about adopting a dog that had no
shots if I already had a pack of 6
evile: *nod* exactly.
SkyeDS: it isn't like me to not think about that
evile: I just want Paulie to be healthy & happy...
SkyeDS: I can just see it coming
evile: It's all I can fucking do to help [brother A], and it just goddamned
kills me.
SkyeDS: three days after he is happily settled at Connie's and
everyone is all attached
SkyeDS: "we found another place, can we have him back?
evile: Nope.
evile: I keep hoping that if he loses enough, he will eventually
realize what he is giving up to stay with this abusive nutcase.
evile: Not gonna happen, but I keep hoping.
evile: [brother A] never learns from mistakes, others' or his own. It makes
me crazy...
SkyeDS: I don't apparently understand someone I loved for seven years
SkyeDS: so I don't hold out much hope for me ever understanding
another human being
evile: gotta consider the source on that one.
SkyeDS: I don't understand Drama
SkyeDS: it's like a crack addiction
SkyeDS: I understand horses that are addicted to speed
SkyeDS: but not drama addiction
evile: so many problems could be solved by people asking for what
they want, and realizing that other people are human & need respect &
love as much as they do....
SkyeDS: it isn't like I have a reputation for saying no
evile: Don't manipulate, don't whine, don't act cranky because people
don't read your mind. just plain old, straight up ASK. Then the other
person can say yes or no and you can go on with your life
accordingly...
evile: I will willingly GIVE a great deal, but I will not be
manipulated or tricked, and anything I see as manipulation is an
automatic NO.
SkyeDS: I don't know what he thought he was up to this time
SkyeDS: I mean, it IS a repeat of the same smacktalk as last time
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: so I guess he's still coming from the "I'm hurt/angry, I
can't be accountable for what I say"
SkyeDS: however, to this he's added, you attacked me first
SkyeDS: and I didn't say a WORD to him
evile: bizarre.
SkyeDS: apparently someone did, and he automatically assumed it was me
evile: *nod* assumption is always a good drama-builder
SkyeDS: even though when I finally found the comment, it was one you
and others have made a number of times
SkyeDS: apparently while I was dealing with parentals and then out
having a good time Sunday, the shit hit the fan
SkyeDS: somebody took a poke at him, and he blew up
SkyeDS: and then somebody came to my defense and he blew up worse
evile: silly.
SkyeDS: I cried, I knew that's what he wanted, I did it anyway, it
hurt. Got it out of my system
SkyeDS: housecleaned
SkyeDS: that's it
evile: I love how he assumes he's been such a major topic of
conversation among the pagan & poly crowd. Um...whatever.
SkyeDS: least he apologized to you
SkyeDS: even if he misspelled your name
evile: very obliquely & indirectly. Oh well. I'll take it, it's
better than nothing.
SkyeDS: the thought occurred to me fleetingly
SkyeDS: why is it that he knows exactly where to hit me to make it
hurt
SkyeDS: but if I wanted to play "two can play at this game"
evile: 7 years? hello...
SkyeDS: I wouldn't even know where to start
SkyeDS: because I don't think that way
evile: It isn't worth it. He's just one of the silly boys who is
trying to bank new relationships using 'woman who done me wrong'
currency
evile: My friend Hoo did this for years...got lots of bootie out of
it, but quelle surprise, every new woman eventually got discarded and
added to the 'woman who done me wrong' story.
evile: With guys like that, you can't do anything to make it better
or 'fix' them...you just have to let 'em go & don't give them any
more ammo.
evile: I know you get tired of hearing me use this term, but it's yet
another 'no win' situation....
evile: With him, there's not going to be any closure, or any
understanding...you are just going to have to walk away from that
giant black hole before you fall in.
SkyeDS: wouldn't be here if I'd just deleted him when you told me to
the first time
evile: *hugs*
SkyeDS: instead of my usual wishywashy I'll be nice as long as he is
evile: Don't beat up on yourself over this.
SkyeDS: well, been burned by this stove more than once, that's enough
SkyeDS: anyone who wants to believe his "Skye is ugly, frigid, weighs
300 pounds, and is a hypocritical liar" is welcome to him
evile: Just let it go... it is not worth the bad feelings.
