a poem I read today

[evile]

 This is a convoluted and complicated poem; it speaks to me of codependency and of the borderline/narcissist/cluster B personality disorder 'idealize/devalue/discard' cycle. The tendency to go from one 'perfect' friend/lover/job/friends group to the next to the next to the next, leaving destruction in ones wake. Rather than deepen the connection, allow vulnerability and hurt and healing, cut and run as soon as things start to be real and hurt, blaming all the feelings that come up on the 'other, and on to the next 'perfect' one'. True intimacy involves both a commitment to be as safe as possible for the other, but also opening your heart to the inevitable bumps and bruises and misunderstandings that come when you let a person into your heart and trust them with even the worst parts of yourself. You want to be their safe place, they should want to be your safe place too.

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