SkyeDS: seems to me from what sineater said there's just serious
disconnect between what [brother A] wants subconsciously and what he's
choosing to do
evile: yup.
evile: I think his suicide attempt was the last dialogue
between 'authentic [brother A]' and '[The Rubber Pig]'s puppet'...[The Rubber Pig] won.
SkyeDS: I'm still not clear on whether he really meant to die or not
evile: pills usually are a cry for help rather than a real attempt.
SkyeDS: I had kinda figured that people who really want to die tend
to get it right
evile: *nod*
evile: he just had to do something to violently disconnect himself
from himself, otherwise he could not continue to live with [The Rubber Pig]...
evile: (my crackpot theory, anyway)
evile: If your words and your actions actively oppose one another,
the body is going to take the hit.
SkyeDS: the truth is usually just so much easier
SkyeDS: even when the truth itself isn't easy
evile: yup
evile: there's just no way to be sane around her.
SkyeDS: you and I truly have much to be thankful for
SkyeDS: there but for the grace of God/dess go we - we could be
kaleon, or [The Rubber Pig]
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: I mean, from that perspective, we're Mary Poppins and Mother
Theresa.
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: and Cindy Crawford too :P ROFL
evile: Now you're just being silly :P
SkyeDS: laughter is good
evile: *nod* Yup.
evile: I mentioned that to sunshine. He was feeling guilty for
laughing at so many bad situations...but sometimes ya gotta laugh or
you'd cry.
evile: It's frustrating dealing with [The Rubber Pig] because there are
no 'hard' truths in her world.
evile: It's not like I could accept premise A and come up with
conclusion B, because she keeps changing the rules and her reality,
to suit herself, whenever she feels like it.
SkyeDS: I agree that there are perhaps very few unbending Truths
SkyeDS: but there are some because there have to be.
SkyeDS: you can't function sanely without them
SkyeDS: example: gravity hurts. it hurts to fall off horse, it isn't
desirable, it is to be avoided at all costs.
evile: well, I'm not even talking capital T truth. I'm just talking
about things like "we are leaving for Austin now (friday 8pm)" and
then not showing up until Saturday 8pm. with no intervening facts
disclosed to reflect changing of plans/reality.
evile: and then when questioned, getting unreasonably angry that they
were questioned.
SkyeDS: yep. I'll be at Lynn's on Monday / the ranch itself on
Wednesday
SkyeDS: I don't understand why sineater thought they'd show up at the
ranch this weekend
SkyeDS: they've never asked us for directions and you can't find us
with mapquest.
evile: They don't have directions, and if I were you, I would not
give them any.
SkyeDS: we mentioned that they should come and bring the girls and
the reply was we don't have the gas money
SkyeDS: and I already had family drama going on
evile: and then if they were given gas money, teh story would once
again change to reflect whatever they wanted to do in teh firs t
place.
SkyeDS: these projects that Daddy used to be able to do by himself in
no time flat, are tortuous now
SkyeDS: it isn't Daddy's fault, but he just can't do these things
anymore, and he's unbearable to be around while he's trying anyway
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: poor Mom, apparently balancing the checkbook is even worse.
evile: yuck.
SkyeDS: I handled it well, even Mom said so
evile: awesome :)
SkyeDS: so now I'm like, see, I can get myself out of drama with some
grace
SkyeDS: so am I going to get mired in [The Rubber Pig] or kaleon? not if I can
help it
SkyeDS: lost sleep last night, cried some this morning, got the head
beating against brick wall out of system, all good :)
evile: Family drama, you have to learn to deal, they are family.
But...[The Rubber Pig] is not family and neither is kaleon, no reason for you to
have to deal with them at all. Just slam the door in their fucking
faces.
SkyeDS: have bigger fish to fry
evile: *nod* exactly.
SkyeDS: like Lady Bridget's
SkyeDS: Imina smoke her and Moose's ass this weekend
SkyeDS: next weekend too
evile: heh. good for you.
SkyeDS: I may just compete until I win, once, so that I will be left
alone
SkyeDS: or I may just find that it's addictive and continue with the
ass kicking just for the hell of it
evile: sounds good :)
SkyeDS: Mirage is comforting to ride and good for the soul and the
blood pressure
SkyeDS: but especially now that she is more responsive, there is a
fierce predatory joy in riding Jesse
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: sonar0m and Keject were human pells for me for the journalist
students
SkyeDS: they seemed to find it faintly alarming, whatever expression
I had bearing down on them at speed with a boffer sword
evile: glad they survived the experience :P
SkyeDS: I was just concentrating
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: what usually keeps me off Jesse is because I'm not usually in
the mood to deal with what it takes to manage her
SkyeDS: but I changed her speed last night with my butt, literally
(shifting weight) and steered with little more than leg
evile: cool :)
SkyeDS: that and I don't like Mirage's reproachful hurt looks
evile: aww.
SkyeDS: I know, I'm a big fuckin pushover
evile: for one of the critters, it's perfectly understandable :)
SkyeDS: what is kind of amusing
SkyeDS: is when they do something they shouldn't do
SkyeDS: Jesse's expression is flat out, I didn't do it
SkyeDS: Mirage's is, I only did it because Jesse made me do it
SkyeDS: that doesn't really work well together
evile: heh.
evile: the cats are like "yeah, I did it. What are you going to do
about it, puny human slave?"
SkyeDS: I don't really have any desire to be horse slave aka ground
crew at an event
SkyeDS: on the other hand, I did have fun yesterday playing human pell
SkyeDS: simply watching the riders have fun
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: and Malikai (Prophet) cut a mighty fine figure yesterday I
must say
evile: hehe.
SkyeDS: imina create a Drandmirian cavalry :) and then we can start
having games at events and stuffs
SkyeDS: not one word from anybody yesterday about safety or don't do
that
evile: cool
SkyeDS: I just asked for volunteers and then we went way far away
from where everyone else was
SkyeDS: but still within eyesight
evile: *nod* good plan.
SkyeDS: "ok, so I need four volunteers to stand on the ground with
swords. The rider is going to swing at you, you don't get to swing
back, k?"
SkyeDS: rofl
SkyeDS: and when we get our course built, then we won't need human
volunteers anymore
evile: *nod*
evile: Oh, I meant to tell you, I took Rio to TinTinNio yesterday &
we tried the calamari. To die for!
SkyeDS: omg I love good calamari
SkyeDS: and I don't have to share it because sineater won't eat it
SkyeDS: but then I don't have room for anything else when I eat it
all by myself
evile: I was very impressed.
SkyeDS: now...if they just have good tiramisu and/or spumoni /
gelato...
evile: Sunday is supposed to be half price appetizers. Either they
have a special Sunday menu on which the appetizers are already priced
down, or I didn't get the discount.
evile: tiramisu was also to die for.
evile: Rio, Jacob & I split it 3 ways. It was ...gorgeous....
SkyeDS: tiramisu should taste like the best orgasm you ever had,
frozen
SkyeDS: :)
evile: the chronicle had a review of it in last week's issue,
http://www.austinchronicle.com/issues/dispatch/2004-09-
10/food_feature.html
evile: their tiramisu wasn't frozen, however.
SkyeDS: long as it tastes good
evile: I was very impressed. Their tiramisu wasn't like any other I'd
ever had.
SkyeDS: (meant frozen in time and in one place for the purpose of
putting it in your mouth)
SkyeDS: very hard to find genuine tiramisu around here
evile: I despise the usual 'soggy twinkie' tiramisu ala what you get
at Olive Garden.
SkyeDS: mostly what I find is parfait made from lady fingers
SkyeDS: zactly
SkyeDS: it's supposed to more resemble Baskin Robbins ice cream cake
in terms of texture
SkyeDS: also known as Cassata in southern Italy
evile: this was done in layers, in a large glass, with the pastry
kind of sticking up out of the layers, slightly crisp layer of brown
sugar on the pastry .
evile: very very very light, not too sweet, and the liquor and coffee
flavors were also light.
SkyeDS: cassata = layer of poundcake, layer of espresso, layer of
sweet cream cheese with nuts and occasionally bits of candied fruit,
covered in chocolate and frozen till it can be cut in slices
SkyeDS: oops and of course the liqueur
evile: I think next time I go, I may have to just have appetizers &
dessert & skip the entree. Not that the entrees are bad..b.ut the
desserts & appetizers are just too yummy.
SkyeDS: originally made by nuns for fundraisers until teh Church told
them to stop. something about the nuns consuming the alcohol...
evile: heh.
evile: well, I'm going to go toss paper & head for the hills.
*hugs* see ya tomorrow :) Glad you survived the weekend!
